Hi /adv/. I have an obsessive and perfectionist personality.

Seek professional help.

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>>17161544
I had a therapist but she never mentioned it. She would if I had it, right?

>>17161537
I don't understand why this would matter to you. It's not like it's going to change who you are in any way. Seems like a waste of time to me.

>>17161554

yes.

>>17161537

your life will continue to be exactly the same as it was, so why bother getting diagnosed?

>>17161596
But if I have autism that means I can do better and become a better man with proper treatment and therapies. It's important to me.

>>17161613

not really. i mean you can see some improvement but there is no cure. the basis of their treatment is to essentially push you to be social, which you already are, and try to teach you how to live life, which you already do.

you arent failing at life as far as you have told us. all you said was that you've had a normal life, with periods of social growth and periods of hibernation.

as far as we can see you are just a normal guy who has had some negative interactions and are hoping to blame it on a metnal disorder.

cuz thats what happens with people like you unfortunately. you say you want treatment and therapy but in real life you just think 'OH I HAVE AUTISM SO IM NOT GONNA DO THAT'

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>>17161625
Well, I've wussed out on many things when I thought there was literally nothing wrong with me or I've really stretched my comfort zone, so it's probably irrelevant. But you have a point, it's just the human mind that always tries to find excuses to stay lazy and "comfy". Maybe, if I had autism and I knew I had it, it'd affect me worse.

>>17161658

life is 4 things

>happiness
>fulfillment
>maintenance
>something that leads to one of the above, even if the act itself is not nice

you may be trying to be social for the wrong reason and with the wrong people. that s what it seems like to me. but idk you are vague

>>17161684

I used to want to be more social for pussy, now I want to be more social because it'd benefit me more in life. Yet, just spilling less spaghettis would be enough.

>>17161721

heres a copy pasta about being social but in a way that works for whatever your interests are. hopefully it helps. its aimed at meeting girls but works just as well / better for meeting friends.

advice

>dont just hit on a woman

its no secret that women are the ones who are approached, and they make decisions on which men to keep in their lives. that being said, desperately drooling over each and every girl as if they are a potential love interest is silly.

give yourself more value by not letting a woman sway you on first impressions alone. before you ever begin to say anything remotely flirtatious, talk to the girl. see what she actually acts like when you interact with her. have a normal conversation. if there isnt anything special there beyond her looks, friendzone her. or simply stop talking to her. you do not need to hit on each and every girl that looks good enough to be your partner.

doing this gives you more value, and the psychological effects are great. in addition, women will take you more seriously. instead of being 1 of 500 men in new york who went straight for the kill, you took the time to get to know them. whether it goes anywhere or not, this approach also just gives you practice talking to girls in a casual context. its less pressure than trying to impress them.

>>17161723

>only ever use dating apps as a supplement to your real life dating.

dating apps are toxic. consider the following
>people use dating apps because they arent having much luck in real life
>they go to a dating app where they are introduced to an entire smorgasbord of men who want nothing more than to bang and/or date them
>after just one day they will have seen everyone in their area
>within one week they would have talked to everyone they are interested in

so anyone who has been using the app for more than a few weeks clearly has some sort of issue. likely, they are the female equivelent of what i discussed in my first post.

they want a 'bf' but because they have a very specific idea of what a bf is, they arent finding it anywhere. instead of seeing if they have real chemistry, they are simply walking down the aisle, trying to figure out what is the ONE thing at the groccery store they can buy, based solely on pictures and labels.

if a woman is on tinder for too long, they are losing their ability to feel chemistry.

you as a man can fall into a very similar pattern here, but with the added harshness of constant rejection.

it is an app made for people who want to date, yet no one seems to have success there for very long. that should tell you something.

>>17161725


>but anon, how do i use it as a supplement to an existing dating life if i dont have a dating life.

effort. lots and lots of effort. and also, doing what you like. going out is in no way restricted to bars and clubs, though if that is what you enjoy, by all means, go to bars and clubs.

the truest way to find chemistry is to experience your life in the most enjoyable way, and see how you match with the people who come into it. interacting with someone in a casual way shows you how you ACTUALLY get along, not how you hope to get along cuz you really want this to work cuz you need a gf.

so write down a list of all your hobbies, and find a way to externalize them. most people live at least near a city these days.

go to any and all hobby shops and ask about local events. gun shops might have hunting trips. or you can just go to a shooting range. comic book stores have game nights. or live commentary movie nights. if these shops do not host events, offer to host one through them, after all it will only lead to more money through them.

you can even go to a more casual store, lets say, a book store, and stand in your favorite aisle (lets say, horror). talk to everyone who comes by looking for a book. ask what book they are looking for. tell them what book you are looking at. try to spark a conversation abotu your favorite author. maybe take some suggestions. if you really hit it off, try to trade numbers.

its okay if it doesnt pan out. this isnt a scoring system. there is no man in a cloack in space making down on a cosmic chalkboard how many failed conversations you had. 99% of interaction is dumb. you are waiting for the 1% and enjoying talking about your favorite things with strangers until then.

>>17161726

>but anon, going outside somewhere to find out if maybe they have an event doesnt suit my lazy lifestyle!!1!

and for those who simply cannot bring themselves to get up out of the house without a guarantee go to meetup.com and look for something of your interest. no matter what your interest it is on there in a group you can meet with. and if not, you can start your own meet up.

Now, some of you may argue that these sorts of tailored events are attended mostly by men. yes. mostly. but some women too. whats important here is you will be doing something you love, with people who love what you love, and when the right ladies come along you'll know they love it too. you will have that common ground.

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>>17161723
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>>17161735

That's some good advice and is congruent with my opinions. Thanks, Anon.

>>17161537
What happened to that fit guy? Why the edit?

>>17161755

ayy lmao