I've been thinking of making a profile there. I'm mainly in it for finding likeminded people, but I'm not a fan of these so called "munches". I know a lot of people there don't like to chat, but I guess it doesn't hurt to try?
I just don't know what makes for a good profile. I'm shit with words.
Anyone here have a profile they want to share, maybe we can friend each other.
I made a profile months ago but it's so barren and empty that I'm too ashamed to post it at the moment, I need inspiration first.
If you want to meet people, go to munchies. Fetlife is shit by itself, its better used as an event planner.
If you hate munchies it doesn't matter, is the only way you'll actually meet people
If you do use Fetlife to find munches, you can use it to scout out who's going. There are also often events for younger people (usually under 30), which will at least not have OLD perverts.
Never been to a munch, but I've had fine luck finding playmates. Dont even have much written for my bio, just have a few different pics and a bit of a fetish list and boom! :)
Do you have any pictures up? I don't personally post my face, but a little sample of other things goes a long way!
I had a picture up but I didn't like it that much and put it down, I dunno, paranoia? And I don't see a lot of people using face pics so I decided it was for the best.
I don't even know if most people post pics of themselves or just pornscenes or whatever it is they like. What do you post?
^^; Clothed tits, corseted tits, tits bruised from a playmate, feet in mary jane heels, bare ass bent over from behind, ass and legs in a kneeling position wearing a garter belt.
I'm slightly paranoid someone will recognize me if I post a face, but a friend pointed out if theyre on the site and able to see it theyre not going to hold it against you
What are some of your fetishes/interests? Snap a pic that has something related in it, thats a great start.
Joining local groups can be a good way to meet folks too, but again a fuller profile gets more interest
Most people i've seen on fetlife are extremely old compared to me. I'm only 19 and everyone is 30+ and 40-50+
There are groups for under 35 people but even then theres almost nobody around my age in those.
Everyone is also in a relationship, or are straight out only looking for some quick fuck or money (findommes, dommes etc...) or a fuckbuddy and shit like that.
My question is, is it possible to find someone who wants a proper relationship at a munch?
From my experience being around your age (20) and been to munches before, it honestly depends on who you are. If you're a male and a Dom looking for a sub good fucking luck. If you're a female/sub it'll be quite a bit easier, although you will have to sift through the hordes of asshats just looking for a quick fuck.
My local munches seem really nice, but I never went to one bcs everyone on my local group is too old. Haven't had problems contacting people my age on other groups though
Was hoping there was a thread like this up, I'm looking for someone who would be willing to model for me and let me practice kinbaku (shibari) on them. Doesn't even need to end in sex, I just need a rope friend. Any advice on where I could get one?
Is it just me or has fetlife become yet another SJW playground?
There are so many things I've seen on kinky and popular that of people just "kinkshaming" guys, and only guys, for just having preferences.
There have been popular rants about how some guys don't like fat chicks, or prefer white girls/asians/etc and how horrible it is to "sexualize race" but those same women constantly post how they want "BBC" which is such a stupid fucking term for wanting to fuck black guys and fetishizing said black guys.
I mean god fucking damn I can't take the site seriously at all anymore, it's really grating.
>Any advice on where I could get one?
well, on fet's rope groups I guess?
I've been approached by a few photographers already, people do that, it's not weird. There are group for models too, you could check those
I don't think fetlife is sjw, there are lots of groups that look like they belong on 4chan such as white master/nigger slave groups, groups about domestic violence, owning women as property and generally mistreating us, neo-nazi groups and whatnot. Hell ,there are groups which explicitly state on their title that they are about illegal fetishes (without specifying what, but it's not too hard to guess). Personally I've seen people complaining about kinkshaming but I've never really seen anyone say the stuff you're talking about. Quite the contrary, actually there's plenty of large groups for men who are into minority women or women with a certain body type, and the discussions there are always normal ones, no shaming of any kind.
Just because the groups exist don't mean there aren't a bunch of people who are trying to get those groups shut down.
The "white master/nigger slave" group obviously has to have some black female interest or the group wouldn't exist. There are black women who like that kink dynamic. The same thing with "ownership" and "domestic violence", hell there's a woman here on /soc/ who posts regularly in kink threads about how her biggest fetish is wanting to be beaten violently.
I don't see an issue with very specific kinks/fetishes, but there are a lot of people on fetlife (as far as I've seen, exclusively female) who are so against certain things that they don't want other people to enjoy them.
I hate the term "kinkshaming", but that's the only way I can explain how they act, they publicly state how a certain preference or kink is horrible and they shouldn't enjoy it. Instead of just saying that they don't like said preference or kink. You can't really go into another person's group and shit talk, so that's why you don't see the posts in those groups, you see them post public blogs about how much they hate men who don't want to fuck a fat chick because men are horrible horrible people.
But I am ranting. Anyways.
I haven't really had any luck meeting anybody on fetlife, I've had more luck on other sites. Part of it is that fetlife has to be treated like facebook, you need to CONSTANTLY post for anybody to care, since there is no search function, and the script you can download to search isn't very good. So yeah, I don't take it too seriously.
It's still decent to link people who just wanna see your list of kinks and interests.
No, you're right. I've noticed that more and more. The K&P is usually filled with writings from women (or beta males) celebrating something about women, usually an insecurity of theirs while berating men for having preferences yet demanding their preferences be met unquestioned and the comments are 99% women applauding themselves over it.
There's a decent amount of 'normal' people on there, but you can lose sight of them in the waves of PC bs.
There's also a LOT of 'financial dommes' pretending they're 'really into it' and totally 'not for the money'.
Those are some of the reasons I barely go there lately. For an openminded community they are really not that open to straight men.
i am on fetlife
OC from yesterdays snow fun
>Cute as fuck
You seem like a wild card, keep rocking it man, I admire the glimpse I caught of your life.
You look vanilla as fuck. I bet its hard finding someone. Dont get me wrong, you're handsome, you just look vanilla.