My mother uses my anxiety and insecurity to make me feel shitty

>>17438675
>Why would someone, at most, a mother, bring these issues just as a way to win an argument?
Narcissism. It's a way to keep you down so that you're kept under their control. They don't want you to get better.

You should look into the online support group raisedbynarcissists and see if you can find any other similarities. It's pretty eye opening for most people.

>>17438739
Thanks a lot, I did some research about it, and I found that I feel similar as people with Borderline Personality Disorder, so I will dig deeper to find something to help myself, thank you!

>>17438675
You're an adult, right?
So are they.
You have equal footing now.
Your parents gave birth to you, and it's great if you can have good bonds with them, but if they're exploiting your anxiety like this, just leave. You are your own free-thinking person that doesn't have to take shit from these people.

don't put up with it. My parents did the same thing for a decade. Your parents claim to love you, and I am sure you think they love you. But to them you are just an object to take up positive energy from. They secretly hate you and that's why they love tearing you down and hurting you emotionally.

Fuck those people brah. My parents did it to me and have zero remorse, left me socially retarded almost. Now I am on my way back to recovery and they can't stand it. Move out after getting a decent job and don't tell to them at all - no contact. If they disrespect you, disrespect them back and then cut contact. My mother used to do all sorts of fucked up shit till one day I had enough and slapped her right in the face. After that she never talked down to me.

>>17438675
there are many people who use this to keep you down as another anon said, but you have the option of not having anything to do with them, just like all toxic people, be polite and go on with your life.