gf shies away from hard work and i'm thinking of breaking

>gf shies away from hard work and i'm thinking of breaking up with her over it
What a misleading title.

>>17487463
Hahaha yeah. This is about blowjobs lmao.
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>>17487452
You cant force her to do something she doesnt want to. She has her reasons and you should understand and appreciate the little she does. Maybe you can find any other sexual activity you are both comfortable with. However, you are very young and you shouldnt lose your time in a relationship that doesnt bring you pleasure

>>17487452
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i've spoken to her about it on numerous occasions. i've told her how it's important to me that she makes an effort in regards to our sex life, that she displays a willingness to do things that may be difficult and this results in her crying, telling me that she's going to really try (again), and ultimately doesn't deliver. this has happened on three occasions now. the first time was early-ish into the relationship because oral sex being off the table was really disappointing. i dropped it for nearly a year when it became apparent that it wasn't going to happen. i told her that it's still important to me but that she can take it at her own pace but that it is something i want. an entire year i didn't bring it up and she didn't either. i felt like she happily put it to the side, never to be brought up again. i caved and asked her about it, reminding her that this was still something i wanted and something i believed she was going to work on but she confessed that she had no plans to ever try again.

this same attitude bleeds into other aspects of her life. she constantly stresses about school and her grades yet if i ask her how her coursework is coming along she will tell me that she's putting it off till later cause she wants to relax. i remind her that if she gets the coursework done then it won't hang over her and she'll feel less anxious. she insists that she needs a day to relax.

she complains about her weight and how she looks. i take her to local gyms and i coach her through lifts and a program. i give her exercises she can do at home, recreational activities she can do in her basement and backyard but she doesn't stick to them and continues to complain.

she lacks a healthy attitude towards hard work and putting in effort. she crumbles when things get difficult. i console her, tell her it's okay, but i still have to help her manage the stress of things not being gifted to her. i tell her it's okay and compromise on things that i want.

>>17487497
she has had boyfriends in the past leave her because of this same reason (lack of oral sex) so she's concerned that i'll leave her eventually. she told me this when i first approached the subject early into us being together. i'm still here a year and a half later but i wonder for how long.

again, overall the relationship is okay. i am happy when i'm with her but occasions arise where i'm reminded that things are missing in the relationship and that she has no desire to work on such things. it's very disappointing when she tells me that she makes promises and doesn't even make an effort.

this runs parallel with her telling me that she wants to have a family with me. i question how she intends on going through the struggle of raising kids together, as if a family is going to be easy. i have no confidence in her work ethic. i don't feel like i can count on her when things get difficult.

as i said, our sex life is pretty piss poor overall. i contribute to the mess with PE issues but i make an effort. i initiate, i'm sure to get her off every time, and i'm always doing the physical work (deadfish). she refuses to get on birth control cause she doesn't like the side effects so we use condoms. i'm apprehensive about coming (in the condom) inside of her cause we had an instance where she held onto it and spillage occurred. so for the past year or so sex ends with her just jerking me off and hastily washing her hands because she doesn't like cum.