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Is it autistic to sit down with an LTR, map out your financial status, habits, & goals, then negotiate how you'd work as a couple in the future? Y'know talking about prenups, retirement saving, insurance, college funds, private investments, budgeting, etc.
My gf and I have meetings like this periodically where we'll gather our notebooks, records, & other documents to discuss such things.
Before we had sex for the first time we provided STI test results, discussed sexual histories or lack thereof, fantasies, libidos, fetishes, the Kama Sutra and other sex manuals, porn, stamina, sensitivity, allergies, birth control, etc.
Then there the other discussions about personalities, mental health, family history, IQ, careers, education levels, genetics, religion, habits, etc.
I've been told this sort of stuff is unromantic, weird, and "unnatural" apparently.
What does /adv/ think? Should such things be figured out by trial and error?
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>>17485399
sounds pretty normal and healthy to me. I've never been part of a relationship like this yet, but have seen ones like this be successful. You guys are a team, so you want to be on the same page.
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Nah it's good to hash things out ahead of time. I'm assuming you guys have been together for a while anyways.
I tend to work with stuff like fetishes more by ear, but it's good to make potential deal breakers and long term goals known.
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>>17485399
Sounds like you've met your soulmate, brah. I couldn't be in a relationship like that, but I ain't the type to plan ahead like that. Every time I try to plan anything more then a year in advance something always comes up and I have to drastically alter my plans or toss them in the trash.
Honestly, I'd suggest going a little more free form with your planning. e.i. don't save for a specific trip to a specific destination; just save for a trip and keep some places in mind. For all you know your specific place will be embroiled in a civil war by the time you save the money needed to travel there.
As for shit like that being unromantic, I'd simply state that romance is a work of fiction. Ask someone what being romantic means and they'll describe scenes from movies and they'll quote passages from novels. If those scenes and passages had included algebra instead of poetry then math would be the language of love.
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>>17485399
sounds like a very smart and proactive thing to do if youre deep into a LTR and very serious about getting amrried etc.
smart thing, go do it
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