I'm in a rough spot at the moment. My family and I had been

>>17412768
A bit of other information:

I'm 21 years old college student I live with my folks because its cheaper and I can be there for my siblings (whom my dad almost blatantly ignores). I work part-time and pay my fair share of bills (rent, utilities, etc).

You're the child and they are the patents. You tried to help, they rejected your offers. You can't save someone that doesn't want to be saved.

You can leave with your head held high. Finish school, get yourself a nice place and keep your door open for your siblings

Irrationally religious people have no common sense, this should be no surprise.

Move out ASAP, and leave them knowing you tried to help.

>>17412768
You are the child, not the parent.
Their actions are forcing you to act like you're the wise and mature one in the relationship - that's parentification, If you can remove yourself from the situation it would be advised you do!
You aren't abandoning them, they have already abandoned you. They are the ones that should show some leadership in an emergency, where is it?

>>17412782
>>17412793
I feel I'm mostly abandoning my dad who has had a rough childhood. He was an orphan and maltreated as a child by his adopted family (who were extended family ironically). The guy's had it it tough and I just don't want it to seem as if his son doesn't care for him. I merely wish to help.
>>17412792
I wouldn't say my dad is irrational rather merely beaten down from years of emotional neglect and who wishes to attach himself to anything that can fulfill that role.
His wife on the other hand I would tentatively agree with. She can be manipulative and blatantly coy and offensively shallow at times. She'll right you off immediately if your views don't agree with hers.

>>17412807
Still, he's now the one in charge.
What would you do if he doesn't, take charge yourself? That doesn't work, it will just turn the whole family against you.
As the child your only alternative is to get the fuck away from them. Consider yourself lucky you have a stable job and can afford to do it without creating an even worse mess.

You can't save your parents from themselves. They're adults, they'll live the consequences of their actions.

You're an adult too, but as the son your role falls under their authority - not really by law, but it's how human relationships work, they'll never follow your leadership, so if you can't stand theirs... the only option is to leave.

>>17412856
Yeah. I suppose you're right. I've been constantly debating with myself what the right thing to do was. I suppose this is for the best.

>>17412768
"Dad and Stepmom, I've come to realize that I am a burden on you right now, both financially and emotionally, so I'm going to live at school this term. You know that I do have some ideas on how you could handle some of your money problems, but I am not going to be so disrespectful as to try and force them on you. If you decide you want my help, I'll be there to give it, but I'll wait until you ask."