How's my bio? Thinking about changing It, something to describe me a little better like in the lines of aspiring world traveller, fitness enthusiast, beer drinker, dog lover and then maybe list I am learning a langauge, studying occupational health and trying to learn code but without sounding like I'm bragging
>>23095199 I have had zero hookups in three weeks, but more options for dates than I have time for. I confess, none have gotten me laid, but the first week was pretty much just practice, and I'm lining up my second and third dates right now.
I seriously question the wisdom of going exclusive with someone you met on a hookup app, but I know a few couples who met on Tinder and seem to have gotten along alright.
That said, I'm an introvert and I play the long game.
>>23096216 What angle could I approach given that knowledge? I don't have a profile or feel the need for one at the moment, but for arguments' sake let's say I get a bunch of matches that seem half interesting. Would you exclusively state you're not there for the hookup and how would you initiate conversation (because the male is always the one to initiate even with no pretense, fucking tinder)?
For context I'm more than happy to meet girls offline and do have them occasionally approach me. Just wondering if this seems like a dumb idea.
>>23097484 I'd say set the second to your profile photo Also what locations in the world are best for fishing for matches? I mean for faking location. I don't wanna take a plane and meet up lol, just talk and practising my conversation skills
>>23097594 I get the impression that you are kind of creepy in an okay way. I dont know if that's what you want with your profile... >>23097780 I'd swipe right if i was into dudes desu maybe set the second picture to your first, if you look good in that one.
>>23098273 >I really dont know why, but i get all nervous and shaky from just using tinder. I'm dont get this nervous like ever, is this normal? >>23098166 You must struggle irl then anon I mean you can tinder in your room
How do I maximize the percentage of dates actually happening? I get a load of attractive women answering messages (also on OKC) but 80 percent flake out after agreeing to a place, time, and day, which is never more than a few days at the most.
Got no advice last time, trying again before bed. First day, got a shit ton of matches, like 20 in less than 12 hours. Talking to four atm, haven't written to the others. So I guess I'm doing something right. What would you change?
Ehh I must be doing something grossly wrong... Almost no matches in Philly. Also why do American women feel the need to have their profile photo taken with another girl? Some even don't have a single photo with only them Seems very weird
Has anyone else had an issue where they go to put in their phone number and Tinder says they're unable to send a confirmation text? I've been unable to use Tinder for a year because of this. Support emailed me back once to ask for details and then radio silence.
Just broke up with girlfriend of two years so I guess I'll make one of these. What's the formula for success when it comes to pictures and stuff I hear there is one. Please guys I need help I'm miserable.
Here's mine, pls respond. Still getting one match a day at best
>>23094216 I think your bio is already perfect. The other stuff could come off as bragging, but your likes and dislikes paint you as a person who isn't boring (as opposed to dislikes: fake people). Only suggestion is maybe find a picture where we can see your face more clearly
>>23099448 Your main isn't very flattering. Second would be better if you put a filter on it, maybe. Also remove bottom right as you don't want to be associated with fedora'd Axl Rose tbqh
>>23098741 Your bio comes off as both cocky and unfunny. I think being YouTube famous doesn't impress many people. If you actually were, I'm sure you wouldn't have to say it, and people would recognize you.
>>23098715 You'll only find normies on Tinder, I'm afraid. OKCupid may be better for the wider variety of people on there
>>23098673 Less generic bio, otherwise you've got quite the facial structure
Just got my first match and idk what to say. It's 1am, so I'm not going to start the convo noe, but I'm still fucked mentally because she looks way out of my league and my profile is just a shitty selfie with no description.
Matched with this literal 10/10, on the right. She's from Canada though, so she's probably leaving soon because holidays are over; I live in a tourist-y area. Chances are she wants to fuck? Or just talk? Idk, this is the most attractive gurk I've ever matched with and I'm scared I'm gonna blow it.
>>23103066 Second is def best, don't tie your hair in a bun lol >tfw anons told you yours is a good photo but it's getting considerably less success than the previous one Got 3 matches today while with that one it'd be like 8 I guess girls don't like 'blue steel' photos >>23098627
Has anyone been getting a disproportionate amount of flakes lately? I've been setting up confirmed dates and ever, I mean EVERY girl has had something come up and then never brought up a reschedule. God damn, getting tired after the 5th time in row
I used all my matches earlier today by liking almost everyone. Got back on 20 mins ago and have been looking at a few profiles and pictures before swiping right. I somehow got 4 matches, all 25, all within 30 miles (i think) and almost all of them have profiles that seem real, not those 10 word ones done in a few seconds. This seems odd as im 18, i generally get barely 1 match a week as im hardly ever on, and they all seem a bit out of my league. Im obviously going to message all of them, but does it seem a bit odd to anyone else that theyre all the same age and all pretty close?
>>23107259 She is 27, so >>23107349 is most likely right, lots of those girls grew up with the disney movies, try the aladdin reference or maybe add a bit more with "we hop on my flying carpet and I show you the world" to make it easier to get.
Pls help senpai. I only get like 5 matches per day (lots of swiping) with average looking girls. I live in Sweden. Tried Russia just for fun and got solid 8's all the time (not bots but anything else I cant be sure of haha). NY was better than Sweden too.
Y'all put too much in your bio, including your height and weight, which is the whole reason you have pictures. You don't have to say anything specific as long as your pictures show you're fun and attractive, or have other qualities that the other gender wants (dick pic profiles don't ever work, what the fuck are you doing with your life?)
>>23094216 Too much shit in your bio, your pictures are doing most of the work, let them do their job. >>23094442 If you're planning for the good possibility of a serious relationship, yes. If you're more the one night stand or short term type, she most likely won't be in to that. >>23097484 Very androgynous, what's the demographic you're looking for? >>23097594 You seem overbearing, your bio has way to much shit in it. The first paragraph is overwhelming, the second kills your chances completely. You need more pictures that don't look like a selfie and where at least one other person is present. >>23097780 Good pictures, easy to digest bio, you've got a great profile! >>23097860 As much of a detraction as selfies can be, all your pictures are quite good, mind the second, which isn't very flattering. You're wasting space and interest bothering to list your height and weight, that's what your picture says, not your bio. >>23098084 Replace your third picture with something more nightlife oriented and you're good. Your bio is on point. >>23098387 Remove your second and fourth picture and don't replace them. The first sentence of your bio made me cringe. You don't need to list your height, unless you're freakishly short or tall, which you're not. >>23098425 Comes off as "not as fun as the boy with the night club pictures," but you're set if you're looking for dates. Solid profile.
Has anybody tried to write a very honest description of themselves? I mean, like, I spend my free time browsing the net aimlessly, play video games, don't have real friends and overall, don't have my shit together. I'm 30 and not looking just for a hook up, but some kind of a relationship. I do get a few matches from time to time and go to dates, but never have a second date.
Its been a while since I've been on /soc Since the last time, I met my girlfriend on tinder. Her and I have been at it 2 years in march. It was weird at first, but it worked out for us. We were both just looking for a fling, and then ended up liking each other a lot before we met.
Not saying its the norm but it happens. Pic related its us.
>>23109165 I always feel it puts me on the back foot. like saying "omg im sooo into you" then your just another dude bigging up her ego and its difficult to get her number and date. maybe I am just over thinking it desu
tinder is such a fucking waste of time but if you're going to do it ... lie.
pic 1 - uniform pic 2 - with a hot girl (your sister maybe?) pic 3 - with a dog.
match every single girl, message every single girl you match with "i get that there's a pretty good chance you're a robot looking for my credit card numbers, but just in case, i'd regret not saying hi"
I used to get loads of matches with this profile, but now I'm lucky if I get about 3 a day? Like a month ago, I would swipe right and it'd immediately be a match on about 10 a day. I don't get what happened.
really? that's funny. you're likely the only one. I always put pics of me with other women, but never romantic looking. It's a way to disarm women, and let them know that other women are willing to spend time with me.
It sounds like you ran out of people to match with.
I could nerd out and explain how Tinder's matching program works, but it's fairly boring. The basics though, if you match too many people and you're not an effective member, they stop matching you because you're harmful to the reputation of the software.
>>23109591 Dammit everything is wrong. Most girls don't give a shit about video games. The ones that do already know what you play now and have nothing to ask you about. And no one wants to see the fifteen year old scene kid in your pics. Makes you look like you can't hang around girls that actually act your age.
Something must have gone wrong, in 3 days of using tinder I have come across 50% black and mexican women, 49% fat girls and 1% cute girls. Did Tinder change their system? In the past it was never this bad.
I recently went on a Tinder date with a girl out of town. It was really nice. She was normal, and we had a pretty good time. She showed me around her city, left me with her number, and bought me food. 8/10 solid tinder date
>>23111173 >>23110926 why would you even want to "hang out" with the help of tinder I hate seeing girls with "no hookups", "btw I have a boyfriend ;))", "don't hit on me silly boys ^^ tee hee!" What the fuck, why did you even bother liking me.
>>23111875 But being friends and talking for a while could most likely lead to at least some attraction, which could lead to a relationship. So "i have a boyfriend, just looking for friends" is more like "taken atm but looking for a replacement/backup just in case".
TY for the feedback. I included a variant of the line in the bio because I like it as a bit of a normie censor. Switched out the Halloween pic for one with some friends instead. Figured two Halloween pics would be a bit much.
I got one 10/10 Asian girl down from SF for at the time 2 more days, but she wanted to meet at a clubbing area. I said fuck that shit and said no. Clubbing is so boring to me I don't even feel bad about that
Are you only shown people who have their distance set to include where you are at (like you both have it 40+miles and are right at 40 miles apart) or are you just shown everyone within your distance settings, regardless of if their settings include you or not? Seems kinda pointless to show people who cant see your card, as liking them cant lead anywhere
hey you /soc/ilites, any advice on getting a hookup fairly quick in Tinder? I'm in bumfuck nowhere and have no job and am not the best looking or most fit, so it's not an easy sell for me. I would - however - give a decent woman head all night, am DDF, and am quite happy to cuddle until the break of dawn after sexing.
Obviously being direct isn't going to work and I get a lot of spam "ladies" who do the one compliment and send phone number thing.
>>23103686 Update on this, I fell unwell and rescheduled for Monday. Got a text today saying she's in my neighborhood, but I want available. How do you guys close a meet up anyway? Neither of us are looking for a hookup. A kiss on the cheek seems too forward, and a handshake seems really beta.
>been doing good to great on tinder since i started two years ago >photographer friend takes awesome shots showing off fit body >choose one that i think would make tinder even easier for me >decide to delete account (usually do) to get a fresh start with the new pic as my main >tinder glitches up, blank screen, and unable to edit anything >reinstall and recreate account multiple times within an hour >finally get through, upload pics, zero matches whatsoever >tfw you realize tinder has probably flagged your phone id as a spambot
fml, i hope logging off for two weeks and making a new account fixes this otherwise i'm going to miss this buggy piece of shit app
>>23116651 Not so much that women have high standards, it's that there are so many dudes competing for the same girls that they gotta be way more picky. Cream of the crop get the cream of the crop, others fight for scraps.
I'm just wanting to hookup with girls but Tinder seems to be dead (I'm in an area with at least 300K people). I still get matches but barely anyone replies. It's been like this since the moments update.
>>23123203 Don't try give me the 'man up' comment, that is a shaming tactic used by females and manginas. I'm not on tinder to appease to basic bitches, I'm here to meet someone cool and fun. And I ain't going to waste time trying to make the perfect profile, when most girls have "I like chicken nuggets and this is my snapchat" or some shit like that. I don't wanna know them.
>>23123367 Go look in the mirror and figure out your best angles and then get some natural light on the other side of the camera so it's directly on your face. Smile big and with your eyes as well as your mouth. Try to keep the arm holding the camera out of the shot. Play around with it and take a few, but do smile.
I noticed someone asked about lines earlier in the thread. I've been gone awhile but I wanted to share a couple that I've had some success with. Koala is my go to. Since getting back into tinder it's worked to start a conversation in all of the last twenty attempts. The only thing that I don't like about it is that it's really difficult to transition into a conversation unless the girl gives you something to work with.
And as always: close as soon as possible regardless of your strategy. You are just another face in the app. You want to get her number and a meet immediately so that you can graduate from a thumbnail among hundreds to a real person. Just push hard and don't be afraid to use rough segues. Your goal is to meet which separates you from the rest of the pack. You already know she's interested, so fuck around at your own peril.
>>23123444 There's nothing serious about tinder. If a girl fed me a silly line I'd talk to her too. I've had silly lines work on women who ended up being really intelligent, talented, and kind people that I greatly enjoyed spending time with. But yeah, there are a fuckton of basic ass white girls on here.
Full time student, part time geek extraordinaire. Curiosity of a seven year old, eccentric like a five year old. If its in a kids show, science article or part of a rave, im into it.
Strapping young fellow standing 187cm tall in sexy-socks or 187cm in heels. Like most people i occasionally lift things up and put them down.
Still reading this? Lets pass out on a couch together, preferably eating ice-cream watching a shitty flock! (Willing to trade backrubs for right-swipes)
Any improvements? So far i have about 30-40 matches which is decent considering there are only like 200 000 people living in the radius, but i would of course like more.
Also, how to not be an aspie on tinder, im currently chatting with like 5 or 6 girls but i have NO idea what im doing, and cant invite them over either atm since im currently studying, goingfor a beer with one next week though.
>>23124597 I dont use tinder but have been on POF for few months. Same shit really. Chick hits yes on the meet me but doesn't respond to msgs. I had one chick bite the other day and asked for my number after a few exchanges. But all i get from her are 2 to 3 word responses and I feel like im pulling teeth. Almost prefer no answer at all haha
>>23124849 not self conscious, but photos of me smiling are for some reason rare, despite me laughing and smiling pretty much all the time. Dont want to fake a smile, it will just look weird and ... empty, but thanks for the input
>>23125353 Post strategies I mean I've had a few convos, including those where the girl initiated, and it kinda felt pointless discussing with her what we study, what we do in spare time etc. when I can see she's not similar to me at all But this doesn't mean I wouldn't hook up with her; so how to cut the bullshit and get to the point IRL I guess
>>23126286 Sometimes thats rather hard. Not the person you replied to, but in tye ssme situation. My friends and i are dicks to each other, so "hey can you take a picture of me?" Would result in a decent bit of insults and such and most likely no picture.
So I was chatting this girl up and exchanging flirts for over weeks, we weren't in the area but she said she'd love to have lunch with me, but we couldn't find the right time because of the holidays. Finally shit set in stone, 2 weeks from now, a lunch date with lots of potential (she was very forward.)
Now here's what happened that fucks with my mind. I said that before an actual meet we'd have to skype a bit with cam. She goes for it and likes it because it feels safer or whatever.
So we set a meet to skype yesterday, all is well I guess? No, I think I fucked up, the day before yesterday I was out drinking and messaging her a bit all flrity like and messaging what beers I was drinking and she messaged me back with pictures of what she was drinking, all of a sudden I message a pic of a coke because I'm driving home (2 beers is allowed, I had 2) and it's like she flipped a switch. "I can't believe you are still driving!" shit like that. She is from a different country so maybe it's the culture shock? But fuck me she ignored my kik and we didn't skype and I'm so fucking bummed out because she felt like such a hot kinky lay.
So yeah, I fucked up I guess. My kik message is on D, not even R. I'm not going to send her another message, would be too desperate, but I'm so dissapointed holy shit.
So I match with a lot of cute girls and I'll generally start the small talk and we'll talk for a bit about game of thrones or something and then they'll just stop responding. I've also tried the approach of straightforward being flirty or sexual and that also was meh (worked a couple times... But eh?). Idk, I feel a lot of pressure to try and be interesting now because if I'm not they're just not going to respond--but then if I try too hard it's sad and I feel worse about myself. Any hints on this whole being a human thing?
>>23132099 Literally nothing to go on. I know some people have said they think girls with one photo and no text are easier to hook up with (because they're lazy and not giving any signal that they're interested in dating). But I dunno, I seem to draw in the husband hunters myself.
You might want to just cut to the chase and ask why she hasn't invited you over to her place yet. Some women will make small talk for weeks and then unmatch you out of the blue.
>>23132358 Oh, there's a few diamonds in the rough. Crazy diamonds that want to be choked out on the second date.
>>23132461 Like the intro, or the end of the date? If you're not trying to hook up then it's just like any date.
I usually try to arrange it so that I'm at the bar, maybe having a conversation with the bartender. Most successful dates I've had started out sitting side by side at a familiar bar. I try to be aloof but friendly at the first greeting.
In my experience, it's almost better to err on the side of too touchy (though I would not go in for a kiss on the cheek).
Start out aloof and slowly test the waters >squeeze her shoulder when you stand up to go piss >rub her back for a couple seconds after she makes you laugh >brush her leg... work your way up to leaving it there for a while >plenty of eye contact, but don't stare As long as you're not trying to feel her up right there at the bar, it's really not a big deal. Literally never had a woman pull away, but I also monitor her body language.
It's anecdotal, but I've never laid a girl who shook my hand on the first date... next time it happens I might just try to laugh it off and squeeze her shoulder.
Just how many dates do you think I've been on anon? I was sort of thrust into my last relationship, so I've not had to go through the courting phase before. Thanks for the advice, I'll take it on board!
Anyways, meeting for dinner is bullshit, and I usually only book a coffee date if she's desperate for the D already (or a recovering alcoholic or some shit).
Some guys say to always be there a little after her to make her wait, but I like to be there first to get comfortable, make nice with the bartender, arrange the barstools so she has to sit a little closer to me, etc.
need help w/ my bio >"friends call me Anon. Junior in college last time I checked. addicted to any sport involving snow or water but love to try new things. down for anything." literally no idea what Im doing. mostly riding on my pics. how many pictures is enough?
>>23133259 It *can* take that long. It's a bit like sales... some leads walk right in the door, and others take a while to develop.
Being direct is ok, but the fastest I've ever gotten a date set was on the 3-5 exchange. Girls that are young or particularly attractive tend to flake at the last minute. Most of the fun I've had is with average looking chicks who can keep an appointment.
I come from the /fit/. Was mistaken for J J Watts today so I figure maybe it's time.
Is this good enough for Tinder? I don't want to try to win girls over. If they don't like your butt; why bother? To pump and dump or become attached to someone who isn't attracted to you on a primal level? Nah. I'm a biotech and medical student, no time for that nonsense. I spent two years with a woman I won over with my 'personality' and, well, never again.
Got any general bio tips? I've tried writing them out but theres always a thin line between too much, too little and too pretentious. Also don't like putting all my likes and interests in, leaves fuck all to open up with to them.
>>23133685 nobody really wants to see your tryhard naked ass. Im sure you could find/procure a tasteful shirt off pic that doesnt look like you're gonna jump through their phone and beat them. nothing wrong with saying you're just on to fuck in the bio but you should still look approachable
>>23133909 I'd say probably good to mention a few things you like for the benefit of matching and try not to come off like your filling in a resume, but I just started this shit too so what the fuck do I know
>>23134295 My old bio was "I've shown you my pussy, now it's your turn" (in relation to my profile pic of me with my cat and a kind about myself. Don't know if that's good, I think the pics are the thing that's dragging it down. All I've got is that pic and me on a bridge, especially since I've gotten hotter and better fashion sense since then
I'm too picky on tinder. I match like 5 or 6 a day but I only swipe on the quality of the first pic. After we match I check the profile to find I don't like them. I just want the next tinder to drop so it gets some more quality chicks like at the beginning
>>23136295 damn man I learned the hard way too, got chlamydia from a tinder girl a few months back. Hope you sort it out
You really can't expect anything from these strangers on tinder. I used to mostly just mess with girls in my extended friend group and they all take birth control and get checkups, but then I started raw dawgin tinder girls and got burnt, also had to get morning after pills like 3 times. I mean it's my fault though, gotta be responsible
>>23136269 >>23136492 naw he's a lil conventional ugly, but he could flip that into alternative attractive
you could lean really hard into the swaggy hipster look and make it work though. It's maybe good that you list the height cause the pictures make you look vaguely short even if you're not. Take out the cat/dog line, they can see the dog in your picture.
The main part of the bio is corny/boring but some people like corny/boring. Your pictures make you seem like you'd have an aloof one-liner as your bio though
>>23136593 are you constantly remaking your profile or something? I don't really know the system but I feel like tinder might put you on probation or something if you go too hard. But yeah everyone hits a cold streak after a while, maybe you played out your area
>>23136606 Most girls on tinder are pathetic and only have a pair of tits to offer. They like to think their special and worth it, when in reality they only feel that way because of the horny guys that give them attention. Which they hate, but still use that attention to empower and delude themselves. This is mainly a white girl problem though.
>>23136623 that's the game man, gotta play to win. Ideally you only need to go through like a day or two of small talk to get the date lined up, but yeah tinder is not a forum for philosophical discourse or something
>>23136630 Don't worry, once you swallow the red pill it will no longer e depressing. No longer will you settle for less, or be told what you can and can't do. Be your own man and don't settle for basic bitches. Or better yet, pick an Asian qt. They love white guys, and white guys are also going for them more and more. White women like to think they have 'power' in dating but they don't. We'll just look elsewhere.
I didn't think my photos were all that bad but I honestly haven't been able to match with any attractive girls every since first making my profile last week. I got a few matches from some average looking girls, they never talked to me though. There's this one girl who I am talking to now though, she's been really slow with her responses though. But she just asked me yesterday out of the blue how I was doing after our initial introduction...
I dunno. I'm not terrible looking but I don't have any photos that really show an attractive personality. I was just seeing how far I could get with just some basic selfies.
>>23132889 Well it went way better than expected. Got there 10 minutes early, she arrived 20 minutes late. I was greeted by a beautiful short chick in shorts and a tank top. We got coffee and talked shit over a few smokes. Then we went inside and had dinner before catching a movie. She seemed interested in me so I hugged her before we left and organized another meet up.
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