I am in love with someone who has deep seeded emotional problems.

>>17371546
I think the super special truth is that you can't get over loving her. She's a human being who you love and care about. It's possible to hold onto that and let it make you a better person, indefinitely. Literally a state of suspended emotional animation.

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>>17371549

I need to stop. I want to stop. This is going to make me develop some sort of disorder. She is going to kill me. She is going to leave and transfer to a new college in august and I'll never see her again.

We recently broke up but she wants to remain fuckbuddies or something. I can't say no because I want to spend time with her. When we broke up I was sad, then very happy and confident. She asked how I was the next day, so I said I'm fine. "I'm actually really bad. I feel so empty."

She broke up with ME because she's leaving. She broke up with ME because she can't stay interested in someone for an extended period of time. She broke up with ME because I don't know how to help her with her problems (she is confident that nobody can, and once somebody fucks up she refuses help from them forever).

I need to forget about her as soon as possible. I don't want to love her, she is destroying me. If I am a dick to her to stop loving her she will sleep with her abusive ex boyfriend to cope and will be back with him. These two issues will be the equivalent of multiple stab wounds into my metaphoric heart.

She has made me consider suicide on multiple occasions and has become tired of having to help me when I'm emotionally upset.

>>17371568
>and has become tired of having to help me when I'm emotionally upset.

Holy shit this is the worst. I'm feeling like I wrote this myself and forgot, my situation is so similar.

It's the fucking worst that I have to always be there and comfort her when she's feeling badly, I have to give my 110%, but then when I'm feeling bad I need to fucking start crying for her to start giving a fuck.

We're on a "break" right now, and I already have a date lined up for the next days. I'm just hoping to find somebody else to forget about her. I feel like a shitty person, because she's a lot of issues, but it's not my job to help her fix her issues (nobody but herself can), and being with her is bringing me unhappiness. What's the point.

Shitty. Now I understand the red flags I ignored, and I hope I don't commit the same mistake again.

I wish if we just stayed together and did the plans we had, she'd become better and less distant, but the truth is it's not going to happen, and deluding ourselves will just make it worse down the road. Better end it now.

Just ranting about my situation, I hope it helps you or something. You do you.

>>17371568
Okay, but maybe you're.... different. Like, you CAN do IT.

>>17371591
I can't do it. She's told me countless times. Not only is she leaving soon, she refuses to acknowledge these as problems.

>>17371583
Don't apologize. I feel sorry for you, but it's good to hear that other people know what kind of nightmare I'm living through.