Hi /adv/.
The situation is that I am doing an administration course, and find one of the girls quite cute (I'm going to call her Amy). The problem is that the course meets up too irregularly (once a week), and there is only 3 weeks time left before it finishes so I'm running out of time to get to know her, and potentially ask her for details so we can correspond outside of the course.
I am not shy or reserved by any means. I have a good relationship with everyone on the course. I have a good relationship with all the class members especially the tutor, and a dude (I'll call him Bruce) and a girl (I'll call her Wendy) who seem to be the closest things she has to friends there (she knows them outside of the course). What annoys me is that I'm closer to her friends, but not to her. That being said, I'm not really close to any of them.
Anyway, I have a good relationship with the tutor and he asked me for my preferred options for a group work presentation we have at the end. I suggested Amy and Wendy, as they are probably the best workers in the class. But I also, obviously, suggested Amy for other reasons too.
So far, I have talked to her, and she's helped me out with some things and I've helped her out. But there's really nothing there to connote any form of relationship beyond that between us. The main problem is she's extremely reserved, not shy, but reserved. She doesn't really talk beyond what's needed. So, how can I get her interested in a conversation, how can I move from small talk to real talk? This is the biggest hurdle I've got in actively making new friends and connections. I really cannot do small talk, and have trouble identifying how to maintain an interesting conversation with people. I struggle to build connections quickly, and within a timeframe. Does anyone have anything that I can do to help this problem?
So with that in mind, what can I do?
>>17498184
Ask her for lunch/dinner or anything else that you can have time for you and her. Ask her "friends" that your interested and to set you up with her. just straight up ask her. The quicker the better.
>>17498192
Not sure if I can trust them not to go straight to her, and tell her. Is that a concern, or not?
>>17498192
>>17498479
So, something like "hey, what are you doing this weekend? Would you like to go ?? on Saturday?"
She's a year off from being allowed to drink, which is a pain.