Husband isn't good in bed

>>17443770
Kill yourself. You should be happy he even stayed with your filthy whore ass, I would have kicked you to the kerb. Maybe he should fuck random other women behind your back, he might pick up some tips?

Leave him. Sex is obviously more important to you than the relationship. Your marriage has no future.

>>17443788
>>17443782
I never begged him not to leave me. I told him the truth, I knew I had betrayed his trust and if he wanted to be rid of me I understood and I wouldn't make it a nightmare divorce and that he'd always hold a special place in my heart.

I cried a bit but... Yeah I made sure none of what I said was with tears in my eyes.

So... Anyway... No tips on how to make him more aggressive in bed?

>>17443798
My tip remains the same. You are a horrible person, and with this it's even more obvious you don't give a fuck about him. Why would you expect someone to want to please you in bed if you've just cheated on them? Leave him, or kys. Preferably the latter so you can't fuck anyone elses lives.

>>17443798
I'm going to guess that a big part of the problem is that he knows you're a cheating where, so he can't help but think "how many other guys have railed her today" when he's fucking you. Unless he's a cuck, that kind of ruins the deal. I would suggest faking it until you're making it. Maybe once you've convinced him he's your God in bed he might improve. Of course, if he was always awful, that might not accomplish much. If a lack of experience is the issue you could maybe bring swinging into the mix. But only other women. Dudes dig three ways with chicks. And she'd have to be someone more willing to teach him.

>>17443806
Its been this way since before I cheated. T. put it the best, instead of addressing it there and then I ran off into another man's arms. I want to at least try to work through this because my hubby gave me this second chance so clearly he sees what, right now, I'm struggling to see. I feel it would be an even bigger betrayal to just up and leave after all he's done for me and I know this issue will come back to haunt us in the future.

I realise cheating doesn't give me a leg to stand on, but surely you realise a good sex life is crucial to a good marriage?

>>17443770
First off, fuck you for cheating on your husband.

Second off, fuck you for talking about trust when you're clearly not trustworthy yourself.

Thirdly, fuck you for being dissatsified. If anybody deserves to be dissatisfied it's your husband. Your husband is probably asking himself why he married a cheating whore.

I don't even want to give you advice. I just came in here to tell you that you're a selfish cunt, and probably don't deserve to be with anyone. I'm emotionally distant in most of my relationships because I'm afraid that the person I'm with will be like you. Please go buy a vibrator and literally go fuck yourself.

>b-b-b-bbut he makes meme happy
You probably don't make him happy anymore. He doesn't actually forgive you, and you'll probably cheat on him again soon, and then continue to blame it on his inadequacy in bed while asking yourself what is wrong with you like you're the one that has a real problem. Ever heard of communication?

>>17443770
Lol this post. Why is the west against Sharia again?

>People like this exist

Just end it all senpai

>>17443850
>Ever heard of communication?
There's always the direct approach. "Hey, hubby, ever wonder why I Fucked T? Here's why..." He'll either: take the hint and be more aggressive, decide to hate fuck the T out of you, or just plain hate you.

>>17443770
Literally kill yourself. You cheat on your guy who trusts you and then have the balls to complain about how he performs in bed? You're literally a living meme, Stacy. Jump off a building, promptly. I hope no kid has to ever suffer a mother like you.

I would say divorce, but your husband is going to get fucked in the ass so hard you might as well just split and die under a bridge if you have any ounce of care for him and remorse (which you probably don't since you sucked another man's dick behind his back).

>>17443848
You're not from the US. What country are you from?

>>17443822
Ugh... I had a whole looong response typed out for you but I accidentally didn't copy paste it from quick reply to normal reply(quick reply is broken on adv for me) so I'll just try to greentext stuff(and probably fail, I ramble).

>cheating whore

Thanks. I only had an affair with T. it was the first time I've ever been unfaithful in a relationship and I hope he believes that.

>cuck

This brings up an interesting point about fetishes. My hubby used to watch LOADS of porn(Funnily enough, his porn history was how I found 4chan lol) before I decided to start getting in shape. Now he barely watches any and what he does watch is usually teen stuff and school/student/teacher stuff.

Do you think if I maybe buy some stuff to look like the porn he watches it'll have the desired effect?

>swinging

Just feels like a bad idea with the fact we almost got a divorce over cheating.

>faking it
>he was always awful

I'd feel really guilty plus yeah, he's never been good in bed I just had never had good sex before T.

>lack of experience

I dunno... I feel it might just be a physical thing? He's an engineer who's hobby is vidya and TV shows, T. was a community social worker who's hobbies were boxing and soccer.

He's also not a very domineering person so that might mean he doesn't feel comfortable treating me certain ways in the bedroom.

>>17443868
This has got to be bait. Someone cannot be as oblivious to believe they can just take back what you did. I pity your husband, I really do. You don't love him.

>>17443848
> I feel it would be an even bigger betrayal to just up
I'm honestly beginning to think this a financial thing with you more than anything.
You seem very insincere.

Most marriage counselors would tell you that most marriages don't survive cheating. Those that due have a significant decrease in satisfaction.

All I can say is start over, you messed up, and if you truly love him and your not some greedy bitch mooching off him.

Then know you're no good for him. Leave him, and be his friend. That's the best thing you can do for him.

>>17443848
>T. put it the best, instead of addressing it there and then I ran off into another man's arms

And T forced you to tell your husband of the affair or you would never have done that. That tells me you never really wanted to fix the sexual issue with your husband and doubt your commitment going forward.

Sounds like you go for the easiest route to solve issues. Not satisfied with husbands sexual performance-fuck someone else. Oops, forced to admit I cheated and the easiest route for you is to stay with him, divorce too hard so you kick the can down the road.

Stop leaching off your husband

>>17443868
>Thanks. I only had an affair with T. it was the first time I've ever been unfaithful in a relationship and I hope he believes that.

What if I told you, I only killed one man in my life, that doesn't make me a murder?
What if I told you, I only fucked a girl in the butt, I'm still a virgin?

Neither of these arguments hold up. A cheater is a title you will live with for the rest of your life.

>Do you think if I maybe buy some stuff to look like the porn he watches it'll have the desired effect

I think if you developed your personality and become less shallow, you might save your marriage.

>Just feels like a bad idea with the fact we almost got a divorce over cheating.

And yet you sound open to the idea. Like I said before, you don't seem sorry that you cheated, you seem sorry that you got caught.

I don't think you believe you did anything wrong. First of all that's were you need to start, you need acknowledge that you are in the wrong here.

My family has a long line of prenuptial marriages, the reason being to make it very clear that even in the eyes of the law, cheating won't be tolerated.
My point being, if a court would say you were in the wrong, then you are in the wrong.

>I'd feel really guilty
But not about cheating huh?

>He's also not a very domineering person
It sounds like you want a boyfriend, not a husband.

You know some people don't mature until their 40s, maybe you're still just a little kid on the inside, incapabale of making informed decisions.

You need to develope your self more.

If you have children, stay until they are grown. If not, leave.

My parents stopped fucking early on, but they were otherwise chill and hung out peacefully until self and sister were grown. They parted friends. My father was obviously getting laid on the side and my asexual mother didn't mind. They were smart people and enjoyed their children. (We turned out successful, smart, and stable.)

Staying together in a permanently incomplete relationship is stupid if you have no children obligating you and marriage is a piece of paper.

You asked your question on a board filled with the angriest young men in the world so don't expect much useful advice.

If it's orgasms you need and will otherwise settle, become an expert masturbater. This isn't odd, and most marriages become sexless earlier than the youngsters here imagine. Many are happy because sex with another person is work compared to easier ways to cum. The point of sex is orgasm. Orgasm does not, at all, require another person. People with little relationship experience coupled (pun intended) with youthful desperate horniness crave other humans to fuck. Get beyond that.

Some people are dead fucks. You married before figuring that out which was stupid. Live together for many years before shackling yourself so you KNOW what you are getting into.

You can masturbate so much you eventually don't care about fucking because you can't cum anymore. Sex is a chore we are wired by evolution to enjoy. It's no more spiritual than taking a shit. I'm a skilled fuck, hung, and look good for my age but don't care about getting another woman after my wife died. I have a life instead. Even a long loving marriage as mine was still takes WORK and never fool yourself.

Women usually trade sex for attention. Decide if you want one or the other. Is the roughness you want really attention? You can take care of the orgasms easily and get the attention in other ways since you say you love him.

>>17443872
This is why you always sign a prenupt before you marry.
If she really loves you, then she won't get ass hurt if money's not involved.

If I were your husband, I'd kill you.
Writing this made me really scared of myself since I believe I really have the capacity for something like this, what have you done to me you whore?

>>17443890
>>17443770

This guys got a point, you need to grow up lady.
You have the mind of 16 year old girl.

>>17443770
Why not just divorce him. Usually I would just pop in and throw an insult but I think you've had enough of that. If sex means so much to you why not just sleep around without any attachments. Youre clearly not ready for commitment.

Or turn your husband into a cuck, he kinda already is one honestly.

>captcha INAIL

>>17443848
>good sex life is crucial to a good marriage?
I disagree, but that's from my relationship stand point.

I however am very domineering to my spouse.
Not sexually, but authority wise.
A man should act like a man.

That being said, a women should act like a women, submissive and LOYAL.
You need both, otherwise it's not worth the effort to take care of someone like that.

>>17443868
You need to leave him. Not just because your a disgusting slut (yea cheating even once makes you a filthy fucking slut. You got married. You promised him infront of everyone you know and love you would be faithful. You broke that promise.) But also so he gets a chance to find someone that is truthful and honest to their core someone that instead of straying because the sex wasn't great communicated that and actively tried to improve it. Instead you jumped ship because you didn't know any better ? Wow that is a pathetic excuse.. I dont think you should kill yourself. I think everyone makes mistakes but the only way to rectify yours is to leave him and or help.him find someone worth his time and love. I don't think anything you do will ever make up for how you completly broke his trust and nor should it.

>>17443896
>If I were your husband, I'd kill you.

That means you are emotionally weak and over-invest in other humans. Killing someone over pussy then going to prison to become pussy is illogical and stupid. Throwing your life away over a tantrum indicates you need to live alone with your permanent underlying anger. Philosophy, get some.

I'll fuck you I love married women

Oh boy... Here goes... Okay.

>>17443850
Like >>17443860 said I just worry saying "Hey this is why I ended up having an affair" will destroy his confidence and make this all even harder for him. If you have a way I should do it(Kinda why I'm here) I'd love to hear it because communication probably is the best approach.

>>17443864
I do love my husband and I made clear if he wanted to divorce me I would make it as painless for him as I could. He decided he didn't because he still loved me, which is why I'm here trying to figure out how I can really make this work instead of just waiting for the exact same thing to happen a few years down the line because I never addressed the issues that started this mess.

>>17443865
I am from the US.

>>17443874
If it was a financial thing I'd say he hit me after he found out about the affair and take every penny his career has given him. My mother did it to my father, my sister did it to my ex-brother in law and I have NO intention to do it to him.

>Then know you're no good for him

So you're saying get a divorce even if that's not what he wanted?

As for all this talk about financial stuff, I have the qualifications to get a decent paying job if I wanted to. It was his choice, again, for me to give up my career and support him in his I did so and, like I said, he's made me not regret it.

>>17443877
He chose to stay with me... I do love him and he does love me. I want to try and fix the valid problems you've all brought up and I'm here to ask how.


To be honest, every reply I type, two more posts are made and I can't keep up.

It seems everyone thinks I should get a divorce. I don't want a divorce, I didn't get married because I wanted a divorce so getting one because I cheated, even though my hubby has forgiven me, feels odd.

And all this talk about me being ruined as a person, suicide being the best option, being too childish to stay married...

Maybe I'll just ask him why he doesn't want a divorce, he's home atm anyway.

>>17443903
>I however am very domineering to my spouse.

Choosing a weakling who likes that is a logical fit. Never assume what works for you is universal though.

My late wife was intelligent, capable as any man (and often more capable than most), a highly skilled aircraft and motorcycle mechanic, and a good NCO. No domineering required because I'd never marry or date someone I have to do the thinking for. I don't need, respect, or want anyone who is mentally or emotionally weak.

If more people figured out at you and I did PRECISELY what we want in a spouse the world would be a better place.

>>17443920
>Maybe I'll just ask him why he doesn't want a divorce, he's home atm anyway.

He's relatively young and afraid to be lonely is my bet. He may or may not be able to convey this.

Omg I still don't understand what the big deal is. Me and my best friend are married and our wives are best friends as well. I fucked his wife cause I know he's terrible in bed and acts like a pussy towards her even though I tell him that's why she doesn't like sex with you and doesn't respect you. It's a shame you fucked another pussy that would kiss and tell. It's none of his fucking business that you are married if it really bothered him he should have just cut ties and moved on with his life. Sorry honey I know it's possible to cheat and still love your spouse in fact when done responsibly it can be helpful to your marriage.

>>17443920
>So you're saying get a divorce even if that's not what he wanted?

Yes, it's the responsible thing to do.
That is if you are trying to be an adult.

>If it was a financial thing I'd say he hit me after he found out about the affair and take every penny his career has given him. My mother did it to my father, my sister did it to my ex-brother in law and I have NO intention to do it to him.


I think now, we are getting to the underlying issue.

It seems that you have been raised to not hold a high value on marriages. From what it sounds like you come from a long line of women who don't treat their husbands with respect.

You can't be blamed for not having common sense then, you were never taught it.

Though my argument remains the say, you need to develop your personality.

Anyone can get laid, but can you make strong meaningful relationships?

T. was a good guy for forcing you to take responsibility. He was an adult. If you weren't going to do the right thing, he was gonna man up and tell your husband the truth.

I really believe that you would benefit from just taking time to develop yourself emotionally. Sex is not the end all be all. I'm sorry to say.

>>17443927
This is also true more often than those who disagree with it care to admit. (MANY people are illogically invested that THEIR way is the ONLY way.)

There are many long happy swinger marriages (that's one end of the spectrum) and may with swinging now and then. The world has billions of humans with billions of useful choices.

>>17443937
Dang I wish I could talk to you one on one. I'm currently having an affair but my mistress is being extremely confusing. Stop responding to all those other people they are just gonna tell you to divorce. Let's talk

>>17443924
well that's just a personality quark.
I demand obedience from pretty much everyone.

It's what made me a manager at my first job in high-school, it's what made me a board member at my Universities research department.

Not that I cared about teaching people things, or even cared about helping anyone, but that if I did not have command I would not feel satisfied.

You'd be surprised to find that the world can be pretty black and white sometimes, some people want to lead some just want to follow.

Just how the world spins.

And I'll spoil the surprise for you, I did have to do therapy for awhile, the results of that was silly and unimportant, but overall i'm actually a pretty sane dude.

>>17443913
Well I suppose its worth saying when we first got married I was kind of(very) out of shape. I hated my body and I didn't have half a clue about how to be an all round bombshell like some of my relatives(He's actually commented on how hot my sister and mother are, he even did so before I got in shape). We were having sex maybe once every two weeks and, like I said before, it sucked and he was watching tons of porn.

Eventually, thanks to you guys here on /adv/ a few months ago, I stopped the year long cycle of feeling sorry for myself and started using my free time to work out, eat healthy and learn how to use makeup to bring out my best features. Like I said, we've had way more sex but it was never good sex. He just humps and dumps me like before, but now he tells me how sexy and beautiful I am after he's jizzed on me after three minutes.

T. started talking to me at the gym, and well... Yeah, I had an affair. Did I feel guilty? No. In hindsight I kinda think it was revenge for how he made me feel so inadequate compared to his porn and my mother and sister. Do I feel guilty now? Yes. If you guys have this much hate for me, a woman you've never met, I don't know how bad he must be feeling.

I think this thread maybe is right though. Maybe I owe it to him to let him find someone less shitty than me. You were right last time after all.

>>17443944
Little faggot desperate for pussy?

>>17443946
>This much trying to justify the worst betrayal a woman can commit against a man
>Trying to blame it all on your husband

Truly I cannot understand what kind of mental gymnastics someone has to do to make themselves believe this

>>17443927
Your friend needs to develop himself emotionally, this is not healthy behavior.

>>17443896
>If I were your husband, I'd kill you.
wew, dont cut yourself on that edge m8

>>17443946
Don't let these people make you feel bad. They are jealous. If you leave him you will hurt him more. and will be leaving him for self serving purpose. I have an affair going on with my wife's best friend and I am still happily married and I know that my mistress hates sex with her husband but can tolerate being around him now.

>>17443937
>MANY people are illogically invested that THEIR way is the ONLY way

Yes, that being said you're out of your mind if you don't think swingers have martial problems of their own.

They often feel used or unloved. There have been many cases were one partner had openly expressed a desire to close their relationship but their partner refused.

Life doesn't have simple solutions. That being said, most swingers would benefit by developing themselves emotionally. This is inherently unhealthy behavior, and counterproductive.

The simple answer is, ask your husband what he wants and expects out of the marriage before moving ahead with anything else. Attend some counselling sessions together. If your kids are of an age where they can look after themselves in most situations, go back to getting a job and doing something else with your life.

It is also likely that your husband has chosen to stay with you because he was looking to cheat, or has already cheated himself. Whatever the case, it sounds like he hasn't felt sexual attraction to you for a very long time. You may have to commit to a sexless marriage, or even do a "separation under one roof" thing where you have separate bedrooms, co-parent your kids, split bills and otherwise lead separate lives.

Wow for a thread about trying to get more out of the bedroom I didn't think it'd make me feel like this.

>>17443932
Develop myself emotionally?

How do you mean?

>>17443926
If this is his reason, or at least seems like his reason, should I tell him I'd happily help him find someone better than me?

Is OP a landwhale?

>>17443961
>>17443770

AGAIN THIS ANON REPEATS THE ANSWER!

You need to develop yourself emotionally!

You know as a man, being cheated on isnt the worst of the problem, the next time hes having sex with you he wont be able to stop picturing you in bed with T and that is gon last forever.

>>17443949
No far from it I'm just confused cause my mistress is confusing AF. There's a lot going on between us distance, sex, snapchats, texts, our spouses, and lack of sex from distance.

I feel like T is black.... And well... Once you go black, you never go back

>>17443976
Noo if it was a black dude I can't root for you anymore lol I'm not racist but... Eww

OP tell me more about what mr.t use to do in the bedroom.

Was that your only affair? If you had a good connection with someone actually liked them saw them on a regular basis would that be the only person you cheat on your husband with or would you just kinda fuck whatever became available. I know I shouldn't care but if my mistress had sex with anyone besides me (and her husband of course lol) I would feel more cheated on than if my wife cheated lol I guess it's because what we have is so intense and intimate because of the secrecy that it makes it feel really special, that and if anything were to happen (say we both became divorced or something) I would marry her In a heart beat. Whew needed that off my chest. Do you think she feels the same way or am I just a crutch for her bad sex life. When I can't be there (we all moved apart but still get to see each other about twice a year) do you think she finds someone else?

>>17443970
yep, while some men are turned on by other men fucking their wife most men it's a mood killer.

>>17443977
T. is (half)black.

>>17443965
I used to be "skinny-fat" with most of my weight in my legs and gut.

I'm now just slim and the fittest I've ever been.

>>17443961
I don't have kids, my husband just didn't want me to have a job whilst he was working. He makes more than enough to support us both.

>Hubby cheating
I was worried he cheated on me before I started taking my body image and health into my own hands. He might have, I never had the confidence to ask because I kind of felt he deserved better than me sometimes.

>Counselling sessions
I might ask him what you said I should ask(instead of asking why he didn't divorce me) and suggest it in that conversation.

>>17443964
>How do you mean?
Well, it's more of a long journey.
You honestly only know if your doing it wrong.

I can give you some readings, and no it's not the fucking bible.
That shit never helped anyone.

but the main idea is develop your empathy.
To develop a strong sense of personal responsibility.
Learning to not blame others but understand that you, yourself are responsible for the outcomes.

If you want to start developing your empathy the first step on that path I'd recommend is baby's guide to understanding people.

How to Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie
-The short end of it is nobody wants to be wrong
-You can't really win an argument.
-Everyone is inherently an asshole especially you, and especially me.

The book is a good way to get a basic idea on how people function.

Then i'd recommend the dialogues of Plato volume 1.
-There's a bunch of shit in there about right and wrong, and whether you agree with them or not you need to expose yourself to different viewpoints.

When you feel ready start moving into stoic philosophy. I can't tell you how to develop yourself,
Only you really know. I know what worked for me, and I prospered because of it.

Basically the best way to develop yourself emotionally is to learn how to deal with stress, how to understand people and mainly how nothing is black and white.
You know your on the right path if you begin to actually wonder if anyone is really right.
The short answer is no, nothing matters, so why not just be nice to people so that you can live comfortably.
Or at least that is the truth i've found.

Everyone sucks, whether they know it or not. Somehow, that brings me comfort, we are all on equal footing because of how inherently shitty we all are as people.
Granted I'm an asshole, but I am okay with this, I accept it. I embrace it. As a result, I am surrounded by people who love me for it.

This is just me spit balling though. It's up to you to find a path.

>>17444007
Was that your only affair? If you had a good connection with someone actually liked them saw them on a regular basis would that be the only person you cheat on your husband with or would you just kinda fuck whatever became available. I know I shouldn't care but if my mistress had sex with anyone besides me (and her husband of course lol) I would feel more cheated on than if my wife cheated lol I guess it's because what we have is so intense and intimate because of the secrecy that it makes it feel really special, that and if anything were to happen (say we both became divorced or something) I would marry her In a heart beat. Whew needed that off my chest. Do you think she feels the same way or am I just a crutch for her bad sex life. When I can't be there (we all moved apart but still get to see each other about twice a year) do you think she finds someone else?

>>17444007
>Counselling sessions
That would be a good way to develop yourself emotionally.

That is if you are serious about saving your doomed marriage.

>>17444007
Hubby cheating if he's that bad in bed why would you even care if he cheats he's just gonna go embarrass himself

>>17444024
Because she's not emotionally stable.

She doesn't yet realize that she's afraid of being alone.

In short, she needs to develop herself emotionally.

>>17443994
He used to put a leash on me and make me wear really slutty clothing and generally just manhandle me around the bedroom. Sometimes when I was giving him blow jobs he'd ask me "Who's a good girl?" and so I'd have to point to myself because my mouth was occupied. He really liked that kind of degrading stuff but he was always kind. I kind of wish my hubby would treat me like that because he's a similar size to T. and they both have a similar sense of humour and taste in things. Especially with the porn my hubby watches I'm sure he'd enjoy doing it to me if I dressed appropriately.

>>17443996
>>17444018

I can't tell if you want my advice or the other way around. I liked T. for a lot of the same reasons I liked my hubby, they're actually really similar people. I think that was why T. felt so strongly about ending the affair cause he said he felt like him and my husband would have been great friends had they ever met.

So would I marry T. if I was divorced to my hubby? No, because I feel he's too painfully similar to my husband.

Sorry... I'm not really the best person to ask anyway.

>>17444014
I reckon I could get into reading stuff... T. also said he thought I'd really benefit from spending time with people living shittier lives than me but I kinda just dismissed it as him being passionate about his work.

>>17444024
At the time I was worried he was bad in bed with me because he found me unattractive and was putting all his moves out for other women.

I realise though, after he started commenting on my figure and wanting sex daily, that he just wasn't really good at it.

I got the same fuckin' problem with my husband. He's a natural submissive and doesn't switch. I love this man as a best friend and partner but he just cannot give me what I desire as a hot blooded woman.

THANKFULLY because he is a sub I can cuck him.

And none of these fucking faggot losers will ever know what it's like until they've been chained down with someone whom they settled with because "well she has a decent personality" and eventually start eyeing up their busty coworkers. You're all fucking hypocrits, stay the fuck out of this with your insecurity. It's borderline cringeworthy.

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>>17443770
>Compared to the guy I had the affair with, who we'll call T. my hubby just sucks in bed. Where as T. made me feel like a woman at his mercy, my hubby makes me feel a woman doing their awkward friend a favour. He has no rhythm, he's weak and he just doesn't last. T. would pick me up, pin me down, fuck me against his walls and move me like a fuck toy, my hubby just does missionary and doggy style and kisses my neck.
Did you ever express to your husband you would like him to do these things. He can't tread your mind, you know?

>>17444037
Lol agreed Ima guy though married and have had an affair with my buddies wife... He is terrible in bed and a complete femnazi I told him that's why she doesn't respect you and doesn't like sex with you but he doesn't listen. He doesn't know.

>>17444034
>I reckon I could get into reading stuff... T. also said he thought I'd really benefit from spending time with people living shittier lives than me but I kinda just dismissed it as him being passionate about his work.

No, this was not T. being passionate about his work. Though he may have been.
T. was trying to help you develop yourself. Even he saw a flaw in your character.

and Yes, perspective is a good way to develop yourself in GENERAL.

If you really want to do that, volunteer at a soup kitchen, do charity work. Stay up to date on international news, learn that life is pretty shitty for most people and that you've got it pretty sweet all things considered.

You see you spent so much time worshiping yourself, you never really developed a sense of empathy.
You throw yourself pity parties, you believe your husband is at fault for you sexual hang ups.

You need to stop taking half measures. Cheating on your husband was just a band-aid.

Sure it covered up the issue, but from what it sounded like, you've always been insecure. Even after you worked out.

You wanted to feel desirable because you don't believe you were desirable.

It's going to take time to learn how to be human.

But as long as you actively work towards understanding yourself, understanding others, and developing a strong sense of personal responsibility you'll make it.

>>17444037
>chained down with someone whom they settled with because "well she has a decent personality"
You're saying this as if it's a good thing. That's a terrible relationship and anyone who has something like this is a wreck. And yeah, I can eye whoever I want just how my partner could do the same. But once someone cheats that person deserves to be spat on, called a whore and thrown out of your life.

Also
>you're an insecure hypocrite for calling out whores
lol, fuck off whore

>>17443770
Get money out of it and he may be ok with it.

I invited many guys to threesomes so my gf could have sex with them. I never told her that those guys are paying me to have sex with her. If you give him money he may let your whorish aso go.

>>17444034

yeah your husband he has an inner mr.T in him because 9 times out of 10, the husbands who wives cheat, watch hardcore porn but scared to play it out in the bed.

Anything else mr.T does?

Some men put women too high on a pedestal but women suppose to be submissive to a DOMINANT man.

Maybe you two should watch porn together, might help, your husband may be pissed but he should take notes from mr.T and respect him for making you confess.

>that picture
delete this

>>17444068
Wow dude... that's pretty intense.
Either you're a selfish bastered or you need to really work on improving yourself emotionally.

If you are a selfish bastered that would mean your self aware of how fucked this is, but you don't care because your getting something out of it.

If that's the case....well I can't say anything then.

>>17444037
I fucked my buddies wife because he is like that. He doesn't know. I tried to tell him to quit being a pussy and maybe his wife would respect him and actually like fucking him but he didn't listen and now I fucked his wife. I am married to and we are all best friends. I know y'all cuck so it's different but I really like my mistress and would be hurt if she had sex with anyone besides me (and her husband of course lol) we have a really good connection. Unfortunately my wife and I had to move 1000 miles away. However we all still see each other at least twice a year. Do you think I'm the only one or do you think she fucks others when I'm not there

>>17444037
>You're all fucking hypocrits, stay the fuck out of this with your insecurity.
There is no insecurity here. Her husband (and we) do not believe that she is cheating on him because of some bullshit like "oh maybe I am not good enough for her"
The slut IS cheating on him.

>>17444037
You've got some serious emotional hangups.

You need help from a therapist. Your husband does too, he may have abandonment issues.

>>17444075
She agrees because she's a slut. If she's going to be a slut at least I will take something out of it.
I won't do it for ever, I'll probably leave her once I collect some decent money (enough to pay for my emotional damage she does).

>>17443848
You're lucky he didn't leave you, knowing what I know about the evolutionary science of sex, I probably would. I think you should leave him alone. Tell him you'll be there for when he's ready to talk about everything. This isn't something that can be fixed overnight.

>>17444174
Okay, so your very aware of how fucked this all is.
So then...you just an asshole.
But she an asshole too.

You both assholes....but you do you I guess.

>>17443944
>It was his choice, again, for me to give up my career and support him in his I did so and, like I said, he's made me not regret it.

You BOTH made the choice. You aren't a passenger. Inaction is consent is a CHOICE. Fucking own every choice you make. ALL of them. You need to be deliberately aware to own choices.

>>17444175
>>17443770
This
You really shot yourself in the foot on this one. That's why T. didn't want to be part of this.

It's morally bankrupt and wrong.

>>17443945
I'm not surprised. In the .mil world I didn't hesitate to command and people thrive on following effective leaders.

>>17444076
That doesn't seem healthy.

>>17444186
Right?
People want to be told what to do.
It's not my fault that they need feel validated.

>>17444058
No because then he'd just be doing what T. does to me and every time we fucked it would be my hubby fucking me like T.

I want him to do it on his own volition but every time I asked about his fetishes he got uncomfortable and quiet and I didn't want to bring up the ones I knew because then I felt he'd get mad at me for invading his privacy(looking at his internet history is exactly that).

I'm not good at dirty talk either so I don't really know how I can sexily make him feel he can do anything he wants with me.

>>17444064
Do you think it would be as bad an idea as it feels to ask T. to help get me started on volunteering work?

And yeah, a lot of what you're saying is true. I feel as if my hubby found me sexy after I got in shape but something was missing. I never felt that way when I was having the affair.

>>17444070

Yes! I know my husband is into really depraved stuff he just never brings it to the bedroom.

I was thinking about using this tutorial to make my eyes look bigger and myself generally look more like a teenager and get my old school uniform(It fits again lol) but I was worried he'd realised I'd been looking through his computer and he gets really tetchy about that. This was a few weeks before I told T. about my husband and he made me tell my hubby about the affair so sex has just not been happening

>>17443770
even T wouldn't stay with a cheater and wished OP's puppy of a husband wouldn't either.

This marriage won't last. First time OP's husband finds another woman that will appreciate him he's out.

>>17443770
All you guys open your eyes. Your gf or wife starts hitting the gym suddenly, she's fucking someone else.

>>17444076
LDR fuck buddy situations ONLY work if you set boundaries where the buddies can fuck others or not as THEY see fit.

Anything else is CLINGY. Clingy is toxic.

>>17444193
>People want to be told what to do.
>It's not my fault that they need feel validated.

It gets shit done, like, um, most of civilization. If they weren't content they'd tell you to bite a fart.

As a leader it pays to KNOW what they think but not let the monkey boss the organ grinder.

>>17444196
you're just upset T stopped fucking you. By asking him you want it to resume.

You mentioned you initially did not feel guilty why do you now?

>>17444196
>I told T. about my husband
why did you do that? were you wanting something more with T and hoped he would help you get out of your marriage?

It takes two and OPs husband may well be a porn addict.

The ethical thing is to have an ADULT conversation. Not one talking and the other listening and drooling, a CONVERSATION.

That might facilitate better choices.

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>>17443891
Little clue: prenups don't count for shit when children are involved.

She can still get custody of the child, and the court can order up to 65% of your income in child support. Prenup or no prenup.

>>17444212
read the thread. no kids

>>17444196
>Do you think it would be as bad an idea as it feels to ask T. to help get me started on volunteering work?

Yes, it is a bad idea.
you have to do this on your own. It's a personal journey.

A general rule of thumb is, if it makes you feel icky or bad, than you are doing something wrong. You feel wrong about asking T. to help you because it is wrong.

This poor guy has to deal with the fact that he may have ruined a marriage because of you. Maybe you might not understand how that would affect him, because you haven't developed an understanding of consequences yet, but in time you will understand.

If T. was just your friend and not a former lover it would be fine.

You screwed yourself on that one. You have to go it alone, it won't be easy.

I am seriously warning you not to flock to T.

You'll end up back at square one. You'll end up being with T. then cheating on him because you didn't fix your personal hang ups. It's always going to end the same until you deal with your issues.

And if he's as cool as a guy as your making him seem, he wouldn't want to help you. You gotta do this on your own.

This is your personal journey.
Your gonna have to learn to help yourself.

You don't love your husband. You think you do, but you don't.

Sure you may love the fact he's great with the kids, easy going, holds a decent job, pretty good cook? Sure these things are great. How convenient for you.

But the man himself you do not love. I feel sorry for him. It's woman like you why I'm always doubting and paranoid about my relationships. You should end your life.

>>17444206
>You mentioned you initially did not feel guilty why do you now?

Maybe because she's slowly learning to take responsibility for her actions.

We can only hope she is.

>>17444226
OP duped T like she did her husband. Both stand up guys but she slithered her way in

>>17444236
>>17444226
This DESU, I understand why T. didn't want to be part of this shit.

>>17444206
>why do you now?
This thread. Look at how people who don't even know me feel? I can't imagine what I've put him through or why he's even still with me or whether he'll even stay with me in the long run.

I think the amount of time I was spending alone meant I was rationalising my actions in ways that, if there were someone to listen to me, they'd react the way this thread has reacted.

>upset T stopped
I can't lie... Yes I am but only for the sex.

>>17444226
Yeah I'll steer clear...

>>17444212
Hey
I want to know how exactly divorce work.
Let's say my wife has more money than me. Do I get her money?

>>17444253
doesn't work that way anon. It might mean you will pay less alimony or none at all but you don't get a payday if the wife makes more.

>>17444255
even if we have no children?
Well, fuck.

Maybe if we have children and I get the custody?

>>17444251
>Yeah I'll steer clear...

I have to go to work now.

Just remember, if it feels wrong, it's because it probably is wrong.

If your serious about devolving yourself emotionally, you're gonna come across a lot of harsh truths.

Just keep pushing on, and remember above all things, you are responsible for your actions, you are responsible for the outcomes because of your actions.

Your actions will affect other people, and yes not everything is your fault but most things are.

In time you'll learn what is and isn't your fault.

But spoiler most things are your fault.
We are mostly responsible for how are lives turn out.

Good Luck, try not give up before you even try.

>>17444251
>>why do you now?
>This thread. Look at how people who don't even know me feel? I can't imagine what I've put him through or why he's even still with me or whether he'll even stay with me in the long run.
>I think the amount of time I was spending alone meant I was rationalising my actions in ways that, if there were someone to listen to me, they'd react the way this thread has reacted.
>>upset T stopped
>I can't lie... Yes I am but only for the sex.


It sounds like you're taking your first steps on your journey.

Don't give up, and good luck, it's going to take a lifetime to learn to be human.

I'm not promising you'll save your marriage, but I am promising you can prevent something like this from ever happening again.

>woman goes for chad to have sex with and then takes her husbands money
erry time

>>17443770
Get a divorce, bro.

I love bait threads made by disillusioned /r9k/ posters.

Also try not to bang yourself up over the obvious r9k poster responses.
Good sex is crazy crucial to a long relationship. Whether that be no sex is an agreed good scenario or daily bdsm is the go to.
That said you should of clealry brought this up before cheating.
But my advice is divorce, or bringing up having a more 'open' relationship.
>Cant I just get him to bone me better
If the fabric of your marriage isn't enough weight for him to get busy in bed, what do you think will be? Rhetorical.

I feel the unspoken tragedy here is T.

Guy probably thought he found someone special only to find out she was married.

RIP men.

>>17444356
agree, she purposefully deceived T but I give him props for ditching her cheating ass when he found out. If only the husband would do the same

>>17444272
wasting your time anon. tomorrow she'll wake up and look for a new justification for betraying her husband

>>17444394
No I won't.

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Are you sure that you are not awful in bed too OP?
Sounds like you just lay there taking it. If you want you husband to get more freaky, lead him on and teach him.

But wait - that would mean work from your side. Not just getting exactly what you want without any effort from you.

>>17444433
Personally I do what I'm told to the best of my ability and I love it being that way.

If you're the kind of guy who's a sub too and wants his wife to degrade and humiliate him in bed that's fine. I'm just not that kind of woman and I'm not attracted to that kind of man in bed.

Doesn't mean I think any less of you as a man. Some people are just into different things.

>>17444403
you will. as hinted a few times here your problems are deeper than cheating. You felt no guilt or remorse and never once thought about him. Just because you lost a little weight and firming up a bit and getting out of the house doesn't mean you're all better. Actually it brought out the worst in you.

>>17443770

So why the fuck did you marry your husband in the first place, OP?

I offer this advice as a happily married woman:

Why don't you work at improving your marriage, you selfish, shallow idiot?

A good sex life takes work. It doesn't matter if I guy will do everything you like. If you never give anything in return, he will get bored and become dissatisfied. He has needs, too. And this is what would have happened with the man you had an affair with.

Shit, he ended things with you because he needed honesty out of a relationship, and you didn't give him that. You lied to him and used him.

Get off of your ass and have a conversation with your husband about what you like in bed. Show him what you like. Practice. Offer to do things he likes in exchange. It gets better over time, but you have to work at it.

Also, get some fucking counseling. Jesus, how could anybody be so goddamned self-centered and cruel that she would do this to both their husband and life partner and their lover because she is too lazy to participate fully in a good fuck.

If you wanted someone to service you, you should have never gotten married, and gotten a decent paying job. That way you could pay male prostitutes to fuck you the way you want. They get money, you get to have great sex without working for it. Everybody gets what they want in that scenario, and no hearts are broken.

>>17443770

Ok, maybe you need to make a new hobby, trying to incite something in your husband.

"my hubby makes me feel a woman doing their awkward friend a favour."

Something in this line rang true for me. It's how I feel about my wife sometimes.

I think you are going to have to take point, and stoke the flames in the bedroom. Judging from what I've seen in this thread, maybe one day he should come home to you

>dressed in a catholic school girl outfit
>dressed in a cheerleader outfit

I think you need to try and trigger something primal in him. Give him an outlet to something he wouldn't admit to out of shame. I mean, there is a slight pedo vibe to school girl sex, but we were all horny teenagers who wanted to have a cheerleader blow you, ya know?

Maybe offer to be punished? What would happen if he came home and you had handcuffs, lubes, ball gag, etc layed out, and you told him that you deserve to be punished?

He's fucked up. He's disconnected from that animal side we all have when we start dating a new person. He probably can't even think straight since the affair, and sex is pretty emotionally volatile for him.

So get submissive
or get domineering
or dress like a 17 year old

You don't like your sex life, than make a bold move and just ask him to go crazy. Help him find his balls.

It's the least you can do.

>>17444468
/adv/ has helped me with a lot of things since I found it and so I do plan to work on all the things the more constructive anons have told me to work on.

>>17444472
You've not read the thread.

Thank you anyway though.

>>17444589
I was planning something like this before I had to tell him about the affair because I know he's into teen and schoolgirl stuff from his internet history.

As for this thread, I'm gonna stop responding. My hubby will be back in an hour or so. Thanks everyone who put in their two cents. Hopefully this is the last time I have to come to /adv/ about my life and my marriage.

>>17443770
Lol, you made an incredibly stupid decision and ruined:
1) Your husbands life
2) Your relationship with T.yrone
3) Your own life

Be incredibly thankful that he took you back, you definitely do not deserve it. The fact that you're complaining about him is absolutely ludicrous, you should be doing anything and everything he wants to get back in his good graces, and complaining about nothing.

>"he's so busy working to support me and my hobbies, but I can't stand the fact that he doesn't do whatever I want when he's home"

You can't not be bait, no one is this stupid. I swear, people make these threads just so anons will learn to distrust women. It's sad.

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>>17444715
>tfw name begins with T
>Everyone assumes people with the first letter as T must be black dudes
>mfw

>>17443946
If you guys have this much hate for me, a woman you've never met, I don't know how bad he must be feeling.

This. I'm honestly surprised at how much fury I have towards people like you, and I already knew that I had no respect for cheaters.

And it won't get better for him. He will always feel inadequate now, and it's ridiculously improbable that your sex life will improve because of it. He will never trust you as much, and in quiet moments of intimacy you share together he won't be able to stop himself from thinking about what you did.

If you did not feel he was giving you what you needed, you should have left him or fucking communicated with him. But, you didn't.

For short term happiness, staying with him and sucking it up is basically your only option, especially if you have kids. You owe him that. This is the easiest route.

Long term, end it with him, and let him find someone he can trust and won't feel that he isn't good enough for. If you truly want HIM to be happy, that's what you'll do. And then you can go find yourself a new T. and do whatever the fuck you want.

>>17444701
>Hopefully this is the last time I have to come to /adv/ about my life and my marriage.
hopefully you end alone without anyone willing too be near your disgusting skin
I bet your father wold be so proud of having raised a whore

>>17444754
OP said he was half black

>>17444764
can you imagine the angst he'll feel anytime he goes away on business or hell just at work knowing she'll be fucking some other guy.

>>17444814
Exactly, he'll never trust her, and he never should.

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>>17444764
>OP's husband makes OP feel inadequate by telling her to give up her career and then saying he wants to fuck her siblings
>OP gets in shape and makes her husband feel inadequate by fucking some black dude during the free time her husband probably paid for

Its poetry. Really though, why neither divorced the other is beyond me. If OP does what the anons have been saying then there's at least a chance things will work out.

>Also mfw my half black buddy was telling me about this mean sub girl he met at the gym and he's been acting kinda down recently

His name doesn't begin with T though.

>>17443770
Poor guy. He sacrificed so much and you tossed it aside for some temporary gratification.good luck eith the divorce. Rry to steal his money and the kids because you're just a confused woman.

>>17443822
>lying to your sex partner will make them better hurr durr
Jesus fucking Christ you are retarded.

>>17443770
An hero you slut.

>staying with a porn addict that's too much of a coward to tell you his kinks, let alone quit
>being too much of a coward to tell him that you're unsatisfied as a result

You're both sexually dysfunctional children and deserve each other.

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First off, I don't agree with your course of actions and I don't care for your excuses. Communication is key in a relationship and women expect their partner to be a mind reader. Learn to speak up about your issues. If you feel like it's going to hurt someone's feelings, learn how to charm.

As for your issue. If you're not being satisfied then leave the relationship. How many more days, weeks, months, years can you take of being unsatisfied? You've already destroyed all trust in the relationship, he's only keeping you because he has weak character or some underlying issues. He's too much of a pussy to stand up for himself so I'm begging you to do it for him.

>>17443945
>well that's just a personality quark.
>I demand obedience from pretty much everyone.
>It's what made me a manager at my first job in high-school, it's what made me a board member at my Universities research department.
>Not that I cared about teaching people things, or even cared about helping anyone, but that if I did not have command I would not feel satisfied.
You should be in the military then.

>>17443770

FUCKIN WOODCOCK IS SLAMMING THIS GUY'S WIFE

>>17444433

YEAH I'M SURE SHE'S JUST FUCKING LAYING THERE LIKE A NASTY LITTLE SLUT FUCKING TAKING IT YEAH FUCKING TAKE IT YOU PIECE OF SHIT YEAH FUCKING SUCK THAT COCK FUCKING TAKE IT YEAH FUCK YEAH I'M HARD

>>17444196
>No because then he'd just be doing what T. does to me and every time we fucked it would be my hubby fucking me like T.
I meant before you cheated on him. Did you realize what you wanted in bed before you met Mr. T, or is this something you only realized after?

This story further drives to me the importance of sexual compatibility in a relationship. I'm a 30-something virgin, btw.

I find it really strange that Mr. T made you cone clan to your husband about the affair. Like a hooker with a heart of gold.

>>17445297
The vibe I get is that this T guy probably had feelings for OP and realised he was being played.

>>17443770

You're a really shitty person, it's just sex and you hurt deeply the father of your children and your supposed love of your life, it also sounds like you only told your husband and stopped cheating on him because this other guy forced you too, which shows you didnt even really regret your actions and planned to continue.

I don't understand how you made it this far with your husband with such horrible communication, the fact you aren't able to freely talk about your needs and wants in bed is pathetic, he probably has no clue how dissatisfied you are, if you're only ever doing missionary and doggy and youre unhappy with the pace than 50% of the issue is on you, Mount him, ride him hard, tell him to fuck you hard and you've been wanting him to do it really bad, if he doesnt last that long take little breaks when he's close for him to go down on you or whatever, fuck its not that hard.

You sound like a shitty lay anyway that expects the guy to do 100% of the work and please your lifeless corpse.

To be honest OP, i'm not triggered by you. I've just concluded from this thread that you're not a very pleasant person, you are self serving and honestly, maybe even evil I actually do feel compelled to have you know that I think this about you for some unknown reason, even though you likely don't care.

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Kill your fucking self.

I'm not joking. You're borderline psychopathic, you willingly admit all the wonderful things about your husband yet you feel NO regret about fucking another man on his back

Honestly, please, kill yourself.

I wonder if op has killed herself yet

Does Sara Jay ring a bell OP? If so what state?

>>17444452
Lol you fucking annoy me.

You do what is said but have u tried actually getting him interested in u? Obv not u fucking hoe. He's never gonna wanna fuck u again after the other dudes nuts hit ur asshole.
I hope he's cheating on u. Probably thinks ur a boring piece of shit.

I legit hate u, fuck you. Stupid hoe. Cried a little bit nah u got railed and fucking loved it whole ur hubby rails 10 teen pussies in a row and makes u suck it off u boring bitch.

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>>17443770
You haven't triggered me OP, but posts/experiences/observations like yours regularly vindicate my decision to red pill.

I mean, the lack of self awareness, remorse, or basic morality on display here is staggering. Or it would be, if it wasn't fairly typical of a western woman.

>My hubby sucks in bed, what should I do?
Fucking talk to him. Communicate. That could have done wonders *before* you cheated on him, now he's going to take anything you say as unfavorable comparison to T.rayvon.

>he finally forgave me
No he didn't. He accepted the reality of his situation. He's stuck with you. He's make the best of an absolutely terrible thing you've done to him.

What other choice does he have? If he asked, would you give him a divorce, taking not a single cent you didn't, yourself earn, and grant him custody of the children with you having visitation at his discretion? Would you let him have the house, his car? Would you walk away from his marriage without taking anything from him?

If your answer was anything but "yes" then you haven't given him any choice but to "forgive" you.

Your husband is a good little beta provider, a dad who handles his shit, and you still betray him because you can't be bothered to communicate?

>I wasn't happy
Honey, I know this is going to blow your mind, but your happiness isn't the most important thing in the world. You made vows, a man invested time, money, opportunities, and his soul into forging a life with you, and you've betrayed that. You have children, whom you owe a healthy upbringing in a household built on trust, and you've denied them that.

When you said "I do" you acknowledged there would be times where you wouldn't be happy, and you pledged that you'd stay true to your man. Life isn't always fun, happiness isn't a constant, that's what all that hot garbage about "sickness and health" was referring to.

<Con't>

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>>17446693
But who am I kidding? Your marriage, your vows meant nothing to you. It was just one big party all about how wonderful you are, and you've been playing house ever since, and though you deny it, you'll eventually cash out when it suits you. Trust me, you'll eventually tire of the way your husband looks at you. Or doesn't look at you, to be more precise.

I'd wish you and your husband luck with your marriage, but you wouldn't know what to do with it, and you're too much of a sociopath and he's too much of a betacuck to salvage a future.

I feel bad for your kids though, they're gonna be screwed up pretty bad by all of this.

Because the thread is still getting replies like these>>17446693 >>17446658 >>17446648 >>17446616 I'm gonna post what I plan to do in the next few weeks and address some things that really hurt me.

>If your answer was anything but "yes"
My answer is yes.

My mother did exactly what your pictures described to my dad and my sister recently did it to her now ex-husband. Because I always used to be close with my dad so I'd never do it to my husband.

Also, I have no kids with him. We planned it for further down the line. He's got a series of nephews and nieces who all adore him, as do mine.

Anyway, to finally stop this thread from zombie walking, here is what anons have helped me decide on.

>Take up volunteering to get a better perspective on things
It's been suggested to me before and part of me realises if I had had someone to talk to, or had some proper perspective during the time I went on to have the affair I'd have been told how ridiculous I was being.

>Continue exercising if my hubby feels comfortable with it
>Buy some costumes and tweak my old school uniform from high-school
My husband always watched a LOT of Porn, especially before I started exercising, and most of it was usually teen and schoolgirl stuff. He never admitted it to me and he was always touchy about me browsing his internet history so I never felt comfortable pushing the case.

I plan on putting it on after he gets back from one of his long days and asking him how I look in it so he doesn't come home to me in it thinking I've just had another man there and been too lazy to get changed.

>Assuming he likes the costumes I'll try to start talking about what kind of stuff he wants to do to me
A lot of anons said communication so I'll try it this way.


cont'd

>>17446801
You know what the worst part about this is...
It's only because T. felt terrible when he found out you were married.
If he didn't care at all, I can bet you you would still be having an affair and be disdainful of your husband.
It's women like you that I'm afraid to get into a relationship, let alone get married.

>>17446801
>Make clear to him right now I just want to enjoy my time with him incase he decides I'm not the woman he wants to go forward in his life with.
This feels important because a lot of anons say he should divorce me so I realise a lot of his friends are probably saying the same things to him. I don't want him to feel trapped especially because he knows about what happened to my dad and what my sister did to my in law so he might be feeling trapped and worried I'll do the same to him.

>Generally make sure he comes home to a house in as pristine condition I can make it.
I'll probably drop a few activities to make time which will suck but if anons on this thread are anything to go by he'll need every little bit.

As for this stuff about guilt and me being psychopathic. I won't lie... I don't feel guilty about the affair and I don't know if I ever will. I do feel horrible that I've made the man who's done so much for me probably feel so crappy.

But I doubt any of you care or believe me. At this rate, I'll probably come back in a few months asking for /adv/ on how to restart my life and career.

>>17443770
Fuck these kids on this forum.
Stay with him. Suck his dick dry. And keep sucking after he comes.

Honestly, he may need some testosterone. Sneak it in there, or bring him with you to go run a trail. Make him sweat with you. Do a physical activity together. Make sure that activity makes him feel manly.

Get him upset, then make some scenario where he says "fuck you" and you end up looking over your shoulder, back to him and give him the sexy eyes while you say "do it"

Give him some Viagra and smash on his dick. Break that shit. Make him your submissive play dick. I think it's time for some femdom. Maybe not so extreme, but make him moan and whimper.
Seriously though, testosterone and Viagra. Don't be afraid of the sweat and Smells

>>17447111
You should also give him a free slap. He might get really assertive with that. Don't lie, it's hot. Men who can slap a woman definitely know how to Fuck her like the Brahma Bull that the testosterone creates!

Let him Fuck you without a rubber for a whole weekend. Of course, you should take the precautions to not get pregnant.
Reward him with this after he's become a stallion. Preferably on vacation.

Be there for him. Guide him through a journey that will make him Chad. Forge him to be an executive that can Fuck those young interns for hours.

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>>17443770
I suggest killing yourself.

>>17446697
The last row of frames is called parental alienation, and it's a firm if emotional abuse. It's illegal, but too few know what it is.

I can't believe how many didn't read the OP and just assumed there were kids involved. There aren't any.

At the risk of this being b8, and sounding like a spastic... fuck it, don't care. Fucking kill yourself. Seriously, kill yourself. You're fucking swine. I hate that people like you exist. I hate it. If I could, I'd kill you all, and in doing so, doling out God's work... He'll easily recognize His own. Fuck you. Yeah, Fuck you a thousand times over. For every "Fuck You" you deserve, I grant you another thousand. I hope your husband recovers 150 percent from this. I hope you don't. I hope he betters himself. I hope you worsen. I hope for every hour of real, heavy sleep he gets, you lose 8. I hope for every morning he wakes with a smile, you wake with a migraine. I hope for every green light he makes to work, you catch 6 reds. I hope the exact moment he gets a promotion, you lose your job. I hope he goes to the gym, and you stop going. I hope for every pound he loses, you gain 20. I hope for every advancement he makes in his life, you naturally retrograde as is human. Don't kill yourself. Suffer. Please just fucking suffer. Please never gain the strength to right the ultimate wrong, and suffer for life knowing you can't do anything right. Why have you read this far along? Go on and fuck yourself.

>>17446818
>I won't lie... I don't feel guilty about the affair and I don't know if I ever will. I do feel horrible that I've made the man who's done so much for me probably feel so crappy.
I think I'm happy I can't understand your thought process.

>>17444356
T was righteous! Bros you don't even know before hos!

He has a future if he stays with that attitude.

>>17447111
That's a universal good idea for anyone. Probably won't save that toxic relationship but it will make orgasms.

There are no bad orgasms.>>17447111

You are the scum of earth, you don't deserve to get what you want at all.

>>17447111
>implying she wants to make him happy
Lmao

>>17443770

Pay for it, Career Woman.

Remember paid for sex is always cheaper than free sex. You don't have to commit to anyone, you get your banal desires taken care of, and you don't have the guilt of being in a relationship.

And next time don't tell. Ever. Your husband sucks in bed because he can't stand the fact that you opened those sweet cheeks of yours wide to take the deep dick from someone else after you swore you wouldn't. He thinks you're a whore and not worth satisfying or even marginally trying with.

You sound like an absolute cunt by the way. I've given this advice for anyone else who might be in the position, since you are absolutely not worth it. Enjoy your STDs.

>>17443770
I got some advice. Either kill yourself or live the Bachelorette lifestyle. You dirty bitch. I thought marriage was more than the sex. If your sex life was a problem, why not talk it out with your "loved one." Didn't even cross your mind huh? You just needed dick. Fucking pathetic piece of trash. Don't ruin your husband's life just because you need more dick in your life. Kill yourself to make him happy, or leave him and chase more dick cumdumpster. Why is this a thread 6/10 for triggering me. Bitch.

>All these furious betas
>Angry because they don't think they'll be able to keep their woman satisfied

Why don't y'all just... I dunno? Get good in bed?

The only reason this could trigger someone so much is if they're worried the same thing could happen to them.

tl;dr stop being cuckolds and learn how to be good in bed.

>>17447531

i think they're more mad it's a black guy too lol.

>>17447531
Well this thread is begging betas to come and rage. I partially agree with you that cucks would get mad at this. I disagree with ONLY cucks would get mad. Even the average person I feel would get triggered because infidelity is always a sketch topic. I could give a fuck tho my sex game fire senpai

>>17447616

well give us some tips then.

Is your name Stephanie?

>>17447839
Lol

>>17447571
There's no way a black dude would do a stranger such a kind deed. No way.

I refuse to believe it.

>>17447931

sshe said he was mixed actually.

>>17443770
So your husband is a wonderful person, great with kids, supports you and your various hobbies, caring affectionate and all that. And then you decide to bang someone behind his back instead of telling him what you want? If he wasn't satisfying you that's literally all you had to do is fucking tell him what you want in bed and from the way it sounds he'd do it, but you just decided to fuck some rando instead, and even lied to him about it. This means you either A. Are to stupid to realize that this guy would do anything for you so you looked elsewhere or B. You're just a whore making excuses for why you decided to be a whore. Either way you don't deserve any help here and you don't deserve a satisfying sex life and if I was your husband I'd have kicked your ass out.

>>17448162
Read the thread with 166 fucking replies before bumping it.

This triggers me. Probably some beta with suicidal thoughts you just knocked off the front page so that you could cuck-rage at an OP that already abandoned the thread.

Sage

Will T make you feel good 24/7? If he does then stay with him. That other guy deserves a woman who can make him feel like you're T

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mfw this many anons actually fall for the bait