Looking for some help. I start school I'm a few days and

First day jitters. It happens to everyone. You'll be fine.

>>17450148
No its not. It's not first day jitters at all. It literally cripples me and keeps me awake at night. I had this problem last year except it was every other day (split schedule) because in one of my classes I had no friends so I had no one to build my ego up.

>>17450129
Dont take meds. Fix your problems naturally. Take up exercise, go out more, expose yourself. Meds are a temp solution.

Sounds like you are just naturally anxious. Try not to worry abd realize worrying is normal, even at your level. Its just a case in how you cope.

>>17450154
But will it help me for the time being to take meds? If I could take meds for a month, I'd be comfortable in the social situations since I knew the people and wouldn't feel uncomfortable.

>>17450154
Also that "naturally fix it" bullshit doesn't work. I'm pretty attractive, so that's not a problem, but I just can't get out of my comfort zone. I always tell myself "do it, just do it. Get out of you're comfort zone" but my fear always fucking cripples me and I can never do it.

>>17450168
That's how addicts are born, anon.

>>17450172
Meds can have a very dangerous long term effect on your health and become addictive. Its not bullshit its the truth.

Sorry to say but you are on here and saying you are attractive, i have doubts. Attractive people get positive feedback fron others which lessens anxiety. Also you sound terribly young.

I will put it simple. Telling yourself to do sonething does jack. You either do it or you dont. That is entirely up to you and makinf excuses over your behaviour will do nothing. A good first step is stop browsing the internet so much and get out of the house more. Second is to stop wanking if you do as that can hit your mental functioning a bit, including confidence.

>>17450184
No no, I don't think I worded it properly originally. Sorry for the confusion. I want to go to the doctor, get diagnosed, and get it prescribed to me. No illegal shit or abuse shit.

>>17450188
Getting diagnosed and using a prescription doesn't shield you from becoming an addict. How do you think people get addicted to pain killers?

>>17450192
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>>17450154
You guys really just don't understand. I'll give more info. I'm 18, I've had this problem since 8th grade. Even if the teacher calls out my name in a silent room to pick up something or something like that my face turns into a tomato and I sweat. I used to be semi popular but in sophomore year because of my worsening problem I lost most my friends because of social awkwardness, most of them being my girl friends. I want to let my mom know about my problem, she can monitor my pills or something so I don't become an abuser. I've been struggling with this forever, I always read self help shit and everything you guys are saying I've read and tried. "Admitting my problem" doesn't help me feel better, and I can't get out of my comfort zone. I just cant. I also realize that my problem is silly and at the core, there's nothing to worry about and everyone worries. None of that shit helps. I can't face this alone please help.

>>17450188
The fact you want to get diagnosed for meds shows you want to avoid responsibility to change and grow and use meds as a crutch. That wont work. Just fix yoursrlf.

>>17450206
Ok let me ask you this. Do you play video games excessively? Do you watch porn a lot? How often do you get yourself off?

Whats your hobbies? You must be leaving something out. What started this spiral of decline?

We cant help you we can only advice. You seem adamant on saying "I cant do anything". Rubbish. There are so many people like you who refuse to actually DO something so you teach yourself to be helpless. We cant force you to get off your big ass and get over your anxiety, no book, no one but you.

>>17450209
How? Why are you even on here you give terrible advice. I can't just fix myself I've been trying for years my problem just grows. How do I fix my mental health using mental tricks if my mind is in a shit state? Why do you people think taking meds is such tabu? People with depression take meds. They don't have this medicine for no reason, a few years ago when my problem was even tame I casually mentioned it during a doctor's appointment. The doctor brought up anxiety meds but I refuses because the problem wasn't huge at the time. If I have to use medicine as a crutch to become normal for once in my fucking life I'll do it. And how does me wanting to check with my doctor to see if I'm OK for meds show I avoid responsibilty? It shows that I am responsible for checking with a doctor and not just doing illegally and unsupervised.

>>17450224
You arent reading what we are saying and clearly have made up your mind. You have set yourself on a very lonely and dangerous path but good luck. But kids like yourself are in for a hard reality check when you realize only you can fix your problems despite gaining validation from a doctor.

>>17450215
Don't play a lot of video games, I do jack off a bit too much, maybe every other day. Don't watch a lot of porn. Hobbies are hanging out with friends, running (I know that's kinda gay), video games (not excessively ), and watching movies. I really don't know what started it. It was almost like an overnight thing. This is why I'm posting here. I'm honestly concerned for my mental health. I'm not just a friendless neckbeard, on the outside I seem like I'd be a normal person but God I'm always so fucking nervous and socially phobic.

>>17450231
>you haven't read what we said
Did you miss the part where I said everything you guys have said I have tried time and time again and nothing helps?

Ignore what the shitters are saying, OP. Anxiety is a disorder and it won't fix itself. Go see a doctor, but be aware that meds don't "cure" you, therapy does. Also, anxiety disorders rarely exist on their own: there's usually another disorder that accompanies it, usually depression.

>>17450231
Dude you give shit advice lmao.
>"My crippling depression consumes me, no matter what I do I'm still fucking sad. Should I take antidepressants?"
>"NO YOU WILL BECOME AN ADDICT MEDS ARE EVIL THE DOCTOR DOESN'T KNOW WHAT HE'S SAYING STAY SAD YOU ARE ON AN EVIL PATH REEEEEEEE"

>>17450242
I think I might have depression too. I stay up a lot fantasizing about a better life. It gets me pretty sad sometimes. Thank you, I know you didn't say a lot but you really helped, and you actually understand my problem.

>>17450249
Should probably rephrase that. I don't just get sad sometimes. A lot of times in school I start getting down in the dumps when I think about my problem

>>17450247
You didnt answer the question on your hobbies and you are being pretty dismisive in your posts. What we daid is true, the whole drug industry is a business and a lot are dangerously addictive. That is the truth. You are a fool though and need a lot of growing up.

>>17450254
Yes I did. I can tell your skimming through, hence why you give such bad advice. Read again then come back.

>>17450235
Here's the post for you smart one, try reading it this time?
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>>17450235
Sorry I missed this. Well you ignored all the advice we gave and became hostile. You only calmed down when someone gave you advice which agreed with you. You do have issues but anxiety isnt one, you just need to grow up. You wank too much, that has proven to increase anxiety and confidence. But suit yourself.

>>17450257
How old are you?

>>17450265
All of you are ignoring the fact that I'VE TRIED EVERYTHING YOU GUYS HAVE SUGGESTED. I have said this at least 5 times so far Jesus christ. Some problems are more than thinking through it.

>"hey anons I have a problem"
>"Well stop having that problem"
>"nice I'm cured!"

>>17450249
Not him but I had very severe depression when I was 19-20 that caused me to drop out of college. I saw a psychiatrist, got meds and got into therapy. The other anon is right, meds don't solve the problem. They just take the edge off so you have more room to work through your issues in therapy. For me therapy was extremely difficult and were it not for my family refusing to allow me to stop I probably would have. But I stuck with it and cured my disease and got off meds even though it still takes work to control, now 7 years later.

Get treatment

>>17450266
18

>>17450249
First step is going to the doctor. Unlike the people here, they're trained professionals and know what they're talking about. However, like I said, meds don't cure you. You have to go to a therapist and work on whatever issues you have. Meds really are just a crutch, but they'll help get over your issues temporarily so you can get real help

>>17450265
>You wank too much, that has proven to increase anxiety and confidence.
Link to a study of this or I call bullshit.

I'm sorry for getting hostile with everyone in this thread. You guys are just trying to help. It's just so hard and I hate myself so fucking much. I won't take meds, I'm going to start seeing a therapist or talk to a family member . Sorry for getting mad, I'm just super scared.
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>>17450280
There's nothing really wrong with meds so long as you take them provisionally until you feel you've worked out your issues in therapy, and you get a good therapist who wants to cure you instead of just collecting a check each week to hear about your day.

>>17450280
Actually before you guys go, how can I tell my mom about my problem. My mom doesn't have the faintest idea that anything is wrong with me so just randomly telling her I need to se a psychiatrist is going to be a bomb. I don't want to just go to one without telling her. First because I don't have money and two because I don't want her to be in the dark about this.

>>17450274
Check nofap. It has a few.