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Need your adv, /adv/
Was dating a girl in January. I was bereaved, and met her at a bar. Turns out she was a goodie-2-shoes and had only slept with one guy. We hooked up and started seeing each other. About 3 weeks in, we started saying "I love you." She asked me for a relationship, I told her I needed time, seeing as how I was bereaved...I didn't want to make any decisions just yet (But I did tell her I'd be exclusive.)
We continue on. I have to move to a different state for work. We go long distance and things get shitty. She "breaks up" with me, but we still talk everyday and say I love you and what not--I felt there was a strong implication that we were getting back together.
Last month, she asked me to come visit her. I texted her back, not answering yes or no (Wanted to feel things out first.) She didn't reply.
A few weeks later, I contact her and she's acting strange. She tells me she met someone and that she can't talk to me anymore. We get into a big fight, as I felt she was just "keeping me on" until she met someone--and considering the fact that I was grieving, I felt it was a bit insensitive.
Am I right to feel angry? Did I get fucked over or am I being a big baby?
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She wanted commitment, you didn't commit, and so she found someone else. She doesn't have to wait around for you if she doesn't want to. And an LDR wasn't going to work out anyway. You're butthurt about something you shouldn't be butthurt about.
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>>17530359
I guess that makes sense, objectively. The "I love you's" threw me off I suppose.
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>>17530369
Like I said, she wanted commitment and you couldn't give it to her so she moved on to someone who could. There's nothing wrong with that, you'd probably do the same if you were in her position.
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>>17530369
The "I love you's" were her crying out for you to commit to her. You never did, you lost out. It doesnt make you a bad person, but the timing simply was not right.
>Am I right to feel angry? Did I get fucked over or am I being a big baby?
No right to be angry, you are being a bit of a baby.
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>>17530384
Well, not trying to evoke sympathy but I had lost my Dad and Sister in a car accident. So yeah, the timing was definitely off. You are right. I was being selfish in expecting her to wait. I did love her though, which is why I am having a hard time with this.
Our relationship was not the best though, so there were other reasons for not committing.
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>>17530961
Why would you bump this? What in the world are you expecting people to say that you haven't heard already?
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