So my friends circle pretty much whithered away. I don't

Also unrelated but is wearing all black with white shoes a meme?

>>17468039
get drunk and go to partys.


i am over 30 and i get drunk and fuck teen even though i am married at college/university parties.

>>17468049
>just go to parties
Im starting from scratch here dude. I don't know anyone that would even invite me to a party. I don't know where they are happening and you cant just show up without having a mutual friend.

I can't help much since I'm in the same boat,
but I'll tell you don't quit your job for a shittier paying one. If you're gonna get the same shit, then yeah switch jobs for more social opportunity, but don't fuck with your finances over it.
It may not even work. I tried the work for friends thing, you'd think that minimum wage retail jobs in a college town would be full of, you know, young kids/college students? Nope, lots of middle age housewives for some reason. Plus we were worked so hard you never had an opportunity to talk to any of them anyways. I don't even remember any of their names.
But that could have just been my experience, but I didn't have anything to lose either.
Don't quit a good job for the possibility, you know? You might just get stuck with a shittier job and still lonely and friendless.

>>17468057
I wouldn't really say I have a "good job". Its just enough nothing more. I only get paid $10.80 an hour, which is still like chump change, but I also dont have many expenses.

But yeah thats what Im afraid of. I think i'd try to scope a place out to see who works there first though ya know what I mean? I already work with middle-age to old people who are grouchy, so I'd want to be leaving that behind.

>>17468064
>10.80
Fuck. Do you live in a more expensive area or something? All I can ever get where I'm from is 7.60

But yeah, if you can find a better job, in every way not just socially, then go for it. But don't sacrifice money to do so, because at least if you're friendless you can maybe buy happiness lol.

>>17468081
No I dont live in an expensive area, but thats like 22k a year which isnt much but could be worse.

I have a possible job opportunity that would be social and pay more but if that doesnt work out idk if I wanna be a janitor all my life my dude

If you're physically capable of walking for an hour, and can keep a beat, consider social ballroom dance group lessons.

You should be able to find a studio that will put you in a decent sized mixed gender group of near-beginners, meeting at least once a week or so. It's a fun, structured way to meet people, with less pressure on you personally.

As a somewhat stereotypical socially awkward programmer dude, the analytical part of my brain found it a lot more enjoyable than I'd expected (the steps/holds are very formalized), and the atrophied social part of my brain learned how to talk to and touch women without being weird about it.

>>17468171
Lol when I tried swing dancing once, it was an awful experience for me because there were about 20 girls and 3 dudes. Had to wait around for a dude to free up, since none of the other grills wanted to learn how to lead. All the dudes were way out of my league anyways, I was fat at the time so really every dude was out of my league anyways though.

So yeah I guess from a dude's perspective that was probably great. Try dancing lol.

>>17468171
I dont typically listen to music that I could dance to like that but it does sound interesting. Where would I look to find something like that?
Also Im insecure about my manlet-ness, what if I get a dance partner that's taller than me? Won't we both feel akward?

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>>17468180

Hah, yeah there does tend to be a surplus of gals, some places have it worse than others.

Re getting started, just google "ballroom dance + city" and look for a place offering group lessons (which will be most of them). Most places offer entry level classes that don't require any experience at all, don't need you to bring a partner or anything; just show up and follow directions.

The height thing really isn't a problem for social dance, unless there's literally +3' difference, the instructor will be able to help you figure out the hold.