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My dad is making me excessively angry. He is anxious lately. It just feels really tense to be around him. If its possible for a person to pass on their feelings to you, then that's what he is doing. Sometimes he just starts coughing and I feel a dark presence, or u may call it a "pressure". And it's weird. I mean why does he suddenly start if he isn't choking on anything. I understand it's partly my fault for not reading every social cue that comes my way, and following a trail of clues that will solve this mystery. But if he is mad, how am I supposed to know? Aren't normal-er people supposed to verbalize what they're feeling? If so, how is him being mad at something I did my own fault??
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google, 'cycle of violence'
you are in the tension building phase.
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>>17504674
So from what you're saying, is that im walking on eggshells and/or paranoid. But the violence doesn't have to be physical violence??
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>>17504708
Nope, most dv is not physical it's psychological, emotional, financial, etc.
On one hand he's your dad, and his life is probably stressful in ways that he has no reasonable way to express. So yes 'normal' people are suppose to express themselves, unless the emotion is anger, or some other negative emotion, pretty universally engaging with those emotions will get you in trouble, and the adult thing to do is to not express them.
On one hand your normalizing whatever relationship you have with him even if it's dysfunctional, because he's your dad and it's not usually possible to just walk away.
you're allowed to just do your own thing though and not engage with his anger, kinda helps.
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It's hard to believe that something as small, like a cough, can actually mean something like anger. Somepeople live on an island called Passiva Aggresiva.
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>>17504774
*cough*
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