I want to be confident around women. To cut a long story short,

you rationalize everything you do because it makes you more comfortable.

its not your fault you were bad with women, you had self esteem issues! its not your fault you still dont know what to do, that break up set you back!

you will argue in response that you arent excusing or blaming your issues away, but your post and actions speak for themselves. you are in a place where you can say
>I WANT TO IMPROVE
>BUT GOSH GOLLY ITS SO HARD AND NOT MY FAULT

it is you subconsciously trying to perpetuate your life style. making you seem brave enough to try, but doomed to failure so its not your fault.

let go of htat. there are no 'self esteem issues' anymore. there is no more anxiety. there is no more practice, there is no more guides or tools or tips.

there is simply you, and other people. you talk to them. about whatever you want. there is no magical approach to conversation that guarantees results. and if a conversation doesn't lead to anything, thats fine. simply talk to people, and learn from it. go out with a friend and ask them to approach someone with you. let them lead. simply watch and follow along. then do what they do.

99% of the time you know what to say. you simply rationalize that 'nah thats stupid' and then dont say it.

many many many marriages, relationships, friendships, and conversations began with
>hi, I'm anon, hows it going?