My girlfriend isn't interested in sex. She doesn't

>>17432877
If she says she's not ready for sex and has zero sex drive, what is the question here?

There's nothing you can do. You can't magically make her have a sex drive. You can't force her to masterbate.

If she was interested in at least TRYING to masterbate, you'd have something to work with, but...

>>17432895
But I thought maybe if she tried masturbating she would get into it and realise she enjoys it and actually does want to have sex?

>>17432898
It's true, that's how my sex drive got turned on.

But like I said before, you cannot force her to masterbate. Definitely suggest she try. Heck, help her out if she asks. It'd be better if she didn't watch porn, but if she wants to do that then that's cool too.

GTFO of this relationship now.

If you are sexual and she is asexual then it will not fucking work and end in misery and heartache for both of you.

Stop trying to fix her. She has to want to change herself and people aren't motivated to change themselves fundamentally without pain. Love for another does not drive positive change in a person, just pain and loss.

If I could fucking stab my eye out with a dull spoon for a chance at a time machine to go back and teach myself this lesson I would. Now I am stuck in a sexless marriage because I thought I could make it work.

Don't make the same mistake I did. Break up with her and teach her that the way she is will not keep men in her life.

>>17432917
Bitter, but right.

Masterbation will not magically make her want sexy time. Don't get too invested.

>>17432917
This.

However hard it must be, you can't make someone asexual sexual. I Just came Out of a four and a half year relationship. I Still Love her, but I cannot make a family with her because of her "condition". She's Just not interested and she doesn't get wet like other women. We tried for years - she tried for me despite not being horny. It doesnt Work. We tried numbing creme, lube, More lube, visited a gynacologist to learn more, nothing helped. I'm sorry, OP. In My experience there is no hope. It's only a matter of time before she feels too bad about it and then you both feel bad ans you Break Up eventually. Do it now and Dont Waste your life like i did.

>>17432910
>>17432917
>>17432922
>>17433624
Maybe I'm just not giving it enough time? We've only been together for about 3 months? Is this relationship really doomed? I really don't want it to be, is now really the time to get out or should I wait a little longer?

>>17432917
My boyfriend was in a sexless marriage.
I can really tell how much it destroyed his self esteem and how little he valued himself when he broke up with his ex wife. It took so much time for him to rebuild his self-worth.
I'm sorry you have to go through this.

OP here. She says that she isn't comfortable with trying to masturbate so she doesn't know when she's going to want to try it. I feel like she doesn't care. I don't see what she has to lose from at least trying it. If it turns out its still not something she's comfortable with then fair enough that's just the way she is but at least we both know. I don't feel like I giving an unreasonable request?

I had the same thing with my ex
Probably repressed or asexual. Took 3-4 months for my girlfriend to experience her sexuality. Making out with her though and stuff made her wet and she enjoyed it, but she said she felt nothing sexual then, even after she discovered she was a sexual being she says she didn't feel anything then.

Take it slow, and don't pressure her. Psychologist can help. Ask if you can try pleasuring her and see if you can make her cum, but respect her decision if she doesn't want to. If ultimately it doesn't work, then either open relationship or you two aren't made for each other.

My wife is like this

She gives the impression I can go to a brothel as long as she doesn't find out

>>17433975

The fuck?

Why doesnt she just put out? Like literally she just has to bend over for a few minutes while you fuck her... Is it really that much of a sacrifice?

Women are so forceful demanding when they want sex but when its demanded of them its like they cant be fucking bothered

>>17433960
It is far from unreasonable to expect a sexual relationship with your girlfriend.
In fact, I'd say its unreasonable of her not to at least try to have one.
You can't have a healthy relationship without a healthy sex life.
I'd save yourself the frustration and just get out of there.

>>17433979
She puts out but she just lies there

It's not fun and I just end up fapping to 2d girls instead

>>17432877
Try playing with her nipples or even put your hand on her crotch. If the very touch doesn't arouse her then she may have a sexual imbalance.

>>17432910
I have a sex drive and porn turns me off.

>>17433960
It's kind of like saying "I'm not comfortable ever loving you, or saying that I do, or trying to love you".

Love, like sex, is usually something that's expected in a relationship after it has developed for a while. And one partner just flat out saying that either one won't happen, and they won't try, can break the relationship.

It's her choice to not try to do sexual stuff, but it's also your choice to not put up with that. Sex is important in a healthy relationship. Don't kid yourself that it isn't.

>>17433975
>>17433972
>>17433960
>>17433724
>>17432877

What I don't understand is how asexual people even exist, and haven't been bred out of the human population. If you don't have sex, you don't reproduce.

But I suppose there's always rape.

>tfw you're an asexual and realize you must be a product of rape somewhere in your ancestry in order to have this condition