Is it normal to have trouble distinguishing between if I have

No, it's called being male.

Btw. you only know if you actually had feelings if it hurts when you guys break up.

>>17601086
Yeah I think every guy has had this dilemma at least once.

Maybe try thinking of thinks from her point of view.

>>17601095
In my case I made a move and was turned down but we're still overall close friends. Yet, I felt pretty bummed out about it for a while (and still do to some degree).

I'm still trying to figure out how exactly I function with relationships and preferences since I'm 21 but I've only had 3 or 4 girls ever that I've felt inclined enough to even consider dating.

>>17601100
You should proably try to get away.
She will start dating someone eventually, and then you'll feel like shit.

Trying to substitute rejection for friendship never works, unless its like "ok, lets be friends" and then you still never talk to each other again.

In the later case, it's simply just an easier way to break up, without makeing it werid if you guys end up interacting with each other again for any reason. After all, you're friends, right?

>>17601106
I mean, she and I were good friends for quite a while before I even developed feelings. In fact when I first realized I started to feel this way, I was more afraid of losing her as a friend than just being rejected. I knew I could handle rejection but losing her as a friend would be awful. Anyways, that whole thing isn't even the aim of my thread.

Like I said I'm 21 and I've only had 3 or 4 girls I've felt anything resembling a serious interest in. I've tried casual dating and it just doesn't work for me, I felt like I was burning in my skin the whole time and it all felt extremely forced. What exactly should I do here? Just stay patient and wait for girls who like things at the same pace I do?

>>17601113
The best way is to go out there and engage in activities you like, and by that means, meet people who are into the same things as you.

Simply being two good looking workaholics with nothing in common is not going to make for a good relationship.