Sexual frustrations thread. I've had 4 partners, and only

If you're a guy stop watching porn. If you're a girl learn how to orgasm and put down the wand.

>>17080638
Do you have any tips for masturbation for females? I've been masturbating for 10 years now and not once got myself off with just my fingers, despite trying. I think it may be due to an old injury, but I'm not sure.

>>17080646
A vaginal injury? How do you get yourself off?

>>17080661
Clitoral is how I've always gotten off for as long as I can remember. I have never gotten off vaginally even with aide.

Had several back surgeries at the location of your back where your sex organ nerves go in.

Some women are medically unable to orgasm at all. If you think there is something physically wrong, there is no shame in going to see a doctor.
Some women do orgasm, but think they don't because it's not some hyped-up mindblowing experience that makes you scream like it's portrayed in the media. Some women just aren't comfortable enough around other people to truly let go (see: self-objectification).

I used to have this issue and something that helped me was reading sex- and PIV- critical analysis. I can't say that I agree with everything I found, but it did open my eyes to certain things surrounding sex. I ended up changing how I presented and received sex and I've been able to orgasm with my most recent partner.
This essay really helped me: https://www.uic.edu/orgs/cwluherstory/CWLUArchive/vaginalmyth.html

>>17080676
Most women can't get off without flicking the old bean. Just rub your clit while the guy is pumping

>>17080691
This was actually very helpful. I am reading this article now.

>>17080705
I'll try that. Or maybe get him to do that. He'd tried it a few times but has difficulty getting his hand down there because of his belly fat.

>>17080714
Stop having sex with fat guys lol that might help

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>>17080714
Great, I hope you find your answers somewhere!

I'm in US Navy A school, girls are thirsty here, and I haven't seen the gf in 8 months. Just fuck my shit.

I'm 24 and still a virgin, probably going to remain one for a long time

>>17080777
... you got trips, but you're posting weak facebook memes to rebuttal a valid point.

Disgraceful.

>>17081069
Trips still speak truth. He makes a valid point, but as a fat guy who gets laid on the regular and intends to continue doing so, I say he can go fuck himself because I like girls who fuck fat guys.

>>17080617

Have him do oral on you.

>>17080809
28 here

Repost: Does anyone have any sex toy (for women) recommendations?

The gf wants to go shopping for them, and while she's in charge of her body, is lazy and wants me to do research for her. Help?

>>17081425
OP here. I just use a detachable showerhead. :)

Same here I only got one orgasm during any sexual activities in my life and it felt like painful contractions (masturbating feels fine btw I don't use any tools) and now I've faked it a couple of times because the guy I'm with feels bad about it. He said he made past partners cum atleast 3-4 times during sex and I'm the only one who's been ''so hard'' and now I just feel weird and sad for some reason. How do I get over this i've never felt bad about it until he told me.

I feel like an idiot asking this but hey ho.

The guy I'm seeing has a pretty huge dick. When we first started sleeping together, he really struggled to fit inside me and we had to spend a lot of time slowly stretching me out. Now, even though we've only slept together a few times, it doesn't hurt as much when he enters me and I feel like this means I might be getting loose? I do my kegels regularly and we go a few weeks without seeing each other at times but it's a genuine concern.

Is this just my imagination?

>>17082920
How old are you?

>>17082976

Mid-twenties.

>>17080705
never actually been with a women who could cum with out playing with her clit. i have only been with a few girls though.

>>17081425
Hitachi magic wand. If you have the extra cash, get the cordless one.

YW

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Women are a sexual labyrinth. You sexuality is predominantly based more on emotion and less with physicality. Talk to your bf...discuss with him your rape fantasies.

>>17081425
If you want to spend a bit more, and love her to death, buy a Lelo toy, I have the Elise and the Soraya and they are 10/10.
But as >>17083743 said, magic wand's always good too.

>>17080646
I've found great success in vaginal exercises, doing keegles regularly will help strengthen the muscles and give you much more sensation.
You can get Ben wa balls to help you do this, or just clenching the muscles.
The best way I've found to get the most pleasure from sex is by being extremely aroused first.
Have your boyfriend get you off maybe with a toy or foreplay before penetration, once you cum your vagina is extremely sensitive and this is the best time to stimulate the g-spot.
You really need to get into it as well, being in the right mindset and stop holding back. Rubbing your clit while being penetrated is usually a sure fire way to get off during sex, try mixing that with switching up positions and seeing what works for your body and hits the spot just right.
Remember, girls have the gift of multiple orgasm, use it as much as you can.

>>17084004
Bit of advice for the ben wa balls, they can be extreeeeemely pleasurable, for me in any case, so don't think of it as training.

>>17081384
Fat people are so weird. Like, always apologizing and relying on social proof. Can't stand you fat cucks.

>>17082920
Have you been doing anything different? Adding more lube or even just more relaxed and turned on? Rather than tense and nervous? Your vagina will naturally lubricate and ready itself when you're excited, making sex much easier. Kinda like getting it in when you've just had an extensive foreplay session vs. Not really being in the mood, quickie kind of sex.
If you do kegels regularly you should be fine, of you're really concerned you can look for small, heavy Ben wa balls.
They're kinda like the "nightmare mode" of the kegels world , amazing work out.

>>17084008
Have you tried the vibrating Ben wa balls? They're pretty cool if you use them for pleasure.

>>17084026
I didn't know that's a thing, cool. Gonna look into that, thanks. I've been talking about buying "real" toys forever and somehow never do it.

>>17084031
You can find them on amazon, sometimes they go by the name of geisha balls
They have no source of power they just have a smaller set of balls inside of the silicone exterior and shake with your body movements.
Much too big to be used for exercise but if you have a sensitive g-spot they can be a lot of fun

I have to say having a small arsenal of diverse sex toys has really developed my orgasm abilities.
I usually try to keep;
1 clitoral vibrator (a small bullet, a magic wand, etc)
1 gspot specific vibrator (anything hard with a curve and egg at the end is perfect for this)
1 good dual vibe (a bunny mainly)
And an anal toy
Start small on like amazon, just grab a few things that interest you; then evolve your collection as you discover things.

>>17084093
I'd kill for a proper g-spot toy, that's so damn tricky. Pricey stuff tho.
But thanks for the recommendations anyway, appreciate it!

>>17084097
https://www.amazon.ca/gp/aw/d/B00MLKCF50/ref=mp_s_a_1_419?qid=1461805778&sr=1-419&pi=AC_SX236_SY340_QL65&keywords=G-spot&dpPl=1&dpID=31QCxEwiaNL&ref=plSrch

This one man, this one is consistently the best g-spot vibe I've ever used
The hard egg part vibrates and; if you can get it at the right spot, will really help you learn to use your g-spot
Its loud though, if you roll a piece of paper around the batteries (to create a barrier between them and the hard plastic) it will muffle that a bit

Guy here.

I've been with my girlfriend for about 7 months now. She's completely awesome and everything I want in a partner, except she is possibly the least sexually attractive (to me) girl I've dated, and this is after my ex, who was the most sexually attractive girl I've dated.

Things were fine enough for the first couple months, we've been pretty much using the same position every time (cowgirl), with a couple variations (tried doggy but I'm not into it, sometimes missionary, sometimes I try getting a hand in between us so I can rub her clit while we fuck but that's doesn't work well, etc.), and everything was pretty good.

A couple months in, I started to notice that I wasn't as able to get hard at a moment's notice anymore. I would have to really psych myself up to get hard enough to fit a condom on, and I'd have to take advantage of that state quickly before I got soft again. I started having to make sure I didn't masturbate the day before seeing her.

Lately, cowgirl hasn't been working as well. I'll manage to get hard enough to get it in, and it will feel really good, then the sensation starts to die a bit, and I'll fall out soft. I'll also get soft alarmingly quickly if our thrusts get parallel and there's no friction for a few seconds.

Lately I've found that I can somehow manage to stay hard and go to town with no problems missionary, but I have to wonder what happened to cowgirl position? Now it just seems that unless I'm crazy horny my blood just doesn't have that extra drive to fight gravity and support my penis while I'm on my back.

I also just... I'm losing interest in sex altogether. It's starting to seem rather arbitrary. Like, it feels good and it's fun and all, but most days I could take it or leave it. I'd rather just play video games or get high.

We're both 26, I'm healthy if a little stressed out sometimes (lots of times), I smoke weed often, and I don't drink. Am I losing my libido? Is this normal?

>>17084209
>today we fucked and then we were watching netflix for 25 mins or so and I started kissing him and touching him again and he didn't seem into it..

I don't know if you're aware of this, but men tend to have a longer refractory period than women. The "refractory period" is the time it takes between cumming and being horny again. Most guys can only go once or twice a day, some even less. It's not often you find a guy who's older than 19 that wants to fuck twice a day or more.

So, the good news is that, most likely, it's not because of you, or anything you're doing. If anything, you just make him cum so hard that he's spent for the rest of the day.

The bad news is that there's no solution aside from a new boyfriend, libido-enhancing drugs, or masturbation. Maybe he can give you a handjob or something once in a while if you're still super horny after having sex?

>>17084153
Variety is the spice of life, mate.
Keep yourself (and her) excited by the sex you're having.
Look up positions and try a few out, sometimes just the angle of a position can make it uncomfortable so try a few different things
Even using a pillow under the back or abdomen can make entry a lot easier
Maybe one day you'll be in the middle of sex , flip her on top of you and it will be like the first time again, but until then just try to break the routine a little and explore each others body.

Also; smoking weed may be affecting your libido a little, if you were smoking when things were normal its def not the weed though

>>17082920
you don't get loose from having sex frequently, you get loose from not using those muscles or having them torn apart by having kids. It doesn't hurt as much now because you're getting used to it and less nervous about it.