Is there any reason why someone would be fixated with sex despite

>>17403862

probably because of the over saturation of sexual media. you hang out on 4chan which means you see a lot of porn, and what little you dont see of porn is people talking about sex or relationships, which inevitably involves sex.

plus movies tv etc.

>>17403899
I don't look at porn, I can name like 3 people that I know who (presumably) have a sex life at all (due to being in a relationship), and I skip the sex scenes in otherwisely interesting books that I read.

I'd like a romantic relationship, myself, if one did not involve sex.

>>17403862
>and I can't masturbate
Is there a medical reason?

>>17403913
You do want sex, and your lying yo yourself. Your desire for a romantic relationship makes me think your inexperienced, so you have a "sex is dirty and a little scary, and I don't want that". You do, almost everyone does. Just accept it, its okay to want sex.

>>17403968
I do have experience in love.

"Sex is boring and I never want to do it again" is a completely different matter.

>>17404465
You have experience of bad sex.

>>17404970
This

>>17404979
How do I get good sex?

>>17405209
Prostitutes.

>>17405745
-- Expensive -- prostitutes

>>17405760
Prostitution itself is legal where I live, but it's illegal to advertise it, do it openly (like on street corners etc) and so on. Buying services from them is so uncommon and frowned upon that most people don't even really know it's actually legal.

How do I find a proper professional?

>>17405209
Well why was it boring before?
How many times did you try it?
Have you ever reached orgasm?

>>17405852
I've slept with a lot of people, and usually I'm just drunk, but sober it's always been boring. Never orgasmed.

>>17405865
>I've slept with a lot of people
>Never orgasmed.
I'm scared. I'm leaving now.

>>17403913
>I skip the sex scenes
Sounds like a complex to me. I think sex scenes are dumb and unnecessary and I wish they didn't exist but I read them anyway.

>>17405865
That'll do it then. Dude or chick?

>>17405883
Why waste your time?

>>17405884
Female.

>>17403862
because you are a male in your late teens-young 20s.
hormones are a bitch, you're lucky you aren't compulsively masturbating yet.

>>17405928
I'm female, 22, don't masturbate.

>>17403913
>I'd like a romantic relationship, myself, if one did not involve sex.
It's called a friendship, and it's not sexual at all.

>>17405908
Independent
Semi-religious family
College educated
...that about right?

>>17405932
>yet

>>17405932
ok, WHAT are you thinking about then?
being penetrated? making out? petting? oral? some weird fetish that I'll probably regret asking about?
what are you fixating on?

>>17405935
I don't kiss my friends or touch their bodies.

>>17405939
Employed but living with family, aggressively atheist dad and indifferent agnostic mom, blue collar worker.

>>17405945
I'm not sure what you're asking.

Are you asking what I want or what I don't want?

I have no idea why my thoughts keep going back to sex again and again. I wish there was something I could do about it, make the hormones shut down or something, but unfortunately my genitalia are mostly internal and I can't just cut my balls off like a guy could.

>>17406057
If you drink and smoke hard enough the estrogen production will stop on its own.

>>17406057
I'm asking what kind of thoughts are you going back to.
Is it just a feeling? just the word 'sex'? or are you actually thinking about some sex act?

>>17406003
>I don't kiss my friends or touch their bodies.
That's your first mistake.
Anyway, you DO want something sexual in your life. At least kissing and touching. Anything more than that?

>>17406275
Sex being done to me.

I want human closure and the unfortunate fact that it means letting myself be penetrated unfortunately doesn't make the want stop. Sure, everyone wants to have their cake and eat it, too, but if I could just accept that it is not an option and get on with my life, that would be nice.

>>17406279
Yes. I don't want to have to pay for it.

I don't want to see or touch or be in the presence of an erect penis ever again in my life.

>>17406338
You're obsessing over something you don't like.
If you wanted to be penetrated, it would be a common and normal annoying obsession, as is I have to ask if you've suffered any sex-related trauma.

>>17406338
Kissing your friends might be your answer.
If you don't care for penises, how are you with vaginas?

>>17406398
None that I could recall or that'd be possible to backtrack. I was never left alone with strangers as a kid and I've never been fucked without permission.

>>17406402
They're filthy and disgusting. I'd rather touch feces.

>>17406414
But you still want hugs and kisses.
Finding someone compatible with you will be hard.

>>17406420
I have already reached the rational conclusion that it will not happen, the problem is getting the irrational parts to accept that.

Having your pet fixed makes them stop wanting to fuck everything.

What do I need to get removed to make this stop?

>>17406435
Going on birth control might help, some report a reduced libido.
If you want to go the spaying route, you could look at tubal ligations, but would that work?

>>17406458
All the women I know who are on birth control still have sex drives and boyfriends. It's the urge to be touched at all that has to be abolished.

You desire a romantic relationship and have sexual desires, if you were asexual you would not crave sex at all.

As you said you have sexual experience but never achieved orgasm. I have female friends who can't properly enjoy sex unless it's with someone they have a strong romantic bond. I think that's your case: you romantic and sexual needs are deeply connected, you just need to wait for a partner you can't deeply bond in both aspects of your life

>>17403
we exist to breed.

>>17407491
>wait
That's not how things work.

>>17403862
Demisexual : A person who can only develop feelings for someone else if you have a sentimental connection with these . That is, honey , you want romance and well , and then just to meet the person you can move on to other things like sex . Sex is complementary , not the central of relationships.

>>17403862
Its literally hardwired into your body to want sex. Your body's entire purpose is to have sex.

If you don't want sex it is most likely a sign of a mental disorder (like mine) that you should hey checked out. Or you might just be really stressed, or don't trust people, etc.

There are a lot of explanations, but not wanting sex is definitely a bad sign.

>>17408789
THEN HOW THE FUCK DO I STOP WANTING LOVE?!

>>17408803
My psychiatrist told me to go to a gynecologist and changed the subject. How do I fix it at home?

>>17408914
>>17408914
Well first, never use that psych again obviously. I would suggest going to a different psych, research them online first to find good ones.

At home solution? I am really reluctant to say this and highly recommend finding a good psych instead, but here is my method that worked. It's simple but its difficult and takes time.

The first step is learning to "empty your mind" of thoughts. Get comfortable some where, stare at a wall and practice not thinking about anything for 5 minutes. At first your brain will constantly toss up things to think about, but eventually you will be able silence everything (don't forget to breathe).

Step two. Figure out what thoughts/emotions you want to change or get rid of. For you it would be the mental feeling of hating sex for example.

Step three. From now on anytime you have one of those target thoughts come up, you are to empty your mind and find something else to think about. Eventually you will be able to block individual thoughts instead of having to stop everything.

Time span may be different for everyone, but I started noticing a change in personality after a few months.

I have an anti-social disorder where I hated being around people and even talking made me exhausted. After using this technique for a year I was able to enjoy being around people 1/7 days of the week. It's been five years now and my anti-social days are 2-3 a month.

>>17408955
I've tried meditating.

Are there any pills I could get? The only dealer I know is about as professional as my shrink, he'd never heard of antidepressants in the street market before I asked for them.

>>17405932
Try to madturbate. Not all women can reach orgasm, but it's not a big percentage of the female populace.
Orgasm may be the end-goal, but don't put pressure on yourself. Relax and just try to enjoy yourself. Research ways to reach female orgasm and start with what seems like the best way for you.
Good luck. Happy Climax!

>>17408993
I have, and I got a vibrator and everything. It just makes me more upset and frustrated (and no, absolutely nothing in my range of knowledge can put me "in the mood"). Any attempt at all is an one-way ticket to crying myself to sleep.

>>17408980
Meditation can actually be worse for you if done wrong. If your having an issue, constantly thinking about it by yourself can just drive you into depression. If your mediating and thinking about ways to fix a problem: good.

My method is not really meditation though, it's conscious thought suppression. (What people try to do by drinking themselves to death, but without the liver damage)

I would highly recommend against pills unless you have a physical issue that can be fixed by them. Something you would only be able to know with an MRI or doctor.

Pills "fix" a problem by changing the chemical levels in your brain. Usually the imbalance is caused by a stressor in your life instead of a physical.

For example: A kid is getting bullied at school and is depressed. He is prescribed a daily pill to take for years, then goes back to the school and continues to get bullied.

He now is taking pills that can have many side effects and take months to find the right dose instead of getting rid of the bullying and removing the stressor.

DON'T self medicate, ever. Hell, you can barely trust doctors and you think you can trust some dealer?

>>17409195
Medication is good when the stressor physically cannot be removed.

I can't force a boyfriend to magically fall into my lap, and I sure as fucking hell can't pull it off with the issues I have.

It's like that joke about a cancer patient that's too sick to endure radiation.

You change what you can't accept and accept what you can't change, and if drugging yourself up is what does the trick, then it does.

>>17409299
I don't know you're whole situation, so sorry if I offend. I know it's hard to deal with the emotions and it can drive you to reach for anything just to make it stop. I was suicidal for years while I was trying to change. I fell asleep at night rubbing my neck with a knife many times while knowing I could go get whatever meds I wanted. But now that I've finished my self-treatment I know a lot more about myself and am not still taking a perscription. Be very cautious when thinking of possible solutions.

It's true you can't magic up a boyfriend, but you can change how you feel about your situation. That's what I'm getting at. One you fix your problem with chemicals, you're always going to those chems.

>>17409560
How do I stop wanting a hug or feeling distraught of not getting one?

>>17409579
Don't let yourself focus on those feelings when they come up and find something to distract yourself with that makes you feel good (other than drugs, alcohol, or comfort food). Start a new hobby. If you don't exercise regularly now, start doing something 10-30 mins every other day. Regular exercise has been proven to reverse depression, and it makes you feel better as a bonus. I can attest to this from personal experience.

Unless your deadset on abandoning sex, continue to date people and try to find someone you really care about. I know I'm saying that like it's not the hardest fucking thing on the planet, sorry.

>>17409597
I do physical work - my days range between carrying around 2 kilo cardboard boxes to dragging around 600-kilo pallets, but regardless I'm on my feet 8 hours per day - and I'd say I'm reasonably fit, 168 cm and 56-57 kilos. My mother's side of the family is prone to obesity (women, especially) and father's side to alcoholism (men, especially), and I take more after him.

I don't go on dates at all. I had zero matches on Tinder (I didn't swipe people I didn't want to meet) and I'd be too scared to go back to OkCupid after I posted pictures of one girl there on reddit's /r/awfuleyebrows and some whiteknight decided to look her up and snitch on me. In my defence, her eyebrows were fucking awful.

I'm scared of sex, I'm not a virgin but I've been fucked shut.