Former cheaters on /adv/, do you regret what you have done? If

I cheated on my bf.
Sex was a problem, I felt it was not good enough, but he really took care of me and was good as a person.
All my friends encouraged me at the time, but they were young, and so I was. I think they didn't think I was really gonna do it.

Do I regret it? No. The sex was great and it made me realize the relationship I had was not good and I can do better.

I don't think I will cheat again. We usually cheat when we date someone a league below us.

>>17522125
>former
Heh

No, in fact if anything i wish i had cheated more. There was this one girl i worked with that i wish I'd given a try.

>>17522147
you're a disgusting person

>>17522147
What a vile human being.

>>17522147
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4Fbry0X7OmM

you left out the race and dick size of the guy that you cheated with.

>>17522177
lol whore

>>17522177
This is why philosophy is important. It teaches people to think logically.
This reasoning doesn't make any sense at all.

Deleting the post won't make anything better. It shows you still prefer to avoid your problems rather than face them.

I won't cheat again because it's hard to find anyone who will empathize with a cheater and oh boy, is it hard on the soul to hurt someone you care about like that. It's like being a killer. Who will listen to a killer's woes? No one, because killers aren't even human in many people's eyes.

>>17522184
It shows that I'd rather not be insulted by a bunch of bitter anonymous virgins, doll. I wanted to let my feelings out, I don't care about what you think. Anyways, I barely scratched the surface.

>>17522190
Jesus, i thought i was giving advice to someone who cared, turns out you are just another condescending cunt.

>>17522190
Faggot

>>17522199
Sorry, I'm just oversensitive and paranoid. Anyways, I don't know what I'm doing in this thread. I'm out.

>>17522203
You thought that if you lied to yourself it would make you feel better.

>>17522147

I get it, but honestly why not just break up? I never understood the logic behind it. Shit's not great, break up.

Going behind someone's back to fuck someone else and make up lies and excuses takes way too much effort than its worth

>>17522180
>>17522184
now I want to know what the deleted message said

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>>17522190

Virginal and brooding - the last emperor of the stagnating island civilization. Physically weak and frail, an albino who needs drugs to survive. Unlike most others of my race, I have a conscience; I see the decadence of my culture, which once ruled the known world, and worries about the rise of the new generation. Because of my introspective self-loathing of the old traditions, my subjects find me odd, bitter and unfathomable, and my cousin (next in the line of succession, as I have no heirs, obviously) interprets my behaviour as weakness and plots my death.

It is the colour of a bleached skull, my flesh; and the long hair which flows below my shoulders is milk-white. From the tapering, beautiful head stare two slanting eyes, crimson and moody, and from the loose sleeves of my yellow gown emerge two slender hands, also the colour of bone.

>>17522173
>you're a disgusting person
oh come on this thread was dedicated to cheaters, dont judge them in this thread for once.

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>>17522231

---->*tipped*<-------

>>17522226
I cheated because I wanted to get out of a relationship but I didn't have the balls to tell the guy because I was the only meaningful thing in his life. I was afraid of what me leaving him would do. He was also my only friend and the sweetest, most trustworthy person I know. He was turbonice, so nice that it felt unfair to hurt such a creature. It was like stabbing a goddamned Unicorn. Even after I admitted to cheating on him, he didn't show much anger and he didn't try to hurt me-- he tried to help me and stopped me from hurting myself. He didn't even want to break up even though he was deeply hurt.

I'll never cheat again because hurting people you care about is hellish and sex is overrated. I cheated because I wanted to get out of a situation and I didn't know how to do it-- I should have found a better, saner solution to my problems.

I don't regret anything. My fiancee is on the other side of the pacific and I have needs. Honestly, I'd be shocked if she wasn't getting laid every here and there.

>>17522239
haha what a faggy post.

>>17522125
>
No regrets. I never have seen sex as an emotional thing. Purely a physical enjoyment thing. I truly can't wrap my mind around those who feel that it is an emotional thing. Not saying they're wrong, I just can't relate or even begin to see it that way. So I suppose you could say I lack empathy in that regard, which is why I see no problem with cheating. It's always and only about sex. Couldn't care less about the person I cheat with.

>>17522231
>>17522235

...cursed with a keen and cynical intelligence, schooled in the art of sorcery, able to call for aid upon the traditional patron of the emperors, a Lord of Chaos and Duke of Hell, forged ancient pacts and agreements with various other beings—some gods, some demons

>>17522260
>>17522231
Geralt pls

Is this becoming a katana trenchcoat thread?

>>17522125

There is two thing cheaters have in common :

1 - They're just a bunch fucking liars.
2 - They are insecure and needy.

You may regret cheating because you see your bf/gf hurt in the moment, but 3 months later you will be back in the same situation that put you up to the cheating and the odds will make history repeats itself :

You will have two choices :

1 - Cheat
2 - Leave him/her with his/her dignity and cut all contact.

Chances are you will go for the cheating because it's the easiest way out as shown here :
> I cheated because I wanted to get out of a relationship

Also, I don't know if you are the cheater or the person who got cheated on but just in case, don't come back with a cheater, it will be hell ...

Maybe you can watch this little video, I watched his video when my ex cheated on me, it really helps.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ucHynsZRHXg

TC.

>>17522125
i dont necessarily regret it, but i havent done it since, and that was a long time ago. anymore, if i start getting into someone other than the girl im dating, i just break it off and pursue the new one. i guess it boils down to laziness- cheating requires more effort than im willing to put forth.

>>17522275
keep on memeing, that sure showed them

>>17522231
A woman like that would be pretty cool, it'd be like Joan of Arc. A man, not so much, it would be lame and retarded.

It is interesting that women complain about the double standard of dating: a man who dates many women is good, a woman who dates many men is a whore, but they say nothing about the double standard related to virginity: a virgin woman is seen as a more valuable woman than a non-virgin, while a virgin man is an object of ridicule.

>>17522184
>Deleting the post won't make anything better.
WHAT DID SHE SAY?

>>17522294
duality is everywhere!

Some of these are so heartless I can't even differentiate between bait and confession

>>17522125
I cheated on bf of 2 years when I went to University the first weekend at a party. I felt bad, really bad and he noticed but he immediately thought it was because everything was new, stressful and I missed him and my family. He continued to be nice and supportive but the nicer he was, and I realized he would never find out (my biggest fear) I lost respect for him. When I saw him next and he kissed me it was like kissing my brother. Thankfully the visit was short and over time I kept distancing myself. He was a really nice guy and great person but I just needed to be free. He never found out.

>>17522125

>Do you regret what you have done?

Yes because I hurt him
No because I was unhappy and was fed up with his childish behaviour.

> Why will you never cheat again ?

I'd probably leave him next time if I was unhappy with my bf. It's just things happened so fast and i fell in love with a very smart and guy ... I broke his heart as well.

NOT PROUD OF MYSELF SO GO FUCK URSLEF.

There's seems to be a lot of >I cheated on my bf

going on around here

>>17522304
Welcome to People 101.

Be glad you haven't had the misfortune of encountering these type of fuckers in your love life. They are a very real thing.

>>17522294
Or the double standard of cheating. A man who gets cheated on is a cuck who couldn't control his woman, but a woman who gets cheated on is a poor helpless victim.

>>17522316
You either die a cuck, or live long enough to see yourself become Charlie Sheen

>>17522286
I don't think the video is completely wrong, but I think it builds a lot on the somewhat incorrect idiom "past behavior is a prediction of future." For the benefit of the study it builds mainly on people who just cheated themselves out of their previous relationship, which gives it a lot of validity even with that pitfall.

That said, a lot of the quotations pulls out cannot have been taken from an actual scientific study. A SCIENTIFIC study would never make such obvious claims about people's personal lives but put it in a very different matter of statistics, especially since this is a meta-analysis performed on ONLY 3 other studies (yes, I actually went to his blog to get to the source study to realize that I had to pay 36 dollars to get the study, which is why I only read the abstract).

I don't disagree with some of the things mentioned but I think you're extrapolating too much on the results of a YouTube video which seems to have done some hefty extrapolation itself.

>>17522275
No shit. Who do you think started this thread? It's a fedoraboy.

>>17522305
>it was like kissing my brother

Welcome to marriage. You'll feel that way about anyone after you've been with them for many years so unless you're into short term relationships, you should probably get used to the ''this person is family'' feeling.

>>17522294
>A man, not so much, it would be lame and retarded
I consider a virgin male character lame as much as I consider morally gray character lame and retarded, which is, not at all.

It's getting more and more common for protagonists in fantasy novel to have unfulfilled romance, sometimes tragic, sometimes humorous, very similar to the rise in popularity of antiheroic characteristics. A cool fantasy story nowadays must have a similar grim dark approach like ASOIAF. Jon Snow was a virgin for a long long time in the novel, and he is pretty popular. (this trend is not recent btw, it is only recently get massively popular to every teenagers with tvshows like GoT)

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>>17522305
>I realized he would never find out (my biggest fear) I lost respect for him

This is always the crux of the cheating mindset in my experience.

Cheaters lie and justify it by making it other people's fault for believing them, whereas people who are firmly anti-cheating tend to do so because they know they couldn't live with themselves being a liar.

>>17522324

I'm glad to see you're taking my reply seriously but honestly, don't pay for that article (they are available on dblp for free, he's just taking a fee and packaging the results, marketing 101) ... xD

Well he has done a lot of other videos on the cheating matter and what's interesting is that he is giving examples and taking those studies seriously ... (

It's not just an opinion as you can find here on 4chan.

Well of course, he's not jesus i'm just saying he helped see out of the box, like they were things in her behaviour that I haven't realized and watching this guy just woke me up ... So maybe somehow it can help you too.

I was just being stupid all along and I should've seen she was a liar by her behaviour.

I just like his way of story telling things : https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2VU7-GrEFZo

>>17522125

Maybe you can tell us the reason why you cheated or tell us a bit more about your relationship...

>>17522332
there has to be more to marriage than that, has to or maybe I just stay single. The excitement I felt when I cheated was incredible, the guy good looking and so very different from my bf

>>17522345
close I think because I never had to lie because he had no clue. I realized the thing that keeps people from cheating is disclosure and that either causes drama or an end to a relationship the cheater doesn't want to end. No fear of disclosure = no guilt.

>>17522352
There is. As a married man I can tell you that I don't ever forsee myself leaving my wife for another woman. She is far too good to me and I am not wasting that precious commodity in today's world with women like you mucking about. I've had my fair share of women and I've honestly found the one that's best for me and I stuck with her. She knows about my past, she knows I've been with a whole slough of women, many of whom I can not remember their name, but she knows I am only here for her and she doesn't have fears about me cheating on her.

It's a mutual trust thing. The excitement I get from making her happy is 100x more incredible than the rush you got from fucking some random dude at a frat party. I guarantee that.

>>17522362
Being a genuinely good person stops cheating too.

>>17522350
A great response.

In general I'm just very vary of extrapolating claims but I do agree with the general point being made. As has been statistically proven the more partners a side in the relationship has had the more prominent cheating is as well (slightly higher odds for women, but I would personally call the difference negligible since it increases by quite a lot for both genders).

In general cheating partners cheat more (duh), people who have had a lot of partners cheat more, and that seems to be the truth so far.

So long as you remember that the idiom I mentioned only makes sense in the short run you're good to go. People can change over longer periods of time, even given behaviors they have previously stuck to for a long time. Recent recurrence is the predictor, if we would put it that way (sadly for cheating that does seem to happen a lot - the point is mainly to not get wound up over someone cheating at the age of 14).

>>17522379
hi, I am >>17522366

I can tell you that I was a cheater for a long time, but it was kind of one of those open things in my relationships. They knew I was messing around with other women before we "dated" officially and yet I still slept with other women. The one time the girl was completely oblivious to me cheating, I told her and she wanted to keep the relationship going but I ended up breaking it off due to the fact that she was so forgiving(yeah, I know). I knew if I was with her she would let me get away with anything and I didn't want that. I needed someone to ground me.

I've known my wife for 6 years now, been married 1 year this month actually. When we first met I fucked her, I also fucked her friend the day after but we weren't exclusive by any means. After time, we grew on each other from hanging out so often. Now, I couldn't ever see myself fucking around on her.

>>17522369
Underrated post

>>17522362
So basically..

"If I can do what I want -- regardless of the fact that it would be hurtful to someone else who cares about me and puts very real effort into treating me with respect -- and no one is the wiser, then no foul and there's no reason to regret it or not do it."

You're one of those "I only see the results, not the means" type people, aren't you? You're getting what you want and there was no inconvenience to you or anyone else in your mind, so there's nothing the matter with your actions, right?

>>17522379

The truth is, some people are just not compatible.

They eventually stick together for 2 years because of the things they have in common but that's just bullshit.

Someday they will realize all they had in common was music and video games and that's why they were unhappy... some show it by cheating, some others by leaving.

My opinion (for what it's worth), is that couples who last share the same life vision like, kids, marriage or career, whatever that is; but none of them is settling for less because they are agreeing on the same life perspective because they come from the same background ...

Once you start seing your lover as your partner and not your enemy, you can enjoy a happy life

>>17522405
I didn't say nothing was wrong with my actions. If I was in love with a man there is no reason to look elsewhere but that doesn't last and things just settle in. I am saying that for me the major deterrent is getting caught and either hurting someone or ruining a decent relationship or breaking up a family with children (I don't have any currently). So, I weigh the risk with the reward and if there is no way my bf will ever know and I want the guy I will make it happen. Problem though is so many guys now think if they sleep with me we must be a couple and nothing is farther from the truth. Most of my friends think the same. You call a guy over late night for a hook up and he leaves before morning.

>>17522483
Then why do you stay if a person you don't love?

>>17522286
This. Fuck cheaters, but if you attempt to clean up your act after, kudos.

>>17522483
>Blah blah blah I'm dishonest and untrustworthy but it is what it is because I accept it
>"It's not 'technically' lying if he never even suspects."

You're just a cunt. Moving on.

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>>17522220
It's just being passive aggressive. It's something we humans haven't gotten incredibly great at.

I dont regret because she never found out the truth.

But if i had to i ll do it again she was being over protective and blaming me for watching porn

>>17522239
are you my ex

>>17522786

Depends ...

What's the first letter of your name or initials maybe ?

>>17522908
You're not me, nigga.
>>17522786
Very doubtful.

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>>17522125
>Former cheaters on /adv/, do you regret what you have done?
No, because I'm shit at math and I needed to get an A

>>17523001

Alright let's find out if you are my ex :

What is the only thing you love to cook ?

>>17522366
How long have you been married, though? I'm talking long marriages. Give it 10 years or more and you'll see.

>>17522352
Marriage isn't about love, it's about compatibility and forming a functioning family. The love and excitement always dies out, I think. The average time it takes for that to happen is about 4 years, or so I heard.

>>17523001

I beat up my step mom for cheating to the point where she had to spend a couple weeks in the hospital and have crutches and I enjoyed it. Now I hate whores like you and I hope you get hurt badly, dumb cunt.

>>17522147
>sex is the only thing that constitutes the quality of my relationship.

>we
Forgot you were an entire gender.

>>17523010
If people beat up cheaters more often it would given them something to regret. Most don't give shit about satisfying anyone but themselves so you should give them something to think about.

Cheaters don't regret anything.

They only feed from other people's anger and fear when they get ignored ...

They're just a bunch of losers.

>>17523006
Hint: it makes you shit green.

>>17523010
Sounds like you need behavioral therapy, son. Getting a criminal record over someone else's sins is dumb. She could've called the popo on your butt.

>>17523054
>>17523226
Hahahaha, are you stupid? Of course they regret it. Unless they're sociopaths or didn't give a shit about you in the first place, that is.

>>17523010
She literally could have crushed your testicles right there and been not only legally justified but praised by others for her courage. Self Defence against an attacker.

>>17523444
>>17523435

Dumb whore didn't because I covered my ass by getting dirt on her before I beat the hell out of her. If she got the cops involved her broken ankle, busted nose, and missing teeth would be the last of her problems.

>>17523010
Isn't it weird to think a cheater had mercy on you? I'm gonna guess she didn't get help or hurt you back because she cares about you and your family. She cared enough not to get you locked up.

It's actually pissing me off how poorly thought out your plan was. With open assault against a woman, you're shooting yourself in the foot. Goddamn.

>>17523455
Oh. Well, in that case I guess it depends what kind of dirt you had on her.

Holy shit, though. I think I would have stabbed your nuts in your sleep to teach you a lesson.

>>17523455
This guy knows how to be violent gotta give him that.

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>>17523475
Lol no he doesnt

I would force her to eat cupcakes until she died

>>17522147
This is really well-written bait or a genuine sociopath.

>>17523485
Murder demands an investigation; a beat up is only investigated if there is a denounce.

What kind of dirt did you have on her? It's so hard to imagine she wouldn't fight back in any way.

In some places you're legally justified if you kill someone in self defence, and the dead can't squeal. I'm gonna guess you didn't live in one of those places.

>>17523010
are you a nigger from a Detroit ghetto by any chance

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sometimes i regret it, but mostly i don't. i don't think i'll ever do it again probably. mostly because it was self-destructive and unwholesome.

i'm back to being pure and wholesome now.

My ex cheated on me.

I had my suspicious so I let a bought a small camera and left it on while I was at work. It turned out I was very much right.
I wanted to the video online as a revenge but I was afraid it might be traced back to me. Instead I broke up with her, and after that I printed several pictures I took from the video, put it in a few envelopes, and left it here and there in and out our town.

This happened ~two years ago. Just five months ago someone uploaded that very same pictures to a gallery on xhamster. It makes me so happy.

I used to think "there is never an acceptable excuse for cheating, no matter what."

But, now being in a relationship I see things aren't so black and white.

My situation was that I've been living with my girlfriend. She was really nice to begin with, but when we moved in together things really took a turn for the worse, and we pretty much quit having sex all together. I can't remember the last time we had sex honestly. It was probably about 2 or 3 weeks ago, and the same time frame before that, so it kind of all runs together. And the sex is really bad. If she cums first her vagina gets too sensitive so she usually just asks me if I'm close to finishing and that pretty much kills the mood. She's a sloppy kisser. I hate sloppy kisses, so I just don't kiss her. She avoids eye contact, but I love looking deeply into the eyes of my lover. She doesn't like when I breathe into her ear. She thinks I'm forcing myself to do it and it's cheesy, but I just breathe heavier during sex, and sometimes my head is in her neck.

She hates sucking dick, to be fair my dick is curved and every girl except for one I've been with has had trouble sucking my dick. So that's not really her fault, just another obstacle. She is very combative during sex. I like someone who is submissive, but she just has no conception of smoothness. She just complains. "I don't like this lighting, I hate this position, this is weird, I don't want to do it, I'll get sweaty and I just showered, I'm so sweaty, I feel gross, I don't wanna have sex." The funny thing is, I'm her second partner, and I was the first person to make her cum. She can't even make herself cum.

When we first started dating she was perfectly agreeable and submissive, willing to try things, and all that.

From that description you'd assume we have a miserable relationship, but I really like her as a friend. I love spending time with her and joking, but I'm no longer attracted to her. She isn't bad looking at all.

wont let me reply to my last post, but here is the reply


>>17523711
She says she is still attracted to me, but just doesn't like sex anymore. I'm not sure if I believe that, but it doesn't really matter.

We're best friends, but we're awful partners. I tried breaking up with her, but she wouldn't leave the apartment. We can't really afford to get separate apartments at the moment, so she just kinda hung around and we got "back together".

I talk to girls and flirt all the time. I go on Omegle and cam with girls whenever I need to jack off. I kissed a girl at a party, but we didn't have sex. I don't feel bad about any of it.

When I tried breaking up with her she said she wanted to kill herself because I'm the only person close to her. She locked herself in a bathroom and started cutting herself. She pretended like she didn't want me to see.

The only thing i don't like is hurting her. Because like I said, platonically we are great friends. We agree on everything regarding morals, and metaphysics. We have the exact same sense of humor, and I bust my gut with her every day. But somehow there is just no romance or chemistry between us. When I can get a new roommate I will break things off with her for good. And I've told her I felt this way, she manages to stay in denial somehow.

I'm checked out from the relationship though, the only reason I haven't had sex with another girl is because I don't want her to find out. It strange though, because when she fights I can tell how much she resents me as her boyfriend. And I mean deep down, just thinks I'm the shittiest boyfriend one could have, but every time I try to break it off she clings closer to me.

It's a weird dynamic, and that's not to say my cheating is somehow morally the right thing to do, but I don't see why I should deprive myself of human affection because I've signed a lease with my co-dependent best friend who doesn't find me attractive.

>>17523739
>>17523711
she needs to meet new people...
if she only knows you, she will make the relationship last forever, even if its shitty, because 'you're the only option' and keeping cut herself because att whore

I cheated once, and it broke my damn heart. I regret it, in a way, and in a way, I don't. I guess I wouldn't be here, on the verge of something good finally, if not for the chain of events.

I was the other girl, once, and that shit sucked hard. I'm the kinda girl who has to go through certain things to learn, and apparently those were two of them.

Damn how much more do women cheat than men?
Half this thread is women and they are not even 25% of 4chan

Cheated on my current gf once with a prostitute. My friend convinced me to do it and we were drunk, so we each paid $200 to get a girl to come over for us to fuck. Probably not worth it.

>>17522220
Because she needed him, just not for sex.

>>17522125
I have and will continue to do so. Women are just mere property, like a dog is. I can own as many dogs as I want; and if it runs off, good luck. Hope it don't starve too death.

>>17522147
This guy gets it.

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>>17522125

Nope.

My ex-grillfriend of 5 years had Stage 4 Endometriosis and her mother had Stage 4 breast cancer and then she developed Stage 1 thyroid cancer.

Plus she was fat so she got the worse genetics known to man.

I'm glad I got caught cheating with a much younger, much prettier, much less riddled with cancer and did whatever I told her to.

I dodged a .50 caliber round aimed straight at my fucking head and the sniper took the coriolis effect into account so you know he knew his shit.

>>17522233
They clearly aren't aware of or don't care about the effect they had on their partner. They should be ashamed

guy here.

I cheated in 2 relationships.

She told me she was still in love with her ex. Cheated then broke up right away.

Other girl had problems with sex due to medical problems. Cheated then broke up right away.

>>17523981
It's a simple matter for women to get dicked; it's being offered to them in every situation. They just need to say yes to the guy they met in the line at the grocery store. And this works for all non-fat, non-uggo females.

For men, if you aren't 10/10 in the face, you're relegated to picking up women in places where women want to be picked up. It's such a blatant process that it requires a certain self-awareness to go through with it.

I regret telling the chick I cheated

>>17523010
You're a good man

>>17523435
Like criminals they regret getting caught. Most cheaters are caught or forced to confess, they don't willingly volunteer the truth.

she never get to know it, it was a one time thing *insert excuse why*

will i do it again?
probably not, maybe

im afraid this comes down to love
never cheated on someone i loved, you dont look at other women with those *hm yea would fuck her too*
but if its just a relationship, it can get flirty, which can lead to cheating

regret?
not really, there were no consequences
sometimes i think to myself
>im a cheater
but it just means nothing, since its really a secret me and the girl i did knows

>>17523003
kek'd

Am i cheelating if i was in a long distance relationship and because things started to fizzle we're talking on/off for the time being?

>>17524469

Yes you dumb cunt

>>17524469
>i will not eat chocolate
>i have a craving for sweets now
>i eat some choco once in a while now, but i will consider this not eating chocolate

>>17524474
>>17524478
Is it fair to expect either of us to still be exclusive while we're not talking as much and won't see each other in 2 months.... which is dependant on me moving

I'm really horny that's all

>>17524495

Have you cheated on your boyfriend yet? Like physically?

>>17524495
no bullshit will make it okay, stop

>>17524500
Not physically or emotionally.
95% of the relationship has been long distance. This was bound to happen we both agreed. We still talk but not as much and hope to meet again when timing is right.

>>17524500

So then what exactly have you been doing? Camwhoring? Cyber sex with strange men?

>>17524514
I'm a dude and I've done nothing yet.
It's probably not even cheating since our relationship has reverted to a friendship kinda thing. I was looking for outsiders opinions

>>17524510
How hard is it to simply break up or talk about your problems beforehand? Why do this passive aggressive bullshit of cheating? Do you have no shame or moral compass to direct you?

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>>17522125
NO RAGRETS.


This guy gets it.
>>17522286

>>17522125
>Former cheaters on /adv/
Reporting in
>do you regret what you have done?
Yes
>If so, why will you never cheat again?
Here's my story
>met a girl at uni, got along great
>stayed together throughout uni
>finished uni, got a house together, got married and had a kid
>life is pretty good
>when I was about 32 a new woman started in my office on the graduate scheme
>total QT, 22yo, Ukranian/Swedish, cardio bunny/squat chick, dressed very smart, modestly, well spoken
>someone must have sold their soul to give her such genetically wide hips and a skinny waist, it is like she was designed in a lab
>we have to work together, we are nothing but professional
>sex life has went to shit because of kid, wife gave up work and when I got home would have some ready meal waiting for me
>my son is left at various hobby groups when he isn't at school
>wife just complained that she was bored after CHOOSING to quit work to raise our son, then leaving him anywhere she could
>I've got to spend a week away for work
>QT is going as well
>on about the 3rd night we get dinner together because it is boring eating on your own
>we learn about one another and really hit it off
>on the last night away, she asks me to sit with her in her room, I do, nothing happens
>"you are the sort of guy I'm after, but I won't try anything while you are married"
>relieved
>I get home, wife asks who else went away for work
>QT from work
>wife hits the fucking roof
>accuses me of cheating with some blonde bimbo
>I try to comfort her about her jealousy
>she is having none of it
>throws me out of my own house
>I sleep in hotels, go back every day trying to talk to her
>her family hates me, my family think I've cheated
>wife claims that she revenge fucked someone
>I fly off the handle
>she flip flops between "I did it" and "I didn't do it"
>asks for another chance for the sake of our son
>I move back into my own home
>another week away comes up
part 2 coming up

>>17524664
>I'm with QT again
>we get dinner every night this time
>most fun I'd ever had
>I never knew she was this interesting
>one night she asks about my wife
>I tell her about the cheating
>"I think you deserve better than that, Anon"
>maybe, but I'm not going to abandon my kid
>at the end of the week, we kiss and go back to her room
>I have the best sex of my life, simultaneous orgasms, she sucks my dick and I manage to jizz twice in a row
>everything is neat and tidy
>we have breakfast and agree to keep it quiet
>next thing I know, QT is a member at my gym
>a new contract comes in, we will be going away a lot more often (one week a month)
>I make arrangements for a flat to live in, hand my wife divorce papers
>because we are divorcing over adultery, it is a pretty quick divorce
>I tell her she will get child support and I'll pay for anything my son needs
>I get to see my son on alternating weekends
>QT moves in with me, but is out when my son visits
>a couple of months later, the relationship with QT is official
>she is great with my son, our work life is great, our sex life is brilliant and living together is a dream
>a year later the honeymoon period passes and we are still great
>I propose, we marry, my son is ecstatic
>we get a house
>sort of 50/50 custody with my exwife over our son
>he spends loads of time at clubs anyway so my hours aren't an issue
>a few years later QT wants kids
>we have kids
>me and QT's kids end up attending clubs to suit our work lives
>QT pushes me to go gym, run marathons and the rest
>I kind of want to rest a bit
>QT doesn't really relate to the kids as well as she should
>but she is still a great mother
>one day she tells me she is scared I'll cheat on her
>I won't
>she drops it there and then
>but the worry resurfaces every few months, she doesn't get uppity but you know it bothers her
Basically I swapped one situation that wasn't ideal for another, but I did upgrade to a better woman.

>>17524070
>Plus she was fat so she got the worse genetics known to man.
fat isn't genetic, fat distribution is.

I cheated once. Long distance relationship with someone I really loved. I've always regretted it, even tho were no longer togethet and she never found out. It's always been a weight on my soul and I'll never do it again, that much I swear. I'll never forget the silence of sitting in my room afterwards.

>>17522305
So what I understand from this thread is that all women subconsciously hate nice guys or guys who treat them good.

>>17524777
The ones that cheat, at least.

>>17524784
Well I'm leaning toward the belief that women are sociopathic animals that love seeing weaker males destroyed.

>>17522125(OP)

Ok OP let's say my gf cheated and regret.

Does that undo the past ? Do you think I should forgive just because she regrets ?

>>17524799
Well, at least 40% of them are like that, probably 60%.

>>17524812
Wtf is wrong with women? It's hard to believe I share humanity with these creatures that are so self-centered and dark. Maybe the problem is me and I shouldn't take relationships or love seriously.

>>17524892
Eh, men are like that too.
Good people are rare.

>>17524806
No. You are under no obligation to forgive or take her back if you are unable to. Cheaters can regret their actions and still fall prey to them. It's more a matter of what is now driving them to never cheat again.

>>17522286
I agree with all of this except for the, "if she does not have good bond with her parents". You can pick friends, but you cannot choose your family.

Been married for 10 plus years to someone who did not come from a traditional background, and the parents were divorced and very messed up individuals. However, I have no doubt as to her love and loyalty as she has stuck by through thick and thin, because she craves what she never had growing up.

I had a girlfriend though before her 15 or so years ago, and she admitted to cheating on me when she finally left for the other guy. She came from a traditional family on the outside and had a great bond with both parents. I even thought a lot of her family initially, but come to find out her dad always cheated on her mom. Her mom just dealt with it over the years, and they remained married even though there was no love really there. They just shared kids, debt, and were use to one another. When my ex left it hurt, but I should have seen it coming really thinking back because she was never happy just sitting down to watch a movie, and she always had friends she wanted to go out with alone.

In the end it worked out though for the best.

Once a cheater always a cheater.

I cheated on my first boyfriend because he was controlling and physically abusive. He would threaten me if i talked to other guys, and tell me I belonged to him and to never forget it. He would yell at me in public if I so much as mentioned another male, grip and pull me by the wrist if I talked to another guy. When he was angry he would take it out on my with slapping and insults.

I did not love him, I was scared of him.

I did not cheat for sex or validation or out of spite. I cheated because I didn't want to be "his" anymore. I wanted to feel that *I* was in control of my body, and that only *I* get to decide who gets to interact with it. I wanted to defy everything he said to me and feel freedom.

Do I regret it?

Yes, heavily. The reason is not because I feel bad for him at all, or that I was disloyal(he was never loyal to me because it wasn't a real relationship based on trust and love, it was based on fear and control, so toward the end I realized I never owed him loyalty anyway). The reason I feel bad is because it didn't make me feel powerful or independent like I thought it would. I feel like I could have taken the higher ground, and found power in other ways. I feel like I didn't gain any power, just lost even more of my dignity. Lesson learned, and I will never cheat again.

I could make excuses saying he drove me to it, but ultimately I was in control of my own actions. And only when I realized that did I start to feel powerful again.

Now my life is turned around I am with a very loving and respectful person and I am 100% sure that I will never make that mistake again. Even if things turn sour I will take the higher ground and leave before cheating again. But I don't feel that is going to happen anyway. I would never hurt or disrespect him. He is the first man I've ever loved.

>>17522147
>we
>not b8

Nice try faggot

Got tattoos to reflect the real me all over my arm to remind me that cheating isnt me.

>>17522125
I regret it everyday. But at the same time, it forced us to decide what we wanted. We were both unfaithful but I took it the furthest.
I cried and begged for another chance with him and thank god he gave it to me.
3 years later and we trust each other more than we ever did and our relationship is the best it's been in the 5 years we have been together. I never stop regretting it or the way I treated him in general. I know it sounds horrible but I honestly just thought he would be pissed. I didn't think he cared about me enough for it to actually hurt him. I still remember that fucking heartbroken look he had when I told him.

Every fucking day I regret it and I won't forgive myself.

Obviously no, I would never come close to doing it again.

>>17522220
Because they want to have the relationship status and are egoistic and shallow, they have no values when it comes to other people. A little bit of a sociopat inside. They just don't care about "loved" ones. I've never been cheated on but I hate cheaters. They are no better than dirt but I think you have an excuse if you are being mistreated pjysically like in an abusive relationship.
Cheaters are like that tale of the frog and the poisonous bug. It's in their nature to not be moral so they can't do nothing about it because they can't empathize with other people's feelings

Do people think it is possible to love someone and cheat?

>>17525295
As someone who has cheats, I don't think so.

>>17525328
I feel like i love my gf, and i have cheated.

Only thing is, i feel no different afterward the only fear is hurting her feelings rather than guilt of the act. I felt bad for a bit, but then it felt like i was just trying to make myself feel remorse.

I still love my gf, and i never have intention of cheating it just kinda happened when i woke up one day in a different house wasted.

>>17525369
>Never intended to cheat
>Got wasted before the deed took place
Gee, I wonder how you ended up cheating. Surely the harlot must have cast some spell on you to lead you to such devilish temptation.

>>17525406
I went out for a mates birthday, drank way to much and blacked out for most of the night i had 3 bottles of red wine in space of an hour upon entering the night club after having 6 pints of beer earlier in the night. I am a dick when i drink, i probably shouldn't drink because i do stupid stuff.

People say alcohol plays no part, but i have never cheated sober or even considered it. I usually go out sober now, and turn girls away without a second thought.

>>17524670

Of all the other cancer and future cancer issues she had and is going to have, you focus on her being fat?

kek

>>17522125
Will never regret, when I was younger women fucked with me emotionally. Now I fuck with them because I hate each and everyone of them, they are nothing but walking meat sacks to me.

I met this one girl, she was close to changing me and my perspective but I ended it because my trust is at 0.

>>17525109
>but I took it the furthest
typical. Get into a disagreement and the woman uses the nuclear option. You still in touch with the guy you cheated with?

>>17525593
>Two wrongs make a right
Fuck people like you

>>17522239
Holy shit, it's the female me

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>>17524667
Glad it worked out for you, your new woman sounds so much better.

>>17524667
>Had an ok life with one wife
>Still cheated
>Has a great life with current wife he cheated on ex wife to be with
Only a matter of time.

>>17525824
Fuck people like who want to be walked over, the quicker you understand you will be a stepping stone for something better for her. The quicker you'll stop hating people like me and be like me.

>>17522125
my exhusband cheated on me for YEARS. I got phone calls from his sidechicks trying to get him in trouble even. what always got me was he was TERRIBLE in bed. like, didn't last at all, never got me off, nothing. But he still had girls climbing on his dick like it was Half Dome. I stayed, so I guess he flat that the cheating was ok because I never left.

Finally cheated back. I felt dirty, horribly guilty, and like I had done something akin to slapping my Granny.... Just physically ill and spent an hour in the shower scrubbing. He was hurt by it too. Never understood why he felt him cheating was alright but me cheating was wrong as hell. left him a week later.

still regret the cheating, even 10 years later. Not even worth it, even tho the sex was the best I had had in years.

>>17526566
How old are you?

>>17526576
well, I was married at 18, was married for 8 years, and have been divorced for 10.

late 30's

>>17526576
late 30s

>>17526691
Damn, you are rare around these parts.

I don't know if I should count it as cheating because it wasn't consensual.

Had a ''bf'' for two months, but he didn't love me and just used me like I'm some dirtbag. I hung out with an old classmate of mine, but turned out he wanted more and I told him if he's going to touch me I'll call the police. I wasn't worried about said bf because he was not sincere with me either.
This was probably the worst time of my life, not because I did something wrong, but because I let others do me wrong.

>>17527516
so nothing happened ?
geez

Can we all agree on the fact that cheaters are cowards ?

>>17527962
cheater here and yes I'm a coward.

>>17527962
my gf is straight up scary when she's mad, throw stuffs, biting, clawing, kicking and her dad is my supervisor, but I still cheated on her.

>>17528066
Just break up. "I don't want to be with you anymore". There, how hard is that?

>>17528090
the fundamental idea is that something is wrong in the relationship but is not perceived, then came the realization, usually mid penetration.

>>17528113
>usually mid penetration
honestly, yes. The lead up is filled with excitement and justification. Once it's in there is no return

>>17528116
So, what is it about being in the middle of the act that suddenly causes this realization that you're a piece of shit that is going behind your loved ones back?

>>17528090
Sometimes you can't just break up because your relation has been on for years.

So you kind of find your own way out.

It is not as easy as you think.

>>17528150
>Find your own way out
So it all boils down to selfishness, does it? I would think if the relationship is long term and isn't working, even more of a reason to be up front considering this person knows you and your habits about as well as a family member would. Why go out of your way to be someone they don't even recognize by lying and sneaking around?

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>>17528201
you assume you must be unhappy to cheat. Lust has been a huge motivator for me and has nothing to do with my bf. The rush of a new guy is overwhelming

>cheaters
>regret

Pick one.

>>17528125
cannot speak of others but I don't feel like a piece of shit only begin to question if it is really worth it and will it be discovered and the guy is giving it his best. Hard for me to relax and enjoy at that point though occasionally I can.

>>17522125

I'm sure she doesn't regret cheating on me even though she said she's sorry. Actions speak louder than words.

However I took revenge on her and ruined her life after we broke up.

So I think that is something I regret. I'm very impulsive. Didn't know until shit happened to me.

She has been drinking and drinking ... like an alcoholic. So, yeah, I don't know if it was worth it.

>>17528308
what did you do dude

>>17528241
Then just live the single life. Stop thinking you can have it both ways.

>>17523676
upload pic?

Dark stuff ...

Involved her family, made her look like a slut, humiliated her. Told the guy she cheated on me for she was a slut and she was cheating on him. Told her friends she gave me an STD (with false proofs I made)

Her father (conservative) hates her even more and left the house.

It's a big mess. I'm not proud.

They know i'm a good guy because i've always treated her well but I went full crazy after what she did.

I should probably apply to Jerry Springer and beat the shit out of her live next time.

>>17528318
Previous message is me.

>>17528324
I've tried fwb instead but the guy falls in love so the arrangement is always short lived

>>17522239
Thanks for sharing

>>17528339

Revenge is useles, be patient and life will give them what they deserve :) !

Cheated on my gf as a counter-cheating. She kissed this guy in a party, a friend of her that was more friends with me told me and I fucked everything I could get my hands in for a while as revenge.

She found it after I was fooling with her cousin and confronted me and even tried to justify herself saying that the guy talked her over the entire party that she was drinking a bit and kissed him for some seconds and didn't let things go past that but I do not give a crap about that BS seriously. We broke up, she moved back to her mother's (we were sharing an apartment by then) and some weeks later she ended up getting tired of waiting for me to call her back and called me. We ended making up and we are still together but I do not trust her a bit desu.

Do not regret it at all and I still consider than the emotional damage of knowing she kissed that guy is bigger than she knowing I banged her cousin and some other girls.

>>17528464
she didn't just kiss the guy anon and you can bet he was not the first only the first you know about. She's only with you now so she doesn't have to live at home.

>>17528499
Does it matter?
He is a cheater and so is she, that's the only relationship cheaters should be in.

>>17528349
>Wah I can't fuck a guy I don't somewhat like
>But I still want to slut around
God, cheaters are so selfish