So I'm a young woman in uni and I'm struggling with

You sound like an intellectual person, figure it out.

Right now you sound like this:

"A guy rejected me because he thinks I'm strange, clearly this one guy's perspective is representative of every single male on the planet, therefore I will be forever alone."

Is that logical to you?

>>16495289
Learn to love yourself for you or find a few things you would like to change and try to change it. Do for yourself not others. NEVER cater to anyones standards. Find validation in you.

Youre probably like 18 so you have plenty time to figure you out

Guy probably thinks you're strange because you didn't look like it was easy for him to get you under the covers

>>16495296
This. You're not using reason, and are in fact ignoring it to fit your depressive mood.

Ironic

I can sympathise, OP. You cannot listen to other people's opinions about you. They don't actually know you, I bet the people saying you're strange haven't even hung out or had a proper conversation with you seeing as you're shy. Shy people tend to be seen as snobby or strange, unfortunately some people make assumptions way too easily. You have to accept gradually that it isn't worth caring what others think, and forcing yourself to socialise more will make you less awkward over time.

I had a similar experience when I was in college, I'm physically attractive and all but I'm terribly awkward and hate small talk so I avoided most people. I still had guys approach me, but they would talk to me and then go off and tell other people that I seemed like I was fierce or something because my resting face is serious. The girls starting circulating rumours that I gave them dirty looks, was a slut, gold digger (they thought I was dating an Asian guy for his money), and one guy who I barely knew from class had spread a rumour around that I had sent him nude pictures (which I hadn't).

The point of that story is, other people's opinions don't matter because they're not you, they don't know you that well, and you know yourself that you are an intelligent individual who is above silly gossiping and rumours. Keep your head held high, and don't avoid people like I did. Face them and try to socialise to improve yourself, and if anyone talks shit ignore them.

put out more. You will be very popular.

>Girls
>Dating problems
Pffffftt hahahahahahahaha! What, did you only have to turn down one guy today? Gosh it must be so lonely :^)

>>16495289

the only reason you feel this way to begin with is that your current circle of people around you don't resemble the people you have a desire to be around you.

and these other anons are selectively ignoring your opening sentence

>people think I'm strange, and it has always been this way

if you're situationally aware enough to know that you are thought of as weird by others, it doesn't necessarily mean you have the capacity to recognise the weirdness being seen by others.

So that leaves you with two choices, 1 find more of objective observers who can comment and give you an idea where your weakness are, or 2 double down and do as >>16495306 says.

neither is easy or more "right" to get the people you want to surround you.

>>16495289
Ayy, wanna be my gf bby?

I used to be shy because I had an untreated hearing disability. I acted like an awkward sperglord most of the time, which probably resulted in me being rejected by any dude I fancied during puberty. What the other anons are saying is completely true; socialise more, shyness is not a permanent personality trait. For me, my social life got better after I got a hearing aid, even though I still had (and have) to work hard at it. It's absolutely worth the effort though!
You will find that some men love a decent conversational partner, but you simply never gave them the opportunity to get to know you.

>>16495289
>former flame said he rejected me because I was weird
>I will always be mocked and misunderstood?
yeah men come together in clubs to decide what is weird and then all agree to never date a girl who's on the "weird-list".

in reality there's probably at least several guys sitting behind you in every lecture who are fantasizing about being with you. except you probably don't notice them cuz they're not that one hot guy you've set your mind to.

>>16495289
Look think less suck more dick it's really that simple.

Don't want to look like a slut? Talk for 30 min on your date and just kiss them boom.

Doesn't matter if it's on your first date guys like to fuck.

Aside from that cook some grub( make a sandwich) and chill. You'll be surprised how quickly guys will want to be your bf.

>>16495763
not op, but never once in my life was i ever hit on, by anyone. You just think all girls have it easy because it's statistically very likely that you crush on the 10/10 blonde cheerleader types, who have to turn down 20 guys a day. Meanwhile, I could be right behind you and you would never notice it

>>16496259
These are the types of girls I normally look for.

I don't expect people to look 10/10, but their personality better be above a 7.

>>16496134
this. This advice also applies to guys who say all girls are bitches, and it's so easy for girls, but so hard for guys to get fucked. They just have their eyes perpetually fixed on the hottest girl, and believe they're too good for anything less.

>>16496263
then it's nice to know that you're the exception, because I've seen many harsh r8s on those r8 my face threads, which would explain why most guys find it hard to get partners (if you want to date a girl "out of your league", you need a decent and confident personality, otherwise lower the standards). But yeah nice to see someone realistic.

>>16496273
Yeah, I'm someone who is always saying shit how it is and being realistic a lot, hence why my ex left me (kek). But yes, a person is defined by their actions, not their looks.

>>16495289
To be honest OP
This
>people think I'm strange because I'm an avid scholar who is often quiet and observational, who can become very playful whenever I'm comfortable. I enjoy asking provocative questions in class but in daily conversation I don't like to provoke
Is attractive to people. At least it's what I would look for in a possible gf and friendo.
What see is some curious and wanting to learn. Perhaps even ambitious to do so, which is welcomed. And the latter part tell me, you know when to relax and shut that part of your mind down. You have walls as we all do but aren't afraid to let people in when you warm up to them.
All in all, would gf, but that's my opinion.
As for the question, just continue doing what you are doing now. Stay ambitious and continue learning and asking questions. Be happy about who you are and be confident about it. If you do, trust me, you'll bump into someone would will see those things in you and love you for it.

>>16496259
>Never been hit on
Except for that guy a few days ago but he was ugly and not those other two guys because they were creepy and I didn't like them. Oh, and Joe's brother but he doesn't count. You women have a fantastic way of lying about this shit.

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>>16496471
lmao, just because that's what happened to you because you smell worse than an Indian rusting toilet bowl and probably say shit in an attempt to be witty that even autismo arnold knows its inappropriate to say in a conversation doesn't mean you need to vent on a poor girl asking for help you shitfaced dickhole

>>16496481

white Knight to the rescue. Pussy incoming in.....

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>>16496481
Chances are >>16496471 is right. That's always what you get to hear from girls claiming they don't get hit on.

OP, you must be simply boring, and not attractive enough to make up for that.

>>16496489
yeah, using the ultimate virgin comeback when the only reason to why you use the "le whiteknight" reply is because you assume that I would be as insecure as to need the approval of a random girl that I don't know from anywhere and probably will never meet, because that's the mentality that you, in one way or another have. what next? fitness and fashion are for faggots and girls should love you for the unnatractive awkward fuck you are? lmaoooooo. by god. hadn't it been that I used to be like you...

>>16495687
Wow that guu that said he had your nudes must've been one pathetic loser. Bet he's a /b/tard.

>>16496481
>Being this buttmad
White Knighting for this dumb bitch won't get you laid, anon.

>>16496698
and you of all people would know about it, right? :^)

>>16496737
Because I'm the dude fucking the girls you spend so long pining over :^)

>>16496739
Claiming that makes you look just as dumb as him. Seriously, what are you thinking when typing that?

>>16496740
I'm thinking about how sad this one guy is gonna be when he finds out that I've been fucking his pure innocent girl crush. His tears of rage will be so sweet.

>>16496740

> u mad

>>16496755
ugh. dude, no. please...no.

>>16496775
That's probably what he's gonna be saying as he clenches his fists and tries to hide his tears of pain.

>>16496755
Exactly what I am talking about.
You are cool and get all the girls on an anonymous image board where nobody can verify that claim, because it makes you feel better about yourself. Guess how many people believe you. None. It just sounds pathetic.

>>16496771
About what? Someone claiming to have sex with women on 4chan? Nigga, please...

>>16496778
Kinda like how nobody believes that OP doesn't get hit on? You think I give a fuck if you believe me or not? :)

>>16495289
ayee gurl u wan sum fukk gimme ur skype ill luv u nice n right

>>16496782
1. Wasn't OP we were talking about.
2. No matter if you give a fuck or not, shitposting is shitposting.
You simply come across as someone needing to feel cool and the only place he can do that is here. This is more a pity thing from my side than anything else, although I don't have too much sympathy for people like that.

>>16496797
>Implying it wasn't OP complaining later on in the thread
Lolplz

>The rest of your shit
Is just that: shit.

>>16496783
autismo

>>16496805
You can't read. The first words of the one complaining were "not op" (direct quote).
And you are shitposting and seem immature. Just face it and you can work on it. Otherwise you will remain that way.

>>16496817
>Can't read
>Reading everything you type
Hyperbole will not help you. I suppose I can't expect much from you though.

>>16496821
And now you are picking out a stylistic device after realising you fucked up. So what is to be expected of you?

>>16496838
>Implying I think I fucked up
I didn't. I'm just killing time before my meeting with aforementioned girl. You're just so autistic that you think you're beating me at something.

>>16496846
Not "beating" anyone at anything.
You just fucked up claiming we were talking about OP before, which is simply not true and an objective fuck up.
And now you are trying to bring that imaginary girl back into play to prove how much cooler and better you are. Didn't work the first time.

>>16496850
>Hehe hehe I sure got him guys. Wait until my mtg group hears about this epic win

>>16496862
My what?

>>16496876
:^)

>>16496885
I am serious, what is an mtg group? I'd at least like to know in what immature way you are trying to make fun of me now for calling you out on your shitposting.

I and a lot of other people can understand that completely. A classroom is supposed to be a place where it's safe to ask questions because you're there to learn, even if a lot of people don't want questions asked anymore. You're also introverted, like most of this site (if we were extroverts, we couldn't stand being on here and not around other people for very long). However, conversational skills can be learned, so you shouldn't just accept being awkward as part of who you are. But you have to talk to people to learn them. You'll have it easier if you choose not to feel or not think about the anxiety and only think about the facts of the situation.

In my opinion, your biggest obstacles to romance are either dressing weird or being fat (which will keep guys from approaching you), or from turning down every opportunity that presents itself. You might also be projecting an appearance of being busy all the time, by wearing headphones or looking completely absorbed in something you're doing. You might also not spend much time outside your place of residence. Try hanging out at some fun event or join an organization and just talk to people.

>>16496891
>implying you don't know
And you say I'm the one acting cool. Lol oh anon. You're so full of shit. Only an hour until lunch > sex > tears. It's gonna be a good Tuesday.

>>16496900
I don't act cool. I am perfectly fine admitting I am not a very social person or what a vast, vast majority of people sees as cool.
I just don't have a clue what an mtg group is. And I am starting to believe you don't either, just some buzz word you heard someone use and are now repeating in those situations.

>>16496893
>if we were extroverts, we couldn't stand being on here and not around other people for very long
Not how extroverts work.

>>16496908
I know exactly what it is and someone as autistic as you most certainly does as well. It's OK, we all believe you're cool.

>>16496915
Yeah, I am now entirely convinced you are just bullshitting here.

>tfw no gf

>>16496919
You're just now noticing that this entire thread has been bullshiting? You're the only one too autistic to realize this. I stated at the time I was just wasting time (which I still am). Oh, mtg stands for. Magic the gathering. I'm sure you're quite well versed in that :^).

>>16496928
No, I actually have no clue about Magic the gathering. Trading card games are mostly marketed to kids over here and based on anime.
And the thread was going pretty well until a certain point with solid hints saying you can pretty much work on everything in a way.
It's just the same idiots claiming they fuck oh so many women when in reality they don't derailing the threads or preventing them from going into archive (which I know I am also doing right now).
You either really are some loser having to claim to fuck tons of women on 4chan or you are just legitimately shitposting. Either option is pretty pathetic.

>>16496951
>Criticizes shit posters
>Shit posts himself
Ohohoho you certainly are a special type of autist.

>>16495289

You're smart, that's the answer.
Smart people are out of social standarts, and when you're different than other people, you're "strange, psycho, ill".
Smart people overthink stuff, they think everything, and they don't chill(like you), but it's habit, so you can remove it, you just need to try. Find something you like, and do that! You're young, you have loads of time! Be passionate! Just do the fucking stuff you love! And don't fucking think it's impoisible, just try it! Just try!

>said he rejected me because I was weird, even though he never spoke to me about it
>destined to live life alone.
Then fuck him! What's good from people around you which pretend to be your friends? Fuck them, they're no friends then. You need to find real ones.

>You need to find real ones.
Yes I know it sounds kinda imposible, but cheer up, and do stuff you love, and you'll see, you will find friends.

>I'm also a bit awkward when talking to people, so there's that.
You sound like having social anxiety. I've been there. Like you said you're quiet, so you don't have experience in talking with people. If you want it not be awkward, you need to start socializing. Sounds imposible right? But how I said, you just need try and try. Gonna tell a story about myself.
A little while ago, my good friend suggested me to socialize, I was like "wat? it's imposible man", but somehow in school I managed to try it. First it was awkward, but I tried again, it got better, and later I got better with speaking to people, and that made me to find one person who's like me, now a good friend.

>What's the point of romance if I will always be mocked and misunderstood?
Shit happens in life, but romance is part of love. Love is a thing then you just.. just very like person.. you just love him.. Feel great being close to him/her, when he/she cheers you up, you just want to spend time with him/her. Basicly you want spend your whole life with that person. And romance's point to make person you love fee

>>16496957
And you certainly like to throw the word autist around too much. Seems like that is all you have got to attack someone on here. Maybe that's because you got called that yourself a few times too many?

>>16496967
Haha Oh wow. Yeah dude I get called an autist all the time. You sure got me :^)

>>16496959

cont of >>16496959

feel better, happy. if you're with person who loves you like you do, I don't think you will get mocked and misunderstood. Because you will understand each other, love each other. And that stuff for lovers is just.. not important, you're just in love with each other, love makes dumb, and that will make you laugh.


Okay so I don't know what to say more, I can be not right with most stuff.. Anons correct me, for the sakes of her future.
And you girl, Live, and try! And have fun in your life. Make so you won't regret when you're old that you didn't do something in youth. You have time to spend, use it! Have a good luck!

>>16496973
Well, if you need to go on 4chan to claim you have sex with so many women...

>>16496967
just ignore him man, he reeks of 16 year old syndrome.

Doesn't matter how weird you are, if you're hot, someone will want to hit it. You're likely ugly/fat etc and they were being nice by calling you weird.