I'm male and I have the problem where I don't want

>>17009287
Grab a bitch by the neck and fuck her, tell yourself you like it. Self hypnosis success in fucking method.

>>17009292
I've tried being dominant before (obviously not grabbing someone by the neck), and it just makes my dick go limp. I know this is much more psychological but I can't tell why I just can't get hard. It sucks because I fall deeply in love with women, I just can't get my dick up.
>inb4 gay
I'm not, I already know that.

I don't think you need to change your ways. Everyone's different. Find yourself a dominant woman who can get you wild. I'm sure there are many out there.

>>17009321
but I'm in love with someone right now who I don't think is dominant..I want to just be the alpha for her, but I don't know how.

>>17009327
You can be alpha outside the bedroom. If she loves you too she'd probably try being dominant. She might even find she enjoys it

>>17009334
never thought of that...thanks anon. I guess sometimes I try too hard to be 'perfect' instead of just being myself.

>>17009287
Just find a mistress.

>>17009327
Tell her you want her to take charge sometimes?... Amazing things happen when you talk to the person and not just to the internet

>>17009364
we're not even dating yet. I just don't want us to one day hook up and I can't get it up. I'm nervous about that shit happening because it's happened in the past.

>>17009370
>Not dating yet

What kind of relationship do you have right now then? If there's nothing going on, do you know for sure that you two will even have a relationship?

If you guys have had sex and you plan on doing it again, just ask her to ride you or tell her your enjoying yourself, but you're a little tired and would love if she could do some of the work.

Encourage her to be more ruff/mean in small ways. Build up from there.