i dont know where else to ask but why is my labia minora so big? how much is surgery to remove this and how ugly is it? im so self conscious, ive never had sex or orgasmed before or anything like that, help please
Don't worry about it..looks nice and tasty.
I'm in my early 40's and have seen some fucked up pussy of the course of 20 something years...yours doesn't even remotely come close to fucked up..
It's perfectly normal!
some are tiny, some are bigger. some guys like the one end of the spectrum, others the other end, but I garantee you, 90% of guys would happily go down on something that is not their perfect image.
As for me? I love it!
Yours looks a lot like mine. I might even have slightly bigger lips. It's perfectly normal although I used to be self conscious about it. Told my boyfriend and he assured me he had never even heard of the term "roastie" or any myths behind it such as "it means you've had a lot of sex". I was relieved but it still took some time for me to actually like them because jerks say things that are untrue and it messed with me. Some guys prefer large lips and some smaller or "imbues" but I'm pretty sure most don't care either way. Don't worry about them and don't waste money trying to change yourself to hopefully appeal to some guy. Especially if he'd turn you down because of your genitals.
Seriously, don't get hung up on this. I think your pussy (and body as far as I can see) look great, and the guy you want to be with is going to be primarily concerned with who you are as a person anyway. Surgery is a massive waste of money. I'd gladly go down on you.
There's nothing wrong with it. Labia vary, it's far more common to have large inner labia than people think, thanks to mainstream porn pushing the "ideal" as a vulva with barely noticeable labia.
Surgery is unnecessary, that's not a place you want scar tissue either.
It won't interfere with you orgasming at all, just relax, learn what feels good to you. Gentle stroking, tugging, whatever.
>but why is my labia minora so big?
Because you're mom's and/or your dad's moms labia were similar. It's genetic, and it's not a bad thing. In fact, I wouldn't even say yours are 'big', but rather medium-sized. I've had bigger. More to suck and nibble on, and nothing is quite as sexy as watching labia slide over my big fat cockhead.
Only virgins whine about 'herp derp roasties' and shit.
Mine are bigger if that makes you feel any better. It could be worse. When I looked up the surgery it seemed like there was too high a chance of basically never feeling anything in your vag again so I opted against it.We're just screwed and nothing we can really do about it without extreme consequence unfortunately.
Though its nice that the majority consensus of this thread seems to think roasties are fine, I however have yet to meet a man IRL who agrees. It's usually at best been "eh. all right I guess I'll fuck the ugly vag because at least its a vag" But I doubt I'll ever find a dude in the real world to actually find this shit attractive. But who knows, maybe you will. Maybe it's a demographic thing, and all the roastie lovers live elsewhere.
From one roastie to another, I'm sorry and good luck.
How old are you, and how many dudes have you actually fucked? And did they really say that exactly or are you presuming because you're insecure? I've had casual fucks and old girlfriends whose pussies I honestly don't remember specific features of, and I at least never gave nor was asked to give IRL feedback on my ranking of a sexual partner's pussy. You're fucking some odd people if that's what you do.
I honestly don't think most men care. I am 32, and so I was a teenager before 4chan was around (been here several years though). I never knew caring about labia size was a 'thing' people did, I certainly never gave a shit, I was happy to have pussy in my face and play with the various features. Even the 'roasties' meme is only a few years old.
Also, pics. Post them.
If you want, I can dig out the photos of one of my old fuckbuddies who had very large labia. Doubt you're larger.
I mean it's bigger than average, but a lot of guys love that shit, and most of them don't care either way.
As for never having an orgasm, start playing with your clit and/or buy a vibrator. Come on, it's 2016.
Genetics. Nothing happened. Nothing is wrong.
Not sure how much. Depends where you live and the place.
Personally, not at all. Attraction is subjective. Some people will find it very off-putting, some will love it. Most will like you just the way you are.
Nobody can really help you with that. Just learn to realise that things you consider flaws about yourself are amplified in your own mind, by their constant "presence" and your own constant thoughts (look up confirmation bias).
If you can't like it, learn to accept it.
Some advice: only thing that may bother you is the excess skin catching on a guy's cock, making it uncomfortable, you may need to hold yourself open till his shaft can spread lubrication onto your labia.
In addition, I recommend you get close to the person you have sex with, and discuss it before you actually do it. For you, this will hopefully help you at least overcome your mental block with that person.
Hope I helped.
>discuss it before you actually do it.
fucking ridiculous. Discussing sex is one thing, but is OP going to make a cup of tea and discuss her labia and their relation to her self-esteem before she has sex with some dude? Get real. Better is that if the guy says some dumb shit, she kicks him out of bed and never talks to him again.
>get close to the guy
>sex with some dude
I think you missed my point. I was saying that she shouldn't have sex with "some dude", but someone she knows, and is close to.
Some people have different needs, emotional and otherwise. This is a good idea if she can't get over her issues on her own.