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well I'm 20 and still no bf, virgin What advice do you

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well I'm 20 and still no bf, virgin

What advice do you have for me?
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>>16442006
Lose weight
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>>16442008

/thread
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>>16442006
depends what you've already tried to be honest.
1) Talk to guys. most of them will be up for some unless you're physically (or intellectually) repulsive.
2) Once you've got a group that you can comfortably hang around with, try being subtley more flirty than usual with one of them. They'll love that (providing you fit the criteria above)
3) eventually ask one of them out. They'll be thinking something along similar lines and the girl showing the initiative is the barrier that's usually holding them back from asking you out.
4a) it's worked, gg, wp, gl, OR
4b) he's rejected you, either 'cause you came on too strong, he's with someone else already, or he's just not interested. Rinse and repeat steps 1 through 3 until step 4a occurs
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Don't be so hung up on age. I didn't lose my virginity until I was 22.

>>16442037

Also what they said. I mean unless you just want to lose your virginity why not do a one night stand?
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>>16442037
Forgot to clarify what's considered repulsive :P
Physically repulsive means obese, NOT chubby; deformed, NOT odd-looking; Anorexic, NOT skinny; etc.
Intellectually repulsive would be arrogance instead of confidence, whorish instead of promiscuous, antisocial instead of seclusive/introverted, suicidal as opposed to depressed, masochistic as opposed to hardcore (citation needed), etc.
There are preferences, but they're not too wild. It's serious problems that cause revulsion because most guys want things as easy as possible initially (someone's who's got their shit together is 1000x more attractive than someone who's just let it pile up).
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>>16442006
>well I'm 20
So?
>virgin
So?
>no bf
So fucking what. You know what you need to do so shut the fuck up and do it.
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I'm 25 and a virgin.
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Not OP, but also 20, virgin and no bf, so I appreciate any advice on this.
Also OP, maybe you are too scared to commit? That seems to be the case for me at least and I would consider myself as attractive.
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>>16442006

OP, let me ask you a question as a guy

would it make you feel better if someone fucked you, and never talked to you again? do you want to be used like a condom?

if you have to wait to be with someone that cares about you, it's worth it. dont be like countless other sluts that fuck anything with an erection. have some standards.

there is nothing wrong with you, the only thing wrong is the idea that you are bad for being a virgin at 20.
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I'm turning 21, no bf and I'm a virgin too. What's the matter? Why do you even care about this, I don't understand. Do you think having a bf and fucking will add value to your life or something ? Like the other anon said if you just want to lose your virginity then have a one night stand, even if you're ugly as fuck there will always be someone willing to fuck you.
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>>16442006

maybe if you didn't watch such shitty anime you'd have a boyfriend

>falling apart for being a virgin
so this is the sad society we live in
>>16442159
honestly people who get sad for being a virgin or feel they NEED sex should kill themselves because they're so far gone
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I'm 26 and a virgin (did have a boyfriend but that turned out horribly and I plan on never having one again). My advice to you is to stop giving a fuck.
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>>16442088
Doesn't apply to fat bronies
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You a possibly ugly and are most definitely not trying.
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>>16442006
Watch better anime
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My advice is to stop focusing on this useless aspect of your life because if it bothers you then you're a fucking failure and to start working to improve yourself. A Bf will come along naturally if it's meant to happen
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>>16442204
Hey bitch, don't let your experience dictate other people's destiny with your suggestions
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Apply yourself. Find ways to improve on what you have already. Get out and market yourself more. If you're at bars, buy guys drinks and slip them your number. Be more social. Talk to strangers. Spill spagetti right away and let them know you have romantic interest in them early on into the conversation.

Most importantly, don't rely on 4chan to help get you laid.
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>>16442256
Hey, retarded cunt, that's what giving advice is all about. No one is "dictiating" anything.
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I didn't even have my first kiss until I was 21. Nothing wrong with me, I'm pretty normal. My advice is don't push it and become desperate, it'll happen when it happens
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>>16442093
Not OP but im the same as you only that im 21 and yes,im scared to commit because i had some deep self steem issues that im still trying to fix.
not sure how to go about this,though im glad im not alone on this.
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>>16442448
That's probably my problem as well. I've been bullied when I was little for such dumb reasons, so I changed my whole appearance, getting /fit/ and all that. Though I sometimes still feel like the ugly nerd.
Honestly, I hope you will be able to overcome your insecurities. And thanks for your response.
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>>16442008
I really wish that could end the thread that easily.
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>>16442006
Work on yourself.
Become prettier, smarter, and more interesting.
Eventually men will become interested.
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You're a girl. Congrats, you won the relationship lottery. You get to choose.

All you need to do is try. Sign up on a dating site and you will have found 5 bf candidates by the end of this week!
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Call me, I'd fuck yah.
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>>16442448
> deep self steem issues
Well time to woman the fuck up!

Girls like you might seem cute at first, but my personal experience is that it gets super anoying after a while. So deal with your psycological disabillities first!

Like,
>Learn to look people in the eyes while talking
>Lean to how to hold a conversation
>Stop being afraid of being naked
>In general, stop hating yourself and get on the threadmill if you don't like the way your body looks.

It's all you need to do, and your relationships will turn out 300% better!
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>>16442006
Don't let it get to you.

A huge amount of people in their teens and early 20s are filthy fucking liars and/or braggarts. There's no shame in being a 20 year old virgin.
At all.

I didn't even have a gf or lose my virginity til I was 28, nearly 29. The wizard's hat was getting dangerously close... then after the fact, I realized it didn't fucking matter. None of it matters.
Having sex doesn't change you. You just mark it off the mental checklist and forget about it...
Unless you're a liar or a braggart, then you tell everyone, and/or embellish the tales of your exploits.

Just remind yourself that you're better than those people for that reason, and the pressure to get your v-card swiped ASAP dissolves almost entirely.
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>>16442006
Having a boyfriend is unlikely to improve you life.

Without a girlfriend/boyfriend:
- Aching for someone to hold and hold you in return
- Someone to listen to and share your inner feelings with
- Lie in bed at night wondering what it would be like

With a girlfriend/boyfriend:
- Filtering everything you send to them to make sure it's as witty/funny/smart as possible
- What did that look mean? Is it something I did?
- Am I really attractive to them? Why don't they say things like they used to?
- Lie in bed at night wondering if they care about you the way you care for them

Solution:
- Improve yourself until you have something to build confidence on
- Derive your own sense of achievement from the things you accomplish
- Don't allow your self-value to depend on how another person feels about you

Lastly:
- How you make people feel is more important than what they think of you
- Pretending to be someone you're not can get you into a relationship, but it will quickly spiral out into chaos before you have a chance to appreciate it
- People with expectations you can't achieve aren't worth pursuing
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>>16442692
Dude, stop.

I may not be wearing the same exact shoes as OP... but as a guy with confidence issues, I can say beyond a shadow of a doubt that this approach NEVER helps someone with confidence issues. You can't just say "grow a thicker skin" or "man up" or "deal with it." No one with confidence issues DOESN'T realize that's what their problem is and saying that to them is like rubbing salt in the wound.

We know we need to toughen up. It's climbing the mental mountains that prevent us from doing it that make it a challenge. This kind of advice is equivalent to giving a novice mountain climber the bare bones advice of "You just get to the top. Duh."
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And here I thought men had it harder to get a GF.

>tfw 24 with no GF and a virgin
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Op, work out learn pua skills within reason, and spoil yourself with an awesome escort. I did it to lose me virginity, became friends with scort ( yes not money driven afterword but didn't hurt ) and my self esteem skyrocketed. Learned from her like a movie. Yes was loser and admit needed to buy it I know but don't regret anything, good luck
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>>16442758
not that guy, but suggesting someone with low self esteem actually making a change and make a fucking effort to improve is better than coddling them, giving a pat on the head and saying 'there there... youre in a safe place'

if you have ants in your house, you should instead of crying and screaming WHY ME, you get bugspray and stop leaving food on the floor, right? so if you have a confidence problem, you should stop wallowing in self-pity and start doing things like going to therapy, meditating, and taking time to focus on changing the thoughts and beliefs that lead to these feelings.
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>>16442006

Stop being such a prude.
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guy or girl?
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>>16442692
This post would have been so helpful when i was 18!.So far im able to do most of the stuff in your list,only one i have to work on is the being afraid of being naked in front of someone.
and its actually funny that you say to hop on the treadmill because when my issues where at their worst was when i was developing an ED (which i currently still have but thats another story).
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>>16443535
>start doing things like going to therapy, meditating, and taking time to focus on changing the thoughts and beliefs that lead to these feelings.

See, but that's actual helpful path to success advice. The other guy was essentially saying "in order to do it, you just do it."

There's a huge difference .
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>>16443517
Not op but that is my plan, lose my virginity with a scort after i graduate from college.
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Speaking as someone who started having sex at 20 and felt a lot of pressure to lose their virginity let me tell you:

It's not as great as you think and sex gets boring about two years after having it regularly.
I can honestly say if things don't work out with my current boyfriend and me, I'll probably never willingly have sex again.
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The Virginity Stigma. It's a big problem. Go vote it up!
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>>16442204
>I had a boyfriend once and it went badly so I'm never dating again
>said every girl in the universe
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>>16444158
I wasn't looking for a boyfriend in the first place. It just happened. I've never "dated" and I'm going to go back to my solitary existence I was living before I met him.
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I am 25 with a Bachelors of Science a stable white collar job in the field of my study, and I own a home. Aside from my mortgage I have no other debt. By most people's accounts I really have my shit together.

I've never been an intimate relationship with anyone and I don't really have any friends either.

Is it lonely? Absolutely. I think it is just the way things are meant to be for me though. I don't really know how to fix it without breaking something else.
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>>16442068
I would tone done the promiscuous part. I personally don't find that attractive but also I doubt that will bring the kind of guy you want.

Also for fucks sake you are 20 get a career or work. Do something with your life. Unless you are a NEET you probably have better stuff to be doing than fretting over a boyfriend. If you are a NEET and have nothing else to worry about then work on getting out of that instead of fretting over getting a BF.
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>>16442006

take a shower, go out, talk to someone, share interests, talk about mutual nice shit, dont just talk about yourself thats boring as fuck, BE FUCKING NICE, thats it
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Get better taste in anime, Mirai Nikki is shit tier.
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>>16443641
i understand what you mean. idk though, because if you 'just do it' then you'll probably go to therapy and look online for solutions, which would lead you to more detailed instructions on what i listed. but yeah he wasnt very helpful & his tone was rude
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