What are the consequences of a girl having a bad childhood and

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she can be a mess or a little princess
family backgrounds dont entire determine what kinda person you become

but i guess you are asking because you know she is one of those bad apples

Depends on the person. She can be normal or fucked up.

Having a bad childhood is not a life sentence

>>17426449
She is one of the bad apples
I am currently in love with her
She is bitchy and weird, sometimes nice but very bitchy and a huge asshole sometimes
Is there a way to fix her or should I run away?

well, i´m a girl that had a bad childhood and family. ama

>>17426456
Can u tell about what happened in your childhood and family?
And how are you now? Mentally

>>17426438
Chances are she has a negative opinion of men and will eventually need saving from you. She'll make you out to be a monster and you'll believe her.

You're better off alone please trust me , or you'll be sitting around sobbing like I am.

>>17426455
you should fuck her and dont try to fix her
you cant fix her, women can only be tamed by fucking, they become docile for a short while after

My ex-girlfriend was raped by numerous ex-boyfriends, as well as unrelated people, and her first love, when she 13, tried to kill himself twice while he was with her, leaving her emotionally scarred. She also was beaten while naked by her father and hated by her parents/siblings until I managed to step in and fix her life for the most part.
As a result of that, she was bipolar, schizophrenic, probably suffered from BPD, had major trust issues, and despite calling me the absolute perfect boyfriend that made her forget her past, the only one that didn't hurt her, she went back to an ex-boyfriend she was seeing right before me, and gave up for me, whom I didn't know about until the day she gave me up. Her reasoning was that she was obsessed with him and never loved me as much as she did him, even if she told me otherwise all the time.

tl;dr it depends on the severity, but bad cases of childhood will almost definitely lead to absolutely fucked up people with irrational, illogical, incomprehensible, unpredictable mental issues.

>>17426467
>Can u tell about what happened in your childhood and family?
nothing too drastic. the usual. my dad was an alcoholic and was beating my mom, me and my siblings often. sometimes someone had to go to the hospital. he also threatened to kill us all and held us at gunpoint a few times. it has happened that he threw my 4 year old brother down the stairs and sometimes he would lock me in the basement bunker for a whole day witheout food, water or a way to "relieve" myself then left the house with the rest of the famliy.

>And how are you now? Mentally
better than i was. i have had zero selfesteem and went full slut as a teen. became a single mom at 21 and had to sort my shit out to not fuck my child over too badly. so i went to therapy. i still have eating disorders and pick my skin, but i have made huge progress with my selfesteem and my abilty to have functional relationships with other people. i also have resolved a lot of stuff with my dad and we have a somewhat normal relationship now. i would still call myself a nut-job though.

>>17426481
Is there any chance that you can go slut mode after therapy? If we forget that you have a son
>>17426479
Yeah I won't take chances I am done with her lol thanks friend

>>17426489
>Is there any chance that you can go slut mode after therapy?
well, i´m engaged now and i have had to learn everything i know about love, sex, relationships and the like on my own. that comes with some benefits. i had to make conscious decisions about how i handle all of this things. i haven´t been able to blindly trust the stuff i learned from my parents. basically i had to mistrust everything i feel, because i got it from my parents and that meant it is potentially toxic af.me being a slut when i was younger came from not having any selfesteem. i got validation for free just by having boobs and ass and a cute face. i never questioned if it was "the right thing" to do to get validation trough sex. i was just hooked on finally feeling "worthy" and couldn´t get enough of it. i´m still an attentionwhore deep down, but i´m aware and take precautions to not get tempted to give in to that. i have never cheated on anyone and i am determined to keep it that way. another benefit is that i already had my fair share of cock and can safely say that i´d rather stay with someone that doesn´t only care about me for my body. i wouldn´t want to risk that for "slutting it up" again.
iow, i can´t say i´m completely cured but i also know the traps to avoid.

>>17426494
Good luck and try your best

>>17426494
Sounds like you were a regular slut and settled desu
>i wouldn´t want to risk that for "slutting it up" again.
So you miss slutting it up?

>>17426512

Not her, but look man everyone has demons and we all do things that we know aren't good for us. Even if we rationalize it, deep down inside we KNOW what we should and should not be doing.

For example, shit-posting on 4chan. You know and I know that there are much better things we should be doing, but instead we're just slothing it up on here.

Same goes for porn and jacking off. We can say "Well it's not hurting anyone because those people are actor's getting paid and I just need to get some relief every now and then that's all...", but in reality we don't need porn to jack off at all. Hell, the amount of time spent whacking off probably adds up to the amount of time you'd need to start to master a good skill.

So before we get all judge-y in here, I'd say that it's better to realize that the time and energy getting spent on anger at someone else for their behavior is better spent on improving oneself.

>>17426512
>regular slut
what´s that even?
also, i never impled i was a "special slut".

and no, i don´t miss it. but i am slightly scared about the knowledge that i have the potential to slut it up.

>>17426709
I'm saying your reasons are stupid
>low self-esteem
>learning about sex, love, relationship and the like on your own
That's at least 60% of the girls and doesn't excuse being a slut
You did what all the sluts do including rationalizing it

>>17426716
>your reasons are stupid
so there are good reasons to be a slut then?

yes, i had/have low self-esteem. and yes, it was a temporar fix to feel wanted by guys i slept with.

i agree that most girls have that combo to some degree. but i also think it needs a certain severity of that combo to slut a girl up. then it also comes down to oersonality and random facts.
in my case, i have hit puberty pretty soon and was nowwhere near ready to deal with the responsibilities that come with it. i was way too childlike still to be in possesion of a body that attracted male attention.
i´m not trying to get absolution. i solely answered op´s question about what happens if a girl has had a bad childhood.
ofc i will never know if i would have turned out a slut too if i have had a good childhood. i just know in hindsight that i never was aware that my actions could be harmfull or not right in any way. i was so caught up in myself that i horribly failed to see the bigger picture. you can argue about me "hitting the wall" and "getting off the cock carousel" and what not and you are porbably even right. doesn´t change the fact that i was inside my mind all those years and know what i did intentional and what not.

>>17426734
>me being a slut when i was younger came from not having any selfesteem
That's my problem with what you said
You were a slut because you were a slut putting the blame on your childhood is an excuse

This is the case with this girl I'm really into.

>bad childhood, delinquency, angst, drinking/drugs all from early teens
>broken family, father left, mother kicked her out
>lives a horrible life, drugs, last boyfriend overdosed and died - she is still scarred
>wiccan or some shit, believes in rituals, magic, occult, aliens, etc
>sees things due to heavy psychedelic use early on
>lives in a piece of shit house with this abusive couple
>dead end job, no prospects for college education, going nowhere in life

Me: I'm starting my own business soon, graduating in 3 months, and have a rich family that'll buy me a nice house in a nice city with nice white-collar jobs which I am extremely qualified for. Already working in a (...low pay) office setting too.

I like her though, a lot. She's smart, funny, "not like the other girls" - cliche but I feel it, and we just have this great chemistry. But I want her to get her shit together, I want her to stop with the drugs, alcohol, lying, and stealing, among other degenerate behavior she does. She has this HUGE potential of being a great person and I want to transition her into that life - college, a future, etc. My words can only do so much though, she needs to act on them. She needs to get her shit together.

>>17426762
well, that´s an assumption i made, that much is true.
no one is born a slut. it´s not genetic. not more than being an asshole. so there must have been some stuff that has led to me being a slut. and i don´t think it has happened because 12 year old me made a conscious decision to fuck social norms and "explore my sexuality" instead.

but judge for yourself.
fact is that i have always been very insecure about my body. i have developed various eating disorders at age 8 due to my dad calling me fat all the time (i wasn´t, my sister just was auschwitz mode so i wasn´t looking AS dainty besides her). he also told me that i should take care to not get any fatter cause i would have to work a s a prostitute anyways since i´m not good for anything else. so, that was the base i entered puberty on. i thought i was fucking disgusting looking. then i was the first girl in class to get boobs and suddenly, guys changed how they treated me. out of the blue they all wanted to spend time with me and made me feel like the most desireable being. that was pretty confusing but i sure as hell didn´t complain about it. ofc i didn´t link the sudden attention to my changing body at that time.
we moved often, so i didn´t have any friends anyways. i started to hang out with them and become "that girl" that only has male "friends". ofc i later realized they all just wanted to get their dicks wet. but at that time i was just happy that someone actually seemed to enjoy spending time with me. ofc it didn´t take long till i also fucked some of them.

might be that i was just a slut all along and i´m only trying to hamster away. but that´s how i explain the really dumb decisions i made to myself. i do own up to them. after all it was always me going to bed with a guy. nobody else decided that for me. i was probably caught up in not getting killed by my dad that i had no energy left to question teenage boys intentions.

>>17426782
>She needs to get her shit together
lmao.
she won´t. especially not becuase "you want her to"

>>17426825
I'm an optimist so it's easy to lie to myself (cognitive dissonance).

On one end she knows everything I posted is true, and she does actually want to claw her way out of the hole her family, friends, and shittly life has buried her in. She has the strength to do it.
But on the other end I feel there is a part of her she's not showing me, and that she may be content with going down that shit path.
The thing that gets me is that she's only 18, and I'm 24 - so I could just be wasting my time, as other dudes would put it, but something in me wants to help her.

>>17426859
white knight syndrome.
ofc you want to help the damsel in distress. it´s your nature.
it´s good that she atleast knows she should be doing something. problem is, most people never get their shit together. you want her potentioal not her at face value. that is destined to become a disaster. because there is a huge chance she will never live up to her potential and you will resent her for "putting so much time and energy" into her.

>>17426872
>white knight syndrome

Makes me sound like a faggot beta, but I'll take it.

>because there is a huge chance she will never live up to her potential and you will resent her for "putting so much time and energy" into her.

A bleak and cold way of putting it, but I know you're 100% right. For now I'm just going on with my life, and waiting to see if she does make any changes for the good. Like I said, words can only do so much. Never judge a girl by the things she says, only by the things she does.

>>17426900
>Never judge a person by the things she says, only by the things she does
fixed that for you

also, there´s nothing wrong with wanting her. you might put yourself up for drama, but that might be pretty interesting and entertaining if it´s your thing.
i live by this rule of thumb: if you date someone, always assume that they will never change and see if you could spend the rest of your life with them if that would hold true. ofc, some people change for the worse, but it is a good way to prevent yourself from wanting someone for their assumed potential.

>>17426910
word of warning. if you decided to have some fun and drag her along till wife material crosses your path, DON´T for the LOVE OF GOD get her pregnant.

>>17426916

nigga, the plan for me was to put her on the right path - give her a place to stay while she does college and non-shitty jobs, plow her fucking brains out daily in my nice ass full brick house, and kick her out when I'm ready for a real house-wife type child-raising lady to have hundreds, if not thousands, of white-aryan children with.

And knowing her she probably has some diseases down there or some shit, so it'll be handies and blowies anway...

>>17426947
we both know where that will end, don´t we?

>>17426956

yeah, women are smart

She'll probably outsmart me

Maybe, we'll see though - again she's only 18 and we're both at a point in life where big changes happen.

>>17426978
that´s not exactly what i was implying.
just proceed with caution to not get tied down with a kid you don´t want. because then she got you