ITT: Ask the opposite gender anything

Ladies suppose you click with a guy and it's all going well. The suppose he tells you he has herpes. Do you stay with him?

>>17474114
Probably not. There are guys out there without herpes that I could be with.

Guy here. I've never seen a woman naked. Or kissed one. Will my erection make my dick "bigger" if I see a woman naked or kiss one, in comparisson to the boner I normally have when masturbating or watching pornography? Or is it the same thing?

I claim this thread in the name of the Inquisition of Pegasus

>>17474132
>that mindset
You can apply this to any defect a guy has.

>>17474114
I don't want herpes, so no.

>>17474114
Stds are the one thing I won't fuck around with. Not worth it no matter what. If you get them, you're stuck with them forever even after you break up with the guy.

>>17474114
No. I have IUD and it makes STD more dangerous.I have sex with clean partners only (and expect them to get tested before we even have sex).

Help. I'm starting to think I'm a nymhpo. If I asked a random guy on the street if he wants sex would he say yes? Assuming I'm hot.

>>17474276
probably no

>>17474160
>I see a woman naked or kiss one, in comparisson to the boner I normally have when masturbating or watching pornography?

Not sure why this is in the opposite gender thread... but probably No. if you're REAAAAALLY, out of your mind turned on, you might get a little "bigger", but it's rare/difficult to reach that level of over-stimulation.

>>17474276
>If I asked a random guy on the street if he wants sex would he say yes?
Depends on the guy. If it was me, I'd pretty much say, "Excuse me?" give you a funny look, and walk away.

If you want to pull that shit, go to a night club or cluby bar.

>>17474276
People have tried this. Some will say yes, at least if you're in the U.S. I would not.

>>17474276
Varies. Some would say yes. Others would run for the hills so they're not patient zero.

>>17474276
Nah, I'd be suspicious as fuck. I'd honestly assume that you're crazy, have ulterior motives, or that I misheard you.

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Fat male here getting /fit/ but trying to make social gains.

I have good hygiene am friendly and pretty funny. I'm really good at supporting my friends and I can handle most social
situations without being so awkward.

The thing is I'm really insecure 'bout my body. While I'm not morbidly obese I'm sure as hell not thin but I'm not weak either.
Think kinda like a bear that's had an easy time getting food.

My question though is, how unattractive exaclty is being on the chubby side. I've never had a girlfriend (I'm pretty young
though) and wonder if it has to do anything with my shape? I'm really likable by most people I meet but I wonder. How bad it to
be fat in social situations?

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>>17474191

Should I put my height in my Tinder profile if I'm 5'10.5"?

If yes, should I go ahead and round up to 5'11"? (5'10.5" sounds dumb)

>>17474537
I always skip those who put their height in their tinder profile (unless it's something extreme - 5'4 or 6'4)

why do women like gossiping? is it genetic?

Have you ever got turned on by a dick pic?

>>17474546
Hmm alright. I was thinking that girls might think that I'm trying to hide my height by not putting it in my profile.

>>17474575
Personally I don't like it
I don't like people who do it either

>>17474537

round it up to 5'11" and then show up to dates in timberlands

the key to making is work is never taking the timbs off

>>17474575
>why do women like gossiping? is it genetic?

You say that as if guys don't enjoy gossiping/shit talking too.

Like seriously, you've never seen/participated in guys talking mad shit about someone/calling him an idiot/laughing how dumb they're being /calling them whipped/whatever the fuck?

Guys do it too.

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Girl told me she was available to hang out starting august 15th a few days ago. Sent her a text on the 17th. Didn't answer. Then called her. Didn't pick up. Was it too much or can I give it another shot ? We have a history about having trouble meeting because of schedules but she eventually comes back at me most of the times.

>>17474607
Called her 2/3 days after the text btw.

>>17474607
Ignore her for the time being, you've did your part, maybe already a bit too much.
She'll contact you, if not, you've saved yourself some effort.

To girls, what does it feel like being hit on the crotch? I mean being punched or kicked there, without anything going inside the vag?

Guys,

Is it possible to get a guy interested in me? I go to uni with a guy that I find to be quite cute and charming. But he clearly has no interest in me at all. I say that because we go to the same university together and take many of the same classes, but he hasn't made any advances,tried flirting etc. It's not like we're strangers and I've known him for a while but he doesn't' initiate a ton of conversations.

Is there anything I can do to change this or is it a lost cause?

>>17474807
Show interest in him

>>17474812
I'm not great at flirting and I'm worried about coming off as desperate. What are some good ways you've seen women show interest without being trashy?

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Asked a girl out today. Over text since we dont see each other in person

She said yes (with a smiley face emote)
but she said
>can we hang as friends

Followed up by
>Gotta make sure we don't hate each other first. And honestly I'm awk as hell in front of guys.

Does this mean she is interested in eventually dating one day or no? Why is this shit so cryptic

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For the ladies...if there was a guy you like and have hung out with a couple times...

What could he tell/text you that would give you butterflies and make you even more excited to see him? I know this girl is into me, I just want to give her that sweet giggly feeling, and make her even more excited for the next time we go out. Ooooooo and clever date ideas are helpful too!

>>17474822

Smile, wave, say "hi".

Start off small just saying "hi" in passing and working your way up over time.
That kinda thing.

> I'm worried about coming off as desperate.

And guys are worried about coming off as creepy, so much so, that if they don't receive any indication that it's okay to talk to you, they won't (unless they are black).

You don't let him know it's okay to talk to you, in some way or other, and he'll just assume you'll see him as a creep and therefore, will not make any moves.

I'd know. There's plenty of women I find attractive, and I avoid pretty much all of them except the few who smile, wave, say "hi" or do something to let me know they're chill and not hostile.

>>17474847

Guy here
>Ooooooo and clever date ideas are helpful too!

Romantic candle-lit evening picnic.
Take an phone with speakers, loaded with romantic songs she likes, grab some candles, make some snacks, get a blanket to sit on.

It's really cheap and cleverly disguised as romantic. Best done at sunset on a warm day when the sky is a dying orange.

>>17474114
Oral or genital? There's tons of people with herpes, more than there aren't. People don't realize that herps is actually nothing at all. Rarely do people even know they have it because it literally just lies dormant in them and they never even show symptoms.

I've had oral herpes (cold sores) since I was 1 year old thanks to relative's kisses. So oral herpes wouldn't bother me. Genital might, but it would just mean I'd want to communicate during breakouts and such. It's not a dealbreaker if I liked him.
>>17474450
Its relatively unattractive, but whats more unattractive is the insecurity because of it. You'll be better off holding off on dating until you're in better shape, until you can look at yourself and see a desirable man.
This is coming from a chubby girl in the same boat as you. Former whale, working on my /fit/ness, now in chubby status, soon to be "average". I told myself I didn't have any room to date until I had a flat stomach and was under 115lbs. Until then, it's being put on the backburner. If I wouldn't fuck me, nobody else will either.
>>17474537
Guys who put their height on their profiles reek of insecurity. Like with the chubby dude above, the insecurity is more unattractive than the actual "issue" itself.
>>17474575
Some do, some don't. I don't gossip really, at least not in a catty way or anything. I may "gossip" in the sense of "Is becky still dating that one guy? I thought he was kinda shitty."
>>17474577
No. I don't get sexting at all really. Like, what am I supposed to do with your dick pic or sexy text? Shove them up my vagina? Come over here and put that real life dick in me fuck off with those pictures.
I also get nothing from stationary porn anyways. Send me a video of you jacking off (assuming I asked, because you should be smart enough to know not to send any nude without being explicitly asked), then I may get aroused. Send me an audio clip of you dirty talking me, or moaning. Then I might start looking for my vibrator.

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>>17474930
What if I send you a clip of 30-06 at 2,800 ft/s

>>17474634
Not as bad as for you guys, I would assume. It hurts pretty bad if you're just like, straight up cunt punched, kinda like getting punched in the gut. It can wind ya. But I still think most women would get up and kick the shit out of whoever hit them much faster than any dude would.
>>17474833
Sounds like she wants to test the waters. I think what she means by "friends" is actually more like "this isn't a date-date, but it's not just 2 buddies watching netflix either."
I'd say she's not putting you out of the "dateable" pool yet. She's just wanting to get to know you better.

>>17474943
Sorry I'm computer retarded lol I have no clue what that means.

Girls, why even bother giving your number to someone you're not interested in?

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>>17474953

>>17474967
Why's that guy wearing a diaper on his head?

>>17474973
In case a bird poops on him

>>17474973
What the fuck did you just fucking say about me, you little bitch? I’ll have you know I graduated top of my class in the Navy Seals, and I’ve been involved in numerous secret raids on Al-Quaeda, and I have over 300 confirmed kills. I am trained in gorilla warfare and I’m the top sniper in the entire US armed forces. You are nothing to me but just another target. I will wipe you the fuck out with precision the likes of which has never been seen before on this Earth, mark my fucking words. You think you can get away with saying that shit to me over the Internet? Think again, fucker. As we speak I am contacting my secret network of spies across the USA and your IP is being traced right now so you better prepare for the storm, maggot. The storm that wipes out the pathetic little thing you call your life. You’re fucking dead, kid. I can be anywhere, anytime, and I can kill you in over seven hundred ways, and that’s just with my bare hands. Not only am I extensively trained in unarmed combat, but I have access to the entire arsenal of the United States Marine Corps and I will use it to its full extent to wipe your miserable ass off the face of the continent, you little shit. If only you could have known what unholy retribution your little “clever” comment was about to bring down upon you, maybe you would have held your fucking tongue. But you couldn’t, you didn’t, and now you’re paying the price, you goddamn idiot. I will shit fury all over you and you will drown in it. You’re fucking dead, kiddo.

>>17474955
Might've been easier than saying no. Maybe giving their number had different connotations for them than it did for you. Just because I give someone my number doesn't mean I want to fuck them or even date them. For me it means I liked them enough to at least see where it goes or maybe just get a new friend.

>>17474955
I don't. Or if I do, because a dude is being pushy and it's easier just to say "Uh text me" than try to get out of it, I have one of those "text now" apps that I never use and I give them that number.

Some chicks buy into the stupid fear mongering of "If I say no to a dude he'll just raep me :(" so they give their number to dudes they aren't interested in even though all that dude did was politely ask and would have handled the rejection easy.
Giving you the benefit of the doubt and just assuming you aren't an ass who was trying to force a chick's number out of her.

>>17474955
Why even get worked up over a number in the digital age? They mean next to nothing

So this girl I'm seeing is on holiday or whatever, she's supposedly with family. We haven't talked a lot because she says she's busy, but she's active on some social media.

Anyways she didn't text me all day, 2pm was the last time she was on whatsapp but it shows two hours ago she posted a story on snapchat. Naturally I open it and it's a pic of her and a guy. Just seems like a casual pic, they're in a house and he's throwing a peace sign and she's smiling blah blah.

Now the man in me is saying this is a red flag, so I took a screenshot of it, I'll probably call her out on it eventually

But what if he's just a relative or something? That would probably make her stop talking to me and I'll look stupid as shit

Either way, I don't know if I'm a cuck or women just can't be trusted at all. This is the last girl I would have expected to be this kind of bitch. Fuck this shit hurts

Ladies, I recently got out of a relationship and I give it a lot of thought about what I learned about it or from being with her.

The first and only new thing I could think of was:

"The bigger the hair, the closer to God."

Everything else was your typical relationship stuff.

Anyways, from the girl I was cheating on her with I learned:

"When it comes to shaping your eyebrows, remember: "They're sisters, not twins" and some random facts about dinosaurs.

For example, did you know the spikes on the end of a Stegosaurus' tail are called the 'Thagomizer'?

Doesn't that just sound fucking metal?

My point being:

Women (in my experience) have very little to teach me or being to the table financially or intellectually?

Should I just be a lifetime bachelor?

I love my peace and quiet, nice clean condo and the ability to do whatever I want and now answer to anyone.

If I get horny, I just get laid and then never talk to them again.

Is this a bad thing?

>>17475110
You shouldn't have screenshot her story for one, because she can see that. Most people find it flattering, if they posted a cute solo selfie or something - but if it's a pic of her and a family member then she will be creeped out more than likely. That said, if she says it's anything other than a family member then just move on. Never trust a girl who just has "friends" yet they are male.

>>17475110
Don't be confrontational and be prepared to end it.

>>17475110
>She's supposed to be with family
shes probably with a cousin or something? Geeze chill
>>17475118
>Never trust a girl who just has "friends" yet they are male.
Do gay males count kek. Or ugly ones? Or are you that insecure?

>>17474930
>Guys who put their height on their profiles reek of insecurity. Like with the chubby dude above, the insecurity is more unattractive than the actual "issue" itself.

Not anon you were talking to but,

Really? I always figured it was like a common courtesy/introduction thing, like so they have a basic idea of what the fuck you ACTUALLY look like--same reason they make you fill all that same shit out on driver licenses and whatnot.

>>17475110
Sorry man but 9 times out of 10 (no exaggeration) it's a worst case scenario

Don't confront her as if you already have your pitchfork out, just casually ask "oh who was that guy on your snapchat?"
And don't ask while you aren't already having a conversation. If it's the first thing she sees when she opens your chat then she'll probably be offended.

Like above said, be prepared to end it. Personally I would. Barring it's actually her relative, its a huge red flag

>>17475126
Spotted the hoe

>>17475126
So you think it's normal for a girl to have many male friends? Rule of thumb, if a girl has more than 5 pictures of her and guys then she's fucked at least 2 of them. Friend or not.

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>>17474103

How would I be able to fuck a girl really soon after meeting her?

If you want a backstory my landlord will be giving me free rent everytime I get laid

>>17474948
Is this realistic?

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KmdbMmeECwk

>>17475131
>Sorry man but 9 times out of 10 (no exaggeration) it's a worst case scenario

This statement requires real--non-/r9k/ tier--evidence to back it up.

Because this also sounds like the kind of statement bitter virgins with no dating experience make up in some shit hole of misogyny in their anger of never having touched a woman.

I will accept:
Sociological experiments publicized in credible journals with FULL results--no selectively cropped excerpts, line graphs with no data points, nor polls done by non-credible sources)

Psychological or sociological studies probing in to this exact subject in this exact scenario with this exact context (same as above, published in credible source, no excerpts or graphs)

I'll even take FIRST HAND experience if presented in adequate volumes and detail. NO THIRD HAND FABRICATIONS OR GENERAL ANECDOTES THAT SAY "THAT'S JUST HOW IT IS".

>>17475111
>Women (in my experience) have very little to teach me or being to the table financially or intellectually.
What a sad experience you had.

>Should I just be a lifetime bachelor?
If that makes you happy.

>Is this a bad thing?
As long as you're honest, no.

>>17475157
Guy he responded to here. Not sure how accurate he is but I don't find it common to see women with multiple pics of them and guys who are just their "friend".
Maybe I'm just paranoid but what man would want his woman so friendly with other men? Unless you're a cuck then none

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>>17475111
>did you know the spikes on the end of a Stegosaurus' tail are called the 'Thagomizer'?
yes

>>17475173
What's so amazing about friends of the opposite gender?

I personally didn't have a female friend till I turned 13, and I still get along better with guys.
I share more interests with them, similar hobbies, similar sense of humour.

If you consider your partner just as a sex object I can get your view, but if you enjoy her as a person, why can't other people do so, even without sticking their dick inside her?

>>17475173
>Maybe I'm just paranoid but what man would want his woman so friendly with other men? Unless you're a cuck then none

Maybe about half of my girlfirend's friends are male (including one of her best friends)
About half of mine are female (including my best friend--who at one point was even flat out a FWB) .

Neither of us give any fucks.
We trust each other.

If either of us wanted to get laid on the side, we could, but we love each other, and we respect who one another enough is to know that if we were having any second thoughts about our relationship, we'd be adult and responsible enough to say something first.

We've discussed the idea of an open relationship, we've discussed being open to the possibility of it, we've discussed it not being right for us.

We trust each other because we treat each other like fully cognizant and aware adults, and we've built a foundation where we each know where the other stands and that's always open to discussion if anything should change. And we both have faith in that, and in each other, because it's something we've both put effort in to building.

I don't give a fuck that she has male friends, she doesn't give a fuck that I have female friends.

You don't trust your girlfriend, or you don't trust yourself not to act were the positions reversed.

If you want to fix that, work on your foundation.

>>17475186
nice strawman.
it has nothing to do with sex, but if you are in an exclusive relationship with a man but you're getting the satisfaction of having other guys provide the same emotional support and company your boyfriend is there to give you then you're a hoe. Period.

Every girl I've ever met that said they had more guy friends than girls and prefers male friends have been nothing less of daddy issue ridden sluts.

>>17475032
>Some chicks buy into the stupid fear mongering of "If I say no to a dude he'll just raep me :("
>stupid fear mongering
http://whenwomenrefuse.tumblr.com/

>>17475198
I guess you're right; I have my fair share of trust issues, honestly I'd snap if I was cheated on, so I'm really not sure what I fear the most - what I'd do? How I would feel?

Feeling like I can't trust her is horrible though and if there's no trust I should just move on now since the seed of doubt has already been planted.

>>17475207
The only difference between those and false rape, getting pregnant to trap the guy (with his child or not), false abuse, etc. is that they are harder to prove.

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>>17475129
Nah, you don't need the numbers. I get what you're saying though, I'm kinda chubby, so I usually foreclose that fact after talking to someone and when we start thinking about meeting up, but when you put that stuff up in your profile, and like, the definitive numbers, it just seems kinda insecure. Like I'll admit to being a little chubby, but I won't ever actually tell them my weight unless they specifically asked. I think height is the same way, you can admit to being a little short (but you're only actually below average when you're under 5'9. Idk what the fuck is wrong with these guys who think being anything less than 6 foot is short.) but you don't need to list your exact height.
>>17475135
So you really think I'm going to fuck my gay friends who are literally disgusted by vag.
Ok then lol.
>>17475140
Yeah I do. I have more than 5 pics with my gay bros, and I promise you I have not fucked any of them. For obvious reasons. But I even have a couple straight guy friends. The one is dating my best friend, and has been for 5 years, and the other is like, a solid 2 to me. Also haven't fucked any of them.
But then again I haven't fucked anyone period so, you know. Regardless, that ain't all women man. If you can't trust your girlfriend then you shouldn't have one.
>>17475207
>Tumblr
>thinking this loud shithole actually has anything factual.
>Actually believing a website full of notorious liars.
>pic related
Oh boy, the kool aid is strong. There's also a bunch of news stories of women setting men on fire for rejecting them. But you know, they're also a small minority of psychos, the same way men who can't handle rejection to such an extreme are a small minority of psychos.

>>17475161

Thanks for the input; I've only had three 'serious' relationships and each girl had some type of 'mental illness'.

I myself have BPD but I'm in treatment.

Maybe I just wasn't mentally or emotionally ready for an actual relationship.

>>17475174

Fucking metal.

>>17475200
Do your friends give you the same kind of emotional support and company that your girlfriend does? Because that sounds pretty gay.
I share much more with my boyfriend that I do with my friends. But having a relationship doesn't mean cutting any other meaningful relationship.

I love my friends. I enjoy their company and spending my time with them. I don't like them because they are guys - I like them because they're fun people.
I have the same boyfriend since I was 14, and I'm 23. And really no daddy issues.
My boyfriend is definitely my best friend. The emotional connection I have with him is the most intense thing I've ever experienced. He's my biggest supporter, my confident and the person I love more on earth.

The relationship is deeply different and I enjoy both of them, in a different way.
Grow up a bit.

Girls (or guys who know): What is flirting exactly? I still have no idea what it is. My gf gets kind of jealous sometimes when I'm around some of my female friends and she says I was flirting with them and they were with me but I always figured it was just being friendly. What's the difference between flirting and being friendly?

>>17475216
>Feeling like I can't trust her is horrible though and if there's no trust I should just move on now since the seed of doubt has already been planted.

That's called running away, and the more you do it, the more you validate and traumatize yourself over whatever it is you're running away from, making it easier to run away the next time, which in turn validates it even more, which continues in a cycle until you have no trust whatsoever left.

Deal with it now, or you will regret it later.

Have an open discussion in he same vein as the ones I said I had my girlfriend. Don't be accusing, don't bring up other guys, just talk about what you mean to each other and how you guys see other people, what your fears are, what you think you are capable of, what you hope form the relationship, what boundaries you're comfortable with, and all the other things that you should probably be talking about in any serious relationship.
>>17475250
>Girls (or guys who know): What is flirting exactly?

There are different kinds of flirting.

Flirting BY DEFINITION is harmless and without any real intent of action.
But by connotation, it means different things to different people.

In general, flirty is making psuedo remarks that either subtly or exaggeratedly sexually/provocatively tease or flatter another individual. Though flirts can also be non-explicitly sexual in nature, "Telling someone they look absolutely stunning" for example, in itself can be considered a flirt, and is not exactly sexual.

That being said, there's a definite difference between harmless flirting and harmful flirting, and it's the intent behind it (which usually makes itself blatantly obvious).

Some people are more naturally flirty than others (like me) and some people are less so.

Unless you're secretly always thinking about sleeping with your friends while making those remarks, that's just harmless flirting, and your girlfriend has her own issues (Read the other post chain i'm replying to).

>>17475250
Your gf is overprotective and untrusting of you m8. You don't accidentally flirt, it's always a conscious decision.

>>17475287
I don't have any intentions with any of my friends at all. I'm also pretty sure I've never made even a subtle sexual remark either. I guess she does have some issues though, she's gotten pretty upset in the past and said she's not good enough for me, which bums me out a lot.

>>17475291
I really don't intend to flirt, I'm just being friendly. Or at least I thought I was just being friendly.

>>17475287
>Unless you're secretly always thinking about sleeping with your friends while making those remarks, that's just harmless flirting, and your girlfriend has her own issues (Read the other post chain i'm replying to).

Just in case, as addendum:

There IS a line of common sense that needs to be applied here...

If you're telling other women you want they're "so hot you want to fuck them in the ass raw, all night long", no matter how innocent you may think your intent is, that is NOT harmless flirting, and in that case you need to tone things the fuck down.

>>17475300
That's what I'm saying, she's insecure with herself so she thinks of your friendliness as flirting.
Like I said, you don't flirt on accident. Being friendly is not flirting, and only overprotective/insecure bfs/gfs are concerned about this.

Ladies,

Generally speaking, What places do you frequent where you feel most comfortable being approached by a member of the opposite sex? Are we talking bars, coffee shops?

Furthermore, what are some things that I can actively do that make people less suspicious of me? I'm not creepy, I'm just a little socially awkward, and I think it's mostly me being more self-conscious than anything but I want to be sure I'm putting my full effort in.

Is getting a shy girl with almost zero relationship experience (who is almost a decade younger than you) to fall in love with you wrong?

After our first few dates and sex, I know she was going to stop seeing me; she liked me but she wasn't into or was afraid of being in a serious relationship.

I liked her too and while I knew we weren't going to get married or anything, I didn't want to lose her as she was good company. So I got her to fall in love with me and she stayed for almost two years.

I think I fell in love with her too at some point or maybe I was just so committed to playing the part that I began to believe it myself.

I was good to her, made her feel good and was supportive; I was a good 'boyfriend' to her for the most part but I still don't know if getting her to fall in love with me was alright or if it was wrong.

Feedback?

Women, it has recently come to my attention that one of the bigger reasons I've been having attracting the right women is that I have an incredibly expressive face and tend to wear my heart on my sleeve, which supposedly is intimidating (I'm still not sure if I agree with this). It was also suggested that I consider acting lessons to better mask my feelings. Is there any truth to this? Should I work on this? Would you be intimidated by someone because they're an easy read and kind of intense?

>>17475319
Bars and coffee shops are good. Any kind of social gathering.
The only thing I can say about looking creepy, is if you think you're going to look creepy, you will. If you go into it thinking youre a normal dude and what you're doing is perfectly normal, then you won't be creepy.
Also practice makes perfect. Don't let a handful (or in reality one) bad experience shape you or make you give up. The more you do it, the better you'll be at it.
>>17475330
If you never did have those strong feelings for her, and you just selfishly wanted to keep her around for your own personal gain, yeah you're a shitty person.
But from what it sounds, it looks more to me like you met this girl, genuinely liked her but felt like it couldn't go anywhere because of the age gap (?) or whatever else reason, even fell a little for her yourself, but in the end that reason you didn't think it would work ended up coming true and it didn't work.
>>17475333
hmm, yes and no. Yeah, it is possible to be over bearing. Like a lot of guys who I think are like how you're describing yourself, tend to have the problem of disclosing too much too soon. Like I don't need to know your whole lifes story on the first few dates. That's part of the excitement of dating long term, finding out new things about your partner every day. Good and bad.
That being said, this meme of "dudes must be as cryptic as possible, never tell bitches anything, seem like you're uninterested in them at all times. Never show them your true colors" is well, a meme. You gotta have a balance of both. Be yourself, but be yourself slowly.

>>17475111
>"When it comes to shaping your eyebrows, remember: "They're sisters, not twins" and some random facts about dinosaurs.
>For example, did you know the spikes on the end of a Stegosaurus' tail are called the 'Thagomizer'?
Good advice and solid interesting facts. No idea why you're complaining.

>>17475347
I think I need to clarify my description. It is pretty strictly limited to facial expressions. I didn't even know I do it until recently. I'm usually pretty evasive about my life, almost to a fault. I've never had a problem stating what mood I am in and not letting the conversation go past there and I frankly despise it when people dig into my personal life. I'm seeing why it could be perceived as such though. I'll start working on my flat face and just not talking, see if that works. Fuck, the acting lessons may actually need to happen.

>>17475360

I'm not complaining; I just always thought you were supposed to learn something about yourself or love, etc. from being in a relationship.

I learned next to nothing new about love or me.

There were good times but in the end I feel like I lost a lot more than I gained.

>>17475375
Your narcisism would never allow that.

>>17475228
>le false charges meme
>>17475237
>Actually believing a website full of notorious liars
the ironing
>setting men on fire for rejecting them
who cares men aren't people
>a small minority
so? still better not to take the risk

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>>17475400
Here is a star for you.

so im a 24 year old virgin, and theres this girl who im pretty good friends with who seems pretty willing to take my virginity. We've already made out and what not, but the problem is she has had no strings attached sex with at least 4 of my friends. Now im pretty desperate to just lose my virginity and get on with my life but this seems pretty fucked up to me. Im worried what my friends will think of me if I go through with this, and im worried what her friends will think if they ever find out. One of her "friends" the other night saw us making out and told me that she was a slut, so she already has a reputation. I dont want to have this come back to kick either of our asses in the future. I guess im looking for opinions from both guys and girls on this one

>>17475392

>narcisism

Oh God, if you only knew.

My entire life I've put my family before me:

My dad left when I was 8 so I had to be a son/husband to my mother (Normal Bates, I know)

When my mom got remarried, she got divorced and I helped raise my two little half brothers.

Housework, yard work, helping my brothers with their homework, being there for my mother, etc.

My own school work suffered and I ended up dropping out for a year then enrolled again and graduated.

Always made my family were as happy as possible before myself.

I never got to have a real childhood, the high school experience and it stunted my emotional growth big time.

I admit it, I loved both these girls and I did my best to make them happy even though I knew what I was doing was wrong.

My first GF was a raging alcoholic and I helped her get sober for the five years we were together. She had Stage 4 endometriosis but no doctors wanted to perform a hysterectomy because of her age so they did a stop-gap procedure; it worked for three months then back to constant pain. She began to get hooked on pain killers so I had to manage her pills. I had to plead with the surgeon that she was suffering and to do a hysterectomy, he finally agreed.

I had to fill out all the paperwork for long-term disability and the FMLA from her work who wanted to just fire her.

I took care of her while she recovered all while going to college.

The 2nd girl was emotionally vulnerable and I regretted getting her to fall in love with me almost immediately; I was a coward and couldn't just jump ship on her and hurt her. I treated her well and just had to wait until she broke up with me.

Even with all that said, could I still be a narcissist? Yes, I could.

But I'm finally at a point where all I have to do is take care of me and try to experience all the things I missed out on.

>>17475333
I tend to be more likely to develop a crush on a stoic type, but the person I married and have been happiest in a relationship with wears his heart on his sleeve.

Even if I get attracted initially to the stoic type, it's just not something that seems to stick with me, and is harder for me to deal with on a day to day basis since I'm not very good at reading people. I just work better with someone up front about their emotions.

But a lot of people, especially women, feel threatened/frightened when a man gets angry. It sucks, but it happens extensively. Try to be aware of that.

>>17475440
You are very humble

>either gender
How do I stop being a total pussy? I literally back out of anything that I'm not used to.
>Still a virgin because I won't date, but also won't have casual sex because I'll convince myself I wanna date, but won't date.
>Won't take a promotion at work because I'll convince myself I wanna do something else, won't do something else because I'll convince myself I wanna make my current job my career, but don't wanna make this my career because I'll convince myself I wanna do something else.
Repeat this for damn near every aspect of my life and you get me.

>>17475413
Just fuck her dude.

>>17475455
just stop buying into the ideology that those are bad decisions

>>17475440
You are still a narcisist...

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>>17475446

No, I'm not.

My friends, family and GF's all think I'm the biggest, most selfish prick in the world.

All because when it came down to making difficult choices or intervening for their best interests, I was the one to do it.

But I don't mind because in my heart, I know I'm a good person who did everything I could to look out for the people I cared about even if I did fuck up from time to time.

No one is perfect but I tried to be for them.

Now I'm 30 and feel like I have no place in this world. I'm in community college, have a 3.8 GPA, 12 credits from getting my Associates in Business and then going for my Bachelors in Accounting but I look around and see these kids fresh out of high school and I'm embarrassed to be the 'old man', haha.

Love, it's a mother fucker.

But I have no regrets.

>>17475471
>>17475440
>>17475111
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>>17475500
You forgot
>>17475330

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>Have crush on coworker for a while now
>have hung out with her
>tells me about her best friend
>crush is more sporty, but best friend is more nerdy
>check out best friend on FB
>holy crap, she's pretty cute

How shitty of a person would I be if I asked my coworker to invite her best friend on one of our hangouts as a means to get to know her?
For the record, my coworker doesn't know I feel for her, nor is she really looking for anything anyway.

>>17474833
>Why is this shit so cryptic
Honesty and straightforwardness is not a main concern of people thinking emotionally rather than logically, or just assholes in general. ask for honesty &straightforward or gtfo

>>17475143
>If you want a backstory my landlord will be giving me free rent everytime I get laid
Story time, tell story

>>17475455
>How do I stop being a total pussy? I literally back out of anything that I'm not used to.

Since you'll regret the things you haven't done more than the things you have, eventually you might miss something and regret not doing it enough that not doing things isn't an option anymore. Just trust that you'll regret not doing things more.

>>17475392

Alright, I lied about it all; you caught me.

It's every man for himself and I'm going to be that man.

>>17475522
Most people meet their SO through friends so I say go for it. Maybe you can get them in a 3 way

>>17475538
Not gonna lie, that'd be hot as fuck.

But speaking seriously, I just might ask her then.

>>17475237
Do you seriously believe that women are just as bad as men in this regard?

>>17475536
>you'll regret the things you haven't done more than the things you have
I've seen this in other places. Am I the only who regret things I've done way more than things I haven't done?

>>17475564
Depends, tell things

>>17475564
Are you a criminal serving jail time?

>>17475572
>>17475573
I haven't done anything dramatic.

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Follow up from a Q I asked last thread:

It's been almost a year since I broke up with my ex (breakup wasn't that great), she's doing a small performance for College next week and I kinda want to go. (One of her friends will be with me, although she doesn't know we've met)

Should I just message her first to see if she would be okay with that? I figure its better than showing up un-announced and putting any pressure on her.

My plan really is to just sit in the back and see the show, but the audience is like 50 people so I'm worried of being 'caught' if I tried to just sneak in.

>>17475583
Drama is relative

>>17475586
Just go, you have no duty to tell anybody or ask permission

>>17475586
If the break up was on bad terms, not going would be the better option.

>>17475591
This was my plan at first, but when I thought it further it just seemed like a dick move. I also want to avoid any stalker accusations (even though, admittedly, I only knew about the show through her facebook). It's one of those smaller amateur productions and I wouldn't know who else to really scapegoat to.

>>17475592
I thought about this too. I feel like I've spent so much of my time after the break-up constantly avoiding her though that I've personally grown tired of it. It's looking like it'll be a decent show, and I feel like after months of avoiding her it's time I just grew up and didn't let those things control what I do.

>>17475622
That last one sounds pretty reasonable, so I think go dude. And if she has a problem with it then that will show just how immature she is.

Girls, if you are starting to go out with a guy, and the first date you have you are really physical with each other even walk holding hands and the next time you see each other you don't want to hold hands with him, does it mean something?

>>17474930
Thanks alot, guess I'll keep getting /fit/.

If a girl does something on complete accident that embarrasses both her and you, is it normal for her to avoid you for the next few hours??

We were around each other a lot up until this event occurred. I was enjoying my time with her.

>>17475649
did she fart on your cock anon?

>>17475683
Lol no. She opened the door on me when I was taking a dump in this weird public bathroom that was for both guys and girls. She still sort of talked to me but definitely avoided me quite a bit.

Much different than way she acted prior. Keep in mind she is Asian (Mongolian, and gorgeous).

>>17475706
I heard that smells are strongly remembered. She's probably got your poop-smell stuck in her head now.

>>17475706
shes not avoiding you because you did something wrong, shes avoiding you because she did something embarrassing. she'll get over it eventually.

>>17475886
I hope so. She's a very fun girl. What do i not do to make it worse?

>>17475586

It's creepy if you feel you have to ask. Also if she's a performer ahe should be able to still perform despite the audience.

>>17475917
Well you can go one of two ways about it but the best way is to act like it didn't happen since I'm sure she wishes it didn't happen.

>>17475922
Ok that's what I've done so far. I understand its horrifying and I was embarrassed too but I was over it in about 20 mins. Really ruined my day it seems though. I know its a weird story.

>>17475927
Hey weird things happen man, I've had my fair share of experiences. Don't worry about it.

To anyone (mostly girls, I guess?):
I asked a girl out for coffee/a drink and got her number. I texted her earlier in the day and asked if she was still up for getting that drink. She said "that's still possible," but she had to take care of something first, and that she would "keep [me] updated;" then I didn't hear anything else.

Is it time to give up now?

>>17474103

Ladies, how can you tell the difference between a guy being nice to you or flirting with you?

I've been told my my girlfriends that I flirt when I talk to other women in front of them.

I'll smile, make eye contact, make a joke and just try to nice but them claim it's flirting.

Do they expect me to be stone faced all the time?

>>17475918
Is feeling like I have to ask creepier than being spotted unannounced?

I wouldn't think so if it was a bigtime theatre play, but its really just a bunch of med students with spare time/energy making a small production that I wouldn't have otherwise heard about if I didn't see it on her facebook.

>>17475957
Maybe you're just naturally flirty when you talk.

I'm like you - when I meet someone new I get a bit flirty (I do it both with guys and girls) because I am nervous and being overly friendly is my natural response.

Don't get sexual in any way. Keep flirting more with your gf and giving more attention to her than to any other girl.

Ladies, when I was 20 I had a threesome with a guy and his wife. He was 30 and she was 50.

The age gap between them was my age.

Weird or acceptable?

>>17476124
Pretty weird.

Also - do not ever talk about your sexual past with partners. Please.

>>17476125
Opinions differ... I'd be pretty bummed out if I got together with someone and they wouldn't want to tell me about hot stuff they did before I met them.

>>17476124
For me it is weird in the sense that it is out of the ordinary and would make me ask more questions and raise my eyebrows. It's still acceptable in my opinion, though. Just a bit more uncommon and controversial.

Besides, people might get grossed out for you having slept with a fifty year old woman at twenty, but other than that, the most plausible reason for it to be unethical would be that you were taken advantage of... not that you did much wrong.

>>17476128
>I'd be pretty bummed out if I got together with someone and they wouldn't want to tell me about hot stuff they did before I met them.

Why? This sounds so weird to me.

>>17476106

We went into a Walmart once at 3 AM and there was a thin QT working the register; my GF is chubby/thicke.

On the way out my GF said she was eye fucking the shit out of me and giving her a combination of dirty looks and disbelief that I would date her.

Oh women, you can be so funny sometimes.

>>17476125
Nothing wrong with that bro. My gf told me about her 4some of just women in nice vivid detail. I even knew one of them from before I met her.

Imagination for fapping has never been as good as it has been after she told me the story.

>>17476137
Because it's part of them. Not just a part of their life and lived experiences, but a part of their life that is probably very important and personal to them. I don't want to be excluded from that. I don't want their friends to know more intimate details of their sex life so far than I do.

On top of that I find sharing those memories with all the detail you would typically leave out (eg that you felt humiliated by something or regretted a certain encounter) is extremely intimate, a kind of opening up that is quite rare.
And it just turns me on to hear about someone I find attractive and want to be sexually satisfied about times they were turned on and desired etc. Not so much that I'll masturbate to it but enough that it is thrilling for me to hear about.

>>17476143
I find it amazingly disrespectful. It is something about them and their ex. I think that you owe your ex some level of respect even after you break up, and this includes not telling someone else about the intimacy you shared with them - I wouldn't tell my partner about my ex's insecurities or about his family problems or about the sex we had. It's between me and him.
I also think that knowing in detail things about my boyfriend's past spoils things between me and him. I don't want to draw comparisons, or to feel second to his ex, or to feel "not good enough", or to feel like I need to do some things because his ex did them. I want to know I satisfy him, that's more than enough for me.

>I don't want their friends to know more intimate details of their sex life so far than I do.
Do you talk about details of your sexual life with your friends? Unless something really funny happened (like me falling from the bed while fucking), I never mentioned anything to them.

Then again, different strokes for different strokes.

>>17476164
For me it goes both ways. Yeah, when you are together you share something together, between the two of you. But you also know that in doing so you become a part of someone's life that influences more than just your dynamic.

Love is personal as well... does that mean that if you've spent ten years in relationships, you cannot mention most of your emotional life around that time and what was going on between the two of you? It is still part of YOUR life story.

Having said that it's not black and white. If a guy started talking shit about his girlfriend's body, that's just a douchebag thing to do. But there's a lot in between detailing specific private details about your partner, and telling stories about your sex life.

Those things don't worry me so much. I can tell when someone is delighted to be in bed with me and that's my answer. If I felt insecure about whether he'd expected someone of me because of an ex, I'd ask. But that possibility is always there. Someone can always want more or different than I give.

I mention things selectively. I don't share penis sizes or (other) things I know to be potentially shameful for my partner. I'm not going to tell someone that I rode my lover's face, in case they find that something that reflects badly on him for whatever reason. It is different when asked whether someone ever fucked my mouth, because that's mostly potentially shameful for me, so I feel more qualified to decide whether to answer it or not.
Obviously this is not all but you get the idea. It's an on-going judgment.

>>17474822

Unless the guy is already swimming in pussy, he literally will not care.

Also, just waiting isn't going to make anything happen. Men are dense.

>>17476125

I love to hear about a girls sexual past with guys.

Especially the bad experiences, they're usually pretty funny. The good ones just motivate me to do better.

Then there's talking about talking them during sex.

I know, I'm sick but it makes my cock diamonds.

>>17476128

I asked the husband if there were any 'rules' and said: "No kissing and no cumming inside her."

After the husband blew his load we went out for a smoke and she start french kissing me like crazy and told me to cum inside her.

God people are hilarious.

>>17476182
>I love to hear about a girls sexual past with guys.

cucking normies

fuck this board

>>17476185
For future reference, it's cuckoldry when you get off on the humiliation of being passed over in favor of another (superior) partner.

If you simply get off on past experiences without an aspect of humiliation, it's hot wifing.

>>17476176

As a guy, I totally want to know if where I'm at on the cock size Bell Curve; I know I'm not the biggest but far from the smallest. I can handle the truth, I'm just curious.

On a similar note, I can jerk off to porn where the guy has a smaller cock than me; no homo.

And as far as not wanting to admit that you've been mouth/ass fucked, gone ass to mouth, etc.

It's context sensitive; if you guys are talking about sexual things you like and don't like then it's alright.

But not first date talk...unless that date ends up in mouth and/or ass fucking, haha.

>>17476195
I don't know, I've never asked, it always seemed like a tacky question to me. Like you're slapping some meat category sticker on them. Penis size is already being equated with too often with your quality as a lover.

Also as a woman I am actually pretty shit at guessing and the differences between semi-hard and rock hard etc don't make it easier to have an objective idea of how big a guy is. Not to mention thicker also looks bigger, and most guys lie about their size anyway so it's hard to find a real point of reference. Just saying.

And no, absolutely not talking about first date stuff or close.

>>17476181

>Men are dense

Most are but I like women to think I am too.

In reality, I'm cunning as fuck and the hunter become the hunted very quickly.

>>17474822

Don't flirt then; just go up to him one day after class and ask if he'd like to go see a movie together.

Based on his response you can see if there's potential or you're not even showing up on his radar.

>>17476195

I meant I can't jerk off to porn if a guy has a smaller cock than me; no homo.

>>17476199

It's more about how big does it feel; like when he puts it in and your eyes go wide and it hurts even if you're wet, then that's a sign he's got a good size cock.

If you feel him stabbing you in the cervix but he's not banging the walls then he's got a pencil dick.

Ideally, you want a decent length but girth it more important.

But angle is a great way to compensate for a short/thin cock.

Take some geometry and maybe some trigonometry.

>>17476209
>hurts even if you're wet
>good size cock

Maybe good for the guy... less than ideal for the girl.

>>17476176
I mostly try to avoid telling anything private and intimate about my ex to my current boyfriend. This includes love too, yes - I don't think my boyfriend needs to know.
I mention it if it's something he needs to know (for example - linked to my insecurities or my expectations in a relationship, or things that deeply influenced me) but things between me and my ex are between us.

My boyfriend was married before dating me. He told me about the reasons why his marriage failed and what type of experience he got from it.
Other than that, he never mentioned anything too specific about their relationship or about their sexual life. I think I don't even know her name, lol.

I never asked details about his sexual life. I ask "Do you like anal?" and not "Have you ever had anal?". Of course I know, from the reply, if he ever had it or not. But I still don't really feel like it's something I want to know in detail.

Am I rushing with too many expectations?

Some days ago I told thus girl I liked her. She also told me she liked me and we kissed, walked, talked. Things seemed good.
Then she went to visit some relative and even though we texted a bit, I have this shit feeling that she's not answering my texts with much enthusiasm.
I mean she barely seems to answer at all. Tonight she's coming home and tomorrow/Sunday we'll likely meet.

I feel like I was rushing too much based on her responses and what we talked previously. What should I tell her, what should we talk about, how do I strengthen this not-yet-relationship? I mean we were only "together" for like a day.

I feel like this is ending before it even started and it's killing me. Today she didn't text me at all, only responded to some generic "have a good trip" and some inside jokes of ours that I sent.
Do I just ignore her today, see if she bothers tell me anything, like when she gets back, when she's on the train, stuff like that?

>>17476216
It's just an altogether different stance. I cannot imagine being with someone I potentially want to spend the rest of my life with, who gets to see everything of me, and only hear a brief summary of his presumably multi-year-marriage. I can't imagine feeling like I knew someone if their life to me was filled with question marks and blank spaces.

Then again, I know from relating to others that I have an above average need to learn about someone I like and hear about their past. That includes childhood memories and the family they grew up in, but also their love and sex life.
I also cannot really imagine being with someone who wouldn't want to hear about that. For me it is part of the fun to get to tell the stories that made you into who you are for the very first time to someone you're crazy about. Not telling them about your first kiss or whatever seems unnatural and almost business-like to me, like it's a separate clause they technically do not have the right to see. Whereas it's part of your soul and you want to bear your insides for someone... at least I do.

Also I realized I forgot to mention this, but unless you have been with very few people in your life, it is also quite easy to detach the "story" or incident from a flesh and blood person with a name and face you might run into. That way you can share your first view experience while still keeping the other person anonymous at least.
I expect an ex of mine to not sell me out and blab about all my insecurities and imperfections to someone... but I try to ensure that by only being with people I find worthwhile and pleasant. Other than that, I have become part of their life by sharing in their life, I am happy to have been part of their life, and those memories are theirs to keep and share as they see fit.

>>17476211

Well a couple more plows and you'll learn to love it.

I wasn't talking about cocks as thick as Coke cans, that'd be brutal.

I'm quiet, honest, and say things that most people apparently find bizarre. I don't THINK I look ugly, and I'm pretty critical of shit like that, so I'm probably at least average I'm the looks department? All that said, are those things that would tend to drive others away? I'm going to be 24 in January and I've never even had a romantic relationship, and am just getting more and more tired of being alone. Then again, my main hobby is video games, so maybe being alone just comes with the territory.

>>17476294
Shit, I forgot to mention in a fucking guy.

Girls, imagine following situation:

>you see a guy at some event, he takes your attention for some reason
>reach out to him and ask if he'd like to go grab a coffee sometime
>he agrees eagerly and you meet a few times
>you find him attractive physically and his personality turns out to make you more attracted to him after meeting him several times
>he gives you mixed signals, seems not interested in a relationship
>you're not interested in casual sex at all

I'm that guy and I find the girl attractive (would be up for fwb without a second thought) and I enjoy spending my time with her. I'd like to have a girlfriend, but I don't exactly feel that "something" that made me pursue girls for relationship before (only felt that twice though and got rejected both times).

In that situation, would you prefer the guy to tell you he'd prefer to stay friends, or make a move on you and possibly get into a relationship even though it's on pretty weak foundations?
If the second, what kind of move/words/whatever would make you the most happy?

I'm asking because with those girls I fell for, I think I'd be happy if the girl returned feelings even for a bit, even if the relationship turned out to only last a month or something. Like, rejection is pretty bitter-sweet if you at least got some nice moments out of it, all them kisses and cuddles and comfy dates. But then again I'm a dude so idk if I don't think in different categories.

>>17476294
People only like honesty when you say something they agree with but you probably not that honest but yeah all everything you listed hinders your chances.

>>17476317
Just so you have some context because I am probably biased because of that, but I am also a girl who is not interested in casual sex at all. I have been with one partner in my life and that's two years ago now. I have gone two years without any kind of physical intimacy because I want something serious.

I would be angry as HELL if a guy got with me without bothering to let me know that he wasn't really all in emotionally. If she wants to take the leap and see where things head, fine. But let her know that this is the deal. Otherwise you are setting her up to grow to really love you over time while having no clue that you have felt dissimilar from the start.

My gf's limited sexual history bothers me, and I'm trying to think of the best way to handle it.

It's not so much that she's done some things (though she is a virgin), it's that the only boys she's ever done them with (her last two boyfriends), abused her and pressured her into the things she did do.
Plus she recently revealed that when she was like 8 her 13 year old cousin tried to get her naked and molest her.

So basically at this point physical intimacy makes her extremely nervous. She's uncomfortable talking about sexual things, and has told me that even though she wants me to be her first she's extremely uncomfortable with sex in general.

I'm concerned if we stay together (which I want, I love her) that her nervousness about intimacy (and maybe frigidness, if that's the right word) could damage our relationship. I just feel sexual intimacy is an important part of a healthy relationship. And, while this probably sounds really stupid and self-centered, it affects my self-esteem when she doesn't want to be intimate because I feel like I'm not desirable to her.

Girls, what advice can you give me? Please be gentle, I probably have said dumb things but I really want to help her and I love her.

>>17476331
This goes beyond a simple advice, your girlfriend needs professional help if it is still such a big deal in her everyday life (understandably so, but still). You are not alone in feeling that a healthy sex life is a vital part of a healthy relationship, and she will need to tackle this issue.

Lots of communication. Lots. Do not keep things from her (like feeling insecure when she rejects you) because you don't want to burden her with stuff. She's still your partner, not your patient, once you start treating her like that it's over. She can't change what she doesn't realize is going on and you've got to keep each other in the loop.

>>17476230
We share interesting/funny stories sometimes, but we don't share details about the emotional or sexual aspects of our past relationships unless they influence our current one.
It goes both ways, obviously - he doesn't know about me and viceversa.

I don't see any sort of intimacy in sharing details about our past. I don't think it's necessary, or even relevant most of the time. It has never been important for us.
I want to know everything he is, more than everything he did. I want to know what we can do together, more than what he did this far.
I think that what I value most is being vulnerable around him and telling him the way I feel and think. I enjoy more the intimacy of sharing everything we are, and the strength I gain from that vulnerability.

I've been with just two people - if something didn't happen with my current boyfriend, it happened with my ex. He had a few more flings before marriage, but still, not all that much. I can easily understand who he's talking about.
We also have a similar kind of jealousy/insecurity - it's really easy for us to not feel "good enough" for our partner, so we both try our best to defend each other from these kind of feelings.

>>17476324
Welp, maybe some day. Either that or I'll crack some day and finally get my dick wet with some slut and regret it for the rest of my life.

>>17476339
This.

Encourage her to get professional help. And try to not take her "frigidness" personally.

>>17476341
I agree with most of what you say, the difference is that I don't feel like what you "did" or who you were is unrelated to who you are present tense.

>>17476339
Ok. I try to communicate everything to her, let things move at her pace, let her know I'm mad at her for it.

It feels weird to tell this to some anonymous person on the internet but honestly it makes me want to cry knowing what she went through. She's such a sweet girl, with a bit heart and really honest, that hearing what she dealt with upsets me. When she told me I held her and we talked for a long while, I told her I didn't hold her past against her (she seemed afraid I wouldn't want her or something).

I really love her and even though it was before we were together knowing I couldn't protect her tears at me. She told me that one time she was home with her ex and he threw himself on her and she started screaming for her dad and he didn't hear her because he was outside. It wasn't until her aunt knocked on the door that her ex stopped trying what he was trying (she thought he was going to try and have sex with her).

I kinda just needed to vent on that, sorry if it was tmi.

It's dumb, there's nothing I could have done but it eats at me.

>>17476327
Well, if you're like that you're the best person to give me advice probably, since she's pretty much like that too (only had one LTR and it's been a while, no casual relationships I think and if there were any she wouldn't go beyond kissing I'm sure).
I think she can feel I'm not all into it, actually, I can see she's a bit frustrated about that from some things she said. How do I even tackle the topic to see if she's up for just trying to see if things would work in a casual way?
>>17476331
I agree with >>17476339 and >>17476346
She needs to see a therapist, there are issues that won't be fixed just by you being gentle and loving with her. It has nothing to do with whether she's attracted to you or not - if she says she wants to have her first time with you, that means she loves you and finds you attractive, it's just her experiences gave her issues which aren't letting her turn that idea into reality. And that's where a psychologist may help.
Tell her how you feel about it but make sure you don't sound pressuring or anything. Tell her the thing you told us - that you consider sexual intimacy an important part of a relationship, and if it is possible for her to start feeling more comfortable with the idea of sex - for example through a therapy - then it wouldn't hurt to try
You can offer to pay for the therapy too

>>17476354
It depends.
I don't think that he needs to know about that time I gave head to my ex while he was driving, and I don't think I need to know about the first time he fucked his high school girlfriend in the butt. It didn't really influence him all that much.
I obviously know about major, life changing events and he knows about mine. He knows about my experience as a cancer patient and I know about his dad's suicide.
I try to share the right amount of detail and balance opening up and not making him feel uncomfortable.

>>17475207
>Cases of isolated psycho incidents totally make this a valid point!
Cows kill quite a few people each year, I am now going to raise awareness about psycho cows.

>>17476367
Be really explicit about it. When a serious moment arises, tell her that you feel like you're not completely on the same page and whether she wants to know what it looks like from your position.

Then you tell her - you're cute, you're fun, I'd love to fool around with you, I love spending time with you. But I am not feeling that x factor I did with past girlfriends, I don't know if that's something that can grow over time, I don't know how important that is to me, and I don't know whether that is a reason for you to not want to pursue me.

If you want to give it a try, we can see where things head and how it feels to be a couple together. If not, I totally understand. I just felt like I was giving you mixed messages and wanted to level with you.

More or less.

>>17476346
I really try not to, I feel stupid even thinking it sometimes. I know she loves me so much that it's unkind of me to even entertain the notion.

>>17476367
Ok, I'll give that a shot. She's hinted that she's getting better. Last time she actually initiated a lot of things without so much as a word from me, taking the lead on things and being encouraging. But I worry and I think you all are right that some therapy might help.

I don't think I've ever loved someone as much as I love her, and knowing despite what she dealt with growing up that she loves me and wants to try really hits me.

Thank all of you for your advice.

>>17476386
>I feel stupid even thinking it sometimes
It is normal to feel bad about it. Whenever you get rejected, your first reaction is thinking "I'm not good enough".
The most important thing is talking about this and treat it for what it is - an insecurity.

Communicate. Be kind to each other. Tell her what you feel, how much you appreciate her. Keep growing close to each other.

You're doing a great job and you sound genuinely into her.

>>17474103
do woman know that they are parasites?

>>17476377
Yeah as long as the person that kills me or rapes me is mentally ill it's fine!

gonna keep it short

>be at a festival
>bump into ex gf who broke up with me last February because she "just doesn't love me anymore", haven't talked to each other since, don't know if she has a boyfriend now or anything
>an hour-long (on my part very drunken) conversation ensues
>she tells me she's been thinking about me a lot, I tell her the same, I ask about her work, family etc., then when she asks me how I've been I break down crying
>can't remember the rest
>text her a few days later, to apologize for my embarrassing behaviour and to tell her that it was good seeing her
>she asks me if it is okay and if I want to meet up with her sometime around the next week and talk things through under more relaxed circumstances
>we're meeting up on Monday after work

what is her endgame?

FYI: I still have feelings for her.

>>17475955
Guy here: don't give up yet, you've done your part all you can do is wait for the update. Keep cool, keep calm, be preoccupied with something.

The girl I like hasn't gotten a hold of me in a week, not even late night drunk texts. Does this mean she doesn't like me anymore?

>>17476684
I mean, she told you she didn't love you anymore, break up with you, runs into a year later and manages to make you break down crying within an hour.

No offense, but that is attention/validation that is hard to pass up. You've basically delivered the message that she can come and go as she pleases and you'll still be there keeping your feelings for her warm until she's ready to consume them again.

I'd hit you up too if I knew it was that easy to get my ego stroked. I think you should stay away from her personally.

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Went on a couple dates. Made out a bit. She bailed on me twice afterwards so I stopped talking to her. A couple months go by and she starts messaging me out of the blue. She's in her home state right now for context. I don't know what she wants but I kind of want her gone, kind of don't. I want to tell her off, but I also want her to want me. I've been mostly ignoring her or giving very short answers.

Ok so there is this girl at college and she's hot. In class I'd notice we would lock eyes every few times, but then I went up to her while she was hanging out with other guys to talk about finals and she didn't remember me which is fine cause I barely spoke to her before, I was sitting on the other side of the room. I introduced myself and we talked alot more the next day with a few other guys. Alot of the guys gravitate towards her cause she's hot, so I don't think I'll get much alone time with her, I noticed she repeated a few of my lines to get laughs from the other guys. I don't really think she's interested and there is a 10 yr age difference so I don't think I want to do anything, I just don't know what I want from her/how she feels about me

>>17476734
>wif
I would never speak to her again.

Girls, you're in a new relationship with a guy.
What do you want him to say/do/make for you for you to go from like to eventually love?
She isn't into texting much so no endless nights texting pls.

Ladies, how do I help a friend that suffers from emotional issues and existential crises on a normal basis?

She's already been seeing someone for her issues, and taking medication, so she's covered professionally. I just wanna be able to help her in any way I can if there is a way.

Seeing her in person is not currently an option and when she talks about suicide I try to remind her about all of the people (her twin sister, her family, the people that she's slept with (lol)) that care about her and she says that that's "too much pressure to think about" and that it doesn't help at all.

Any ideas?

>>17476684
Sounds to me like you're not emotionally ready to be in a relationship with her again even if things do work out and you guys get back together.

Think of it this way: if you guys were to get back together, would YOU really be ready to try again?

This is the sort of question that is easy to say "yes" to without thinking of the consequences which will never be the same. Your mind will unconsciously bring up the hard times that she put you through because she broke up with you. You'll constantly want answers for things that wouldn't even be thought of in a new relationship and these questions, and arguments, and pain would ruin any future chance with this girl.

Move on, no matter how hard. Look at this girl breaking up with you as a sign from the universe that you can and WILL do better.

>>17476124
>The age gap between them was my age.
That's awesome, anon, I can't believe you had a threesome with professor Layton!

>>17476781
Show her who you truly are and make it easy for her to show you who she is.
Don't be judgemental, be supportive, be caring and be supportive. Show her you appreciate her.
There's no set of actions you need to do. Spend time together, talk, discuss, make it easy for her to disclose herself.
Establishing a deep, real emotional connection is all you need to go from "like" to "love".

>>17476787
Sounds like you're doing all you can given you can't see her in person.

Her doctors and her family need to do the heavy lifting, and ultimately she has to put in effort herself.

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I don't know how to deal with this anymore

>Girlfriend goes back to college
>It's extremely far away
>She'll be gone for a year
>Months pass
>All my friends going out on dates
>Feel lonely as fuck
>Haven't had sex since she was here
>Love her so much but long distance is killing me


It just sucks, all my friends are going on these double dates, and while webcam stuff is fun, it can only do so much for the relationship, you know?

I don't know what to do, she's coming back in December, but it's just been so fucking hard, and even when she's back here, she won't be here for very long before she has to leave again, and I can't follow her.

>>17476787
To give you perspective on the "too much pressure" thing from a previously suicidal person:
Not killing yourself because of the pain it will cause other people is a very superficial way to live. When I was most suicidal, it was exhausting. I got rather bitter to be living for other people. I wasn't living life for myself. It's a very sad and lonely way to live.

I used it as a last resort to keep myself from following through.

Think of it like this: that reasoning may stop someone from literally killing themselves, but it doesn't make them feel any less like wanting to die.


I don't know how to talk to someone who is suicidal. My ex was, and I didn't really have a fool proof technique. "It gets better" gets sour after a couple years, when they start desperately demanding "when?"

I might try turning the focus to things that are cool about her own life. "If you die, how will you know what happens next in Popular TV Show?" I usually cope with humor like pic related.

I don't know if you've had any issues with depression, but I always relate it to my own when talking about it. I say,

"Depression is an asshole, don't ya think? It's like a parasite that does everything it can to grow. It tells you that you have never been happy and you never will be happy. And we believe it! In the moment, at least. I'll look back at times I was happy, and the depression says, "Well, it wasn't REAL happiness then." Which is ridiculous. It'll make me want to do things that are unhealthy and NOT do things that are healthy. Like eating shitty food, staying up all night, never bathing, never exercising, and avoiding socializaiton. Whereas it is scientifically proven that being healthy makes people happier! Not only does depression make us feel like shit, it actively prevents the things that will make us happier, and makes us do things that makes us more depressed! What a shithead."

Putting distance between Me and the emotion helped me cope.

And walks in nature.

Girls or Guys,

I broke up with this girl a few weeks ago. She kept one of my shirts but gave everything else back. We didn't talk for a bit then the other day I drunk texted and she said she is moving back to her home state. She said she would miss me, we could stay close and i could come visit her.

I said don't go because she was honestly doing well where we live. Had a good jobs and friends, etc.

She then said she needs to go back where she has more support from her family and friends.

I said ok I support that decision if it's what really makes you happy.

Is she trying to get me to chase her?

>>17476906
Funny enough, I suffer from depression a lot, although feeling bitter about living for other people is something that I've only recently started to feel.

The problem is that whenever I try to bring up another point, or turn things into humor, she always asks "what's the point?" to which, I really don't have a response. She mentally locks herself into a place where she can't hear anything else and simply won't believe it.

Unfortunately she doesn't really understand my depression either, or how I'll spend long amounts of time in bed not doing anything but hehe that's another issue

>>17476697
That's just it, the update never came. It was around 2am even I posted that and I knew she wasn't going to get back to me by that point.

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Hey girls, I'm tearing myself apart over something stupid, and this seems less dumb than doing more of that, so here goes...

I asked this girl at work today if she wanted to catch a movie. She said "Uh, yeah maybe, depends what's on." Okay, cool, not a rejection yet, right? I suggested a couple movies that are on around the time we're usually off work but she's seen them/has no interest seeing them.

Real talk though she just isn't that into me, right?

>>17476968
Maybe she doesn't like movies. Ask her to dinner instead. If she is indecisive there, then that's your hint she isn't.

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Girls

yes or no

>>17476939
Well you were the one who broke up with her, so she probably has residual feelings bro. It was really really recent. She's your ex. Let it go.

>>17476889
My friend's going through this right now. I don't know how to make it better, but I wanna let you know that I read your story and that I feel for you, bro. This stuff sucks.

>>17476781
There isn't a secret formula, what are you thinking? Love it something that comes with time and trust. Trust is something that is earned when you show over and over that you are consistent and predictable. It's just time, dude. Focus on how much you like her and how much you enjoy time with her, and don't aim for some weird end goal. Live in the present.

>>17476752
What the fuck is your question.

>>17476717
Who knows!

>>17476684
Y'all are probably just going to tie up loose ends.

>>17476331
She should be seeing a therapist. I will admit that I wrinkled my nose at your admission of it affecting your self esteem. This girl has been sexually abused and you're taking it personally.
Let it be known: If you were the MOST ATTRACTIVE, KINDEST, GODLIESS MAN IN THE UNIVERSE, that would not make her trust you or feel comfortable having sex with you. Because like I said to the guy above, trust is earned over time. It's not like just because she doesn't trust you means that you've done something wrong. It's not your fault.

Get her to a goddamn therapist. Hell, couples therapy would be great.

Go slow and let her lead. If she say stop, drop her like a hot fucking potato, I don't fucking care how hard you are or how blueballed you get. Don't be an asshole.

I'll admit I already don't really trust you because you seem to lack empathy and because girls tend to repeat their patterns of abuse, so it's very possible that you're no different from those other guys.

How about you show her what kindness and patience looks like.

>>17476964
Sorry anon :^(

>>17477012
So it is time to give up?

>>17476317
I'd suggest that you go for it. Relationships don't have to be all about excitement and lust. The best times in relationships aren't the ones that my heart races whenever I see them. The best is when my heart slows down. When the world slows down and everything feels all right.

You have the opportunity here to explore something new. That "something" is fleeting and not indicative of compatibility. Date her.

>>17476976
Okay, IO'll try that. Pretty sure she's working tomorrow so hopefully I can work something out.

Thanks.

>>17477007
She ended it actually. That's why I'm confused by her actions.

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>>17476906
I said pic related, but I forgot to post it

>>17476961
I don't know how to respond to "what's the point" because life doesn't really have a point. To see what tomorrow brings? To get closer to goals? to experience something nice? To eat nachos? To see a really tall tree? To pet a cat?

The point is to try to do things that feel good rather than stew and do nothing.

Something I've been living by is:
"If nothing changes.... nothing changes."

If I don't get up and actually do something with my day, I'm not going to feel any different! So I try to make a difference in my own life.

>>17476976
My brother married a woman who refuses to see movies, and has no legitimate reason why. She has at least 3 other types of crazy in her.

Do not date someone like that, OP. There's something seriously wrong with someone who goes so far as to actively dislike movies. Don't make my brother's mistake.

>>17477032
Generally, when people say "I broke up with my gf" that means that they were the one who ended it. The more you know, the more you grow!

I don't know how to interpret her actions. I'm generally in the camp that if someone ended it, the relationship is mostly doomed and you should let it go.

Think of it like this: She has broken up with you and might be playing games with you now about wanting you to chase her. Do you want to be with someone who does shit like that? I know I don't, but maybe you're into that drama bullshit. Some people consider it exciting.

Search your feelings. Find some introspection. Make your own judgments. Make your own decisions. We have a flawed view of your situation.

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>>17476968
Rethinking the situation it was a hard "maybe". That might as well be a no.

Fuck.

Do men like taller women? (5'7+)

>>17477042
I get what your saying. Sorry for the confusion. I have thought it was a test to see if I really care. Her last bf woke up one day and said he was never happy, addicted to porn, etc. I think she's just still hesitant.

>>17477064
I date exclusively tall women. Short women are a disaster waiting to happen. a 5 pound gain on a tall chick isn't noticeable. On some 5-foot-nothing midget chick, 5 pounds and she looks like a funhouse mirror. No thanks.

I know full well women will let themselves go at some point. Some come back from it. Some don't. I'll hedge bets on the ones most physically tolerable with extra weight.

>>17477069
Well if that's the case, do you want to date someone who tests you to see if you really care? I've known and dated people who are like that. There's not really a point where they are appeased. They'll continue playing games to comfort themselves and never take what you say at face value.

You dodged a bullet.

>>17476968
I hate movies, if nothing good is out I don't like watching them,

do something fun a movie doesn't give someone the opportunity to get to know you. DESU I'd say the same thing.

>>17477070
Can confirm. I am a 5'7" woman. Put on 12 pounds during my student freshman year (shitloads of alcohol and junk food, zero exercise), all my normal clothes fitted, albeit tighter. Nobody seemed to notice.

Lost it again after getting freshman degeneracy out of my system, again nobody noticed the difference.

>>17477088
> Don't know why it corrected it to DESU disregard that.

>>17477088
>>17477098
So, it's not necessarily the same maybe that actually means no? I still have a shot?

>>17477093
Agreed 5'7, weight 130lbs but people still think I weight about 100lbs

>>17477100
Bro just ask her out to do something again later don't immediately ask her out again give it a few days.

It was a no but, not a solid no you probably still have a chance (what girl turns down free stuff?)

>>17477110
Fuck this is too hard I'm going back to weird porn.

>>17477115
Girls are complicated as hell, thank god I'm straight.

>>17474537
Put it in or don't, but whatever you do, do not lie about it.

>single me several years ago
>sign up to okcupid
>don't care about height (now husband is shorter than me so....)
>chatting to really nice guy
>arrange to meet
>his profile says 5'11
>he shows up, shorter than me and I'm wearing flat shoes (5'7)
>don't care about his height, but for all his niceness, all I can think is "little lie, big lie"
>don't go on a second date

In some girls eyes, if you're lying about something as trivial as height, then you'll lie about everything.

>>17477107
I've given up on trying to pass judgement on what gets people's socks off. Some people jerk off to shit in a toilet. I don't understand that. Whatever.
It's "wrong" when it starts affecting other people. Your girlfriend sounds like an asshole and I don't like her. But by you dating her, you're both off the market from abusing someone else, so that's a benefit.

Sort of a weird question, but has anyone here ever gotten aroused from a horror movie? Like, I don't know, the shock/adrenaline combination swinging to horniness? I'm just trying to understand it really.

>>17477132
Seriously, Jesus. It's true that it isn't any easier for lesbians. Dating life is so confusing. Women confuse and arouse me.

>>17477143
Pretty much every time I watch a horror movie.

>>17477115
It's so great. You don't have to worry about women's mind-games anymore because you have at your finger tips all the porn in existence. A quick fap and you can get back to more productive shit, no more sitting there blue balled and waiting for her to be in "the mood" or any of that rubbish.

>>17474537
Put your height if you want, but always round up if the girl is short I betcha she won't notice the half a inch.

>>17477143
Not a specific horror movie, but I have a "rape" fetish where a guy breaks in, chokes me a bit, roughs me up and fucks the shit out of me. But I'm a pussy so my definition of horrifying is as tame as a breakin. I'm legit scared of everything.

But the whole murder or torture thing, nah.

>>17477064
I don't care about height but it's easier for a shorter girl to have better proportions.

For what reason do girls say something and mean something completely different? Like, when you say you're fine when you're actually not, or saying "yeah sure go do thing" and then get angry when they do thing?

>>17477148
With every horror movie?

>>17477152
Yeah I've heard of that but I don't think it's that for me, I never fantasized about being raped or some such thing but I'm just watching the old Texas Chainsaw Massacre movie and somehow it's kinda getting to me, for fuck knows what reason, hence the question.
I mean I like rough sex and all that but definitely not chainsaws.

>>17477167
Maybe you like the idea of being helpless, and at the mercy of someone stronger/more powerful/more intimidating than you?

>>17477160
Because us girls you to figure out what we're thinking, and you should know by now if I'm pissed and you leave your shit is about to be lit on fire.

Don't get your shit lit on fire, stay home and appease me.

>Girl logic

>>17477160
People do that, it's not just girls anon.

>>17474160
Your penis should be at maximum boner if you're really turned on. Jerkin it sometimes produces lesser boners because you're alone and not turned on as much. If this is a chronic problem, start using lube and relaxing your grip. Or just jerk it less

>>17477173
Well, as much as any other girl I would say, but like I said it's not a rape thing, that doesn't do anything at all for me, and I never really thought of "dominance" as a main turn on or anything.
I've no idea, just seems really random to me.

>>17477177
But people can't read minds and some people can't read body language.
>>17477180
I know, but I've mostly seen girls do it.

>>17474276
I'd wear a condom. There are tons of guys who would. Not sure I would want to fuck them though

>>17477191
I know, not a rape thing, but being intimidating/feeling powerless doesn't have to be a rape thing. You mentioned Texas Chainsaw Massacre--if I remember correctly, that movie is essentially some people getting murdered by someone big and scary? Clearly they were intimidated and fearful of that guy's perceived power. Nothing to do with rape there.

>>17474450
Many girls are into bearmen. If you're tall and/or hairy, you are a type. If you're short you should keep working out. Well, keep working out anyway it's good for you.

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>>17477194
Can't argue there.

>go on vacation with friend from uni
>sexy time ensues (we both knew it would)
>things go bad over the course of the week and we're not even talking by the end
>sends me an epic text after she gets home explaining how she "shut down" because she "didn't know how to deal with everything that was going on with us"
>literally tells me "you don't need to reply to this. just wanted to let you know what went on on my end of things."
>proceed to not reply and go on about my week
>4 days later
>"SO ARE YOU GONNA ACT LIKE AN ADULT AND FUCKING TALK TO ME AT SOME POINT??!"

>>17474546
Why? There are girls profiles that make it obvious they have height requirements

>>17477143

>Sort of a weird question, but has anyone here ever gotten aroused from a horror movie? Like, I don't know, the shock/adrenaline combination swinging to horniness? I'm just trying to understand it really.

It sounds like sadism or masochism may be some of your personal kinks. A large number of people, particularly in the BDSM community share interests in that.

>>17477007
>because you seem to lack empathy
wut

>How about you show her what kindness and patience looks like.
I have been. Are you just inventing what you think I said?

>>17477167
Pretty much every one, yeah. More so slasher/torture porn than paranormal horror.

>>17477210
If logic tells you do something, girls want you to do the opposite.

It's always a trap with us.

>>17476734
Halp

>>17474577
Dated a girl who asked for d pics. Most girls like to watch guys jerk off in video, but never anything unsolicited

>>17477210
I feel you, text is even harder to comprehend than faces and gestures.

>>17474577
It depends on the girl and then it depends on size

>>17477221
Hell yes. I get so turned on when my bf sends me masturbation videos.

>>17477202
Well what's the thing about big, scary guys who could easily overpower and/or murderrape you?
I'm not sure that's the thing though, I never felt myself attracted to overly masculine men really. Dunno.

>>17477214
Uh. Maybe? I mean I'm definitely more on the submissive side of things but I never gave sado-masochism much thought.

>>17477221
100% this, it has to be "wanted", there's a world difference between the dick of a person you'd want to see naked and some random dude from omegle who sends you his dick before even asking your name.

>>17474807
ask him out. He may just be concentrating on his work. If you're asking if you can make him attracted to you if he isn't now, no, you can't.

So I went out with this girl yesterday. It was all nice and fun. We were connecting really nicely. She kissed me first and then we made out for a while.
Later on the night we met a couple of friends of hers and were dancing. We kissed a bit but then her friend (dude) interrupted and borrowed her for a minute. I thought no big deal and kept dancing/talking with her friends.
I call her friend after some time sobering what's wrong. He blames me of rape and some other shit. I call his bluff and he doesn't pick up again.
I take care of her drunk friends and drop them home and I'm pretty sure my name is clear and they can't pin anything on me.
So my question is what to do about the situation. Should I talk to the girl again? I really did like her and had genuinely had fun spending time together? Do I let her go? What do I do to the beta white knight friend of hers?

>>17474822
yeah unless you throw yourself at him he wont think youre desperate. but if you know he has noticed youre interested and he doesnt ask you out, then youre probably just his rebound chick incase the girl he wants rejects him

>>17476889
go and visit her over the weekend

>>17477229

>Uh. Maybe? I mean I'm definitely more on the submissive side of things but I never gave sado-masochism much thought.

The sadism and masochism traits exist in both Dominants and submissives. I've known a few subs (not my own) who got off on physical abuse and mental degradation. Their role plays would generally evoke a sense of horror, hopelessness, or vicious surprise. Stuff that approaches the deep end, though, requires a very good, very experienced, Dominant.

Far from my preferred kinks, but the point is that you should explore it more and learn about yourself in the process. It is about whatever you find fulfillment and gratification with.

>>17474276
guys usually don't get approached like this, so most won't take it seriously or will suspect a honeypot
>>17474537
wouldn't list your height, that's pretty shallow
>>17474607
you've been ghosted, i wouldn't bother trying to maintain a friendship with this girl
>>17474807
approach him, idiot
>>17475955
if you haven't heard anything in a few hours, drop her

>>17477064
depends on what the guy likes, some guys like short cute girls some guys like a 6'3'' bodybuilder, its like comparing apples and oranges, its just a matter of taste

>>17477085
this is true

>>17475143
>How would I be able to fuck a girl really soon after meeting her?
Be really attractive
>If you want a backstory my landlord will be giving me free rent everytime I get laid
Is your landlord your dad?

>>17477264
>who got off on physical abuse and mental degradation
Yeah, I know people get off to that stuff but I honestly can't see myself getting off to that. I really don't like being degraded or beaten or some such thing, so I can't really explain how a rather cheesy horror movie is suddenly turning me on.
Thanks for the info by the way, appreciate it.

>>17477240
Guys pls

>>17477275

>I really don't like being degraded or beaten or some such thing, so I can't really explain how a rather cheesy horror movie is suddenly turning me on.

Yeah, seems kinda weird, but we all have our oddities. At least you know what to do or not do for a "date movie" depending on your intentions.

>Thanks for the info by the way, appreciate it.

Best of luck.

>>17477275
Have you even seen Tokyo Gore police?

ladies

theres a girl i like, but i feel like im trying to catch an eagle with a fishnet. shes just on a completely different level than me, im not fat or overweight i got a six pack Just because i want to have a good body for her, but im not very charming or luxurious with my words and she really has a high standard for men. i see her all the time so if she rejected me itd be awkward every time i see her so im scared.

what should i do?

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>>17475471
>>17475446
>>17475466
>>17475440

>>17477240
>Should I talk to the girl again?
yes, you have a way to contact her? Say you had a good time and want to hang out again.

>What do I do to the beta white knight friend of hers?
Don't think about him. Don't bring him up. Don't turn it into a competition with him. If he gets super pushy it's only going to make him look bad. If you and this chick are having a good time and her friend keeps butting in a ruining it like a jealous beta, she'll turn on him fast.

>>17477296
Are you intelligent? Do you have a nice paying job? Are you remotely attractive?

>If you are all these things then she should be dropping her panties for you.

>>17477306
I did call to talk to her. She called me a mother fucker and said "I don't kiss her without her permission".
I'm sure it was the alcohol and guilt talking along with that beta putting words in her mouth.
I just don't know how to handle it without pissing people off

>>17477320
i have only had A's and B's for the past couple years, since then i have gotten a pretty good paying job and i Think im attractive (ive had multiple girls ask me out before)

but the thing is ive seen her send guys home crying that have better jobs than me, and are WAY more intellegent. i dont really know if they were attractive or not but shes rejected guys that would probably make a way better future husband than I. thats whats kinda made me scared of asking her out

>>17477343
>I did call to talk to her. She called me a mother fucker and said "I don't kiss her without her permission".
You should have included that in the original post. If that's how she personally views it, you're kinda fucked on hooking up, especially now that you've totally botched the follow up.

>>17477215
How you're talking about how her hesitation is going to damage your relationship when she has been or nearly has been raped. How you're taking it personally instead of understanding where she's coming from. Of course she's going to be hesitant.
I reiterate though, she needs to be in therapy. You're in too far over your head to help her with this.

>>17477347
>but the thing is ive seen her send guys home crying that have better jobs than me, and are WAY more intellegent. i dont really know if they were attractive or not but shes rejected guys that would probably make a way better future husband than I. thats whats kinda made me scared of asking her out

Girl is not worth it, pretentious females deserve to be single.

I don't understand why us girls act like this.

>>17477347
>but the thing is ive seen her send guys home crying that have better jobs than me
Uhh she sounds like a cunt, don't bother.

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>>17477240

>We kissed a bit but then her friend (dude) interrupted and borrowed her for a minute. I thought no big deal and kept dancing/talking with her friends. I call her friend after some time sobering what's wrong. He blames me of rape and some other shit.

wait wut

>>17477347
You are way too insecure about yourself to make it work.

What about her do you like? Do you even have anything in common? It sounds like she's hot with a horrible personality.

>>17477352
It was the same night. She was drunk and not thinking straight (I hope).
Do I send her a text tomorrow hoping for reconciliation or just end with me threatening to murder her friend.
Also if a guy is best friends with a girl is it true that 9/10 times he's in love with her?

ladies, how true is it that women more than likely won't date a man that doesn't know how to drive?

>>17477357
You missed some of my other posts and apparently just focused on observations I made and criticized myself over, so I'll give you a pass on being confusingly rude.

>>17477365
Basically.
>I meet her
>hit it off
>kiss
>meet her friends
>kiss and dance a bit
>friend borrows her
>call the dude up and he's going berserk

It's all kinda messed up bro. Just give a brother some consolation if not advice.
I'm already seeing 2 other girls but I did like this girl and would drop the other 2 for her

>>17477375
I'm certainly projecting a bit due to not being a very sexual person and having a hard time relating to people who hold sex as such an important part of a relationship. You're being very mature about me being an asshole, I'll give you that.

>>17477240
This guy has it.
>>17477306
You did nothing wrong

>>17476717
Don't worry everyone, she just got a hold of me, it's all cool again

>>17477369
Depends on city, NYC you don't need to drive to have fun but even then women are hesitant.

>>17477368
So you haven't spoken to her since she was drunk yesterday, correct? Best you can do is try to get her in person face to face and go from there. "I hope you are feeling better since last night, can we grab lunch and talk it out?". If that doesn't work, I don't know what else you can really do without seeming overly aggressive. The sooner you get on it, the better, because it gives her less time to build up a negative image of you.

>>17477401
I'm sorry if I'm not being clear but this was a couple hours ago. It's a new day in my time zone. I guess she's asleep by now.
She is going to some conference tomorrow morning with that beta friend of hers. Should i message right now or wait till after the conference to call her?

>>17477368
You should be forgetting about the guy and just figuring out how she feels. If she feels that you kiss raped her then yeah you look like a shit. You can apologize and ask for forgiveness that's it

>>17477367
My favorite thing about her is that she has a take charge attitude, and that shes not afraid to be honest with someone, i really like how she can go from being nice to "WTF did you just say to me?!?" Shes a little psycho but thats what i like about her desu. and we both love to work on stuff, and we both play softball/baseball

and she has a certain look that can kill.

theres been times where shes done things just for me, like she will say "hey john let me practice my pitching with you, heres a bat go and be the batter." (then she'll dead ball me) or she will yell at her brother than give me the cutest smile ever, but i really cant tell cause with her take charge attitude she can hide what shes thinking for feeling.

i do have a problem with insecurity as well

>>17477418
replace john with anon. (used to saying my names john online cause its common af)

>>17477408
get some sleep, wait until a reasonable hour, text her a short message proposing a meetup, cross your fingers. Not much else you can do, and it sounds like you are in an emotional state at the moment which is impairing your judgement.

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WOMEN

WHY DO YOU CONSTANTLY TAKE ALL MY FRIENDS AWAY FROM ME

WHY DO YOU GET TO BE WITH STRAIGHT MEN EVEN THOUGH YOU DON'T DESERVE THEIR PURITY AND WILLPOWER, SOMETHING YOU DON'T HAVE

WHY ARE YOU ALWAYS THE CAUSE OF ALL MY PROBLEMS EVEN THOUGH I SHOULD BE ABLE TO ESCAPE YOU FOR BEING GAY

REEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE

my girlfriend has only texted me like once a day since she's been on holiday am I being cheated on

>>17477422
sure thing john

>>17477432
>he fell for the gay meme

>>17477438
fuck.

>>17477432

Apparently they don't have all that much willpower, kek

>>17477288
>At least you know what to do or not do for a "date movie"
Haha, yeah I guess.

>>17477294
Nope. Is it super gory though? I'm not sure it's anything to do with gore really, I mean the Texas Chainsaw Massacre wasn't especially gory, more creepy in a cheesy way without lots of on-screen violence.

>>17477432
maybe because you come off as overly emotional like a woman

did one of your gays turn out to be bi? or are you angry your straight friends have girlfriends and lives outside you now?

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>>17477444
Related

>>17474103
Do Lesbians like boobs? If so, what size?

>>17477431
Thanks anon. Really appreciate it.
I hope you have a nice weekend bro.
Much love

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>>17477452
BOTH AND MUCH MORE

BUT INSTEAD OF BI HE TURNED OUT STRAIGHT

AND ALL THE BI GUYS TURN OUT STRAIGHT

WOMEN HAVE LITERALLY DONE NOTHING GOOD FOR ME
REEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE

>>17477454
Everyone likes boobs.
Size obviously depends on personal taste. I like B and C cups.

>>17477454
I like all sizes. DFC to lolcow

>>17475413
Ya, no.

Not a female here but fucking Christ no.

To me it doesn't sound like you want the actual sex, you just want to lose the label of "virgin". Listen, this meme of needing to rid oneself of virginity like it's a fucking disease is just stupid.

Plus, I don't think it'd be that fun for you. Just me as someone who was once in your position. It won't make you feel more confident, it won't make you quell any insecurities because they stem from something more complicated than "needing to get your dick wet".

TL;DR : I'd stay away.

>>17477457
you sound a bit selfish, if people figure out what they like that's good for them.

are you younger? "BI" people usually are unsure or experimental, but stick to one side of things eventually. Guess they decided they like pussy.

i think your issue isn't with women, but that you're angry you lost a chance at some men you found attractive.

>>17477408
You are a horrible storyteller.

>>17475413
do the ole

fuck 'n run
cum n go
ejaculate and evacuate
give her the stiffy then run away quickly

you get my point, with have sex with her and run, or just run

>>17477474
NIGGER I'M REPLYING TO YOUR SHIT THAT'S NOT THE ONLY PROBLEM WOMEN HAVE CAUSED ME

ALL THROUGHOUT MY LIFE THEY'VE DEFAMED ME IN SEVERAL WAYS, ALL THROUGHOUT MY LIFE THEY RUINED MY CHANCES AT GETTING WITH HOT GUYS, ALL MY LIFE I HAD TO BE LAUGHED AT AND BE CONTENT WITH THE FACT THAT I WILL ALWAYS BE INFERIOR TO THEM

FUCK WOMEN

THEY CAN ROT IN HELL WITH THE REST OF THE FUCKING ANIMALS THOSE SUBHUMANS

>>17477454
Everyone likes boobs.
Dicks >> boobs > ass > armpits >> vag >>>>>> shit >>>> feet

>>17477470
>needing to rid oneself of virginity like it's a fucking disease is just stupid.
It is a disease

>>17477484
i like ass>tits>thighs/vag>feet>everything else

>>17477451
Nah, just freaky monsters and them being btfo. It's trashy but fun.

>>17477476
Nigga I'm drunk and its 3:30 here and i'm kinda freaking out.

Anyway. Got some advice to give?

>>17477457
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tYKPdNvH800

>>17477494
GO TO SLEEP
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>>17477496
DELETE THIS

>>17477481
>ALL THROUGHOUT MY LIFE THEY RUINED MY CHANCES AT GETTING WITH HOT GUYS
again, the problem isn't with women. your problem is with competition for guys you like.

you would also be competing against other men if these guys you like were actually gay. if you never asked them out or they weren't interested that's just how things were going to end.

i'm sorry if you've lost out on some crushes, but being a bitter cunt about it won't improve your chances. just because you find a guy hot doesn't mean his life is put on pause waiting for you to make a move on him, or that he has to only start liking only men forever. you're not some central character in a story, everyone had their own desires in life and they don't have to wait around so you can try to find happiness with them. someone who is selfish enough to expect that of others is likely to end up alone.

Narrow hips and bubble butt or big hips and flat ass? (both)

>>17477528
Narrow hips all the way.

>>17477538
same

How do i gain experience talking to women? I just cant seem to hold a conversation and i feel akward as fuck, ive been talking to a few females online to gain experience but i dont feel like im learning anything, i dont have any trouble keeping a conversation going with another guy but when it comes to a female im completly lost for words, i havent "approached" a womyn out in the wild before because i honesrly have no idea what to say other than hello and what they're up to today. Any helps appreciated

>>17477019
Yes anon-friend, just wait and see if she responds I guess

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>>17474607

She's keeping you around for validation (in any way, including giving her attention).

Drop her and respect yourself for christsake

>>17477528
What does it even look like when a girl has big hips and a flat ass?

Guys:

Should I go for it anyway? Am I just jumping from guy to guy? Help a reformed slut out?

I met a guy Adam last year and became completely head over heels for him, like I felt that if I didn't marry him I wouldn't be marrying anyone (and other people said I was the female version of Adam) ,but we were just good friends and I was too scared to ask him out as he was also 17 (I'm 22) and young, and I wasn't ready. His older acquaintance Tom sorta took me on a date and I went for tom to get my mind off of Adam, who knew about me and tom. I stopped hanging out with Tom after a week but by then Adam had gone abroad and won't be back for a few months.

I hooked up with another guy Adam vaguely knows in the interim but just because I was horny and I didn't text the other guy again.

Now I guess I did some soul searching, stopped hooking up with people, fixed myself, stopped drinking a lot, and definitely gonna ask Adam out when he gets back, but I feel like it just looks bad that I'm 'jumping' from guy to guy? Or that I'm too dependent on men to make me happy? I don't think I am but maybe it's true?

I'm just ready really anxious as he will be back soon and I'm freaking out a bit.

>>17477629
You're making progress by just doing it. Just because you don't notice yourself learning anything doesn't mean you're not. Keep at it. Practice makes perfect. Keep talking to them and to new women.

>>17477672
I worry about you that you hardly know this child and you've got yourself set on marrying him.

>Or that I'm too dependent on men to make me happy? I don't think I am but maybe it's true?
How do you feel when you're single? How do you think about yourself when you're single?
What do you want out of a boyfriend? What roles do you want him to take in your life? What do you want him to do for and with you?

>>17477683
I'm not super set on marrying him. I never thought I'd get married at all. I just spent a lot of time with him and knew he was the sort of guy I would stay with if we ever got together, and he opened my eyes to what an actual nice, polite, responsible guy was like. I felt 'if I never say anything, I will regret it' and 'i cannot marry anyone who doesn't make me laugh like this' so I basically found my 'type' I guess.

I have actually always been single. But I had a part of my life where I was mentally ill and super clingy with any boy who so much as looked at me. And I worry a lot that it will repeat again.

I want a boyfriend who will be active with me and go see and try new things, to be someone I wouldn't mind waking up to and living with. And i want to take care of someone a lot and cook them foods when they're sick or something. And just support each other in doing things we like to do


We hung out every single day for 5 months but yeah I still don't really know him well and who knows what are rose colored and not?