Help me /adv/ My girlfriend says she's still a virgin. I

WHAT THE FUCK DO I READ ON THIS BOARD SOMETIMES...

Christ, are you serious? That is the most pitiful story I have read in here today.

>>17549737
ikr? Virgin for 32 years..pathetic!

you won't hear it from anyone else on this godforsaken mongolian yak-shearing site but virginity doesn't matter that much either way op

what does matter is that you don't seem to trust your girlfriend. Marriages are built on trust, not hymens

>>17549726
We get posts like this on /adv/ often. But they are all from 18-20 year olds. Coming from someone 32 is unreal.

>>17549754
I know. But I know when it comes to her virginity I know something was off and she keeps on avoiding the topic. What if she's not? She's unfair to me sometimes and I hate that. I think I'd rather be non-virgin, at least I have confidence and assurance to myself that I'm ahead of her.

>>17549773
You have to seriously stop worrying about virginity. It doesn't matter. Stop caring.

>>17549754
>>17549790
THESE
jesus
"what if my gf isn't a virgin?"
NOTHING, that's what. It will have NO CONSEQUENCES AT ALL. GTFO.

>>17549773
why are you hyper-focused on things being "unfair", people being "ahead" of you, etc? You know that life isn't a competition, right?

2/10 made me reply

>>17549773
if she ever had a boyfriend then she is not a virgin she is bullshitting you. you know how horny guys can get and guy don't plan to date women just to be blue balls the whole time.

I can see why LYING about being a virgin would be an issue, because you felt like you might be special, and if that's the case then just talk to her about it and see if she says anything different, voice your concerns.

But if you KNOW she isn't one, why would it bother you so much? I mean sure, when I was a teenager I was bother slightly by the same sort of issue, but at the same time I didn't let it control me.

Needless to say the relationship did not work out, as we were young and stupid, but now I'm engaged to a very sweet man whom I love very much, and no we were not virgins when we met but does it REALLY matter if you love someone enough to spend your life with them?

Just consider that for a moment. You shouldn't feel pathetic either, it's okay to be a virgin, and save yourself for marriage, or for whatever reason you choose. It's your body, nobody can tell you what to do with it, that's your own choice.

Yes relationships are about equality and love etc., but just paying some prostitute to take your virginity isn't the way to go about the entire situation. Cheating on her will do nothing but hurt the both of you.

Tell her it's okay if she's not a virgin, she doesn't have to lie to you. Hopefully when you say it, you'll mean it, and if you both love eachother you will be honest with yourselves.

Good luck, anon.