Last thread died like we will soon
Regular OP here, 27/m/NYC
Pre-thread sup to the group of 40y/o men I share the city with, and the two moms that run the thread.
How's it going you old fuckos?
29/m WA State. Standard stuff, career, pretty happy in general. Skipped a lot of the fun stuff though and now I realize just how dull and basic younger girls are. Actually, if I met a 19 year old that I didn't have to coddle or run everything I say through a mental filter that would be fantastic, but age isn't really a factor if attraction is there as well.
Start working out, stretching and taking supplements and have a regular activity that requires you be physically fit. Your test won't start going down for a few more years and won't be so low you'll be 'old' until past 40...if you take care of yourself.
I just turned 31 last week. I didn't really celebrate besides the "party" they threw me at work.
I've been trying to find a fun submissive girl to play with but not much has been happening. Fetlife isn't helpful unless you're a woman, a black guy, or a gay guy. Reddit was just as useless.
I saw my ex on okcupid. She's gotten really fat and that made me feel better about things.
I haven't had a cigarette in three months. I switched to vaping and have been feeling pretty good about it until those annoying vape fags start trying to talk to me about building coils and unregulated mods. I don't even know what that shut means. Why do they have to be so annoying?
I miss cuddling and playing with a girls titties. That shit is the best.
I got really excited when Amazon texted me and told me my packages were delivered. It felt kind of sad that a text from Amazon was the highlight of my day.
Nah. i have a varicocele. I actually have very low test and am unable to grow a beard. It's biology. I just wanna live as an alpha for a few year so thinking about getting on test/roids so I can live hard doing cocaine and not giving a fuck for awhile
Turned 25 in December. Can I be a member of the club?
40/ny here. Bored and always willing to chat with anyone about anything.
28 year old married guy with kids.
Is it wrong of me to not feel manly because I still can't grow facial hair? It's just a mental thing I have, I'm sure. My wife doesn't even want me to have facial hair, but god damnit I'm so jealous of this trend where almost every guy has facial hair.
Jerk off buddy
Kik : clst_teamstr
Don't worry mate that's not important imo. Seen immature guys with beard and mature without so no real connection.
Its better having no facial hair than having only a bit and looking like a trimmed pussy.
I'm male 26 btw just finished study and am bored
First I was afraid, I was petrified
Kept thinking I could never live without you by my side
But then I spent so many nights thinking how you did me wrong
And I grew strong and I learned how to get along
>few more years of looking young
consider me jelly again, losing my hair tho i'm compensating with a beard instead.
>How big is your beard though?
pretty big and out of form (kinda wild), growing for a year by now. i should get a proper cut to get it in form but meeeeeeh, kinda like it this way.
but i don't need a scarf and still feel warm, that's a plus.
> bald head
Are you me?
it's called "Zirndorf", smells like a forest full of christmas trees. 100% natural mixture of lots of different natual oils. pretty neat.
>do you wash your beard in the shower?
tbqh that's a pretty retarded question. of course i do. why wouldn't i?
>if men shampoo their beards in the shower
i have to, otherwise there is no foam at all. haha. but it dries pretty quick, kidna different to when i had long hair.
damn, great fucking beard. man i miss the times when i had long hair.
>maybe I should try it
do it, when it's cold and dry outside i get pretty dry skin, especially under my beard. the oil and shampoo help big times. and it keeps the beard fluffy as fuck instead of scruffy. which i don't mind but girls kinda do aaand it helps with skin as well.
>I bought it for beach fun.
hahaha. that ain't too bad either.
yeah, according to scientists it's a breeding ground for all kind of shit but meeh.
my only outstanding feature is the beard so i take care of it.
I fucked up trimming my new beard two months ago and decided to go with chops. I like it.
i'm short, 5'4" and always got carded when buying rolling papers.
now they just ask me if im of age. feels....ok man.
got no friends cause everyone moved on. i spend my days going to work, going home, smoking weed the rest of the day and grinding league of legends.
it's not a horrible life but i feel pretty dead inside. if only i grew up like the rest of my peers.
Yes... grow the fuck up.
You know that shit you think about doing but never do? Guess what? You can actually try some of that shit.
Stop smoking weed, stop grinding vidya, get the fuck out if the house and live your life. Youre on the path to regret my friend... but its not too late.
wife and I live together. but haven't had sex in 2 months now. She doesn't want it. :/
Been going crazy with the urges - putting it off with porn and attempted anonymous sext sessions (unsuccessful).
That's my story.
Ok... I've been through this. You need to have a heart to heart. If you dont let her know how important the sex life is, nothing will change. What happens when you ask her for sex?
So clearly something is going on with her mentally that needs to be addressed. She is your wife, communication is so important. You NEED to talk to her about this and see what can be done otherwise this is going to end very badly.
33 and what is this about shampooing beards?
I'm into fat chicks
My wife was this way. She started by telling me to find some side action a few years ago. Now we are getting a divorce because she refuses to talk about or go to counseling. So start talking now.
Being old is... OK? I'm not looking forward to middle age. I'm not married and I don't feel like I make enough money.
I will sometimes shampoo my beard and always use conditioner/beard oil. Otherwise it gets super dry.
I live in Utah so maybe it's different elsewhere.
Turning 26 this year and I still feel like I'm stumbling through life, though it's not all bad, I guess I'm doing what I love for a living so that's something.
I am currently contemplating on whether I want to purchase a spiral slicer for veggies.
Today I made sugarless 1 carb brownies and they were pretty good.
And I recently got my first boyfriend after being a hermit for eleven years.
2016 is okay so far.
I was assigned an intern at work. She's young and pretty and just so damned happy. It's kind of uplifting. It's just too bad her incredibly hard to miss camel toe is such a distraction. She's been here a week and every day she's wearing these pants that do nothing but accentuate her camel toe. This has raised questions for me. Does she know what's going on? Is it comfortable? Is it intentional? Does she own any skirts or pants that aren't three sizes too small?
I left work early yesterday just to see the new Star Wars movie again. I didn't say anything to anyone and just left. Either no one noticed or no one gives a fuck. I'm perfectly OK with this.
I almost tried to hit on a woman at a coffee shop today. She was reading a book I enjoyed before and thought it might be a good starting point. Then I realized she was sober and it was three in the afternoon. Those are not the best conditions for me.
I'm more upset about Top Gear ending than not talking to my father in a decade.
I still don't understand why people think I care about their kids. Every idiot with kids I talk to has to work them into the conversation and I don't get it. I'm just trying to get the client sheet so I can do my job and your kid making cookies has nothing to do with it. Unless there are cookies available to me, otherwise I don't care.
>Talk to HR, develop a selective blindspot, or tell it to a bear.
>You're completely irrelevant to the happenings in your workspace.
>Starting a cold conversation about a book that a complete stranger might be reading for the first time under those circumstances makes you look like an even bigger autist than myself right now.
>Tell it to a bear.
>Because dealing with that sort of garbage is part of the social contract that allows people to function within a stable work environment wherein nobody really likes one another, but are forced to find some sort of inoffensive conversation piece so that the work day might pass without seeming absolutely dystopian.
>Talk to HR
That sounds like it would be even more awkward than the current situation.
Also, where would I find a bear that would listen to me without mauling me? I'm really not trying to get mauled these days.
If your post was meant to be taken as complaining it's a valid issue to be brought up with HR, particularly if it's inappropriate workplace attire.
As for telling it to a bear, you can either go and risk a wild one in the woods, waste your time in the zoo, half-ass it with a koala under the excuse of colloquialism, or... go to bear country.
It's not even a complaint, just a question. Like what is going on with that? Why is it like that?
A koala wouldn't even be half ass, it's a damn marsupial. It's no kind of bear. Plus the little bastards are stoned as fuck on eucalyptus all the time.
Who says Pandas speak Chinese? I've heard that they're pretty good at Russian, but in general they listen pretty well.
It's mostly about telling someone, far less about getting anything done, because no matter who you tell, bear, cat, cougar, wolf, bird of paradise, HR... the results are the same.
I'm convinced that I'm slowly becoming a less trashy Carl.
hi thread im 27, phd student. upstate ny. i post in soc for validation because i have low self-esteem. sometimes i give out my skype but the only people that ever add me are guys who want to show me their dicks
Not stoned, smooth-brained. They're damn retards.
As for the answer to your question, only the idiot wearing attention seeking clothing could give it. The daughter in Weather Man was called Camel Toe because she was woefully unaware of the feature, but after the age of 15, any given person loses that grace.
Ladies don't seem to mind making out with me at all and I have a beard, albeit a trimmed one. Plus making out with a man that shaves is often like making out with sandpaper. Our so I've heard.
Well you are very pretty. I'm 41 M WA. If you ever want to chat, I actually like making meaningful connections with people, so if that sounds appealing, hit me up! My Skype is captain.brill
My sexual frustration from being a virgin and having what seems to be a high sex drive but being unable to do anything about it has gotten to the point where it's literally physically painful. I am constantly in a "blue ball" state every moment I'm awake. I can't sleep because the blue ball "pain" wakes me up.
I get full blown boners just from seeing women in public. I have to fap 3 times in a row on average to abate my urges.
I live with my parents who work from home. There's no way I could bring a woman over even if I actually connected with somebody.
The sad part is, I'm not even ugly or socially awkward. I simply can't get aroused unless a woman makes the first move, which no woman will do.
Married two kids, sex addict. My wife thinks she is my sex slave and chef, I don't necessarily disagree
I want moar.
I write pov erotica when bored and write pessimistic poetry that turns literate moms on.
I run a double life on an online game.
The thirst never stops.
By "loses that grace", I mean "they lose the right to be unaware that they're dressing inappropriately in certain social settings".
Don't get me wrong, there are plenty of places or situations where it doesn't matter, but most of the time anymore it's just a cause for bullshit.
I've been working shoveling snow in Detroit. I'm sick of this shit. Anyone need a roomate I'm exchange for sex and chores till I get a new landscaping gig.
I did all my adult stuff today. Then I found funny faces while bored. Enjoy my dolla dolla bill face.
pretty gif filter. filters are like magic.
Being "old" is awesome.
I'm bigger, stronger and more fit then I've ever been. I have money to do the shit I want to. I still get carded everywhere unless I grow a beard. Younger girls are still dtf me (it probably helps that I tell them I'm 26). I'm better in bed. I'm more confident in general.
Thank god for maturing late I guess.
My only complaint is that after too many years of high impact sports my knees aren't quite what they used to be.
A woman sent me a message on okcupid today and my first thought was how damaged is this chick. My last relationship has left me in such a way I try to figure how damaged every woman I meet is. I don't want to fix them or anything like that, just trying to avoid any real madness.
I heard a Taylor Swift song from someone's car window today and nearly went into a rage. It was the same song that crazy bitch used to play on repeat. What the fuck is wrong with me? Is her residual insanity still clinging to my mind? It's been more than a year. Why can't my subconscious move on?
Camel toe the intern was as perky and bubbly as ever. I got to hear her tell me all about her Christmas vacation in Florida. I never understood the appeal of Florida. I spent two weeks in Miami and hated it. Between the heat, humidity, bugs and people it was my own perfect hell.
I had to do a customer consultation this afternoon. I spent the whole time looking up SD cards on Amazon and wondering what kind of lingerie the customer was wearing under her business casual boredom.
I got so bored during the department meeting today I ripped the stitches out of my hand. The scar will look pretty cool in a couple weeks.
What's your Skype account? I won't show you my dick unless you ask!
25/f Australia Skype - sleepisforthestrong
Holidays are hot and boring. How's everyone doing?
30 year old dude from 604 Canada. Live in a small apartment with my long term gf and a couple cats. I like a lot of things in my life, other than my career prospects. I graduated from a design program at a decent art college right around 2009, when an arts degree was doublely worthless. Worked whatever shitty job I could and saved little by little, until fate blew out of the sky and I inherited some money from a distant relative. Used it to change cities and get started trying to find a job that would let me draw stuff. Then my life stalled out.
It's some years past, at least three probably closer to five. My life consists of brief moments of productivity followed by long bouts of depression and anxiety at the thought that I'm wasting my life. I get a little bit of freelance work, but the money is starting to run real dry. I'm hoping this will be a good thing. Give me a reason to try to talk to a human being again.
Other than that life's okay. I live extremely cheap, do most of my own cooking and buy almost nothing other than the occasional steam game. I spend a lot of time lurking on sites like this one. Which probably makes me feel older than I need to. I'm trying to make it a good thing though, forcing myself to post in threads like this one. Maybe feel like a human being again.
-Goodtimes McPartyblaster. Esq
i'll keep reading your depressing shit. Also people talk about their kids because they have nothing else going on in their lives. They hate their familes and kids and they literally have no interests.
26/f. Being old/an adult is convenient once you realize that no one fells like an adult and we are all big children and also that the world is hell. i love living in hell though.
I probably shouldnt be in this thread because im only 22 but i feel like i get along wirh older people. I dont live that party lifestyle, or constantly have to be with friends like so many people my age do. Hell my best friend is 26, and my 2 other close friends are 24. Once life hits you you realize that you dont have to constantly talk to your friends everyday. We're all busy now and we get that. We see eachother when we can but that doesnt make you any less of a friend than before. I guess also having a daughter at this age has helped me settle down and start doing things with the mindset of her first amd me second.
Been feeling like I'm slipping closer and closer to depression. I live in the basement of a townhouse that I rent. I work 2 jobs just to pay the rent with a little left over for myself. I have no friends and get all my socializing thru work. Usually this doesn't bother me but I'm getting lonelier and lonelier by the day. Compounded with the fact that being alone every night leaves me to nothing but my thoughts which tend to linger on the failures in life that lead me to where I am. I feel like I'll never know success and love.
Yeah it's hellish for sure. I understand parents fixation on their children though. It's biologically and socially normal within the age demographic. A huge reason people hate their kids yet obsess over them is that they have no barometer in terms of parental behavior. They either don't know what to aspire too as a parent or don't have the tools to realize their goals.
I'm a 27/M doing a pediatric psychiatry residency and it's depressing me to no end. So many kids and parents are fucked up. I tell myself I'm just seeing the worst demographics but it doesn't help.
You won't get a hit in.
Exactly. Surprise we love our children. Sorry >>23154920 if you felt unloved as a kid but don't wish that upon every child.
I'm the same way. I have almost no friends now because I had a kid and all that old party lifestyle was completely unappealing. But I'm still a bit too laid back for the khaki moms. I just hang out on my own. Smoke weed sometimes, not much of a drinker. Most of my time is hanging out with my son or coding.
Agreed, so many kids and parents are fucked up - often because of trauma but most people don't get help and even if they do, there is no universal "cure" for PTSD or complex trauma.
Yes, I grew up in an abusive household and I'm not having kids. I don't know what to say. Ya, got me.
I think all of you are either oversimplifying or complicating something that's a socially ingrained behavior. People talk about kids the same reason "average guy" would talk about baseball in the 80s and 90s; it's an inoffensive topic that, provided you don't sit there going into extreme detail (my son can play all these sonatas and even lifts, bro), is a step above awkwardly discussing the weather.
It's the white noise equivalent of conversation.
I agree but I also just love talking about him cuz it makes me happy. I'm so proud.
That's a good choice. I'm sorry you had a rough child hood but to say someone doesn't love their child is an easy reaction offensive claim. I'm sorry you had struggles but hurting others doesn't make you any better. It makes you as bad as the people that hurt you. I guarantee they were abused as kids too or in some other way. Does that make how they treated you okay? Be better than them.
You know that she's probably being sarcastic, right?
And talking about a kid because you're proud of them just falls under the category of "why you talk about the kid as opposed to any other white noise subject". While things like politics or "what's hap'nin now in the news" might strike a nerve with some people, talking about your kid (assuming it's not "my kid just revealed he's gay! How respond.) relatively few people will complain right to your face.
There are probably a lot of better examples than my previous baseball at the cooler one, especially since.. who the fuck stands around the water cooler anymore? But you get what I'm saying.
I find it interesting how the idea of mostly meaningless small talk is more scrutinized by young people anymore. Chalk it up to internet subculture and a feeling of disconnectedness, I guess.
I'll be honest insofar as finding other people talking about their kids slightly annoying. Not at first, mind you, but after a while it gets old. There are a million topics to discuss, and after hearing what Baby Jeffrey did today for the thousandth time, I'd rather talk about the weather.
I might understand why they're talking about their kids, but it doesn't make it any less dull to listen to. The problem with children as a conversation topic is that only one party has any investment in it, and the invested party's intensity can (at times) make it difficult to move to another neutral topic or disengage from the conversation all together.
I've gone through this with family members, people that HAVE to find an extremely neutral topic in order to avoid causing drama to explode at gatherings.
The overt problem with talking about your kids that cause people like >>23155226 to ask why it's done goes back to the investment thing. The party unrelated to the kid can't really talk since they have nothing whatsoever to do with that kid.
Imagine talking to... say, a blind person about a painting, I guess? Or a non-vidya fan about videogames. Without having any interest in the topic, there's no real conversation, and it just boils down to one party talking at the other rather than with.
My problem isn't that she believes talking about kids is boring because she can't relate. She is claiming:
>Also people talk about their kids because they have nothing else going on in their lives. They hate their familes and kids and they literally have no interests.
You keep coming to her rescue like I'm being mean to her for not wanting to hear about my son but my issue is that she is accusing me of hating him and having no interests because I speak about him. And other than a gut reaction to punch her, I've been pretty nice.
You have to understand what it's like to have a child to kind of understand my reaction. I love my son so much even having someone say I hate him as having that out there makes me furious I don't want him to ever think that's even kind of a possibility. So probably seems a bit dramatic from your point of view. I understand that.
We have a kik group and one of the guys in this thread is also an oil rigger. How is the gas prices dropping affecting your job?
Thats not me then. I never posted in the groups. My job is secure. Were probably one of the only companies in my city that hasn't laid off people yet. We're actually still growing.
Be fair for a second here. While her criticism of why people talk about their kids was idiotic, it was still a broad generalization and not one specifically directed at you.
That's why I said both of you were making a mountain out of a molehill. On her side, it's childless people finding reasons to complain about small talk they don't approve of. On your side, it's people responding poorly when the small talk doesn't receive the appropriate response.
Both sides have valid complaints, but in the end, it boils down to how they handle it in a public forum (as opposed to an online forum, herpderp). Most of us here hold down jobs and can therefore know when to respond with mild frustration to a discussion they dislike, or when to change the topic if it's not receiving the expected response.
Yes exactly. She accused all people that speak about their children. If she said all people that are black hate their children would you consider it offensive then or no because it's about all black people not a specific black person?
I don't appreciate it when people speak on my behalf in regards to my feelings. Especially involving my child. I'm sorry if you can't understand where I'm coming from but that doesn't make my feelings irrelevant.
That's a straw man argument. The topic of being a single mother, while it's often been judged throughout recorded history, isn't quite on par with racism in modern America today.
That said, yes. I'd react the same way. A broad generalization paints the world in the dogmatic view of whoever it comes from. While I might disagree with what they say, it's not my place to change their mind. My only real right is to judge them for their opinions, which anyone who's taken part in this discussion has already done.
But to speak on your behalf, she would have to speak -on your behalf-. It couldn't be a broad generalization if she, or anyone else, were trying to do that. Would you consider it speaking on your behalf if someone made a misogynistic comment about what women like, or does it only matter as the generalization narrows down?
You got man in another thread because a dude said he didn't want to date someone with a kid and wasn't even speaking about you at all. I understand having such a great love for your child but you shouldn't attack or get angry at someone who shares a different perspective.
Doesn't matter what's on par. She singled out a specific group of people and said all of these people hate their children. I am one of those people she singled out. So she is telling others I hate my child if I speak about him. There's nothing okay with that. And I'm not going to argue with you about it anymore than I have. If you want to continue coming to her defense fine but I won't continue arguing.
Maybe, but people mostly only have the white noise conversations with strangers or people they don't know well.
If you're talking to friends, most likely you're talking about something you actually give a shit about
I don't necessarily agree with that. White noise conversations are for when you have nothing particularly important to talk about and are markedly uncomfortable with silence.
As for talking about your children, how much you know somebody doesn't affect that. Having a child is a great thing, but it's primarily a great thing to the people/person having the child. After the first few months, it becomes less and less interesting to those that are involved in the parent(s') lives.
Think of it this way. Your friends go on an amazing vacation, and you're really happy for them. They come back and tell you about it, you find it interesting. Then, they begin showing you slides/pictures of the vacation.
After a certain point, the topic of your child becomes pictures/slides of a vacation. Only you would reasonably find those moments, memories, occurrences, what-have-you interesting. The rest of the world has a lot to do, and listening to something that you're so incredibly wrapped up in becomes tedious. Your level of involvement inevitably outweighs the listener, so, again, you're talking at them.
It wasn't a different opinion, you weren't' like
'oh hey anon I don't agree, sorry'
you got visibly angry and agitated that someone didn't want to date a single mother. I Anytime someone brings up anything negative in line with children you always pop into these threads to try and lecture and berate them for it because you are a mom. I get loving your kid and being proud to be a parent but you always take it so personally when someone says something opposite to it, you make it seem like they are saying it directly to you and it somehow will tarnish your being a mom, it makes no sense.
Says someone who just got into an argument with someone else over the children comment? I am just pointing out that you are overly sensitive when it comes to the topic of children.
Im thankful for being somewhere where we haven't cut back. Its not bad being away because i can still talk to my family and stuff. Im a coordinator out here so i get paid to pretty much do nothing. I just hate dealing with the idioc people that come oit here thinking they know everything and i have to send their ass back home on a helicopter because im not risking them doing something to blow our asses up.
Just gecause I discussed something online doesn't mean I'm visibly upset. We are on 4chan. I discuss all kinds of things and debate tons of topics often. Welcome to the Internet. You must be new.
See I'm laughing right now. Seriously don't read too much into stuff. We discuss what we know. In a thread for adults discussion of children comes up. I have experience with this subject so I comment on it. It's okay friend.
I get what you're saying, and i agree. It's useless to have a one sided coversation where one party has nothing to contribute or isnt interested in the subject matter.
I just dont think talking about your kid, the most important thing in your life and your legacy after youre dead, constitutes a "water cooler" topic like the weather or baseball unless the person is simply talking just to talk, in which case literally anything could be the subject
I'm sorry, but you were engaging in ad hoc and straw man fallacies in order to undermine any point I made before cutting the "discussion" short.
I think that undermines whatever point you're trying to make right now.
That was, more or less, my point. Talking about children is inoffensive enough that it's hard to complain about, and without knowledge of your co-worker's hobbies, it's a safe go-to. The original question, brought up by Depressing Guy, was "why do people talk about their kids all the time."
In my response to him, I judged it as water cooler conversation because of the inherent inoffensiveness of children. Among friends, it's completely different. Generally, people don't have water cooler conversations with their friends because.. well, the concept of water cooler conversation precludes the minor intimate knowledge someone needs to be friends.
My initial point was just that in a workplace scenario, the only reason you might bring up your children to an otherwise stranger is due to the fact you have no idea what they may or may not object to, and it's difficult to object to "babies!"
See what I'm saying?
I dont fire them. I actually cant because i dont work directly for Shell, Bp, Exxon, etc.., but i am a contractor and im pretty well known out here even for how young i am so a lot of the drilling foremen stand behind me when i say this person needs to go home. Now if their company fores them thats on them. But when ots a matter of life and death you do what has to be done. Stuff goes wrong quick out here.
Im usually not mean about it. When i was 19 and 20 i was though. I was a lot more hot headed but you cant be like that in a leadership position. I try to be nice now lol.
Yeah, I see what you mean, and I agree totally. I was under the impression you were saying that the only reason people ever talk about their kids is because it's an inoffensive topic.
Yeah I can only imagine with life or death stuff. Is it tough on your wife/gf having you gone? I guess if you're in a postion of power at your age that can be a bit tough but pretty impressive!
yeah, basically i was disagreeing with this:
>only reason you might bring up your children to an otherwise stranger is due to the fact you have no idea what they may or may not object to, and it's difficult to object to "babies!"
That isn't the only reason. Another reason could be that you care about and think about your kid a lot. Same reason someone would bring anything up in conversation with a stranger: hobbies, experiences, etc. : because the speaker finds it a legitimately interesting topic to discuss.
See what I mean?
Im actually single but were still close. No ill feelings i guess. I stil get to skype with them so it isnt as hard on her but when my daughter sees my bags she knows i wont be home the next day. It's scary as hell but facts prove youre more lilely to die in a car than out here.
Yea. The guy that trained me when i forst started at 18 said that i caught on really quick and just took what he taught me and excelled at it quick. I was a foreman right before i turned 20 and i became a coordinator at 21. He told me i wouldve been a coordinator before 21 but theres an age restriction on the position because i get to handle explosives.
That's awesome! The quick learning, not the single and leaving. I'm sorry things didn't work out but you seem to be doing really well and handling work/personal life responsibly. Pretty grown up for 22.
Yeah my phone auto corrected. Have a meme.
And my counterpoint to that is the subject of your children is inherently limiting, which the speaker would know. The person you're talking to can't really do anything in the conversation, shallow as it's going to be, other than ask some really superficial questions.
While things like baseball, hobbies, or experiences carry the same risk (speaker being the only one with any subject matter to speak of), their children are something that, as humans, we can largely identify with and have trouble complaining about. Any other subject carries the risk of either offending people (news, politics) or being dismissed (hobbies they don't like/understand, sports they dislike/teams you like/they hate). Children, meanwhile, are always a safe bet.
I didn't mean to imply that was the only reason, just that for someone without a child, it's the one they might be able to relate to most.
Yes, however I think you're overestimating peoples' self-awareness in general. There are many many people who talk about whatever they want, completely oblivious to the fact that their listener has 0 reason to give a shit or relate in any way. Ideally everyone would be conscious of how they're being received all the time, but unfortunately that's often not the case - at least in my experience
My parents are proud of me so im happy. I just didnt want to let them down. I guess i didnt give myself a chance to take the wrong path because the 3 friend i mentioned above wouldnt let me. We all kept eachother from getting in trouble. I knew college wasnt for me so i started working at the shop at 17. The day i turned 18 i told the coorsinator i wanted to go offshore so i switched divisions a few days after and he trained me from there on out. And after i seen the money id be making i knew i couldnt jeopardize that. I want to retire wealthy.
Its okay. Were still very close and do things together with our daughter so i guess its okay.
Haha. Thank you. I really do appreciate it. If you want we can take this comversation somewhere else. I have a kik account and skype of course. If not thats okay we can stay on here.
Today there was a loud debate in the break room about how many states there are in the US. According to her there's fifty four and four of them were recently added. The thousands of sources saying otherwise found on Google are all wrong because that's what she heard from her kid who heard it on "Are You Smarter Than A Fifth Grader?". She's my direct supervisor and can fire me at any time. What the fuck....
There's this annoying little flamer in the cubicle across from me that I can't stand. I don't care he's a walking talking gay stereotype, he's just a fucking idiot. Everyday I get at least ten random as fuck questions from him that I often don't know or care enough about to answer and he gets all pissy about it. I've started just telling him to go google that shut instead of asking me and he gets even more pissed. In this age of smart phones why the fuck doesn't anyone look up anything for themselves? I could find every battle of the war of 1812 in two seconds on my phone, so that means you can find the number to that new Thai place just as easy.
Some dude at the bus stop was asking for change to get on the bus this morning. I gave him a one day pass I had left over and he got mad about it. Just tell me you're trying to get enough change for a forty next time and I'll toss you a quarter.
I got my new order of vape juice in. They didn't have an 100ml bottles of vanilla bean left so they replaced it with cream soda and threw in an extra 30ml bottle of blueberry waffles. That's pretty cool.
Hey, that's cool.
27/f/nyc here. Ready to move to California for better food and better weather
Joining the old folks in NYC collective we have going on. Though I am not sure I understand what >>23159541 is saying about food. unless she means mexican food, than ok fair enough.
I had to do a client consultation today. I always hate these. I'm much more comfortable at my desk just getting the orders and creating the plans. But no, the customer wanted me in there to explain to me directly what they wanted. They think they're so special but you're just going to get one of the standard twenty layouts and fucking like it. Yeah, that bitch Judy from college got married here and you want to outdo her but you're getting the same shit with a different color scheme. You'll get your princess dream and I won't ruin it for you, but leave me the fuck alone.
Where can I find a fun slutty kind if girl? I haven't drank in four years and hate bars/clubs, so where does a guy find a slutty girl? The laundromat? The library? I got no clue. I keep hoping to find one here but that's slow going.
How can I just tell a chick I want to see her tits? Sometimes I just want to see some titties. Not go on a date, feed her shots or anything, just pull your top up and show me your tits. That's it. Is that so strange?
Keye and Peele are awesome. I'm pissed they broke up but at least they went out on top.
I really want a dog but my lease doesn't allow one and I still have nine months left. But I can get a cat, an animal that actively shits inside and sheds uncontrollably. What's the logic there?
you are in fact, me....
I'm watching this jail show on tv and I'm wondering if I'm the only one that just chills the fuck out after being arrested? You're already in jail, you already caught charges, so why add to it? Once I hit booking I shut up and just take a nap. These people are idiots.
Anyone else here been to jail? I did six months in county once and it was pretty chill. I read books, played cards, wrote letters, watched tv and learned to cook ramen perfectly. There was a regular routine and you quickly learn what's expected from you. You just chill out and get your time done.
The sick part is that it was like a vacation for me. I was away from work and I got away from my abusive as fuck now ex. I was pretty happy and that seems fucked now that I think about it.
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Depressed as hell because I've been working the same job for the 6 years since I graduated and there's basically no room for upward mobility. I make $18/hr and still live with my parents and brother. I have nobody to blame but myself, I keep making excuses but I also genuinely don't know what I want to do or even how to figure it out. My last relationship was long-distance and sucked and ended almost four years ago and I haven't been on more than two dates with the same girl since, and no dates whatsoever in almost two years. Been trying all kinds of internet dating, don't even get replies anymore. Got excited today for my first unsolicited message in forever only to get let down when I saw the girl's pics, which I feel shitty for even thinking but I'll be alone forever before I'll date someone I'm not attracted to. Feeling like I've squandered my youth. Going to be 29 in June.
Sorry for being a downer.
OP here, sup pals.
Well this is a nice change. Too bad the NYC threads themself are always garbage, how you guys handling the nitro-cold we've been having? Not counting todays fuck it summermode.
Cut that out, quit your shitjob is there's no upward mobility in honest, but consider you may have just gotten too comfortable. At the least know that 8+ years experience in your field [even non-technical wageslave] will look good on a resume. Silver lining and all that.
The qts come when you learn to forget about 'the hunt'. Just push all that void-filling away and focus on yourself, personal health and mental. People [women] pick up on that, and are attracted to it, in the same way that depression/neediness lets off it's own antiqt aura.
26 f 416/647
I'm currently waiting to turn 27 because that will be a fun year (I'm weird like that)
And Im working my assignment off at school and my goodjob!
And...trying to keep it together. Drugs are good. It's harder to keep it together when you're not sober.
Won't matter, dude. In swank cities like San Fran, Seattle and the like even in downturns, prices will just stay flat and the rich developers and yuppies who overpaid 5-15 years ago will just sit on them until things come back. Just find a mediocre home and fix it up. Preferably in a low crime area that the yuppies will want to move to in the next 10 years that will make the prices jump.
I'm a big proponent of whatever works, but maybe find what the actual root of the problem is before just coping with the results. Dependancies at this age only get worse with time, not better.
t. recovering alco
I'm working at a good job, have a new car and I'm fairly healthy. 2016 seems ok so far, but I'm about to turn 27 and I'm ok with that. Also not too upset about being single since I have books a plenty.
30 here. Everyone usually thinks I am in my late teens early twenties. Constantly get hit on by high school girls. I understand the pros and cons of looking like I do but I do struggle with finding myself because of it.
That's fucking pathetic. 90 percent of the people that post here are complete degenerates. That's some validation you seek, good luck with it.
I'm not even sure why I decided to click on this degenerate board tonight. Fucking degeneracy and mental illness
Sorry for late reply, have been on holidays. Sydney, what about you? (Just guessing you're from here)
How was everyones weekend?
guys you are letting the thread die...
ill save it with a picture of the dent in my forehead i noticed today. or wrinkle...
Only working part time and it's too cold to stay out for more than an hour or too. I've been staring out the window for a while now. I'd love to find someone, anyone to talk to to hold the darkness in abeyance.
My ex told me he was 22 when I met him(I was 23) and I asked for ID which he then presented that indeed said 22 with his picture.
>mfw it was a fake and he was 18
Its tough out there.
yeah when i was 23 or 24 i dated a girl who was 19 on accident. had mutual friends had seen her at the bar a couple times and assumed she was 21. dated her for 3 months before finding out she was 19
lol yeah my 26 year old friend introduced him to me, he took me and my roommate out to all these clubs/shows. I found out after about 2 months of dating.
shit happens. would do it over was a fun bf for a little bit.
yeah she was amazing. crazy jealous though which is what ended being the demise of it. But would have still dated her had i known. Was funny though that i was the only one who didnt know she wasn't 21
I found out today that my sponsor relapsed on Thursday. He's all fucked up now and acting crazy. I'm not dealing with his shit today.
Red Dawn was on AMC this morning. Damn that was awesome. Everyone looked so damn young. I'd fuck the hell out of 80's Jennifer Grey.
On my way to the bodega this morning I got to watch two crack heads break into a dope spot. Why would crack heads steal heroin? Do they have a buyer lined up? Are they just going to hustle it themselves? What are they going to do?
The chick I was seeing texted me today. She said she was sorry for the games and wanted to hang out tonight. I told her I was busy. I'm actually just going to watch Archer and do laundry. That seems to be a better way to spend the night than dealing with a lying bitch.
How's everyone surviving the weekend?
Find shared interests and stick to them. Don't be afraid to ask if you're not sure of something they bring up. If they act annoyed about explaining something they're probably an asshole.
Fuck, does anyone ever feel like they're going thru an early life crisis? All my friends are getting married, having kids, 'settling down' and it depresses the fuck out of me.
I'm also looking at switching from a good, high-paying career into something that's lower paying but hopefully I'll enjoy more. I thought I'd never burn out when I was younger. I was wrong.
Is it depressing to you because you want what they have or because you don't want to become them?
But yeah I'm about to turn 29, stressing over a possible wrinkle, and general life woes.
Because I still like to get out and do things.. to me I'd be fucking miserable if I became them. They never want to go out or if they do, they're all about being home by 11...or they have work the next day (which I do as well, but sometimes I just like having a good time and not worrying)
I don't particularly want kids any time soon. It's hard to see people that you've grown up with change into these homebodies that never want to do anything and the worst part is I feel like they get a 'holier than thou' attitude with me when I suggest we do something different than the same fucking thing we do every time which is just reminisce about the 'good ol days'
What. the. fuck. We're in our 20's still.
I am a mom. Also at our she we should've already gotten that party/bingedrinking/andbaddecisons phase over with. I don't think they are trying to be insulting or smug. They just have responsibilities you can't understand so priorities are different. If you don't want kids or to settle down then don't! Okay guys share n b good
Lol, no. We never drank or did drugs. We were all pretty straight laced.. I meant as in go out to baseball games or go camping/fishing/hiking.
I'd understand if it were partying or doing drugs, but I don't think going out and fishing will destroy their lives. They're just more content to sit at home even if they don't have their kids. It's odd.
It's not odd. All that downtime you take for granted in life, like pooping in private, is drastically reduced once you have kids. So if you have a day off you want to spend it doing absolutely nothing and fitting in some much needed resting.
This >>23176238 might be shameless, but it's true. You're never going to have this kind of access again, m8.
But mainly this >>23176435, you know what to do, just set up your post-college options and ride the comfy train out.
OP here, finally got some comfy snow in NYC, and we're expected more later today. Pic related, but not mine.
How's everyone doin on [hopefully] a day off?
>>23176651 here, wifi swaps ID out. Had a massage yesterday at a place that looking back on it was completely a Happy Ending joint.
Lady spent a good 15 minutes massaging my butt. Guess it was supposed to turn me on but I run and walk a lot, just felt good mane.
I actually really like it when they massage the place between the butt muscle and the hip joint.
Got any places you might recommend? Not for a happy ending but legit for a deep massage.
Yeah, I think it was supposed to be sexy ~almost touching it~ but I was just enjoying the hip massage too much
Wouldn't know any better, I'm new to city. I'll ask around though. Was Chinatown good? Maybe it's you who has a legit recomendation.
thro email related: email@example.com
>went out to grab some breakfast groceries
>that wind chill
w e w
i'm 30 and i live in nyc. i just like meeting up with my friends for drinks. i don't even worry about shit anymore. i still look good, i have a great job, i'm better than i ever was in my early 20s.
cheers! we should drink!
That's how I feel these days. Just not worried about much but making rent and enjoying life. I'm working my back to a great job, but all that stuff is just a matter of time.
Yeah, these temp emails are pretty hilarious. Sent you my gmail as well.
I'm 43 and I have friends that are 18+ and we never have issues finding things to talk about. It's more about chemistry. If you are interested in the other person ask about growing up: TV, computers, video games, telephones, etc. There is plenty to talk about that you don't have to have in common that can relate to common interests. Talk about humanity and what makes us all the same! I could go on...... And on..... I hope the date goes well.
I still look like I'm in my mid twenties and act like I'm in my late teens. Headed to California in a few months to hike the PCT, when I'm done I'll probably just keep traveling. I grew out of my responsible phase.
>Inb4 "You should feel guilty for not having a job you hate".
When I was about 21 or 22, I was at a cocktail party with people of a wide range of ages. I met a really cool and attractive woman. We really connected. I was SO excited to meet a woman like that, and she I could tell she liked me too. So I asked her out on a date. She said she had to ask her parents who were at the same party. OK, I thought that was a little unusual but, sure, I'll wait right here. She came back, said her parents OK'd it. Great. Well, during the date she made a slip and said she was going to be 13 in a few days. GOING to be 13. Holy crap, no wonder she had to ask her folks, and no wonder her brother went along to the same party date we did.
Oh? What are you studying? I'm more worried about what comes next I guess.
Maybe. I'm not really that kinda girl. More spend the night in with friends, beer and video games.
>>23176597 Comfy train is more like.. Super sweating scary ride train. I just kinda.. Don't want to follow the pattern and end up doing another course cause' i enjoy it and its easier/less scary than getting off the ride.
i'm studying pathology/physiology. nothing but opertunities and good times lay ahead! the stress and anxiety of uni go away and you're left to study exactly what you enjoy at your own device, and you reap all the benefits of still being at uni like having a cheap as fuck bar that's always the place to be!
32 m, looking back at old pictures of when I was still skinny, had all of the hair, wrinkle free, sort of pretty, from the right angle...and very greasy.
At least we have smartphones these days.
>i post in soc for validation because i have low self-esteem
I dont believe you have low self esteem.
Also, I get the strange feeling you're into BDSM and might have a FetLife profile.
Virgin, grad school dropout, working 70 hours a week between two shitty jobs while living with my mom.
I think I've fucked up my life beyond repair. I tried to kill myself last year and failed. I want to pay off all my debt before I try again. I don't want to continue on like this.
38.M.KS LOST. Young baby momma. Drama and or crazy most of the time her not me. Son is best thing I never wanted. My family is either gone or out of the picture. Hers seems supportive but I'm finding it's a false front towards me. Never wanted kids but don't want my boy having them as an only influence. All this drove me back into debt. Sold all my toys to maintain this family image all the while trying to convince myself she'll mellow out and gtfu before I decide I have to leave and accept I'll be a check and weekend parent until the boy is old enough to come live with me. She's manipulative, smart to a degree, but lacks a maturity and ability to not get ugly in disagreements. I lack the ability to let her run me over. **sidenote: wear a condom on your booty calls , gentleman. Only loser in all of this is my son dealing with our bs.
At work today I had to go visit a new vendor. They kissed my ass, took me out to a nice lunch, tried really hard to impress me, and they think we like them. We don't. Their services and products are shit. We will never contract with them. But they think we will. So will the other two vendors I'm meeting with this week. But none of them have a chance. Our current vendor is trying to renegotiate for more money, so we're shopping around to get them to shut up. I feel all smug and a bit slutty. Is this how a girl feels going on dates with random dudes to make a guy jealous?
Camel Toe was at it again, trying to be all helpful. She offered a dozen times to get me coffee and is trying hard to make me happy. I kind of want to treat her like Maggie Gyllenhall in Secretary.
There needs to be two lines at the coffee shop, complicated and simple. Simple is for black coffee, cream, sugar, and bagel with cream cheese. Complicated is for those "coffee" (there's hardly any coffee in them and it's all just sugary milk) drinks that have more steps than launching a nuke.
It would be pretty interesting to hear him read my posts.
Wife just called, she is going to be late at work.
Chores at the house are finished, and my work too, so that means I will be playing with myself a bit more I guess.
Or trying to finish Darkest Dungeon.
Lift is pretty awesome right now. I haven't see the Dr. in over 5 years...I am healthy and haven't needed to. I am doing well at work, I am fitter than I have been in years and I am trying to have fun wherever I can. I also have the money now to do whatever interests me which is cool. I don't feel old and someone the other day guessed my age as 35 ;)
I think I finally have my coffee prep dialed in. Currently 17g of Casa Cielo hand ground into an inverted AeroPress and steeped for 2min with 165 deg. purified water. Good way to start my morning.
Also, I have been trying to PUT ON weight while everyone is depressed and dieting right now lol. I am having fun!
29/f but i look 12 or something like that. even though i'm considered "old" i don't really feel it and i still have friends all over the age spectrum. i guess the biggest difference i've felt over the last 10 years is the financial stability i've acquired (and freedom!).
>tfw new people at work always think i'm an intern
>tfw i'm senior management
oh well, at least they always let me get first dibs on the snacks and goodies.
sup fellow bay anon!
This is the only shot that you get, short of a Singularity or immortality being found. Become strong, push yourself to the limits and travel. You don't know how good you have it until you see someone worse off. If you're an Amerifat, it's easy to scoff at them and think that it'll never be you, but shit can happen to anyone.
Never stop growing.
Had to pretend to adult today. Pic related. I was the third from the youngest at the funeral (only two people younger were my brother and his fiancee), and the only single person other than my great grandpa (it was his wife's funeral). I was hoping I'd be married years ago, but I haven't really come close to that in a while. If I catch my family's longevity I'm stuck with another 70 years of this bullshit.
hahah it's pretty great, except when everyone gets carded because of me (hey, makes you feel younger right?!). we play the hand we're dealt i guess!
collecting expensive technology, yelling at small children, and relishing in the wisdom of experience. yourself?
carpe diem my friend. what's stopping you now? besides, 26 isn't even old.
Looks like this thread is still going! I'm the 27 y/o guy from the last thread (Can't remember if it was here or /r9k) who's getting a divorce.
tl;dr we've been married for 1.5 years, together for 6.5, she told me Sunday night that she'd think it would be better if we both moved on and saw other people because our lives have gone down different paths, she doesn't want kids and I might want them in the future.
It's gotten better this week, we've been talking about steps moving forward. She's told her parents and I've talked to some of my close friends who offered good advice and support. We haven't told my parents yet, we're gonna sit them down and explain. She won't be moving out right away (But will eventually, she's been looking at apartments or might take over a friends' lease) as I own the house and isn't going to fight me with alimony. I know some of you might say "don't trust that bitch!" but I know the kind of person she is, and I know she wants to do this as painlessly as possible.
Things are a little fucked right now, long story short I got arrested for some stupid bullshit a couple months back, lost my job, and have felony charges pending. I have a good chance of getting the case thrown out entirely due to lack of probable cause and some procedural fuck-ups the police made, and an excellent chance of beating it if it even goes to trial, and she said she'll be with me until it's all resolved, but it still hurts... she was my best friend and I feel like so much myself is a part of her, but I know this is all for the best. She doesn't want to cut me out of her life completely, and in time would like to try and be friends... guess I got friendzone'd here hard. According to her my arrest had nothing to do with it, she still loves me and she's felt this way since early last year.
I'm trying to keep a positive face in all of this. but it's hard not to feel like I've lost everything, no job, thousands of $ in legal fees, now losing her... just sucks, lads.
Getting Knights Of The Republic for Android has been the highlight of my week. I haven't played it in so long and it's all coming back to me.
Camel Toe broke up with her boyfriend last night. She was crying half the damn day. I told her she could go home and I'd make sure she got credit, but she refused. She stayed all day and got her work between sobs. I can't stand her but I can respect her dedication.
I've been considering hiring a prostitute. I want to fuck but I don't want to date or have to go through the hassle of a fuck buddy. Just paying out cash to fuck feels more honest than taking some broad out, buying her dinner, pretending like I'm interested and going through all that boring shit. Let's just fuck and you can leave with some cash, it's just that easy. I love being the romantic kind of guy usually, but I can't find anyone worth being romantic these days.
I've been listening to Fitz & The Tantrums and Metronomy lately. Really mellow stuff that's been matching my mood lately.
Just turned 26. In a 5 year long relationship with a really cool girl - she's 23. Neither of us have any intention of getting married, but all indications point to this relationship going long term. Seems fine. Neither of us want kids, or any other unnecessary responsibilities / obligations / financial burden. Quite fond of our current lifestyle.
I plan on getting a vasectomy in the next year or two. Wanted one since I was a teenager, but everyone told me to wait. So I've been mulling it over for nearly 10 years now, watching my niece and nephew grow up, trying to decide if that's something I'd ever want. I don't think it is. Don't really like kids. Especially don't like what parenthood turns people into.
I think I am looking forward to my future, but it's scary at the same time.
Anons in your 30s and up -- what's it like? Do you feel accomplished? Regrets?
Sorry to hear that, man.
Just be glad that this is happening now, while you are still fairly young. You have a greater chance of meeting someone better suited for you now than you ever will again. It only gets harder as you age.
Imagine this happened when you were 37? The sting would be just as bad, but the reality would be worse.
Posting for the sake of posting again.
I am at a point in my life where I'm secure enough personally, emotionally and financially that I just want to live very simply and casually.
I simply don't really care how old a girl is as long as I'm attracted to her and we get along. My cutoff is 16 and I rarely meet a girl that has even a little maturity under 19, but if we're both into it, why not?
Never dated anyone more than 2 year younger than me, but that's just how it's worked out so far.
That's what I keep telling myself. If it were bound to happen eventually, I'd be 100x worse off if I realized I'd wasted 10 years of my life. I can barely remember what it's like to sleep alone, and I'm going to miss her for a while, but the freedom makes me kinda excited tbqh.
I'm 27 and don't think I'd go any younger than 21.
Not out of any moral hangups, just that it's annoying when you're out and can't get into a bar because she's not drinking age. And I feel that a 21 year old and 27 year old are far apart enough in age already, that's practically different generations.
In general it definitely works out like that, I don't drink much and rarely go to bars, so that's not a concern, but a good looking 18 year old that doesn't have the mentality of a 14-year old is fantastically rare. That and many just simply aren't interested in older guys, cest la vie.
I used to date girls younger than me. As I'm quickly approaching my thirtieth, I've realized that I'm much more interested in women closer to my age, or even a few years older.
Young girls/ women are the emotional equivalent of tofu. I like tofu for a lot of reasons. Not the least of which being that it can be dressed up any way you want to be made interesting, but on its own it's flavourless and without personality.