My girlfriend of 4 years >never cheated on me >supports

its natural

Why don't you just have an open relationship? I don't get why you wouldn't just bring it up.

I wish my boyfriend would allow it. He is kind of not very sexual and I am very sexual, I need more than calculated sex...

>>17103823
Here's the thing OP.
Every one has thoughts like yours in long term relationships.
Acting on those thoughts is what makes you shitty.
If you love her, and you're monogamous- don't do it. You'll hate yourself.

>>17103823
Don't throw something good and special you have because of the urge to do something that will eventually prove to be shitty and unsatisfing.

You need to realize some things. First, it is just an urge. If you start to do it, it won't be as amazing or cool as you see it in your mind it will be poor, messy and most likely troublesome. Second all pleasure is ultimately in your mind. You need to condition yourself to feel more pleasure from sex. If you don't really want it, it won't be so pleasurable. Thirdly I would advice you to throw away some things that make you think too much of sex with other people. Stop watching porn if you do, stop listening to friends that just want to try fill the voids in their life with cheap sex. You can also start fantasizing about your gf, it can be quite dull at the start, because you have it in real life, but by fantasizing about her you will condition your urges to be concentrated on her and not on cheating on her which will make your life more pleasurable.

>>17103879
>>17103893
thank you, I need more ideas on how to prevent or subdue these thoughts..its so messed up

>>17103875
I would leave her if she brought that up, and i'd leave her if someone else penetrated her anywhere besides me. That's the reason I haven't cheated. It would kill her, and probably me after.

I am not for an open relationship, I couldn't handle it emotionally/

>>17103897
Prevent them by fucking your cool as hell girlfriend. Try some new stuff, push some boundaries- make things interesting again. I'm sure she won't complain.

>>17103906
This is exactly what we've been doing, getting into bdsm, ddlg, etc. I've been loving it! We need to live together soon..if she was there everything would be perfect..but we can't for now because I live on campus and she cannot afford to. We see each other 5 times a week, but the two days are very lonely. This sounds so stupid...I just don't want to feel the thoughts.

>>17103823
I had a woman
Livin' way back o' town
Yeah she treated me right
Never let me down
But I wasn't satisfied
I had to run around

Now she's gone and left me
I'm worried as can be
Oh I've searched this world all over
Wonderin' where she could be
I would ask that she forgive me
And maybe she'll come back to me

I'm lonesome an blue
And I've learned a thing or two
Oh fellas here's a tip
I'm gonna pass on down to you
Never mistreat your woman
Cause it's gonna bounce right back on you

>>17103913
Trust me OP. You'll miss the alone time after you love with them for a year.
Gotta stop relying on her for your well being though m8. You sound like a young dude, so it's natural that you want to fuck everything that moves.

>>17103897
>ideas on how to prevent or subdue these thoughts
If you want, I have couple more.

1. You could start compliment her in your mind. If she is as amazing as you write it should be easy. It is amazing how much we forget about good things in others. Constantly reminding yourself about what makes her special will make you appreciate her more.

2. If you didn't already, spice up your sex life and start doing stuff that's exciting and unusual. Stuff that will make very good memories for both of you.

3. When you involuntarily start to think about sex with others, you need to immediataly exchange this other person with her in your mind.

4. Some jealousy on your part can make wonders. Just don't push it. But imagining other guys hiting on her can make you jealous and madly in love.

5. I remember first time with my current gf could be a little dull. I sometimes pretended in my mind that we are in fantasy situations.

6. Appreciate that you have something very special and that you don't need cheap subsitutes. Laugh at people that boast about their sex lifes becuase you know they are ultimately not very happy, they trade true happiness for easy and messy pleasure. Ridiculing such activities can go long way.

7. Tell her about struggle and how you don't want to do it. Chances are she felt the same and you can help each other out. Tell her about the ugly thoughts when they happen and let her "take them out of your mind".

>>17103897
>I need more ideas on how to prevent or subdue these thoughts

Castration is your only real shot. They're just thoughts, m8. You're a young male, when you see an attractive woman you're going to think about fucking her. That's biology. So long as you don't act on it you're fine.

>>17103934
>Tell her about struggle
Yeah man tell your girlfriend you're having thoughts about having sex with other women, she's totally not going to take that the wrong way.

>>17103823
She's probably ugly as shit lol