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How do I find a gf when I work 11hrs/day 6 days/week? On my

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How do I find a gf when I work 11hrs/day 6 days/week?

On my day off I'm too tired or have too much other stuff to do than go looking to meet girls.
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Pretty hard unless you can work less
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Co-workers. Also, if this job doesn't make you happy, why not grabbing another one with less hours but that is able to sustain you.
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>>16526135
That was me a year ago at the shitty slaughter house I worked at, same exact story, I quit after a yr
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>>16526135

Whatchu doin. How much u makin. How did they get you to work so much.

Oh, and I am pretty sure the answer is "you don't."
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As somebody who regularly worked 80+ hour weeks for a couple years, the best way is to find an outside hobby you enjoy. There are women in almost any activity.

My daily routine would be 6am to 7pm working, seven days a week (generally) and then I would go to a nearby climbing gym for the last 5 hours or so they were open. I met my (now ex) girlfriend there. We already had something in common that we enjoyed and relatively similar schedules. We co-existed well and that was pretty ideal.

If you sit at home and cry about how hard it was to work 60 hour weeks of course you aren't going to find anybody. Is this so complicated?
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>>16526894
When do you sleep?
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>>16526899
From midnight-ish until 5:45 every night. Coffee was also available at all hours where I worked. If you find time for physical activity you'll have more energy and won't feel deprived of sleep even after 10 hours.
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>>16526911
And for the records, I'm not saying it's completely sustainable to live that way. I quit that job and found higher pay for less hours.

All I'm saying is moping about how hard your 60 hours were isn't going to solve the problem. It's not like you're super attractive and single neighbor will hear you wallowing in self pity and ask you take her on a date.
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>>16526894

>My daily routine would be 6am to 7pm working, seven days a week (generally) and then I would go to a nearby climbing gym for the last 5 hours or so they were open.
Are you the Energizer Bunny?
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Even if you could find a girlfriend, it's not like you would ever see her with that kind of work schedule. Even if she lived with you, you might see her for what, 2 hours at night before you had to fall into an exhausted slumber before getting up and doing it all again, and that's IF she doesn't have a job with hours that conflict with yours. And it's not like you would be able to go out or go on a vacation with hours like that.

Plus, working those kind of hours long term can literally kill you, such as the risk of stroke increases 13% at 55+ hours a week even after controlling for other risk factors.
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>>16526950
Do you sleep for 12 hours or something? Jesus christ. What kind of McDonald's fueled lives do you all lead if you're awake for only 2 hours after work?

Actually, you know what, never mind. Take the advice from this guy and give up. It's actually impossible to have a relationship when the big bad man has you working 66 hours a week. Might as well hang yourself.
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>>16526135
The Internet.
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>>16526957
I didn't say awake for 2 hours, I said spend quality time with her for 2 hours. If you're working 11 hours a day, once you add in 8 hours of sleep that's already 19 hours of OP's life. Some people can get by with less sleep, but some people need even more, and being chronically sleep deprived raises your cortisol production, leads to weight gain, and a bunch of mental/emotional problems.

Then, once you add in commute time, say 1 hour (30 min each way, is more in larger cities), that leaves OP with only four hours to do literally everything else in his life every day: exercise, personal care/hygiene, household chores, food preparation and consumption, errands, etc. If his hypothetical girlfriend doesn't move in with him immediately she will be lucky to see him twice a month.
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>>16527083
Ok so your solution is to be afraid of increased cortisol production [citation needed] instead of attempting to have a normal relationship. Also when you start dating somebody you don't spend 2 hours every fucking day. Are you dating a NEET? Guess what, in the real world the women you'll want to date have jobs too. Sometimes you're exhausted by the end of a three hour date since it cut in to your time. Boo fucking hoo.

Can you really not offer better advice than give up because cortisol?
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>>16527105
>Also when you start dating somebody you don't spend 2 hours every fucking day.
That anon said that would be if she moved in, that realistically they'd see each other twice a month
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>>16527105
It fucks up cortisol levels and a bunch of other things too.
http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/9415946
http://press.endocrine.org/doi/full/10.1210/jcem.85.10.6871
http://www.hindawi.com/journals/ijhy/2015/615681/
My usual gig is cancer research, but I'm always happy to drop some science. I guess I'm not making my point clear enough. OP realistically doesn't have time to form close interpersonal bonds, which is the least of his problems. Having trouble socializing enough to find a gf is just a symptom of OP's main problem, which is that he is basically working a job and a half. It isn't "give up because cortisol," it's "fucking quit your job before it kills you."
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If you're working that much to be rich, fuck escorts in your bachelor pad.
If you work that much because you're a Bangladeshi garment-making factory worker, get it arranged through family.
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>>16527217
That's the dumbest shit I've ever heard. First of all, OP is just asking about finding a girlfriend, not somebody to move in. Second, he would have to try not to see her if they lived together. How does it even make sense in your world that they'd see each other twice a month if they're under the same roof.

>>16527836
>"fucking quit your job before is kills you"
Yes, because doing something for 66 hours a week will surely be what kills OP. Also how are quitting the job and giving up distinctly different? I also don't know a single person in the medical center who works less than 55 or so hours a week. What world do you all live in where 40 hours is the only non-overwhelming amount of time you can invest in a job before you sit around and cry about not having time or being sleep deprived?
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>>16527946
read that post again, what he ment was:
If OP is working so much and has no time to meet a gf, he won't be able to see her enough to sustain anything. He would only see her on his off-day when he's too tired to do stuff

Even in the hypothetical case of her moving in with him (which maximizes time spent together) they'd still not have much life together.


basically, working 60hrs is fun if you have to make money quick or are trying to break trough in bussiness or as a scientist but really not sustainable long-term.
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>>16527946
>"fucking quit your job before is kills you"

You jest, but in Japan people die from stress and overwork so often that they actually have a term for it. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Kar%C5%8Dshi
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