Hey /adv/ I'll make this quick. I got married last year,

lol honeymoon period wore off that fast? You're fucked.

Have you gained weight or doing something that might make you unattractive?

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>>17523681
>what op has to look forward to

Sorry OP, you got fucked man

>>17523655

Maybe talk to your wife instead of this message board?

"Hey honey, we haven't had sex in 4 months. What happened to us? We weren't like this before. I want us to have a good sex life. What can we do to fix it?"

it's just not that fucking hard

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>>17523681
I have chubbed up, but she repeatedly says she doesn't care when I say I'm gonna start working it off.

>>17523693
Uh, I have...? Idiot...
She doesn't think there's a problem.
Technically it's really not that big of a deal, because there's more to our relationship than sex, but I just think it's kinda shitty that I'm not Crazy as fuck about her like I used to be.

>>17523704
>she repeatedly says she doesn't care

She does care. Lose weight now.

>>17523704

>She doesn't think there's a problem

If you think there is a problem and she doesn't, your RELATIONSHIP is the problem. Get on the same page, idiot.

>>17523715
You can tell his marriage isn't going to make it past five years

>problems this early

Kek

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>>17523710
Bruh, my wife and I have a very honest relationship, and I think I know my wife a little better than you do, so uh, shut up.

>>17523715
Uh...?
actually, I don't think there's a problem either, I just think it's weird we haven't had sex in a while since we had sex every single night for a week.

>>17523725
> Guys I'm having this problem, help me please
> Do this, then.
> I d-dont need y-your help! I k-know w-what to do! Just s-shut up, asshole!
Why are you even here?
P.s: your apparent obsession with posting black men faces as reactions make me think you're a homossexual

things would become much easier if you stop lieing
you dont love your wife very much
because you dont get some very basic thing you wish you get from her
which is okay, reigniting that passion is what makes marriage difficult, but worth of trying

its a meme if ppl who get married love eachother

>>17524475
>lieing
Lying

>>17523655

She's cheating on you.

>>17523655
Why you always post black men with your replies?
Do you desire them? .do you wish you could have sex with them, instead?

>>17523655
This shit happens to ppl that have been together and married for YEARS.

I had the same problem but on the opposite side. My husband lost his libido for me soon after marriage. I always have been a very lascivious woman, my libido sky rockets. So after two years of little to no sex it came to the point where i was climbing up the walls, it was driving me crazy. So i cheated on him. Not proud of it, but i did. I found a guy friend we started doing it. Soon enough guilty engulfed me. I told my husband about what was happening and, to my disappointment, he seemed so... indifferent. He didn't seem to care at all.
Long story short, he was closeted gay and married me solely because of his family's sake. Sad story.
No matter how hard you try denying it to yourself, op, you know that something is wrong. A year marriage is not supposed to be facing this sort of problem. Not saying she's a lesbo or she has another, but something is not right. And you seem so passive about it, i doubt you'll be able to fix it.

>>17524491

>lascivious

For some reason I feel like you are fat. What is your height and weight?

>>17524504
Don't say that. I'm a normally thin girl. 160 cm and 54 kg

>>17524509

That is pushing it. Drop 20lbs and squat, fatty.

>>17524512
I'm not fat! I'm normal.
I hope you're a fit model to climb on the judging throne

>>17524515

Literally a fatty in denial.

>I hope you are a fit model

I am not fit. I am not fat though. I have been working out for 6 months to tone up and develop muscle. The difference between you and I though is that I haven't deluded myself into thinking I am fit. Hit the gym, Bertha.

>>17524515

>I'm not fat

Prove it by posting nudes

>>17523655
Get into a fight for silly things, patch things up, get sex, tell her you've been missing this. Repeat until you get your desired amount of regular sex. Rinse and repeat

>>17524520
If she lost 20 lbs she would be underweight.
She's healthy.

I bet you aren't helping enough with the house chores. You need to do more and let her relax so she is more open to you. Also, more comunication and start courting and treating her like you did when you started dating. Good luck!

You're unattractive after you gained weight, she probably masturbates when you aren't around to porn.

>>17524534

No she would not. 5'2 100lbs is the perfect petite weight. Especially if she was fit and did squats/toned up and ate well.

>>17523655
Just because you haven't had any sex doesn't mean she hasn't.

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>>17524563
It is considered slightly underweight. OP weight is completely normal. It is actually the suggested weight for her height, or just a couple of kg over it.
Nothing wrong with liking very thin girls, I find them aesthetically pleasing too, but saying that OP is fat is just false.
Pic related weights like OP, and is 1 inch taller.

Okay, the two most common reasons for this are
>your wife is naturally low libido and is settling back into her natural desires (as opposed to frantic honeymoon phase)
>you've reached the stage where sex doesn't happen naturally and spontaneously all the time and don't know how to get your wife in the mood

First of all, very important. If she's low libido, she will only change with lots of effort on her side (and yours somewhat as well). If you establish that the amount of sex you have right now is ideal/fine for her, you need to make it VERY clear that for you it is in fact a dealbreaker, and you WILL leave her if this does not change.
Yeah, if you're not a douche it's not that easy to muster up the courage to tell someone you're love that they aren't cutting it for you. But if you think you are bummed out now, wait until you're literally starved for female tenderness and attention ten years from now, with tied hands and a couple of little kids.

If it's the second issue, that's a great one for couple's therapy. Common turn offs are not warming her up properly (eg you initiate by groping her ass instead of kissing her neck, or starting earlier in the day by doing things she finds attractive, connecting with her etc), treating sex as something you push on her (trying to trade favors for sex or demand sex because of x circumstance, ask for it in a begging way, try to negotiate like trying to get her to suck you off if she won't fuck you) that makes it difficult for her to see it otherwise than as a chore, or disrespecting her in the relationship (not pulling your weight, treating her in a rude or disloyal way) which made her sexual attraction for you fade.
There's more possibilities, these are more common ones. Either way, how you want to express affection and have affection requested are things you can discuss just fine if both of you are invested in making it work.

>>17523725

> Bruh, my wife and I have a very honest relationship, and I think I know my wife a little better than you do, so uh, shut up.

So honest that you're on /adv/.

>>17524515

> to climb on the judging throne

I imagine this being said in a Danish accent.

>>17524577

No not at all. That girl is exceptionally fit, well toned and you can tell that she is muscular (in an attractive way). Someone who is 5'2 and does not work out but is 120lbs probably has tons of flabby shit and it is unattractive. The whore obviously cheated because she could not get the attention from her (apparently gay, but he probably just was not attracted to her) husband.

>>17524602
Go look on mybodygallery how women who are 5'2 and weigh 120 lbs look like. It's perfectly normal. Not necessarily gym fit, but not flabby either unless you're the kind who thinks anyone who isn't muscular is flabby.

You just have a distorted idea of what that weight looks like with that height.

>>17524612

She is fat and lives a dull lifestyle. Stop white knighting she's not going to sleep with you.

>>17524612

I had never heard of this site, not that anon but thanks for the recommendation. It appears to be a site where unattractive women can make a thing out of their feelings of unworthiness. They'd be so much better off doing porn, and men would also care about their feelings more, which is a bonus.

>>17524615
No, it's not fat, that was my entire point. If you think that's fat just embrace that your standards for fitness are sky high.

>>17524616
It's exactly for these cases, to get an idea of what a person with a certain height/weight looks like.

Update to the above, there's some quality pussy on there, on the basis of course where hot women will say ''I feel so unattractive sometimes' and post hot pictures for a top-up of narcissistic supply.

>>17524616

Fucking kek. This.

>>17524619

Yes, it's for stupid whores, but a site rip folder would still be worth having to wank to.

>>17524602
You have a very distorted idea of how someone that weight and height looks.
Maybe it's not extremely fit and toned, but it's in the "average" type, not in the chubby or fat.
Scarlett Johansson is fatter than OP. She's around the same weight of Mila Kunis. Far from fat. Really far from fat.
The girl in the pic I posted is very fit for sure, but you said that 100 lbs was ideal especially if she was fit. Which is why I picked Kaila Itsines - she's very fit and much heavier than 100 lbs.

Not justifying OP cheating ass - but still, saying that she's fat is false.

>>17524627

Yeah but saying she has unattractive stomach fat (which is true) lowers her self esteem and hurts her feelings which is a good thing.

>>17524627

OP's pic was an unrelated reaction pic of an albino dude. If you can cast your mind back, you hijacked this thread, remember, it wasn't originally about your pointless attempt to correct someone else's aesthetic values.

>>17524631
It's not about the fucking aesthetic, I like thin girls much more than average girls. But I don't say average girls are fat.
Anyways, I do get bitchy about this, but OP's a moron anyway, didn't listen to advice that was offered, so I don't even feel bad for hijacking his stupid thread.

>>17524630
More than being married to a gay dude that doesn't give a shit about you, even when you cheat on him?
Come on.

>>17523704
>I have chubbed up, but she repeatedly says she doesn't care when I say I'm gonna start working it off.
Women talk shit. They dont know what they want. She wants you to lose weight.

My ex told me she hated romantic stuff and wasnt the romantic type. She broke up with me partly because i wasn't romantic enough.

Just ignore what they say and go with your gut.

>>17524639

Look, your use of language is your own, you cannot control other people's, aspiefriend.

OP was probably listening and thinking, people stop saying shit when they're thinking. The original conversation was more interesting to me as a reader and contributor than this journey up the devil's anus of definition-chopping.

>>17524643
Just saying but if she's sincerely not that interested in sex it's possible that she indeed does not want him to get fit, because then he'll expect praise and increased sexual interest she can't find within herself.

Also possible that she doesn't care about his looks because she's not that into sex to begin with, and him being chubby lowers the risk that he'll cheat on her or leave her for someone else.

>>17523655

You got fat, you need to get rid of the fat. You know it's that, you're just being lazy. Making your lack of attractiveness your wife's fault is no way to have a sexy relationship of equals. If you want your wife to give you the classic suburban old-before-his-time gutlord's purely contractual nightly milking, keep going the way you're going. If you want the kind of fucking you had before and better, become the sexy guy you formerly were.

>>17524648

You're basing this on those relationships that start out of pragmatism, but it's been established that these two were Properly Fucking prior to their marriage. Well, prior to his struggle with obesity, actually.

>>17524659
No, not necessarily.

There are people who love sex for what it is: the physical intimacy and orgasms. There are also people who do not care too much for that in itself, but still are hungry for sex during the honeymoon phase because that cranks up your natural sex drive and there's a psychological dimension (uncertainty, needing to "win" someone, more vulnerability and less security) that is thrilling and disappears once you settle into a comfortable routine.

>>17524662

Ah I see, so she was pretending to be a worthwhile cunt in order to trap OP. Thanks for the explanation, you pompous fucking perennial victim shiteating faggot.

>>17524672
I pointed out that there are reasons to sincerely not want your partner to lose weight. Assuming that OP is still lurking and sees our suggestions.

Consider trying valium some time.

> you pompous fucking perennial victim shiteating faggot.

kek

>>17524675

Yes, I read what you said, but unlike my deliberate distortion of it, it didn't make sense. Nobody has ever thought like that, and certainly no woman has ever thought like that. You are wasting OP's time to bolster your self-image, you bloviating fuckhole. The woman won't fuck him because he's no longer sexy. When he gets sexy again, she will fuck him, unless she was a deceitful whore, in which case he should ditch her. End of thread.

>>17524684
>Nobody has ever thought like that
Oh okay, sorry.

>>17524686

Apology accepted.