I'm almost 28. I have bipolar disorder, but I'm working and living on my own for the first time in awhile. My job is temporary, but should become permanent soon.
Is it worth trying to date when I don't have health benefits or a means of paying for my apartment, besides my savings?
I haven't had a promising date in almost four years since I dumped my last girlfriend. I'm a bit nervous and lost a good amount of my confidence/sense of self in college. I've regained some semblance of my personality, but it's difficult to keep because I have to turn it off whenever I go to the office.
I don't want to get stuck in the same rut before where I lose my personality and compromise too much to keep a romantic relationship. At this point in my life, I'm strong willed enough to dump them when it gets too bad. The reason my last relationship lasted as long as it did was because it was the first time I had a consistent source of sex.
I'm happy masturbating and roleplaying online. Dating a lady who may or may not complicate my life and hurt my psyche isn't something I want to do, and I don't want to risk placing myself in that position again.
What should I do?
>>17385492
BUMP
>>17385492
Bump. Help, please.
get a laid back girlfriend who won't stress you out or demand you pay for things
>>17385492
If you think you're strong willed enough to not let your lady affect your mood or psyche, then go for it.
> I don't want to risk placing myself in that position again.
life's a risk nigga.You can tell yourself that you can just end it and move on anytime you want, but playing the game means being ready to lose.
If you believe you're ready, then the only thing you need to take into account is that dating is expensive as fuck and it sounds like you have money trouble
>>17386352
>get a laid back girlfriend who won't stress you out or demand you pay for things
>roll a natural 20 five times in a row
Good idea...
>>17386373
>dating is expensive as fuck
It depends on the woman. I'm a cheap skate and tend to attract the same sort. That or I could keep suggesting free and cheap events.
>sounds like you have money trouble
Sort of. If my temp job goes permanent, as I'm hoping, I'll be in the clear.
As for risk, I don't handle it well anymore. Unless I'm manic and impulsive. In which case, I can't get away from it.
>>17386352
OP has a better chance of finding a mermaid and fucking her
>>17386382
could you be entering a manic phase right now? If so then maybe you need to step back and do whatever you need to see your own situation with more clarity, like visiting your regular therapist or psychiatrist
>>17386383
Pretty much and Mermaid's don't have vaginas.
The only things I have going for me are decent looks, being a published author/produced screenwriter, being smart and capable of talking about most subjects with knowledge.
>>17386396
No cash, no insurance. I don't have the money to visit a therapist. Psychiatrists will try to put me on Lithium, which means lots of other health problems.
>>17386402
how many of these can you check off right now? if 3 or more then I'd say you're manic. Caveat - I'm not a psychiatrist, I'm just an asshole that works in a hospital
D = Distractibility and easy frustration
I = Irresponsibility and erratic uninhibited behavior
G = Grandiosity
F = Flight of ideas
A = Activity increased with weight loss and increased libido
S = Sleep is decreased
T = Talkativeness
>>17386417
I'm usually D, F and T. G has been worse in recent years. S definitely. I is a no, but, if we're going by my high standards, yes.
If I'm manic now, I have been for almost seven years.
>>17386433
Ok, just wanted to rule that out
Idk man, like I said if you wanna get back into the dating game then you gotta be ready to lose, kinda like the soldiers storming the beach from Saving Private Ryan or some shit
>>17386450
D has been worse in recent years. I used to be very focused. Now I'm all over the place. I'm thinking I might be having a very long manic cycle. Is it possible to have multi-year manic periods?
>>17386476
I suppose it's possible, but they usually last 6 months at most