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Describe what it is like to have Social Anxiety Disorder.
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>>26459055
Staying inside for weeks.
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>muh social anxiety

Most people on here don't have it, they're just special snowflakes looking for a convenient excuse as to why they're such fucking failures.
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>>26459089
>wweks
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>>26459055
Constantly worrying about how others perceive you, paying to much attention to your stance, you are so nervous in social environments that you start stumbling over your words and dropping the spagetti without even being autistic. Most of the time you just avoid social interaction completely, which only makes everything so much worse.
I fucking hated it, if this sounds like you go see a doctor.
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>>26459055
It's getting anxiety from social situations
it ain't rocket science senpai
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>>26459093
agreeed

the faggots saying they have social anxiety are always just self diagnosed, and confusing shyness with social anxiety

pisses me the fuck off tbqh
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>>26459185
What do you think social anxiety is?
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I hate sitting in a lecture hall because I can feel everyone's eyes on me every single day but it's all in my head. I can't go to parties, or bars. May have to randomly leave situations, etc. sucks man
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I just looked this up. Apparently I have this. I will put it on my list of disorders.

I dread doing social things days in advance like going to the bank. I feel really uncomfortable small talking people. I have to ignore the discomfort feelings. I avoid stores that don't have self check outs. It's not as bad with lots of exposure but it will always rubber band back to the way it was.
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>>26459216
There's a difference between feeling anxious in social situations and social anxiety disorder. Just like how being a perfectionist doesn't mean you have OCD, and being a moody cunt doesn't make you bipolar/cyclothymic.
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>>26459055
The status quo is more familiar and thus more comfortable.
Why bother approaching anyone. It you know more about what will happen if you dont.

The assumptions and snap judgements you make about
"Non-verbal cues" are going through your head a mile a minute and it paralyses you in the moment until you can think of something to do.
When in fact your mind has imploded or shut dont and you freeze until the moment passes, becuase either through denial or trauma you really feel you can't or shouldn't control these social situations.

Everything you think you reveal about yourself is weakness
So you try to act stiff and rigid.
You may or may not fart or get abit of butt sqeat becuase of it.
Probably due to a fear response.
You want to leave immediatly from a situation. So you step outside for a cigg or go to the bathroom. Any where you can gwt some privacy and be alone.

Thats how it is for me anyways.
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>>26459382
>feeling anxious in social situations
>not social anxiety
That's literally the definition of it.
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>>26459382
Here come the projectingfags.

>I don't have it so that means nobody else has it either
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>>26459450
>deliberately leaving off the 'disorder'

nice try
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>>26459475
Retarded mouth breather. Fuck off and shit up a thread somewhere else.
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>>26459216
i got a better question, what do you think the difference between shyness and social anxiety is?
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>>26459475
Mental disorders are not things you either suffer from full-sperg level or don't have them at all. There are mild and strong forms and high- and low-functioning individuals. And we still can't diagnose them perfectly.
I would suggest you shove semantics up your ass if the only thing you know is the first paragraph of the wikipedia page.
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>>26459503
Almost everyone experiences some degree of anxiety around other people. This doesn't mean they have a social anxiety DISORDER you raging faggot.
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>>26459586
Fuck off and die you miserable cunt. You niggers post in every thread and claim nobody has mental disorders.

This is /r9k/ you fucking dense motherfucker. It's a mental illness circus in here. EVERYONE has something wrong with them. Please get cancer and die.
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>>26459503
But he's right, you fucking retard. Everyone feels social anxiety at some point, even the biggest Chad and Stacy. When that social anxiety gets so bad and is so omnipresent in your life that it impedes your ability to function, it's called social anxiety DISORDER, the part that you left out as you were screeching and banging on the keyboard with the retard stumps you call hands.
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>>26459655
I do have (diagnosed) mental illness, I just don't think it's some badge of honour to be proud of like you retards.
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>>26459055
Terrified to do new things, scared to speak out because you're afraid everyone will judge you, can't look people in the eye, struggle with small talk, extremely self conscious, feeling faint and dizzy when it gets really bad.

I have it and it's fucking horrible. Kissless virgin too so I'm ultra-fucked.
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>>26459682
Nobody thinks it's a badge of honour you fucking idiot. We are just talking about our problems and the autists like you are constantly trying to shut it down.

>>26459661
Kill yourself
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>>26459682
>he doesn't feel superior because of the unique perspective on life his mental illness gives him
>he doesn't regularly berate and get enraged by people who claim to have the mental illness that ruined his life, but who show no signs of it whatsoever
>he doesn't play the "my life is worse than yours" game
>he doesn't clutch to his mental illness as a source of pride because he's get nothing else to be proud of
Get on our level, fag.
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>>26459739
Nice counterargument, retard. You don't have SAD, so just stop.
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I was diagnosed with social anxiety disorder at the age of around 14.

It was pretty obvious I had it for a long time, and I attribute it to the fact that my family moved around so much to find work, afford proper housing and other poorfag stuff, so I found it incredibly hard to socialise with my peers at school and in the local area, being the already shy kid I was, things seems to just get worse.

It differs from person to person, but in terms of my social anxiety, I find it extremely difficult to go to a simple social event or meet a friend, and I can have a full-on panic attack over it. (I remember once I went paint balling with a couple of friends and I was so nervous about it I threw up in my friends step-dads car, very embarrassing stuff.).

What the disorder feels like though, again, it depends. I sweat a tonne, sometimes pass out for 30 seconds or so, throw up or in minor cases can shake a lot and feel really paranoid.

It does become annoying after a while when people seem to just think it's because you're shy and are an introvert. I doubt I will ever recover from this disorder with all the shit that happened to me as a kid, but one can only hope it will not be as drastic as it is now.
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Ignoring severe physical pain because I can't face leaving the house and seeing the doctor
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>>26459805
>look at me mom I'm projecting on an autism support forum
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>>26459055
its like forgetting how to type. you have a keyboard in front of you but you dont know how to use it, and its frustrating.
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>>26459846
not that anon but you just got btfo and you're not even gonna try and refute what he said because you know hes right lmao
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>>26459846
You know, I was joking when I called you a retard the first time but goddamn I was right on the money.
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I still have it but it used to be worse. It feels like everyone is judging you. When i had to talk to groups of people, someone i didnt know or even just walk through a busy place my head would start twitching and shaking involuntarily, id have weird body spasms and lose all coordination, my eyes were fixed to the floor, lots of brain fog too. I embarassed myself so many tines. Shit was horrible.
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it feels like every single person you encounter is staring directly at you and judging you and criticizing you and making a note of everything you do wrong

any time i hear someone laugh in public i kinda wince because i think they're laughing at me

it's a weird kind of reverse narcissism
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>it's like the feeling you get when you miss a step, but all the time in social situations
This comparison is literally the only good thing to ever come out of tumblr. Succinct, accurate, understandable.
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>>26459888
There is nothing to refute. Anybody who makes a judgement about someone's mental state based on nothing but an assumption is a retard. Why have psychologists we will just get the spergs from /r9k/ to tell people they are faking it without every even seeing them.
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>>26459948
what is the difference between social anxiety disorder and shyness
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>>26459975
what's the difference between sadness and depression?

it's just more intense. you feel helpless.
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>>26459975
Sa is when your body triggers the fight or flight response and you go into full blown panic mode. Shyness is just feeling a bit uncomfortable.
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>>26459975
Shyness is a collection of behaviours and superficial traits
Social anxiety disorder may or may not be the reason why you act that way.
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>>26459357
Im the same i never shop anywhere without self checkout. And i always shop at 1am to avoid people.
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>>26459975
>hello mr sperg psychologist could you help me I have schizophrenia
>*tips fedora*
>you are faking it
>but I am on medication and have hallucinations and..
>no you are faking it you are just shy
>go home and walk it off and stop bragging about your mental illness
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No. The thought of having to do this makes me anxious
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>>26459055
Every single moment outside is like that first time walking up to the front of the classroom to give your first speech.
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Simple things like going to the mall's food court feels like going in front of a panel of 100 judges with negative criticism and stigmatization, eating their is impossible for me and I am aware of the people around me observing me negatively, even though in their minds it may only last ten seconds, to me it is compounded by everyone there. I have to pretty much look my best and be with someone to feel not like a mutant.
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>>26459107
yeah this is it pretty much
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it's like trying to run in a race with a broken leg

but seriously can we stop saying we have it? you can't even be sure wether there lying or not because "omg! anxiety!:D" is so common because anxiety has become so synomous with nervousness and fear

it pisses me off because most normies have never helt the discomfort and downright terror of a random panic attack
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>>26459922
>any time i hear someone laugh in public i kinda wince because i think they're laughing at me

Same. If someone so much as looks at me for more than a few seconds I assume there's something wrong with me. It's like they can see right through me. I'm very paranoid. Tried taking medication before but I just felt like a zombie.
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I knew I had it when I started seeing physical symptoms. Whenever I was put on the spot or felt like people were looking at me, my face turned red and I started sweating. Like really bad underarm sweating. It could be freezing out and I still would sweat.
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>>26460213
What kind of meds? I'm on propranolol and they give me bad zombie feelings if i take too many
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>>need to make a phone call
>>start preparing for it few hours before
>>feel cold and get diarrhea minutes before making the call
>>think of things to 'reward' myself after successful phone call
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>>26459055
like you have to hide your real self and always make calculated moves to seem cooler than you are, for fear that anyone finds out you're a pathetic loser. then afterwards you look back on those calculated moves and cringe 1000x because they seem too try hard, or not cool or fake

very stressful
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>>26460320
This so much.
I wish I could just >b myself xD
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>>26460280
Zoloft. I didn't even take that many and it still zoned me out.
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>>26460356
> tfw drinking before going out just to "get in the mood"
> tfw blasting certain music before going out just to "get in the mood"
> tfw watching self help videos and repeating mantras in your head
> tfw trying mindfulness
> tfw rely on humor to deflect every question
> tfw get drunk/high to cope but then do stupid things and anxiety spirals
> tfw hangovers are like comedowns and worsen anxiety
> tfw scared to post on social media
> tfw all your "friends" known almost nothing about you
> tfw only go out when you can get drunk
> tfw a girl finally likes you and you quit because too scared
> tfw pretend you got laid to others so they dont know what a sperg you are

i just thought i was shy and needed to try harder, but got "diagnosed" lately. been taking legit steps and more aware now, i dunno if its helping.. i avoid social situations more now and i stopped drinking, as a result i have no life. you cant win i guess
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severe social anxiety coming in
>dropped out of school bc too scared to go
>will not go in public
>knowing i will never leave my house and i'm basically stuck inside wasting my entire life forever
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Diagnose with schzoid personality disorder and minor schizophrenia at 14,no treatment can be apply on me.my family sort of middle high,not even rich but have spare money to do stuff.What is like to have it?I stay at home as Long as possible if nothing important to buy.if I go outside I will sweat and think that someone stalking behind me and ready to stab my back.
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>>26460482
iv found drugs, cbt and exercise to be helpful. not 100%, but more like 10% each. its something.. you tried this shit?
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i'm prescribed amitriptyline and propanolol for anxiety, it doesn't help much. the amitriptyline gets rid of suicidal thoughts though.
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>>26460438
>i just thought i was shy and needed to try harder, but got "diagnosed" lately

I haven't been formally diagnosed even though I got prescribed meds to help and I show all the signs. Strange.
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>>26459529
One is a bad personality trait, the othe one one is the same personality trait strong enough to have real negative effects on your life, i.e. leading to avoidant behaviour
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>>26460482
Why were you scared of school?
Why dont you want to go out in public?
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>>26460482
You sound like me. I dropped out of high school at 17 because my anxiety was too bad to manage outside of the house. Now I'm an agoraphobic shut-in who periodically takes online classes in a futile attempt to advance my life without actually living it. My parents are still willing to pick up my medications for me, I don't know what I'll do if they decide to stop.
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>>26459055
Having no friends.
Terrified to make a phone call to organise something, only if I absolutely have to, and taking several hours to work up the courage. (My last phone call I took some stimulants before hand).
Dread of meeting people, any social events.
In school I barely spoked.
Went through university never making a friend or ever going into another student's room.

eh I can't be bothered to list any further examples. But it's a constant state of fear when around other people except close family.

imagine the fear when you have a close encounter with death... Like standing on a high place and nearly slip off and get a jolt of panic. Now imagine that same fear most of the time when out in public.
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I used to have pretty bad cases of social anxiety but now it's only mild.
During direct social confrontation like being asked something in class it manifested by tears, heat, trembling, stuttering and being short of breath mainly.

At some point it turned into always feeling like I'm about to piss myself whenever I'm in public even though once I get to the toilet I don't feel the need to pee.
Does anyone here have this?

I've been to a psych ward and take medications so now it's better but the piss part still kicks in sometimes and it's really annoying.
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>>26459055
Fear makes you retarded any time you try to talk to someone.
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>>26459975
They're pretty much the same except it becomes a disorder once it negatively impacts someone's life in a significant way.
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>>26460482
so you live with your parents? do they understand what you have?
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>>26460482
>tfw skipped classes when you forgot homework
>tfw you were too afraid of being THAT ONE GUY again
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Maybe you can relate to having anxiety.
It's like that but always to some degree in social situations. So Eventually you start fearing those moments. You don't go outside, you really try to make sure you don't go to the store often. You avoid your roommates as the plague and take active measures against them (wearing noise cancellation devices in your room so you can feel truly alone). Often you don't go outside even to places where people are unlikely to be just because you _could_ meet someone. When you work out you stick to your room which makes it smell of sweat. I've adopted a rather nice system though. I work out in the nude, let a towel on the floor soak it up and wipe myself often so the sweat doesn't spread. Put it in a plastic bag and no more smell when you've vented the room.

And I think the only way for me to get out of this situation is to find a friend that can understand the situation and ask me to do things with them. It will always be uncomfortable to do social things. But I used to be better at this, much better. Finding friends is hard though, I can barely speak in voip. Just having people pester me about how I should be communicating in team games is very frustrating because I can't tell people I'm having social anxiety, there's no understanding.

It's not good.
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>>26460920
>Does anyone here have this?
I get that but I do need to pee... Like it speeds up the process. If I go to some public place I always need to go when I get there.

What meds?
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>>26460482
Wish I could find someone like this I could identify with to overcome mine with. I get more confident when with another person. I could drag you out the house and you would give me strength.

Anyone else find their anxiety dulls after a period of immersion? Like, going out in public, if I force myself to stay there for 2 - 3 hours it eventually subsides quite a bit and I feel more relaxed.
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>>26461362
I take olanzapine.
Don't know if the med is really doing something but I got better over the time passed in the ward and I trust the doctor who prescribed me this
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It's like projecting expectations for yourself on others and imposing their judgements back on to you
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>>26459975
shyness = childhood
awkwardness = teenhood
anxiety = adulthood

it's all a meme baby
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only people I can be with are fucked up in head that approach me first. I never initialize conversations because I expect everyone to reject me. I would say that I even had only one friend in my wole life.
>be me submissive and easy to manipulate
>best friend sociopath
>knowing he does not give a single shit about me
>just like to be admired by people
>who cares at least someone to talk to
>introduce him to my normie "friends" well more like classmates
>we hang together for few months
>one day he gets pissed about them, leaves
>haven't seen him since
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>>26459055
Constantly feel like people are judging me, so I rarely dare open my mouth. Or when I walk in a public space I feel like strangers are constantly staring at me.
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>>26462744
yep, this sums it up nicely. though I have those rare moments when I feel like I am the boss and in charge. then I look into someones eyes and go back to normal.
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>>26459055
Get a skateboard and go to a skate park with a bowl try to drop in for the first time by yourself it's one motion it's so easy but so hard
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>>26459089
been inside for a few months now
and people say that blacks can't be robots...
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>>26459093

>"your feelings and problems aren't real"

Did you father beat you up?
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this >>26462744
made all the worse by me being a total sperglord and only capable of being silent and creepy or embarrassing myself

I know that pretty much every person I meet will discover there is something wrong with me then never talk to me again unless it is their job
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You know when you go to a place that houses wild or feral animals and they're freaking the fuck out 24/7? The ones that have wild eyes and are breathing fast and their heart looks like its about to explode as they spastically jump around their cage or huddle up in the corner?

Thats how it feels to be in public when you have this shit.
All the just bein urself and exposure therapy in the world won't fix it, I forced it for a long time and it resulted in several private breakdowns and me quitting after a public one.

We just aren't mean for this hypersocial normalfag world.
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>>26460438
>goes out
>has friends but puts quotations around the word to make it look like they don't

This is an example of fake normie super special snowflake anxiety
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Best drugs to treat this?

I tried Sertraline as a teen, and it was ok, but it made me completely numb and almost zombie like. Is there anything that will prevent those Fight/Flight responses whenever something social happens?
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>tfw a qt says hi to you and you have an asthma attack
>tfw accidental eye contact and you're in tears running to the bathroom
>tfw random crying for no reason
>tfw you make people feel bad bc you're so fragile but it's all your fault
>tfw you can see people walking on thin ice around you to make sure you don't break down
>tfw the fact that they try makes it worse
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>>26459055
Life-changing, depressing, embarrassing, confusing.
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>>26459055
Palms sweaty
Knees weak
Arms are heavy
Moms spaghetti
Falling out of pockets tbhwym8
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>>26459055
you basically have little to no meaningful social interactions, even if it were with people who share your interests.
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>>26465009
> others suffering isn't as bad as mine so it doesn't deserve attention
this is far more 'special snowflake' than what i wrote though..
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>>26459055
Them: >hey, anon why don't you ever talk?
>suddenly, panic, can't think of anything to say
>at this point don't really care
Me: >...
>no eye contact
>ever
>they finally leave me alone
>haven't talked to anyone in years
>NEET monies
>at store
>"do you need help with anything?"
>HNNG
>walk away, quickly, they didn't follow me
>phew
>self checkout
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>tfw want to start smoking weed again because it really helps my depression but to anxious to try get it anywhere
>tfw want to buy some clothes online but having to sign off on the delivery makes me extremely anxious
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