Used to get hard as diamonds just thinking about getting a blowjob.

>Darude - Sandstorm
always works

You have to stop giving a fuck about whether you get hard or not. Easier said than done but that's the key. You are having issues because of the pressure you create for yourself, which in turn makes you nervous.

If you have a good emotional connection you could tell her that since it happened that one time you have become nervous that it'll happen again. (Also a great time to educate a girl that no boner =/= he doesn't find you hot.) Ideal would be if you could agree to just have some steamy foreplay a few times, and you proceed to sex whenever it naturally comes up (pun intended). That will take the edge off.

Bonus: it's an important lesson to learn, way too many people think that no boner means no sex, which is just a useless restriction of your sex life.

>>17584544
The girl knows that no boner =/= i don't find her hot, she told that to me herself since the same thing happened to her Ex when they were trying to fuck the first times.

The problem is she is experienced, I am not and I create the pressure for myself to "satisfy" her and you are right I become nervous..

First time we fucked it happened in her car, so fast and with a condom and everything when smoothly.. second time my fail happened and I got so fucking embarrased that the third time I only got hard during a blowjob..

You're right, she told me she loves me and that she is going through some hard shit these days and she needs me more for emotional support than sex anyway right now, I should stop being such a retard, cause I'm making sex way too big of a deal in my head.

>>17584577
Realize that the best way to satisfy her is to focus more on having fun together than on keeping up appearances. It is in fact not rarely guys trying too hard (to make the girl cum, to fuck like a pornstar, to not do "weird" things like make noise, to not ever go soft, to only cum after having done time tables for half an hour in your head) that make sex not enjoyable for the girl. (And yeah that's from experience as well.) If you relax a bit more things will go more smoothly, it's not supposed to be a rigorous quest, it's supposed to be an enjoyable adventure. The journey not the destination etc. And yeah, the more you fret about this the more you reaffirm for yourself that you have some sort of issue or risk... which will put pressure on sex and make it less fun.

Good luck!

>>17584577
>The problem is she is experienced, I am not and I create the pressure for myself to "satisfy" her and you are right I become nervous.
cherish the moment, stop caring about some goal or target, it's not a performance or a test.
you're with that beautiful woman and you're sharing intimate and delicate feelings together, enjoy that and enjoy her presence and enjoy her body.

>>17584585
>>17584633
Thanks, will man up and calm myself.

Also does it help if I stop masturbating everyday and quit watching porn?