I'm not sure that anyone here can really help in this situation

You contracted HIV, yet somehow your self-esteem is still your biggest flaw. Christ.

>>17205950
I think my self-esteem is right where it should be.

>>17205937
I want to help you OP but I'm socially awkward and would say something like "I'm only looking for a friend" and have her say something like "Who'd want to be anything more than friends with -you-? Hahaha" so no advice to give but I feel for you, I probably wouldn't be able to handle your situation.

>>17205978
not bad advice at all, although it being awkward would probably be a best case scenario. I just dont want her to feel 'friendzoned' and to think shes not good enough. She has a lot to offer someone, I'm just not the guy she should offer it to.

>>17206058
Tell her you're gay and she isn't going to be the one to change you. That will also explain the hiv thing in case you actually got it from drugs or something

>>17206073
not sure how would I explain my exgirlfriends. seems like a hard lie to successfully pull off even as a somewhat androgynous male.l

>>17205937
Please tell me you aren't fucking her without telling her that you're HIV+

>>17205937
how'd you get HIV op?

>>17205937
The best thing you can do is bet on being honest and let the chips fall where they may. It sucks, but if you do that and she still says she wants you as a friend then be thankful. If she says she wants you are more than a friend regardless then you have an issue that you might want to ask specifically at an STD-based community.

>>17206228
no I'm not a sociopath.


>>17206266
trusted the wrong person. lying cheating girlfriend.


>>17206283
Its not something I really want to broadcast, but I dont want her to believe I'm someone that I'm not either.

I've tried a few communities and their advice is generally best regarding how to open up to a partner or how to be happy without one. A lot of them are batshit optimistic or extremely depressed, with little middleground. I'd rather take advice from people who aren't desensitized to the shock value that comes with someone breaking this kind of news.

>>17206573
You need to meet women in HIV support groups, stop hanging out with uninfected people you degenerate

>>17206573
>can get HIV from penis in vagina sex with supposedly monogamous partner

Thats is, now I'm for sure never going to have sex.

OP might be able to relate to my concern though- finding a gf who is okay with just cuddling but not having sex.

>>17206688
i deleted my profile in those communities.

i have an autoimmune disease. I do not need to be fucking with unhealthy bitches who are going to make me sicker. I take my medication and carry a low viral load. I eat healthy and take my vitamins. I exercise and stay physically active. Honestly even alot of hiv negative girls take lesser care of their health.

I have had enough sex. I basically overdosed on it. I don't really pursue women anymore.
>>17206705
>cuddle only partner
to the point that i would make a fucking robot to do it.

I don't think this exists. doesnt even have to be a dating thing really.

but yea, I'm still in single digits. Dont raw dog it. It feels nice and sloppy and shes on birth control so you can skeet all day, but birth control isnt std prevention. a condom does both. If she's on the pill you wont have to take her word for it either. I could have wound up a father to another mans child instead - paying child support.

condoms are literally free.

>>17205937
Tell her. Let her decide. As you well know, HIV is not an automatic death sentence. You can even have safe sex.