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>women

Off to a good start guys.
I don't think we can have these threads anymore lol.

I'll attempt to revive by asking a question at least,
Does anyone else find that when you get those "pick the picture" captcha that's like, the disappearing picture where you're supposed to keep clicking the like images until there's no more left, that it never fucking works?
Idk if it's just me. The ones where it's just "click the like images" work fine, it's just those "keep clicking till it's gone" ones that don't.

>men

How do I help my boyfriend to be more comforting when something bad happens to me and I need him to be there for me and give me support?

I can deal with most shit on my own, I'm not overly emotional and everyone I know tells me I have a really thick skin. But sometimes bad things happen to me and I just can't deal with it on my own, I need my boyfriend to help me out. I just want him to hug me and tell me it will be alright and tell me he loves me and then say some positive things about me to make me not feel so down on myself. I don't get mad at him for not knowing what to do, I totally understand and I just straight up calmly tell him when I'm upset that these are the things he could do to make me feel better. But then he just doesn't do them. So then I feel like he just doesn't care because he does nothing, but he keeps telling me he cares and wants me to feel better, but he doesn't know what to do. Even though I've made sure to tell him what to do. What do I do?!

>>17459614
No, I get that too. I fucking hate those ones

>>17459614
These threads happen 2 to 3 times a day at least, every day.

>>17459615
To add onto this too, I have Asperger's so I totally get not understanding social situations too, I'm trying really hard not to be like one of those girlfriends who gets upset and shuts down and just expects her boyfriend to read her mind, that's stupid. I try to tell him exactly what I want in the simplest terms but it's like he either doesn't do it, or he will do it for a few minutes and then give up and then just decide it doesn't actually work.

I'm a simple sperg, I don't need much to comfort me. But I don't know if I can deal with either nothing or just a few minutes of comfort. halp

>>17459625
Ah good. It's super annoying. I just spazz click so I can get a new one. Idk if its the captcha service or just 4chan.

>>17459554
Boys and girls:
Any former fatties lost a lot of weight? How does the opposite gender treat you? How are your relationships now, do you feel bad or resentful or anything knowing that most of the men/women attracted to you now would not have given you the time of day before?

>>17459685
Former obese grill. I went from having dudes run in terror from what they could only assume was godzilla, to getting a handful of chubby chasers seek me for a ONS (as long as their friends won't find out), to getting some average dudes for a ONS.
Still not attractive enough for a relationship, but I'm 20lbs from it.
I feel fine about it. I mean it makes sense. I don't want a fat guy, so I shouldn't be a fat girl. How can I expect a dude to have zero standards while I have some?
Everyone stays in their own lane. If you aren't pulling attractive partners, then get more attractive yourself.

>>17459685
Girl here. Went from 260 to 120 lbs.

>How does the opposite gender treat you?
The opposite gender treats me well.
I mean, they never treated me particularly bad before, I never had problems getting guys - always dated fairly attractive dudes.
But of course right now I get attention from really good looking guys.
I've been with the same boyfriend for-fucking-ever tho.

>Do you feel bad or resentful or anything?
Not really. I wouldn't have dated myself. Why would they date me?

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How much do you feel like the degree of a person matter to you, in terms of making him/her seem attractive? And what degrees do you find the most attractive?

Say you meet a person who you feel completely neutral towards, then learn that he has a masters in finance, or in political science, or electrical engineering etc.

>>17459770
Well I do have some stereotypes about certain majors, if that answers your question, but they can be dispelled if I get to know the person. A degree is a degree to me though.

Guys, is it true that you can't stop pissing mid-stream? My boyfriend says he can't, and I've seen it a couple of times on TV where a joke or whatever is based on the guy being unable to control his flow. Is it something guys actually can't do, or do you just have to train yourself to be able to do it?

>>17459770
I surely have some stereotypes about certain majors, but as >>17459773 said once I get to know the person, they don't matter at all.

>>17459778

It's painful, or at the very least, extremely discomforting, to stop mid-stream.

>>17459770
The degree itself is not that important. Someone can be supersmart and wealthy, but if they are a boring conversationalist, have limited interests and are not especially friendly, it's not going to make them more attractive in my eyes.

It basically needs to be a combination. If they seem interesting and engaging while talking, and I learn that they have a difficult/interesting degree, this further confirms my impression that they must be an intriguing person.

As for what kind of degree, it depends. I always like to find out that someone has a degree in something I didn't already expect: eg you're talking about literature for a long time and then find out they've done astronomy. Or someone who is quiet and hard to get an impression of has done something superspecific that shows a really personal interest/motivation.
More than what the degree is I care about what they have to say abolut their own field. If someone has some niche specialism in medicine or law, but they shrug when I ask questions and just go "oh yeah, it's work you know" or "this is what my parents did so I was like, whatever" (this happens A LOT), then I care more about their dispassionate and uninvoled stance than that they did something that requires brains and dedication.
For attractiveness that is. As a patient I would care less.

>>17459632
It's a difficult and very context sensitive problem you describe that probably reflects a deeper desire you have for acknowledgement or confirmation in other people. That said, it is something you could reasonably expect out of a partner, but also a typical complaint women feel towards men (bluntness, insensitivity, etc.).

I have to say that I think a lot of the improvement you can make by yourself, and that's all I can really suggest. If he's willing to try and put in the time and effort, than that's all he can really do. Just sit down on the couch, put his arm around you and talk about what's on your mind. He can't make your problems go away, all he can do is be there for you.

If that really doesn't work and you feel he can't give you what he needs, I don't think there's any real advice I can give as a guy, at least. I think in fact you're better off talking to women who do get this out of their relationships, or maybe even a therapist who can explain to you where this need you have comes from and why what your boyfriend does is insufficient.

Good luck!

>>17459778
I can do it no problem, but I trained by bladder by drinking way too much water for years on end.

>>17459856
Are you a girl or boy?

> girls

Do you care about being able to have stimulating, intellectual conversations with guys? Is intellectual sensitivity something you value in a man, and if not, what do you value?

>>17459877
Girl. I do, it is probably my #1 priority. Though it is also what I love to do most including with friends. For the record, I'm not talking high academic stuff but you know, you're talking about a story arc in a film/book and are able to put that into a different frame and reflect on it, or talk about the psychology in it and relate that to experiences from your own life. I don't care if people are not knowledgable about something, but I do care if they are not curious and/or insightful enough to ask such questions or break it down to a level that they can still add something. (There's people who just "turn off" when it's not their personal topic.)

>>17459902
I (who asked the question) agree, and it's refreshing to hear someone say that, especially women. I feel like I have trouble getting to that point with women for some reason, even though it is the thing I value a #1 also. I'm curious as to whether it is just something I value, but most people don't, or whether most people value it and I just fail to connect to people on that level because I intimidate them or something.

>>17459925
Personally I have also had issues trying to find this quality in other people. I think part of the problem is that many people are - in my eyes - excessively worried that stuff they say isn't accurate. If I want to hear the latest developments I'll go to a news source - I talk to people to learn more about the way they look at life, at their own development, at how the future is starting to look... not objective, neutral information, but their perspective. How they relate to the world around them. Especially girls I find can be really shy and afraid to make themselves look uninformed or presumptuous. I have found some great ones, though.

Another issue I personally run into with guys (not trying to suggest that you do this) is that they bring in a competitive element that I dislike. They scrutinize the way I tell them I feel about things or look at things, with the unspoken implication that this can be good or bad. Or you can tell that they get antsy when you get the last word in or ask something they don't know and it personally affects them. I can deal with that for a night and it can be fun to argue with someone who is emotionally involved and fired up, but overall constantly feeling that power dynamic really takes away from my enthusiasm to be open about my opinions and thoughts.

>>17459941
I had never really thought about why women might dislike such things, but it might have something to with a certain social reservation, like you describe -- good point.

I guess it's true that guys bring that element in, and I am not entirely in the clear, I'm sure, although I try hard not to.

Any tips on how to get people to open up about such stuff, rather than chit-chat and small talk?

>>17459954
I think what helped me is that I came from a household where it was the norm that you had thoughts about everything, and my parents encouraged me to express my stance on things even if I'd just heard about them. But for many people it is a type of communication they're not that used to. It is more personal, because it reveals more of your inner life than regular small talk. And you get self-conscious if you're inexperienced, this nagging voice starts saying "who are you to say this about that political party when you've read three pieces on it during the last year?"
I feel like only being used to it gives that comfort that you're just among friends and not being tested or professional. But you can grow used to it, of course.

I always start small. A quick example would be to ask someone what they wanted to be when they grew up. Let's say the girl says she wanted to be a dancer. Then you ask why, she says, you know, you're a little kid and want to excel and get attention and look pretty.
Then you relate it to their current profession or education. Ask if their past self would think they made a good deal despite not becoming a dancer. Or that they get to be admired despite doing something else.
Then there's two possible replies. Either they run with it and answer, or think about it and try to answer, or they shut down and basically do not understand ("uh... well... it's not dancing so no I wouldn't have been happy... I just told you that was what I wanted right?") and it ends there. Obviously try a couple of times, using situations from their own life and making it hypothetical or go looking for patterns. If they can follow that line of thinking you're good, and there is potential to elaborate it. If not, it is simply not for them, they don't enjoy it, they don't "get" it... take your loss.

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>>17459707
first of all I'm proud of you accomplishing that. that's great.

any plans to get thinner? or are you already there?

>>17459778
I have no knowlidge of this, but for me it seems wierd to not be able to hold it in mid-stream.
I mean it sucks to do, but it's the exact same muscle you use to hold it in before you begin.

>>17459614
There is a text bellow ths default one saying for you to select until there are no more images to select.
I just refresh the captcha desu.
>>17459778
Onlt if i move , that's why pissing in the sea can be annoying and like >>17459810 said, it hurts.

>>17459969
It helps to have a good question like that, for sure. Quite often though I feel people just close down or get giggly or bored when you ask these questions.

Do you think most people don't think about this stuff, or that they're just afraid?

>>17459970
I am the girl who posted the second thing.I don't want to get thinner, I actually preferred myself at 130. I am also 5'6"-5'7" tho.

>>17459877
I wouldn't date a person that wasn't able to hold a stimulating, intellectual conversation with me.
I think that the ability to discuss, to back up your beliefs, to understand the other point of view, to grow and learn, and the curiosity are the sexier qualities a guy can have.
I am lucky and I am dating a man with an amazing mind.
I actually fell for him after we had a 10 hours long conversation about faith at our 3rd date. He blew my mind.

>>17459989
Becoming giggly can be to mask that it's out of their comfort zone. Boredom is not being interested or not being familiar with it enough to understand the fun.

I think it is lack of experience. I go to a university where I am educated to become a sort of mental caretaker (this is awkward to phrase because it's all not in English and I'm not sure what the perfect equivalent terms would be), supporter, like someone who works in a hospice/prison/army setting/psychiatric hospital and talks to people to alleviate stress and help them build towards better mental health. (It differs from a therapist because you're not taking on the role of the professional as much, and you are not following a strategy or amount of steps - eg if your "patient" wants to talk about a specific obsession of his/hers for hours, that's fine. It's about what they want and what makes them feel good, you don't project a personal trajectory on the conversations, it is more freestyle and based on equality. We are also educated in philosophy and religion studies alongside psychology.)
Anyway, long description, but my point was that we have some practical courses we go through and one of them is reflecting on things you do and choices you make. For me this kind of seemed like a joke - a course in which people are taught that they can -think- about the way they act? But for many of my peers it was new and yet once they understood the idea they got the hang of it very quickly and internalized it smoothly. Obviously these were smart, educated gals but in general I think it is just a tool that people have to become comfortable with and make into their own to use. I think ultimately it would resonate with a lot of people. But that's obviously just my two pennies and I self select people on being critical and opinionated, so it is hard to say something about an average girl who is no doubt also from a completely different country.

Girls, my gf is a virgin and said that until we got together she had planned on practicing abstinence until marriage.

Early on when we were dating, on one particular night things got so hot and heavy that she told me she was a virgin and not ready for sex. I told her I was fine with waiting and watched myself. Later she told me that in that moment she was so happy with how respectful I was that she started to love me.

Now time has passed, and the last couple times we've gotten really intimate she's said she feels nervous because she feels like she wants to have sex finally. But it's in the heat of the moment, and sometimes afterwards she says she's unsure if she should have told me how excited I made her.

I guess my question is: should I wait any longer about broaching the topic? If she's a little unsure should I just leave it be for now or should we go through with it?

>>17460012
Good, another inspiring story and congratulations to you :)

>>17460013
Your education sounds interesting. Where are you from?

I agree with your final point, but I think it has everything to do with being conscientious, which many people aren't by default -- they some to just go through life rolling with the punches. That's not necessarily a bad thing, because I think an overemphasis on conscientiousness quickly collapses into insecurity and may ultimately have a stifling effect. Nonetheless, it's how I am, and I do think it has many merits as well.

>>17460046
The Netherlands.

True, but that is a quality that is both innate and learned. I think many more people have the potential to really enjoy it and flourish with it, but come from backgrounds where talking (beyond "how was your day") is just not the norm. It's a shame.

>>17460044
Quickly cutting in as a dude, because my advice would be to discuss it when you're not both at the tip of your arousal. So yeah, discuss it.

I'll leave it to the girls now :)

>>17460049
Maatschappelijk werker? Dacht ik al ;)

It might be a supressed thing everyone enjoys, but I think many people are just uncomfortable being vulnerable about such things in public or to strangers. I have difficulty relating to that, because I think that's the best place to discuss these things...

>>17460044
First of all agree with the dude.

I don't know what her beliefs are exactly and what you do now exactly, but I think it is important to not create a huge void between let's say making out and intercourse. If she's not against oral sex etc ideologically, this can be a way to reach sexual gratification together to lift some of the most urgent pressure to take the next step. It can also bring the reality of it closer.

Other than that, talking, a lot of talking. If she has a sister or a close female friend, encourage her to talk to them about it as well. She needs to figure out how much she wants to remain a virgin and for what reasons.

You do not want to have sex with her only for her to regret it terribly, that would pretty much doom your relationship. Good luck!

>>17460054
Geestelijk verzorger, komt enigszins op hetzelfde neer maar universitair en met een soort raar vrije school-randje waar je even doorheen moet... :) Maar ik heb geen spijt.

Yeah I agree, being strangers to one another can absolutely be freeing and cause you to be more comfortable showing sides of yourself that you might not usually see as part of your identity. It can be all the more challenging to step out of your comfort zone when you're with people who know you to be a certain way and will be more surprised if you try to voice another part of yourself.
And while I agree with people being uncomfortable, obviously that also has to do with the unease of it being new and not having discovered your own "version" of it yet. It feeds itself, the more you avoid it because you feel discomfort, the bigger the discomfort becomes as you are now inexperienced and constantly validating your nerves.
Isn't it part of the beauty of connecting to others that they can offer you ways of being and communicating that don't come natural to you, or are not part of your own "heritage" from your childhood situation? It is a way to enrich life.

>>17460068
Sounds cooler than maatschappelijk werker, although I hadn't heard of it. I teach philosophy myself.

I second your other point. To me, it's exhilarating to genuinely connect with someone.

>>17460081
Universiteit voor Humanistiek, it's an independent university in Utrecht. Sadly they have a bit of an inferiority complex that dates back to them being a trade school for the first couple of decades of their existence, so now they kind of overdo the amount of academic research we have to do (which I don't particularly like). But it's a challenging and varied education with strong links to the line of work, lots of options to gain some practical experience etc.

That sounds like a great job and background, hopefully you don't have to put up with too much bureaucratic monitoring. I would think that as someone in philosophy it would be relatively easy to gain access to meetings for people who like to talk about less everyday topics, is that not the case?

>>17459778
>Guys, is it true that you can't stop pissing mid-stream?
I can, but it's true that tons of guys can't, so he's not just messing with you.

>>17460012
>spending 10 hours talking about 'faith'
>intellectual

ok

>>17460092
I've heard of it, more accurately, I walked past it several times. I studied philosophy in Utrecht myself! Kromme Nieuwegracht, right?

I can't complain, I have plenty of friends who are like that. It's mostly meeting new people I'm concerned with.

>>17459770
>political science
"Poli Sci" graduate here, give it to me girls, what are those stereotypes/impressions?

>>17460106
How is that kind of conversation not intellectual?

"Backstory" first, a random girl added me on facebook today, I asked who she is and she said she has seen me in a comment and loved me

she is from a city about 800km away from me, I have no idea who she is or what to tell her, any opinions or ideas?

>>17460129
Arrogant, know-it-all, loves arguing for the sake of it.

Pretty true in my experience. But you're fun to be around.

>>17460122
Yes, that's the one! Great location. I've heard good things about philosophy there as well.

Yeah, I can understand that, perhaps your friends have good recommendations?

>>17460159
Ah that puts me at ease because I'm the exact opposite of that. But I experienced a lot of those types in my classes and they annoyed me more than anything. No wonder I hang with engineers, science and computer science kids...

>>17460140
Sorry, I don't consider it a very productive use of time.

>>17460181
The philosophy is great qua content, definitely. It's a little presumptuous about its practicality, but then again, most studies are :)

I think I'll be fine, I was mostly just curious. I'm moving to a new city soon and I'd benefit from ways of meeting new people I can connect with.

>>17460050
>>17460058
Thank you both

To anyone:

>be me, 23yo male
>working shitty minimum wage job for a year and a couple months
>female co-worker that I've never spoken to starts talking to me a lot and hugs me whenever she sees me out of nowhere after about 7 months working together
>always has a big ass grin on her face when she sees me
>When we're crossing paths she would stop in place and have a really cheesy smile
>called me bae a couple of times and would call me sweetheart and honeybun

Here's where it gets confusing for me:

>she asks for my number
>we text for like 5 seconds
>that was it... she never texts me unless I text her
>told her that I have Snapchat and she added me immediately because she has my number
>I chat with her occasionally on there but again, she never initiates conversations
>I genuinely like her
>finally have the balls to ask her if she was interested in me because of all of the things she would do that I said above
>she says, "I don't remember doing any of that"
>me: wut
>tell her about her calling me sweetheart and bae and whatnot
>she says, "I call people sweetheart and stuff condescendingly"
>me: wut?
>tell her that I thought she was doing all of that people she was showing interest
>she says, "sorry if I made you feel that way"

I don't get it. I mean, I know that she was probably just being super nice and all, but what gets me is that this came out of nowhere which led me to believe that she liked me. Did she really like me but I was too dumb to notice and I took long to respond? Or was she REALLY being nice? I don't know why females think this is okay, it's really easy for females to get guys and play with them and shit. To be honest, I was annoyed and a little upset when she told me that she wasn't interested. Also, about the sweetheart shit, she says that it's always in a condescending way but she would call me that when she saw me for the first time of the day. So I don't understand what she means by that. Any help guys? What the FUCK was that all about?

I live in a diverse area(im white), but the only girls attracted to me are white. Occasionally an Asian girl, but never any other kind.

Why is this?

>>17460336
Most people are attracted by people similar to them and similar to their family.

>>17460331
Guy here.

Insecure women (especially younger ones) do this in my experience (I suppose insecure men do too, in different ways). They want to know they can get any guy and therefore flirt with any guy, without necessarily being interested.

It's really good that you called her on out on it, for the both of you. It's good for her to know that she can't run around flirting with people without consequences, and it's good for you because you get to learn from this and move on.

I think generally you want to be cautious around girls who are very assertive about their flirting. They're generally the ones that are like this. If they're not showing genuine interest by asking questions and getting to know you, then that's a red flag.

You acted the best way you could though: call her out on it, so you know whether or not there's something there.

Sorry if you got hurt somehow.

>>17460336
Institutional racism

Guys or girls: how to remain chill when your SO plays a lot of games/talks a lot with the opposite sex?

I'm a guy and my gf plays LoL all day with random dudes. She also RPs online. We've been together almost 4 years but this shit still gets me insecure. I know at the end of the day she's with me but I don't know how to get over it.

>>17459770
37 degrees its pretty good

>>17460390
You just have to trust her, and talk it over so she knows how you feel.
Trust is necessary for a healthy relationship.

Broke up with girlfriend because I wasn't happy and I needed to work on myself, career and life wise. Felt like an anchor. I knew it wasn't going to last long term due to our difference in wanting kids in the future (she didn't). I guess out of hurt/rejection/anger she said I only used her for sex and never really cared. I told her once that wasn't true before pretty much ghosting but I knew my words weren't heard.

We were friends before dating and also share a mutual circle of friends, so I don't want to make things weird. Do I or should I reach out to her with an email or text to say that I value our friendship more than a fizzled out relationship?

>>17460373
they racist against me?

>>17460362
Thank you for the reply man, seriously. I was so confused by all of that it was just really weird to me. You said:

>I think generally you want to be cautious around girls who are very assertive about their flirting. They're generally the ones that are like this.

Like what? Insecure? Also, I think you're right about her being insecure, she doesn't seem to know what she wants (which I understand because who the fuck knows what they want to do at this age?). She doesn't really do anything interesting aside from going on vacations on cruises and shit. She's what people would call the typical middle-class white girl. Some people also say "basic" like she always buys Starbucks and shit. The weird thing though, she knows that she's "basic" and she doesn't want to change the way she is, it seems. She also said that she'll never lower her standards (I think she likes really athletics type guys who goes to the gym all the time). I dunno, I think I should just not pursue.

What's the difference between being exclusive with someone and being someone's BF/GF?

>>17460410
I do mean insecure, but more specifically they go about their insecurity by stringing guys along. The annoying thing is they'll never really back down because, as you observed, they don't know what they want, precisely because they are insecure and need someone to tell them what they want.

I would speculate that she's comfortable being 'basic' because it is safe. Conforming to what is ordinary or common is a possible response to insecurity, because doing what everyone expects of you should make you liked: it's safe. It's the same with her choice of man: she prefers a man that looks good over a man that is good for her, because she cares more about how others perceive her than about herself (i.e. her well being and happiness).

It doesn't all have to be as deeply problematic as it may sound. A lot of people are like this and a lot of it may go away once she finds a guy that treats her well and gives her confidence (again, that's not misogyny: just as often men require women for confidence).

>>17460448
An interesting question, but unfortunately one without a very satisfying answer.

People create layers of distance and ways of perceiving relationships to feel comfortable. It's a little bit like religion: it's only real in the sense that it affects the people who believe in it in a very real way, but if no one believed in it, it wouldn't exist.

Similarly, being able to say that you're exclusive without being someone's gf/bf is an ideological barrier that makes the relationship seem less serious than it actually is. Being exclusive is usually just a noble thing to do, because it's rather unkind to hook up with other people when you're dating someone. Being someone's gf/bf is something you communicate to others. It's a social role with certain expectations.

>>17460390
Jealousy is a very natural emotion and also a very strong one (it is speculated that it had the evolutionary advantage of making sure your mate carried your offspring, and not someone else's). It's hard to deal with, but ultimately it helps me knowing that it's just a primitive emotion that makes you irrational and affects your clarity of mind.

It helps to talk about it with her, I agree with that, but often putting restrictions on her that she does not agree with is not very effective, because the relationship becomes a negotiation.

I'd discuss it, ask her what she's doing, how far she goes in the RPing, and do express it when you're uncomfortable. If she's serious about you, she should take your concerns seriously as well.

Was this girl attracted to me?

>friend's girlfriend
>was not attracted to her, became good friends
>I am virgin, intellectual type with shitty self-esteem
>work with her, self-esteem gets better and I mess with her like spray water in her direction or some shit
>supervisor makes joke about how he'll tell my friend
>start coming out of my shell, tease her with jokes a little
>she hits me on the arm, looks at me, smiles and says "You should have a girlfriend"
>she tries to hook me up a girl, she has a nice ass but ultimately it doesn't work because that girl was dumb as shit and we didn't click at all
>start talking to her about it, first time I see her as sexually attractive and not just a friend, mostly because I realized how smart and interesting she is
>she has relationship troubles with her bf, think she started hitting on me to make him jealous, sitting very close to me, sitting across from me with her legs up (not flashing but dangerously close)
>whenever she got drunk she'd reach over for something across from me and put her hand on my thigh

Can't tell if I'm just projecting my own wants in her or if she had a little interest. In any case, she stayed with her abusive boyfriend until I moved. I'm just curious.

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I have a foreign gf, She's a very pretty girl and very nice as well, and I really do love her. Every time I see her I tell her as much as well. I either use the words: cute, pretty, beautiful, or anything else I can think of or all of the above. She recently asked me to "say something more real" and I'm not sure what she means by this, and she won't tell me either.

Stupid question, but in the real world do people really ask other people on dates and stuff and that's normal? I'm in a college town that has a big hookup culture and only college students live here pretty much. I don't like to hookup but the only time people show interest in me is to hookup, and I never see them again. I honestly don't know how people get girlfriends and boyfriends.

>>17459554
I have a question for other girls
When i had sex for the first time recently it didnt feel like anything inside my vagina. Is it normal?

>>17460608
Maybe (maybe) she wants you to be complimented about more specific things.
I don't really notice when people call me cute, pretty or beautiful but when my boyfriend tells me shit like "I really love the way you look when you do X", or in general compliments some really specific part of my body, it feels much more real and nice.

>>17460628
Yes, but a lot of it happens online now.

>>17460597
Not a grill, but anytime their hand is on your leg is a big Red Flag as far as I know.

>tfw no gf

>>17459770
a practical degree is nice because i know that bachelors in feminist dance therapy isn't getting any jobs that pay well
>>17459778
it's discomforting and a bit difficult to do on the first try. imagine trying to take half of a shit

>>17460660
ok, i'll try that then, thank you

What are the signs that the time you spend together is special for other person?
That he/she isn't just being a flirt or polite?

>>17459970
First fatto here,
Yeah, I'm at 120 seeking 100-115. I actually think I look best just a tad underweight, so that's what I'm going for. Plus knowing myself I won't even stay underweight most of the time, I'll get into a cycle of gaining it back to average weight, then losing it again, then gaining it back, etc. So I'd rather give myself wiggle room.

>>17459770
I don't really pay attention really. As long as they have (or are actively seeking) an education of some sort. Because in this day and age unless you've got mad connections or are hella lucky not having a degree or at least a trade skill means you'll be a wage slave forever, and that level of poverty just isn't appealing to me.
But idc if you have a "useless" art degree for all I care, because there's still job prospects even if it's not in that field. Like there are still employers that don't care what your degree is as long as you have one.

Now I will say if the guy has one of those super intelligent/complicated degrees like you're describing I may feel a tad inadequate with my lowly degree, but I still find it impressive.
>>17460044
Kind of what everyone else has said. She needs to do it on her own terms. If she's still even questioning it, then she's not ready. If you push her one way or another while she's unsure, she'll regret it. And if you do bang her in that state, she'll have a negative outlook on sex. Give her more time, be encouraging whenever she does decide to do something, let her know you're supporting her choices. That'll help her support her own herself.
You can tell her it's normal to feel ready one second and then not the next. I'm still a virgin, but I remember the moment I finally felt ready, it literally was like a switch. I had no doubts in it, I knew it was time. Unfortunately there were some difficulties in the environment and with him that ended that moment before we could have sex, and I didn't ever get quite back to that level of comfort in the time we dated. However I feel pretty confident that the next person I actually date for a somewhat significant time period will be the one I lose it to. I feel ready, I just won't lose it to a stranger or someone I'm not emotionally connected to. Next person that fits that role, whether we're together for a week or a year or forever, I'll most likely bang him.

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>>17460142
Its probably a bot anon. "She" will be asking for a credit card number or for you to check out her cam show pretty soon.
>>17460336
Most people stay in their own lanes. Interracial dating is still pretty rare, the majority of people want a partner that was brought up like them.

>>17460405
She's hurting, I wouldn't try anything anytime soon. Depending on your relationship, she may actually feel that way, or she may just be upset and wants you to look like the bad guy.
I'm not saying it's right, but I've been in her shoes and did a similar thing. Though he really was using me for sex, I played the whole thing up in my head to make him worse than he actually was. It was easier to hate him than to hate myself. He wasn't literally worse than hitler like I was making him out to be, but that was the shitty way I coped with the heartache.

Give her space, try to reach out once she's had time to cool down, but don't try too hard. If she's gonna act that way, she may not want to stop. If that's the case then just drop her, your friendship is gone and you just cannot come back from it.

>>17460448
It probably differs from person to person.
To me, being "exclusive" refers to a fwb/fuckbuddy type relationship, one that doesn't have a hard definition and is extremely relaxed and noncommittal. You aren't dating, you aren't doing anything romantic, you don't have a firm tie to one another, but you're not going to seek out other fwb's for whatever reason (main one I see is the STD risk.) However since you are not dating, you assume that at any given point in time, one or both of you could just so much as text you to say "Hey I'm ending this situation and I'm gonna go fuck/date someone else. Cool?" and the other will accept this. It's like an easy break up, with out all the crying and emotions.

Being someone's b/gf implies the romantic aspects. You go on dates, you love one another, you see a possible future together, etc.

>>17460608
Idk, I'm not entirely sure what she could mean either, but I will say when I'm showered in compliment's, their value diminishes quickly. Especially if it's the same compliment. Like if you tell me every time I see you "you're cute" It's going to be flattering the first few times, but after a while I'm going to question if you really mean that or if that's just part of your small talk, you know?
I would cut back on the compliments, to make them special again. Compliment her only when you're reeeeeeeaaallly reallllly feeling it. It should be a special thing. Also vary your compliments. Don't comment on the same thing more than once a month. Get creative, and be specific with your compliments when you do give them out.
>>17460628
College culture has shifted, you aren't going to find very many college aged kids willing to "settle down" in even the slightest way. Closest you'll get is a fuck buddy, but even still most people forget the buddy part. Dating is a dead practice in your 20's. When you're older it'll come back.

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>>17459554
>terrible introductory joke...i'll give chatting with you a shot anyway

>>17460653
It is, but might also mean that you weren't tight, he was small, and that you were very wet. When you are relaxed it is supposed to go in easy and the pleasure you would get from the actual penetration would be feeling the penis hit your g spot, the first penetration before he starts moving and the guy's body touching yours when he goes in. The vagina is not supposed to entirely grip the penis tight; that would mean that you are uncomfortable. When you are aroused and trust your partner the muscle relaxes and something lifts up inside there as to give more room for sperm.

How childish is joking and being cold, after showing your crush interest and learning that she or he sees you only as a friend?

After 23 years of being a kissless virgin shut in girl what are the odds of a good man actually falling in love with me and wanting to marry me? I feel too weird for normal men to like

>>17460879
I also want to know

>>17460869
very childish. you can be her friend and just not talk to her, instead of making unfunny inside jokes only you understand. believe me when i tell you if shes not laughing or going "huh?" all the time, she's gonna think you're either an idiot or a creep.

>>17460879
Wouldn't you be okay with abnormal men?
I would be okay with abnormal you.

>>17460889
So, what if they are like jokes shared among friends, maybe teasing not offensive? Or ironic?
I understand it was childish, but i can't help it. I had to state that i too view my crush as a friend only.
How many times should you crush to learn to make a poker face about the whole situation?

>>17460903
When I think of abnormal I think of someone like a robot who are self loathing and desperate and honestly they're too negative and unhappy for me

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>>17460908

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How to you feel/think about girls with full shaved head?

>>17460922
I actually find them attractive, but I'm in the minority. Read OP

>>17460922
Trying too hard to prove something

>>17460908
There are many kinds of "abnormal" people you know, most of them are the best imo.

Shut ins are kinda of a turn on for me unless you're completely depressed and that eventually kills the relationship,
if not then I don't see the problem unless you wanted an extremely social "jock" kind of guy, If that's what you're looking for then I think the odds are really low.

>>17460922
attention whores trying to cash in on the chemo cancer pity

>>17460922
Why is this whore so fucking beautiful ugh I love you megan I wish you were fucking dead

Guys, why is this allowed? Why do some people get so much amd others get nothing?

>>17460879
>what are the odds of a good man actually falling in love with me and wanting to marry me? I feel too weird for normal men to like
>When I think of abnormal I think of someone like a robot who are self loathing and desperate and honestly they're too negative and unhappy for me
Hmm

>>17460969
Do tell what your impression is

>>17460978
You're projecting. You're the self-loathing, desperate one who is honest too negative and unhappy for yourself.

>>17460941
I know, but I was asking more about what really goes through your head like kinda like >>17460942 response, rather than if it was an attractive look or not, but thanks it's cool that you like it.

>>17460947
Lmao that's a new one

>>17459554
>childhood friend has a new roomate
>this new roomate calls me daddy
>i barely know her
>hanging out with friend less because of said roomate
>asked roomate to stop but she won't

can anyone shed any light onto this at all? she's got no romantic interest at all, I know that at least

>>17460998
She gets a kick out of fucking with you. What's there to shed light on?

>>17461007
why would someone just fuck with me?
are humans really that horrible

>>17461014
Given your response, I'm guessing that you're not that great at social interaction. You're a prime target for assholeish behaviour.

>>17460922
95% chance of falsely accusing me of rape

>>17461018
gr8!

Guys, what do you do/say when you approached girl but she says she got bf or reject you some other way?

Is there actually such as thing like a league when it comes to dating? A female friend said "anon I cannot believe you've slept with femanon, it just seems weird". This girl was pretty but I wouldn't see any reason why I couldn't have her. Even if people don't consider me hot. How do you feel about this?

>>17461088
just shrug my shoulders and move on

>>17461088
Just act cool and find a better girl.

>>17461097
Why wouldn't you just approach the better girl in the first place?

>>17461014
Some people have boring lives and boost their self esteem by bringing others down. They're just testing to see if they can bring you down to feel superior.

>>17460879
There's a decent chance. I fell in love with shy awkward girls before.

>>17461095
Did she actually say "that girl is too good-looking for you"? Because I feel like you're reading too much into this otherwise

>>17460597
Not femanon but if a girl is very interested in you she's not going to hook you up with another girl. Might also use you in relation to her bf problems. Don't try anything he's your friend.

>>17461111
No she did not, however; When I stopped seeing that girl I had other girls ask me "why did you break up... she's sooo pretty". Made me feel like they said: "you will not easily find a girl with looks like hers". Reason I am thinking about this is because it is years ago and now recently I've met this girl at a party. She's invited me to have coffee together.

Okay femanons, I've got a question for you.

>Dealing with this chick at work who's clearly interested in me
>Always smiles when she sees me, finds excuses to touch/hug me, flirts, and gave me her number out of the blue
>Started texting and we added one another on Facebook
>At first she was pretty responsive, but then she'd suddenly stop responding altogether
>Saw her at work again and she told me she was having a rough time, but she had her shit almost sorted out
>The flirting/touching etc. didn't stop from her side
>Decided just to give her space
>Out of the blue she'd start a conversation over text
>Just basic stuff, how's your day, etc.
>Make decent reply back like asking what she was up to
> No response
>This happens multiple times, I even caught her going online sometimes (as we text over Whatsapp), but no reply
>Meanwhile, at work the flirting and shit goes on
>Fuck it, let's ask her out on a date.jpg
>She happily says yes
>Said she'd text me so we could set a date later
>Cool.png
>After a few days I'd still didn't get anything, so I texted her a couple of times asking when she was available
>Again, no response.
>Replies on FB she'll text me soon to let me know when she's available
>A couple of weeks pass with no date
>Figured she wasn't interested anymore so moved on
>After two months of no contact she texts me again
>Some excuse of having had a rough time
>Tries to make conversation again
>Respond after deciding it's a dick move to just ignore her
>Still no reply after two days of responding

This shit is driving me absolutely crazy. She's the one initiating the chat most of the time, since I stopped bothering to text her after the second time she'd go on ignore mode. Why the fuck would she try to make conversation and then just flat out ignore me when I reply? I don't think she's crushing on me so hard she doesn't know what to say, she's pretty talkative in general. Is this some mindgame tactic that women use or something?

>>17461127
>"why did you break up... she's sooo pretty".
>"you will not easily find a girl with looks like hers"
That's not what they were saying at all. They were saying that you shouldn't have had a reason to break up with her because she's pretty (yes, I know that's stupid reasoning). You're reading something into this that's not actually there.

>>17461133
Thanks. Maybe I should go for it then! Probably just having doubt because quite some guys are chasing her and she's had more than just a few boyfriends. Hope she's not going to destroy me though.

>>17461130
Ignoring and push/pull is usually a tactic but I've never seen or heard it done to that extent, to the point that it's making me wonder if she's just:
a) doesn't know what she wants/is really moody and sometimes wants it sometimes not

b)Actually has a rough time or some other stuff that actually prevents her like family or stuff

c)has amesia or hates texting/fb??? idk really

>>17461088
"Alright, no sweat, see ya later"

>>17460336
Most people are just attracted to people of their same race

>>17461102
Better in this case means one that is possibly interested.

>>17461127
When people say 'she's sooo pretty' not only do they normally mean she's physically pretty, but also that they think she has a nice personality/fashion sense/career, thus making her more attractive. If they thought that girl was pretty but a bitch they wouldn't have said anything. They were basically saying to you that they thought she was a good package deal and wondered why you dumped her.

Guys and girls

I know this is strange. But I'm 26 years old, and up until now I haven't really cared about sex, or girls that much. Like yeah, I've had a sex drive, but no care to actually go do it regularly. I've only had sex once ever. Anyways, I now feel intimidated by girls in a sense, because the far majority of girls my age are very sexually experienced, and it just bothers me by the fact that most girls have been with a lot of guys. I haven't been with many girls at all (granted it was by choice) but I just feel weird about everything now..

Just curious if anyone else feels the same way

>>17459685
>How does the opposite gender treat you?
Guy here. People in general treat me somewhat better.

>How are your relationships now, do you feel bad or resentful or anything knowing that most of the men/women attracted to you now would not have given you the time of day before?
I'm fine with the fact they weren't interested in me from a dating perspective. I doubt I'd have dated myself. I will admit I'm kind of sour that I'm being treated better as a person in general though, with stuff where looks should have no place.

>>17461173
In that sense they were probably right. She's a good package.

>>17461088
If I get rejected, I just act indifferent and move on.

>>17460401
Underrated post.

>>17461088
I say ok and 360 on out.

I mean she's not interested, what else can you do? It's better to focus your energy on a woman who's actually interested.

>>17460879
You're 23. I've made a similar come back, what's going to be a potential deal breaker are your issues with your past.

>>17461088
...
[Under Your Spell playing in the diatance]

Guys and girls.

What is the difference between dating and being in a relationship?

Other than referring to each other as bf/gf is there anything that changes?

>>17461130
Want a trick to either stop it or make it happen. Text her or even calling is better and ask her : "what are you doin right now, drop any plans you have give me your adress ill pick you up and have our date as discussed" . If she doesnt answer , fuck that bitch

Is it a good sign when a girl tells her family about you, even when not being in an official relationship?

I like a guy in my circle of friends but another guy in the same circle asked me out. What would you do in this situation, anons?

>>17461361
Turn the guy who asked you out down, obviously.

>>17461323
It could mean something, or it could mean nothing. We can't tell

>>17461323
Girl here but usually if a guy does it and we were not close friends or have not been friends for a long time then usually it means he's gonna make a move sooner or later. Idk how much this will apply to girls since for most guys I know they don't share so it would be deviating from the norm.

>>17460922
i think it's an attractive look on the right people, but those people probably:
>look good with more traditional haircuts
>are probably so politically left-wing that glancing at them is rape
>have cancer
>>17460950
probably because you touch yourself at night
>>17461088
spin 360 and moonwalk out of there
>the year of our dark lord 2016
>implying I approach women
>>17461130
if you've been ghosted this hard, just drop her. this behaivor is not acceptable and you need to let that be known. she is not going to date you, she does not have her shit together, she is not your friend, your relationship with her is strictly professional for the remainder of your time as coworkers

Femanons, how many of you are into skinny guys ?

>>17461365
I did but I didn't specify it's because I like someone else. Now I feel like it's too awkward for me to try and make a move on the other guy.

>>17461454
More than 3.000.
3.673 to be exact.

So my gf went on holiday a few days ago
She said she wouldn't be able to talk that much cause she's with her family etc

So we haven't talked much since she's been gone but today, well, yesterday I sent her a message just saying hey what's up and she read it but didn't reply. So nearly 24 hours later, still no reply, yet she's been on Facebook messenger and online on whatsapp multiple times throughout the day. Naturally I got prideful about this and a bit offended. So I just send her a goodnight message and she reads it about 40 minutes later and replies "hey baby!! How are you??" So I just give her the side eye emoji because at this point I'm like, really bitch? You weren't going to send me anything unless I sent you something FIRST. So she asks "what is it?" And I reply "took you long enough" and her answer is "ok. Goodnight."

Is she really in the right to get mad? Probably gonna fuck some other guy just because of this. I swear women are petty as fuck.

>>17461269
Girl here. Dating and being in a relationship is pretty much synonymous nowadays. But I know what you mean and i think once you are officially in a relationship that is when you have already let go of other 'potential partners', you turn down people who are interested, you become exclusive.. tell your friends and family about them.. And by that time you have routines of some sort, like a date night for when you are free, a nice thing one does for the other, more understanding of what the other likes or doesn't and better knowing their personality and habits, having some inside jokes and getting to know their friends and or family. I think at this stage pda becomes more acceptable, (but that might just be me, I'm always afraid they would be embarrassed) unless you are one of those freshly-together-passionate-suckmyface couples who like to make out in front of everybody.
To me the difference is definitely the routine, becoming part of each others' life. When dating you might meet at a random time for a short while when they are not with friends or doing other things, but in a relationship you become more important. There is the reassurance too, which can be subtle, when they let you know that they are not interested in anybody else.
Ps. I'm talking about traditional monogamous relationships here

>>17461474
Sounds like she has some issues

>>17461469
Thanks for providing insights into female preferences ...

>>17461469
Out of ?

>>17461480
Always a pleasure.
>>17461483
That is the total number, anon.

>>17461474
Her behaviour is not acceptable. Don't put yourself in a weak position at this point.

>>17461474
>Probably gonna fuck some other guy just because of this. I swear women are petty as fuck.
Why do you have a girlfriend if you think this?

Answering your question, I don't think she should be mad.. I would have explained why I did not reply for so long if I saw that you got upset.. anybody with some decent social skills and empathy would do so unless they were ignoring you on purpose or up to some shady shit. But I don't know how she acts other times.

>>17461506
Yeah, I'll probably just let her do her thing because if I let it get to me anymore I'll probably go too far, but I don't agree with her behavior. If she's that busy then she wouldn't have time to be on her phone and if she did find time, a simple "hey hope your day is going fine" would suffice.

>>17461509
She was never big on texting, rarely used her phone before we started dating, now she uses it a lot but this is the first time since we've been together that we don't talk as often so maybe it's just her way of doing things, I try to be respectful since I don't want to seem like I think I'm above her family

And man, I don't even know. I can't trust women at all but I thought this would be different because she seemed sweet
I just wanna know if I'm over exaggerating this

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Girls, what do you think of my height?

>I'm the guy in the back

My gf claims she gets sore from sex and only wants to sleep with me every other day, or even with a few days break. Am i doing something wrong here or am i being cucked?

>>17461605
You're not getting her wet enough or you're being too rough.

>>17461566
That DC shirt is dope.

Alright girls.
I want to know something from you, your honest opinion about it. It's about dick size. Would you prefer a guy that is a bit larger but not too large than an average dick? Let's say the skill is the same of both dicks.
Like with boobs - I prefer a bit larger boobs than average but in the end it's more about the love I feel towards my partner so that isn't really an important factor. Yet still I prefer them a bit larger. So I wanna know what would you prefer? Or does it ultimatively doesn't matter for you? With not the slightest preferation.

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Guys!

If you had just started seeing a girl, how would you like to be told "it's that time of the month?". And how would you, if at all, want to know about PMS symptoms? I get insomnia, and raging 3am hunger attacks and sometimes get a bit weepy.

>>17461646
Read the op faggot

>>17461646
You can't change your dick size, so it doesn't matter. If dick size could be changed, like breasts, then yeah, you might have a legit question, but you can't and so you don't.

>>17461672
If my girl has that kind of low key psycho episodes I'd definitely like to know in advance, yeah.

As for the period itself, just let the guy know so he's got a good idea of what he can expect in the sack.

>>17461672
Is "period" an awkward word for native speakers?
It's kinda awkward in my native language and the alternatives are cringy.

>>17461678
It just sucks because I have about twelve different things that rotate randomly each month. One, my sleep will be fine, but I'll be way more sensitive, another month, no sleep but fine otherwise. I just started seeing him so I don't know the line between TMI/scaring him but letting him know why I'm turning down his advances.

>>17461687
http://www.harebraineddesign.com/collections/briefs has lots of funny sayings for periods. I personally like "currently down for maintenance", "maintenance mode" or with friends "shark week".

>>17461672
>how would you like to be told "it's that time of the month?".
>I'm not feeling good, it's that time of the month
It's a biological process, it's not something worth being hung up on.

>And how would you, if at all, want to know about PMS symptoms?
I don't need to know the details on what's oozing out, but I don't mind helping out. Just saying you're tired/cramping/whatever is sufficient.

>>17461687
I don't think so. It doesn't feel clinical like say vagina, but the alternatives are a bit vulgar.

>>17461699
>I don't need to know the details on what's oozing out, but I don't mind helping out.
Thank you, that's excellent advice.

Ladies, if you were a shy, introverted and sheltered with low self esteem; then met a funny, witty, handsome guy, who spoiled you and wrekt your cervix almost daily (in a good way); what would you think?

Wow, I hit the jackpot?

OR

Too good to be true?

OR

Something else?

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My girlfriend is in Germany studying and heavily hinted that she wants me to buy this for her since she can't find it there.

surprise surprise I have no idea what shade it is. Google says its MAC or something lol.

please help

>>17461719
Why don't you just ask her? It looks like it could be MAC Nightmoth lipstick, but I could be wrong

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>>17461719

GERMAN STEEEEEEEEEEEEL

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>>17461721

>Grillfriend and I go into Ulta for foundation (I think it was).
>Spends 20+ minutes looking for the proper (shade?) for her complexion (I think?).
>She's too shy to ask them where it's located.
>I ask.
>They're sold out.
>She's bummed.
>I ask if they have any in the back.
>They do.
>Get to the register.
>Rings up $40.
>Nearly have a stroke.
>She asks me "How much did you think it was going to be?"
>I said $15 to $20.
>She look at me with pitty, gently places her hand on my cheek and says "Oh sweetie..."
>Go home and fuck her so it could be considered a hate crime.

>>17461734
What's the point of that story?

>>17461754

That makeup is fucking expensive and it's a waste of MY money because when I cum on her face, it just gets ruined.

That's was I was an Alpha and told her she's using a cheaper Target brand and she's paying for it.

>MFW

>>17461721
I wish it was that easy...I offered to get her a present and asked what she wanted. She likes surprises and gave me this hint: "If you want a hint I sent you a picture of what I want a while back"

I'm 80% sure it's this picture she sent me a month back...

Thanks for the tip, seems like they only have lip pencils gonna continue to look
>>17461725
w-what

>>17461761
an anon from /cgl/ found it, it's call MAC Sin

>>17461711
sheltered and therefore stay naive -> hit the jackpot
sheltered but tried everything to break out and sneak around parents's stupid over exaggerated rules -> too good to be true
i would get really paranoid in the last case given any sign of the guy flirting with other girls, having close female friends or keeping in touch with ex girlfriends

So a girl texted me back after ghosting me for 4 days. Should I respond or is it a trap to steal my organs? I really like my kidneys and I'd prefer to keep them.

Girls

Does it mean anything if a girl who used to "send" you a hug and kiss almost every night when she went to bed through text, if she doesn't do that anymore? I still "send" her them before she goes to bed, but she just replied "goodnight! :) "... She used to send me hugs and kisses all the time. But she hasn't in a while..

Does that mean something?

>>17462014
Is she your girlfriend or..? I would stop a habit like that if I feared that it annoyed the other person, was too much and repetitive.

>>17462014
It means she's grown out of something so cringeworthy

>>17462022
>>17462031

no, she's a friend. We've had a mutual interest in each other. Yet, we are not dating because it's not really practical for either of us. We are both busy in our lives.

How is it cringe worthy?

>>17462060
>How is it cringe worthy?
Because that behaviour is something I'd expect from a 16 year old

>>17462073

Oh :/

I mean, I care about her. Wish I could give her a hug. What's wrong with me telling her that?

>>17462085
How old are you?

>>17462090

25..

>>17462085
>:/
Should have seen this coming from a mile away.

>>17462102

Do you have advice for me? I mean, this girl would send me those texts first. It because a regular thing for us. It was nice.

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>>17462001
Stay away from that one bro.
>>17461672
It'd be a little gross, but at the same time I know literally nothing about how periods affect women because nobody's ever talked to me about them.

I'd be interested, I suppose.

>>17461953

She was almost completely the first but had been a 'bad girl' on occasion; sneaking out of the house for sex, underage drinking at college but that was the extent of it.

I was addicted to me and fell in love (I was her first) and as good as I am at reading people; I never quite knew what she was thinking or feeling at any give time.

Then again she was on a TON of lithium so probably nothing at all, heh.

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>>17462085

Hugs are Beta moves, comrade.

They allow for very brief physical contact that lacks any intimacy, passion and very little attraction at all.

Kissing her on the lips slightly open mouth or neck is the kill-shot.

You'll be in like sin.

>>17462205

you don't understand what we were discussing I think..

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>>17462156
>Calls the Emperor a corpse
>An entire traitor legion is just a bunch of dust filled armor suits

Guys,

how much of a disappointment would a girl be to you, if she was eager to to whatever you wanted in the sack, but had only been with one other guy prior? Would the inexperience be a buzzkill?

>>17462329

I don't think ANY guy would EVER be disappointed that the girl he's with has only been with one guy.. Ok, you maybe be inexperienced. But you're not used up.

That's good.

>>17462329
Lack of experience is something very easily fixed. I never understood why its such a big issue for some.

>>17462329
The most important experience is from the couple not from the past.

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Are my teeth too yellow? Either gender is fine. I was stupid and didn't brush until I was like 12. I blame my mom for not telling me to though. I'm not ugly, its just my teeth kinda suck.

>>17462358
The lighting makes it a little bit worse, so it's not that yellow.

How to deal with potential gf/girl im seeing who doesnt like physical contact? Its very real, she doesnt like to b hugged or touched in most ways and will always sit alone separate from people. Figured it was me, maybe I wasnt attractive or something but I witness her do it to female friends of hers as well. She likes me a lot and has said I am "respectful" but how long can I be respectful, I want to touch her. Is this just an instant relationship killer

If I casually ask a girl how her weekend was and if she did anything fun with her boyfriend, will she pick up on the fact I'm trying to find out if she's single?

>>17462415
If I've never mentioned a boyfriend, then yes, I'd guess you're fishing to see if I'm in a relationship. The only way you could be more obvious is to straight up ask

>>17462418
any subtler way to fish? I just met a girl, and I'd rather not ruin a potential friend by asking them out and getting the "I have a boyfriend" response.

>>17462271
You didn't answer the question. What's your favorite chaos god, and which would you serve?
>>17462329
As long as you're not a coalburner, I don't think anybody would care very much.

Although God himself said you're supposed to wait for marriage before you give your maidenhead. You should be asking Him how much of a disappointment you would be to The Lord, not any two-bit bar drunkard.

>>17462428
The only thing that'd ruin the friendship is your response to her rejection.

why are all women normies?

is it something genetic

>>17462445
If she rejects me and we stay friends, I feel like I'm automatically a beta orbiter. Anything I do is perceived as a way to get into her pants.

>>17462460
So your solution is to not ask her out at all? You do realise that not asking her out makes you even MORE of a beta orbiter, right?

>>17462475
>You do realise that not asking her out makes you even MORE of a beta orbiter, right?
Not really

>>17462460
>I feel like I'm automatically a beta orbiter

You're only an orbiter if you feed her attention post-rejection. If she rejects you, you move on

>>17462480
>Not really
Yes really

>>17462453
There's autistic women, you just never notice them because they're fat/ugly.

>>17462485
>If she rejects you, you move on
>move on
So how the fuck am I supposed to make friends with women if I have drop them every fucking time I ask them out? This whole thing is confusing as fuck, I should have been gay

>>17462487
>So how the fuck am I supposed to make friends with women if I have drop them every fucking time I ask them out?
What? Making friends with someone is not the same as asking someone out. And like I said earlier, whether the friendship survives is really up to how you react to rejection

>>17462487
>So how the fuck am I supposed to make friends with women

You're not making friends tho. You're not interested in friendship with girls who you like. That's not how it works. You want a relationship. You're simply tagging along and waiting until they magically fall in love with you somehow.

You getting rejected isn't going to magically change the fact that you like a girl or think she's attractive, so it's best to move on instead of tagging along with girls who are not interested in you sexually. There is no point.

And when I say move on, I simply mean direct your attention elsewhere i.e yourself and another girl. Not the one who rejected you

>>17462453
Would you honestly want to date a female version of yourself?

>>17462506
I dunno, is female me hot?

(Part 1)
I think women like the idea of me, but not the real me. Pls help me senpai.
Some relevant background: I'm a 20 year old male. I'm studying at a pretty prestigious university university doing a pretty difficult degree (this is relevant later on).

Women seem to love the 'idea of me' but then lose interest in the real me after a while. The best example of this is a girl (19) I dated who initially seemed very interested in me. She and I got along pretty well and she opened up to me more than she seemed to in any previous relationship of hers. She even went a lot further with me sexually than she had ever done in a previous relationship. After a few months of being 'boyfriend and girlfriend' she seemed withdrawn, not wanting to be touched and not really wanting to hang out with me. After a few weeks of this we both decided it wasn't working out and we broke up.

What really bugs me is I heard from a mutual friend (whose word I trust completely) that she was bragging about me to all her friends when we started dating, "Oh here check out a picture of us, and he's studying X at Y university" etc. What annoys me is she would talk about anything I would do that would impress her friends, e.g. what I study or what my hobbies are but she never wanted to actually discuss or take interest in my interests and hobbies. I tried to take interest in her hobbies and to find common interests, but it always ended up being me participating in something that was already her 'thing' e.g. I would watch a netflix series she was already watching but she wouldn't so much as try watching something I would recommend to her.


This sort of initial interest and then eventual lack of common ground and interests causing a rift has happened to me several times over the last few years. Girl seems really interested in me, and sometimes is the even the one who asks me on a date. After a while we end up with very little in common and then they don't seem to care.

>>17462434
>What's your favorite chaos god, and which would you serve?
The Horned Rat

What do you do with your waifu if you get a gf? Do you tell her about her?

>>17462541
(Part 2)
Starting to really worry that I look good on paper but that I'm really just a boring person. Pls help familia

>>17462506
Once I'm done losing weight probably

I'm tired of getting blank stares when women ask me about my side projects.

Girls: When you go out somewhere and you notice a guy looking at you a lot, seems like he wants to come up and talk to you, but in the end never does, do you think to yourself "what a fucking idiot" or do you feel kinda bad for him for whatever reason?

>>17462545
is this ironic? are you for real? do weebs actually think this is an issue? dont you see polygamy is illegal? you have to cut all ties with your waifu or she will ruin your laifu when she finds you betrayed her for a 3d piece of shit gf (btw why do you even want that piece of shit? she will betray you, unlike your waifu, who will stay with you for laifu)

Can a guy have any success on a dating or hook-up website if he isn't 10/10?

Should I get black/silver glasses or tortoise shell/gold? Femanon if that matters.

>>17462619
If he's good looking I'd wonder why he isn't approaching me. If he's too good looking I'd wonder if there's something wrong with my face. If he's unattractive I'd be creeped out. Like everything else how attractive you are determines a lot.

>>17462641
If you are fat, have dyed hair, and post on tumblr, I'd recommend the tortoise shell

>>17462620
You're right, my waifu deserves better

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>>17462655
thank god you came to your senses

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>>17462662
I couldn't have done it without you

>>17462648
I don't know if this is a serious answer but I have dyed hair in the blonde to brown range (naturally black). Not fat and not a tumblrina.

>>17462641
simple glasses look cute and black/silver looks simpler than tortoise shell/gold.

>>17462669
It's a serious answer. Tortoise shell pattern usually have thicker rims, and I dislike heavy style glasses since I think they draw too much attention to themselves instead of complimenting your face. Save tortoise shell for sunglasses if you really like it.

Why won't my wife stop calling me a faggot while pegging me?

>>17462702
stop fapping to gay porn if you don't want to be called a faggot

>>17462702
have you tried not getting fucked in the ass? might help.
i mean if i saw someone getting fucked in the ass i might call them a faggot too.
>>17462705
i think thats only half the problem

>>17462709
It's not gay if it's a girl doing it. Just like how traps aren't gay

>>17462725
my policy is: if theres 2 sticks involved and only 1 hole, then its gay

>>17462725
my policy is: if theres 2 sticks involved and only 1 hole, then its gay.
and liking traps makes you a faggot

>>17462641
Black frames are trendy right now so you'll probably look more attractive with those.

>>17462725
Too true, I'm not a faggot. Not into men in the slightest & the corn dogging of my pooper is her fancy & i'm just going along for the ride to get my trade off > anal on her

>>17462729
You sound like a massive homophobe!

>>17462729
>and liking traps makes you a faggot
That's not what my bf said

>Women
I get the uncontrollable urge to beat the ever living shit out of any chick in the Western world who complains about equality without taking into account the plethora of ways society pander to your kind. How does that make you feel?

>>17462745
This is why I need feminism

>>17462547
Do some drugs

>>17462741
im not a homophobe, john is, he saw 2 guys kissing and was so scared he pissed his pants i just laughed at john and helped him get new pants

>>17462743
Lol

>>17462752
Water sports are hot

>>17462759
yeah, since the pee is fresh its quite high in temperature, oh wait you meant sexy? go kill yourself (this is a joke im actually quite neutral about that specific fetish)

>>17462748
Really?

>>17462762
Urine is generally acidic, not neutral

>>17462787
im actually pretty alkaline myself so when im met with water sports it ends up neutralized

>>17462619

I'm glad he left me alone and didn't trigger my social anxiety any worse.

Girls,

How weirded out would you be if, before I started dating you, I asked if you'd recently broken up with someone, or in the last few months? I know most people wouldn't mind answering the question, but I imagine a few people would be curious about why I'd want to know.

Every relationship I've been in has started as a result of me becoming a rebound bf. I never asked the question in the past, didn't think it'd mattered, but I've come to the realization that it's basically impossible to have a relationship that's expected to last if it's because you got with someone who was recently heartbroken. I'm tired of getting fucked over by it, and it'll be one of my biggest nopes when getting into relationships.

>>17462745

makes me glad I have a gun

>>17462813

now adays most people put their relationship status history on facebook so it's probably public knowledge you dont even have to ask for

>>17462813
I still think I'd be a little offended, but less so if you explained why you were asking the question

>>17462820
My last gf didn't use facebook, another one I had deactivated her account as a result of a stalky ex-bf. I don't really use it at all myself, sadly.
But I'll keep that in mind since it's certainly a decent way to go about it.

>>17462820
Lol like you can use it

>>17462751
I've actually done weed/LSD/DMT/speed/tramadol tho. Hasn't changed anything

Women
Why do you find it acceptable to do a full up and down on a guy while holding hands with your bf, but think it's unacceptable for guys to do the same to a girl?
Inb4 hoe bags trying to justify

>>17462831

have to pass qualification to get your CCW license where I live, get triggered shitlord

>>17462901
Meh, the way I see it women are the shitlords. They constantly go against what would be seen as decent in relationships and act as though they are in the right. They complain to receive 'equal' rights that in actuality would place them higher. They complain about wage gapping without taking into account men statistically work more jobs that receive compensation for risk than women. Women are garbage except under the sheets and hell that's only when you have one who is so mentally insecure with herself as to not try to be a total cunt as to avoid abandonment...almost as if they can't be decent human beings without being 'broken'

>>17462901
Also speaking of triggered. XD

>>17462906
>implying broken girls can be decent

>>17462910
They're the only ones who seem to have anything approaching humanity lol

Met girl on vacation. She was working there as a waitress with a fucked up schedule (from am 7-12, then 6hour break then pm 19-23, almost every day).
Met her in a party, got her number, talked till morning then she had to go back to work. After her first shift we met again, talked untik she had to go back for 2nd shift. It was clear that shes in to me as well, so later that night i asked if she would come over. She hesitated, and said that altough she liked me a lot, and wants to meet up again, shes not sure thats a good idea, bc she doesnt want a one night stand, and if she comes over itll end up in that. So, i asked her if that i promise her that we just sleep together but no sex, would that be ok. She agreed that shed like that. So i picked her up after the night shift and i kept my word. Ihad to wake up at dawn to bring her back to the morning shift. I said that i definitely want to see her again, she said that it would be good.
Problem is, my vacation ended, I had to go home. . She only works 2 more weeks and then she has to go back home. She lives next to the border originally, in a neighbour country.
I dont know what to do, i realy really like her, if she was from my city i think we could be a couple, but she lives like 4-5 hour drive away.
Should i arrange one last meeting with her before she goes back (id really like to see her and talk to her again) or just say to her trough text that i wish things would be easier?
I honestly dont know, as i can sense that she feels about the same, she would like to get closer to me but cant allow herself bc she knows that we'll probably wont see each other again...

>>17462906
>the ones that are broken that don't want abandonment
Hahahaha.
The ones who are broken are the ones who end up leaving you after 7 months of building you up to think you have someone completely loyal, only so they can go back to their abusive ex-boyfriends, yet still tell you about they how you were too perfect and that they thought you were a fairytale. So they end up going back to someone who hurts them because they think you're some figment of their schizophrenic, bipolar imagination, and that no person could ever care for them.
There's no 'humanity' when someone is broken. Their deep-seated trust issues will plague them perpetually until they eventually leave you, because they think no good person could ever truly care for them. The only ones worth anything are those who go to therapy, fix their 'broken' state, and can now say they've been through both broken and normal stages.
tl;dr your only hope is someone who has been fucked up to have low self-esteem and fear of abandonment, but has also been to therapy enough that they realize they won't be abandoned and that thinking that way is dumb

>>17462944
>There's no 'humanity' when someone is broken.
Maybe you're going a touch overboard here. Just a little.

>>17462944
Thanks now I know what I need. Just have to play up a role to actually get advice on this site.

Girls: is guy's ball-scent gross? I'm assuming it's an "everyone likes their own brand" thing.

>>17463001
Not a chick, but I had one girl who was really into the smell of unwashed stuff, had another who just liked the smell of sweat, another who disliked it (but she hated oral with everyone she did, apparently), and the rest were apathetic, didn't mind it as long as you washed.

Yeah, it's everyone's own preference.

I can suck my own dick. How does it feel for ladies to be objectively worthless when that's taken from them?

>>17463013
>Everyone's own preference
I know that phrase gives me strong hope of getting laid in general, but it's a pain in the ass when trying to make decisions.

If we mutually agree we don't like each other but then things happen and we become really close friends, and then I do like her, I shouldn't tell her and get on with life yeah?

Girls, can you tell me your experiences talking to "weird" people?

I'm talking about when you're in public and out of nowhere some older guy forces a conversation on you like if you live around here and asks if you can spare some time to help him out with something somewhere else.

I'm just asking, because my girlfriend today had that happen to her today and she got really scare from it.

Some middle aged guy carrying a suitcase (he was wearing long pants and a polo) just came up to her at the bus stop and asked if she lived nearby and if she could help him look for an apartment. It got weirder when he apparently asked afterwards if she could be his friend and bothered her about hanging out.

She escaped through the bus but she's worried about the possibility of him stalking her.

Maybe some girls here can share experiences, and if they've ever been stalked after talking to a weird person. No one can be that autistic and beta to have a conversation come off so weird that it scares a girl.

How come girls constantly tell me im attractive, handsome, good at listening, all the fucking text book shit im #1

A chick mate even said the other day im perfect in almost every way and that my 'new confidence is sexy'

But why is it so easy for girls to reject me? All I get is the usual "you're too good, lets stay friends" or "another time?"

Iv been single for 3 years, within the last 12 months iv dropped from 115 to 86 kg and transformed completely.

Have a solid social life, know plenty of girls, but no ones interested...

Is it possible for girls to sense im bi sexual? I conceal it well, only one friend knows, but I honestly feel like my increased empathy and gay shit is putting girls off somehow.

I actually feel crazy at this point, because every day im left thinking over and over why girls, who let me think they're into me, can just cut me off so easily...

for any girls interested, I've made a thread just now.

your insight may be useful.

>>17463085

>>17463071
Living in NYC, I have had a lot of these guys, especially on subway platforms and on public transportation. There is a difference between a guy who is a little weird and awkward and someone who is potentially going to stalk or murder me. A guy who is "weird" would just maybe talk and not get the hint that I'm not listening, and talk about his life or hobbies or something. That's weird and uncomfortable but I don't think he's evil or dangerous, I just would want him to shut up most likely.

A guy who is scary-weird is the guy who did exactly what you typed out. I have had men follow me home or try to insist on being my friend before, it's scary because they are targeting me, it feels, for some weird slight other women did to them or some general frustration toward women. I have been assaulted when I was too tolerant about it. Thank god someone intervened but the dude definitely was overpowering me until then.

So things are unpredictable and she was right to be nervous, but I doubt he's got info on her or is stalking her. He's probably just some creep with zero concept of boundaries.

>>17463001
I love it. Really intimate and primal. Like one girl the other poster mentioned - I mean, no one likes to fool around with a guy who hasn't showered for days while working out in the heat, but I'm going to be disappointed if I go down on someone and smell more soap than genitals. I like some musk.

>>17463112
>but I'm going to be disappointed if I go down on someone and smell more soap than genitals. I like some musk.

this is bait

>>17463071
I know these. For me the most important thing is to realize that these guys, they are only thinking of fucking you (or whatever else they'd like to do to you). If you are not just thinking about your own interests but also about not hurting their feelings and being polite, then you are one step behind, because they sure as fuck won't care how you feel.

As a rule of thumb, I have two approaches. There is one I use on "weirdos" - they're belligerently drunk or high off their ass on something, they have mental issues, obviously very low IQ etc. It comes down to being very, very clear and firm like you would with a dog. Only look them in the eyes when you talk to them, do not engage them with body language (even just turning towards them) etc. Only say stuff like: "No." "I'm not interested." "Leave me alone." "This is harassment."
If a few minutes of this doesn't work, gather your stuff and walk away (make sure to walk towards a more public place than you just left). If he follows, stop and be firmer still. "I told you to leave me alone. If you follow me I will call the police." Get out your phone if you have to. What can also help is to involve other people and make a public scene. Calmly tell others that he is harassing you.

Other category are guys who are perfectly sane, they're just hoping to prey on you. With those I just level. Look them straight in the eyes and tell them that they wouldn't want their daughter/granddaughter to give in to a man acting like he does right now. If they guilt trip, stress the age difference. Really, a fifty year old man desperately needs this specific twenty year old girl to help with something? He can't see that this sounds shady? He can't see that you want friends your own age? You have to not play along with their silly game and call them out on being manipulative and taking advantage of their age.

For what it's worth...

>>17463122
...no, it's not. There's something in between coming right out of the shower and reeking of sweat.

And obviously some girls would love if a guy hopped into the shower before sex every time but opinions differ and I was just chiming in.

>>17463077
The point is probably that they see you as a hot young guy who gets plenty of attention, so they don't stop to consider that you might see it as leading you on if they compliment you or flirt with you.

My gf has stopped any sort of physical activity for over a year now. Im very afraid that she will get too doughy, or worse, cripple herself. Now, im not exactly fit myself, so id feel bad about shaming her into doing some exercise. Any girls here that got into exercise later in life? We are both 26 years old.

>girls

I've been out on five occasions, all of which have ended well. Drinks, Drinks, Dinner+drinks, and 2 movies. (suicide squad was pretty shit btw)
You get a call from your friend who you work with that "she's tried to like you but doesn't". (she also works with me btw), I've heard nothing from her, or nothing since from anyone else at work.

Question is: am I screwed? if so, how to improve self, if not, what do?

Going to bend the rules here a bit and ask the same gender a question.

Girls:
My depo shot wore off, and I'm about to have my period. This will be the second period I've had in close to two years. I can tell it's going to be a bad one.

What can I do to make it as comfortable as possible? I'm not used to getting periods anymore.

>>17463189
I had my first period in a year three days ago.
Ibuprofen. Keep your back and your belly warm. Rest. Have chocolate in the house. Make sure you have pads and tampons (I didn't. It wasn't fun at all).

>>17463168
I'm younger than your girl and can't relate to the situation, but for what it's worth, I think the best indicator is to look how much agency and self awareness she shows in other areas. If she can give herself a kick in the ass to step up her game in one area of life, she can do it in another.

The main point is that it's less about discipline etc - because you can be really disciplined and ambitious in say your work field, but not in your personal appearance. But it is the ability to assess yourself frankly and realize that you are slacking, or that there's something to life you never quite got around to doing/learning to cope with.
Also, she needs at least some base level of pride in her looks to be likely to be motivated to work out just to be tighter and fitter (as opposed to not being obese anymore or something).

>>17463169
What is this, fifth grade? Why is her friend telling you this, is she that cowardly?

Either way, yeah, I think you're screwed. Not sure if you included all details but no concrete progress in five dates is pretty discouraging. That doesn't mean there's something wrong with you, though, just the combination of the two of you (to her at least).

>>17463168
I have been a sad sack of shit for 10 years (health issues at first, then laziness). A year ago I started walking a hour a day. Then I started jogging. It sucked dicks at the beginning, but I enjoyed it at the end.
Be supportive and offer to do things together - my mom got back to exercise with Pokemon GO and a Fitness bracelet.

Girls

Have you ever had a bf who couldn't cum from blowjobs, and that you managed to somehow fix/change? What did you do?

>>17463198
This. Don't underestimate the rest, even though everyone says exercise is best.

Don't take too many ibuprofen pills at once but leave 4 hours between each one. Hot pads! Drink water. Don't eat shit. Except for chocolate. Seriously, chocolate helps. Dark chocolate though.

Also, foreplay is fun. Orgasms make the cramping worse.

>>17463224
My boyfriend couldn't come from blowjobs.
Other than improving my skills in general, I mainly played with fantasies and role plays he enjoys. I dirty talk to him right before sucking him off. I also tease him a lot before even starting the blowjob (licking his balls as I jerk him off, etc).

Girls
I want to gift a girl, that im kinda dating (she is sadly still unsure where our whole relationship is moving, if she sees a future in me or not etc) self baked cookies to show i like and care about her. We know each other for 5 months and went on several dates.
How would you respond in general and in this specific context to such small gifts?

>>17463286
I think it's a sweet gesture but not appropriate for the situation. If she has her doubts it is likely to make her feel more guilty than anything else. This is more a honeymoon phase gift because of the time and thought that went into it.

Girls and guys

Would it be a mistake if I completely block out girls (dating/sex) and just fully focus on a career that will take me multiple years to achieve?

>>17463664
Maybe, maybe not.
This is dice rolling, if you are a person who hangs on the past you'll wonder what if no matter what you do. Make the decision and and know there are pros and cons, you can also switch any time you want in this case.

Probably asked a billion times, but how often are women really "too tired" and not just straight up disinterested?

I totes understand that this question has no one answer as all women are different, but its something I've always been curious about but not really willing to ask because it seems like an asshat question.

>>17463695

I would rather this career over ever having sex ever again

>>17463730

I would say 30% of truth and 70% bullshit. Sure I drive to work, work, quickly hit the gym but I have enough energy to go at it at the night with my boyfriend 5 times a week. There are times when I am asked to work late and then I am totally exhausted because my schedule is pushed back 2 hours but other than that good to go.

Most of the time my girlfriends always say they are just not in the mood or feel disgusted either in themselves or their partner.

>>17463736
Then make it your priority.
Priorities are the most important thing to know when making a decision, it avoids many traps including lying to yourself.
Set your priorities straight and live by them.

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>>17463742
>Tfw your wife talks to her girlfriends about how disgusted she is in your body, hence why you never have sex like you used to.

>>17463751

Question, how often do you two have sex and was it compared to when you were younger?

>>17461672
"It's that time of the month" is fine. Unless she was a werewold, in which case i hope she'd be less vague.

Girls

This is a add on to a previous question. But, would it be a red flag if a 28 year old guy (I'm 25 now, will be 28 when I finish) has never had a girlfriend before, and only had sex twice? I've been so wrapped up in job related things and career switching I haven't even cared to get involved with girls and sex. If I want to go that route once I complete everything, Is it even worth it at my stage?

Girls

Birthday gift from boyfriend of 3+ years?

Girls:

Is it not the right thing to do if you're interested in someone and they're seemingly interested in you and you then ask if they are via text? I posted a greentext and I was getting shitted on because that's seen as a beta thing to do. I just wanted to be sure about it and she was in Europe on vacation. I would've asked her in person but wouldn't that make getting denied worse?

>>17460749
100 pounds? How tall are you? Going from obese to anorexic isn't good. Remember fitness isn't just about fat either you should have muscle too

girls

why do you start something with a dude, go back to your ex
yet tell that dude that you like being with him that he makes you feel something you have not felt with your bf and that this clearly shows shes missing something in her relationship?

Girlfriend basically wants a break. I'm absolutely gutted, but it's not because I'm losing her. I feel like there's now a huge void in my brain, like she took up a lot of my thinking and now I don't know what to do or what to think about. Like now I can focus on my own life but I don't really want to. What the fuck is happening, how long does it take for this feeling to fade

>>17463936
It is a little beta
You need to be a little more subtle next time. When youre interested in a girl, flirt with her. Bluntly tell her she's attractive. Take what you want.

Guys and girls:

alright so do I have issues and should I see a therapist?

if you touch my neck, my shoulders, or just grab me in any way and I'm not expecting it, I instantly see red and go 0-100 rage(but I've never hit anyone or tried to). But I calm down pretty instantly if I turn and see who it is and I know the person/they're a friend, or I see they meant it in a friendly way.

I haven't been abused but have been in some bad situations. I don't think this rage is particularly normal but isn't it also common sense ?don't touch people on the neck if you aren't intimate with them? And don't grab people if you don't know them?

>>17464234
>I instantly see red and go 0-100 rage
>(but I've never hit anyone or tried to).
Yeah, you've invented this retarded little "mythos" for yourself. You don't actually get angry. You just decided one day that you /should/ get angry but you can't even commit to that.

You're being a faggot and need to stop being such an insufferable faggot.

>>17464242
What are you talking about? I don't hit people because nobody's ever deserved it. I did try and hit someone one time but they went at me first and that cunt deserved it.

Alright so how are you suggesting I get rid of this 'mythos ' or whatever the fuck you mean?

>>17464249
You don't hit people because you're not in a fucking rage, you dunce. When you're in a fucking rage, you don't concern yourself with whether or not they "deserve it".

I also told you. You just make the conscious decision to stop being a fucking insufferable faggot. You already make the conscious decision to not hit people when you're "in a rage" so just make the conscious decision not to "get angry" when someone touches you.

>>17464254
well I haven't been cheated on so that would be the only thing that would make me lose control.

I still don't think I made a decision to 'get angry' because really, I would have 'chosen' to get angry at something else that happened easily this week but I didn't. People don't really touch me that often so I think I would have picked something else. I was thinking it was related to previous things that happened in my life.

Well anyway I'll try and remind myself that it's silly to get angry over this so thanks for that

>>17463224
No, I have the opposite problem, oral sex does little for me