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I need some advice.
I met this great girl online. She's fantastic. However, she is severely abused and mistreated by her family. I'm pretty sure she has PTSD. Definitely depressed. Suicidal.
Let's just get past the obvious concern. Not a catfish, she is in genuine need of help. I don't care if you do/don't believe me/her, let us just assume for the sake of advice, what I should do next.
I want to help her. I don't have a whole lot of money, but I will do what I can. I can afford to cut some corners and make some sacrifices. This is not my first time helping somebody in a similar fashion or in a similar situation.
She lives in the US, and I live in Australia. She has said that she would gladly move here and stay with me, so that I can help her get going here. But she is paranoid about her family from stopping her from leaving. They have sabotaged her plans to leave multiple times in the past.
The current idea is that I will fly to the US to meet her, and we'll fly back to Australia together, so that she can feel some sense of safety.
Obviously there are different bridges to cross once she is here. i.e. Visas, permanent stay, etc. I'm a NZ citizen, so if it comes down to it, we can relocate to NZ, and if necessary t b h, I don't care if I have to marry her to give her citizenship, so she has a safe place.
In the past, I helped a guy leave Singapore. Depressed, suicidal, would have offed himself within a couple of months of performing National Service (mandatory over there). I helped him flee, gave him a place to stay in another country, until we figured out the next step. He's in Australia now, studying.
I'm not sure exactly what I need help with but, this is a serious endeavour, and any help/advice would be greatly appreciated. I also struggle with depression. I've recently been on an up (relatively), and things have been improving. But if I lost her - if she killed herself - I would be devastated. Giving up is not an option.
What do you guys think?
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>>17443201
I don't know how fast this board is, and I really don't want to lose the thread.
I need advice, help, or at least words of encouragement. I feel like an idiot for wanting to dump all this money on a girl I met on the internet.
But desu I don't have anything better to spend my money on, I want to help people. I have so, so much love to give, and about 8 months ago I lost the only person I could give it to.
I'm a little bit of a hopeless romantic, but I'm genuine.
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Anybody? Bumping cos I'm leaving work and don't want the thread to die.
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Pretty sure you're being catfished mate. Where in aus are you? I can come slap some sense into you if you'd like?
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GOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO M8
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Go there and see her first, stay in some motel and chill
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>>17443735
Literally in my 3rd line I addressed this.
She did not initiate any of this. She doesn't even necessarily want to move at this point. I don't think she believes that I'm being serious.
She has sent me live kik photos of her bruises and scars. Timestamped photos, etc, etc. I'm not an idiot. I made sure not to get emotionally invested until there was no doubt she is genuine.
She doesn't even need money, she has a lot of money. She has a really well paying job in a hospital. The only thing she needs is for somebody to give a shit about her.
How about advice from somebody who can read?
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>>17443747
Will probably end up happening but I can't take that much time off work. I think a week at most is all I can do, but who knows. My boss has been really good to me so far.
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>>17443742
I'll take that as encouragement, sure.
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>>17443750
I can read. People close to situations generally aren't the best at judging whether they are being catfished or not. If she has loads of cash and a great job, it hardly sounds like she needs you to "save" her. Helping these people probably makes you feel better about yourself because of the depression.
Why would you even mention that you don't have much money, but are willing to "cut corners" and "make sacrifices", if she has plenty of money? Doesn't gel.
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>>17443775
Because I need money to fly there. I can afford it, just about. I just mean I wouldn't have to borrow any money, but I wouldn't be able to spend money on anything necessities.
I said she has a well paying job, doesn't mean it's a great job. It's a shitty night shift job working with mentally disturbed people. She gets choked and puked on, bled on, etc.
I'm not trying to "save" her. Just help her get out of a bad situation, into a slightly better one. I am well aware that it is entirely possible that her depression is so bad that it won't even matter at this point. Doesn't mean I won't try.
It doesn't make me feel "good about myself" though. I don't go searching for these people. I make friends with people, and if it turns out they are in a really shit situation, and if I like them as a person a lot, I'd be more than happy to do shit for my friends.
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I'm going to bed now, hopefully the thread won't be dead by tomorrow.
I appreciate everyone that has replied, anyway. Thanks. Even if I don't necessarily get any advice, it is good to go over the pros/cons with other people, and not just be in a self contained bubble.
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>>17443802
So why exactly is it that she can't get herself out of this "situation"? How old is she, and how old are you? If you actually do this, you are going to find it extremely hard to get her into Australia, especially if she has a medical history.
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