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I've been having a recurring fight with my girlfriend for some time now.
A couple of months ago i finished my second year of a somewhat easy school where i usually could coast by and still get pretty good grades. Part of this school is another two years in apprentice, in my case it's in one of the biggest retail chains in the country.
The apprenticeship is actual work, meaning weeks where i sometimes work up to 43 hours, including working weekends. My girlfriend is somewhat bitchy that after long work-days, up to ten hours, i can't hang out with her, doing regular bullshit couple-shit.
So i tell her i can't always hang out like we used to, because it's a physically demanding job that i am still in the process of getting used to. This apparantly is chick-code that i don't care about her, and the fact that i want to become good at my job, means that i value it more than her. I do value my job, and enjoy working there - making a good and lasting impression at my job is obviously a means to continue working there after my apprenticeship is over.
In regular school i usually had a lot of time for my girlfriend, but now that i'm working i have a lot less freetime and because it's a demanding job i need some time where i can just be myself, chill and do something for myself. For the record, my girlfriend is still a student and has basically never worked a day in her life.
tl:dr girlfriend is mad that i'm focusing on a new job.
Am i in the wrong?
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Sorry if it's a bit uncohesive, i'm rambling because i'm super pissed off at having these hour long discussiong about this bullshit.
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First "problem" is that you can't be yourself with your gf. Can't you just chill with her? How much time do you have for her? 5 times a week or 1? If it's one, because you wanna be at home and "chill" and be "yourself" I would be mad too.
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Also, "couple bullshit" yeeeah just break up with her and do fuck buddies. You don't seem interested in a relationship.
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You're not in the wrong, she just sounds immature and like she never worked close to those hours, and can't really comprehend what it's like to come home after physically working all day.
Depending on her age I'd try to explain to her that it's not a matter of lack of desire, you just only have so much time and energy and at the moment you only have room for one priority. It's also not a personal choice, you have committed to this education.
Honestly she should just evaluate whether she can deal with this or not already. Not sure if I'd recommend flat out asking her though...
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What do you wanna do in your free time? What is chilling? Gaming or shopping for food or what?
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