How do i teach my girlfriend to be better in bed without making her feel bad? She tried giving me head and a handjob last night but it just felt awful and i kept getting soft while she'd do it. It's not that I'm not attracted to her, it's just I can't help but think how unsatisfying whatever it is she's doing is and it goes soft. I tried showing her a couple things to do but she wasn't very good and i just couldn't get it up without touching it myself, let alone cum. I'm pretty sure the whole ordeal kind of depressed her and of course I feel shitty because of it too. It's almost like I could barely even feel her handling it, like her grip wasn't hard enough. All I can think of to do right now is stop fapping at all so eventually just about anything will make me explode, but i don't even fap that much atm.
>>17419132
Tell her what you like and don't like, in the moment. Don't bother telling her not to do something, just mention what's good and what would be better. Eventually she'll learn trough implicit direction and understand the underlying principles at work, as well as how to read the signals she's receiving.
Talk to her about it.
I've had to make majority of girls I was dating good at sex. It takes time, but get them to relax. Girls are very self conscious when getting their partner off, and need it to happen
Tell her what you like and how to do it, and return the favor with better sex/her desires. Talk about it outside of sex, and then initiate. Tell her nicely while doing it what you like.
You may have to fake a few things, but eventually they would get better.
Hope that helps
Unless she's a womanchild who can't handle any sort of constructive criticism, talk to her. We don't have penises, we don't know what does and doesn't feel good. There's literally no other way.
>>17419132
I'm 30 and met a 21 year old QT3.14 at college.
She could not fuck or suck to save her life.
I told her what I liked and to do some research on her own on how to improve her technique.
She was so eager to please me.
She did her homework like a good girl and within weeks, her skill had gone up considerably.
Then we practiced those skills daily and she knew how to please me in all the ways I enjoyed.
You can be pussy-foot and beat around the bush all you want or you can be honest and tell her that her sex just isn't doing it for you.
Your call, senpai.
well I sucked pretty bad at kissing before I met her, and she taught me a lot about that. I could not stay hard for my life, so she knew something she was doing wasn't working. I basically just told her that it's ok, it'll just take practice, like I had with kissing.
>>17419132
Make sex fun for her and pleasurable! Think about what you can give to make her want it more. 90% of sexual fulfillment comes from both parties being into it.