how retarded am I and how do i turn my life around?
I'm too scared to talk to almost anyone. I fell in love with a girl I used to see around campus but the longer I waited the harder it was to say hi. So of course after a couple years i graduated and never saw her again. eventually I found her fb profile and check it every now and again.
finally i see her profile pic with some guy who it looks like she would be on a date with. It feels like my heart fell into my stomach and im dizzy as hell and having a literal anxiety attack and am nearly crying.
I don't even know these people and never talked to them but I'm going into a depression over this wtf is wrong with me?
>>17561622
start by going to meetups and events that appeal to you and make an effortj ust to go talk to people.
>>17561628
okay i will try to find those.
um also what about all this other obsession stuff? wtf is up with that? i cant imagine many other ppl do that kind of thing i feel like i must be crazy
one bump cause im still feeling dizzy as shit
>>17561622
You've viewed this girl as your singular outlet for your repressed romantic feelings for a while. You have the pussy mentally on the pedestal because you've been slobbering over what you imagined you couldn't have. Luckily, being aware of that cures the condition 99% of the time, unless you just want to keep looking from afar.
She's just a girl. There are many women around you, and unless you're trying to find an exact copy of yourself or have a laundry list of specifications, it's not too hard to find someone to at least go on a date with.
>>17561768
basically, there are a bunch of others girls just as good i just don't realize it yet?
I had a somewhat simular experience. Only difference is that I had my first crush on a guy that I worked with at a bad time, he got a girlfriend and I felt weird. Wasn't sure how to act around him. I barely knew him but I thought he was such a gentleman and I was inspired by him to try harder at everything. I ended up feeling depressed as fuck every time I thought about never standing a chance with him. I felt as if I should change myself just to have a chance.
>>17561951
did you end up chaning your life?
>>17561933
yes