>>26430806 If there is a certain thing you enjoy doing, try and find a group in real life that's also interested in it. Anime, tabletop gaming, calligraphy, there's a lot of options out there. Go and meet them and try to talk to them. It doesn't matter if you're awkward, many people are. It's just about getting used to talking to people, and being in an environment you know about can help easing you in.
>>26430813 Spend some of the savings to move somewhere else and get a fresh start. If you're unsatisfied with your current life, a new location can help.
>>26430819 Use a random essay generator to make something up. An incoherent essay turned in is better than no essay turned in.
>>26430826 Go talk to a therapist. Make sure you get one of the same gender as you, and don't lie to him/her. Suicide is not something to joke with.
>>26430827 Be honest to him. Talk about things that interest you. If he's also interested, the conversation will flow naturally. Don't try to cater to his interests, make him cater to yours.
>>26430837 If you do drugs, stop taking them. That's usually the issue when you stop feeling human. Otherwise challenge yourself. If you've been in a comfortable place for long, you start to get numb. Take a risk, break the routine.
>>26430849 Sorry, I got nothing. My condolences. Try to do all the things you've wanted to do. You can stop giving a fuck around now.
I had gone off to my first semester of Uni. I wasn't cut /her/ out of my life. I was losing some weight. I was making friends, and I didn't want to kill myself. I was far away from home
For some stupid reason I stopped taking my bupropion and lost my motivation to work in school. I failed my first semester, started talking to /her/ again, and lost my friends. I'm home now and want nothing more than to suffer an immediate brain aneurism to end it.
I've regressed in every meaningful way. I'm haunted by hatred for me of the past for not kicking the chair out from underneath me two years ago when I had the courage.
>>26430859 Are you attracted to their bodies? Their innocence? Their naivety? I won't say that it isn't difficult, but it's possible to find an 18+ girl with the mentality and body of a 14 year old. Not fun to date, though. Just a fair warning.
>>26430935 >I'm haunted by hatred for me of the past for not kicking the chair out from underneath me two years ago when I had the courage. This seems to be the main problem.
I want to give you an eye opener than might need some time to sink in; the past might have been, but the future is for the taking. If you keep going in mind circles about what could have been, you will never actually make something out of your future. Put the past behind you and accept it for the failure that it is, but realize that the future is what you make and isn't dependent on your past.
Get back to school. Do your best. Live each day in regret of the past, but use that regret to fuel your motivation for a better future.
>>26430954 What do you feel like still needs changing?
>>26430981 >What do you feel like still needs changing? Nothing. I'm just incapable of being happy it seems. Education isn't working even though it's a passion, therapy and meds aren't working, interests aren't working, meeting new people isn't working, fixing myself up regarding looks isn't working, having a girl being interested isn't working, all of it combined isn't working. There's nothing else I want to do but give up and die. No grand dreams of greatness, exploring, achieving. Just giving in and letting it be over.
>>26431035 >There's nothing else I want to do but give up and die. Get up, right now. Throw two sets of clothes, toothbrush, toothpaste, laptop, passport, and whatever you might need in a backpack, and leave your home. Take out all your cash and head for the airport. Take the first flight to as far away as possible.
Get there and start over. If you're still as numb and craving for death as your are now 6 months from now, then all hope is lost. But don't give up until you've tried everything.
>>26431066 You're already half the way. Expose yourself to people you'd like to be around, and someone's bound to like being around you. Do it enough, and you will find someone. But don't go in with the expectation that every girl is a potential girlfriend.
>>26431183 I agree. So, what would YOU like to do with your life? Find that, and work for it. There are no rules in life, only action and consequences. Stop believing the system is the only way to live on this planet.
>>26431187 Be with her as much as possible and support her through the chemo. Having family around can aid the process. And if she doesn't survive, you'll appreciate having spent as much time with her as you could.
>>26431218 >I don't want to go. I get incredibly anxious when hanging out with Chads Tell him that. If he's your friend, he'll either understand and not force you to come, or he'll make sure you're having fun throughout the party by being your social wingman.
If he doesn't help, he isn't your friend and can go suck a fat one. t. I am a Chad, albeit a very friendly one who once was a robot
>>26431122 >You're already half the way. Expose yourself to people you'd like to be around, and someone's bound to like being around you. Do it enough, and you will find someone. But don't go in with the expectation that every girl is a potential girlfriend. This is pretty good advice senpai. I have my eye on this one girl I just need to figure out if she's interested. I'll try going to the soc she goes too and figure it out. If not I'll just try and meet some more people at things I like doing.
fear of social rejection, even from complete strangers it is soul crushing
no normy meme "you are just angst, suck it up bitch", it doesn't work, I am too far gone, most people adopted the feels, I was born in it, raised in it. neither will "you deserve it hurr durr i am mean am i edgy yet". if I go out into the normy world I will accidentally say something autistic then someone will be annoyed by this and start spreading lies and dissing me, calling me an idiot for every minor human error I make, then I will flip out and do something stupid, at the very least it will make my life miserable
>>26431242 That's the thing. He doesn't know I'm a loser. I put on a very good appearance of being a fellow Chad, although I am a bit "strange" to them. Not to mention there will be Staceys there, and I have no experience with girls. It is bound to show up one day, seeing as how they talk about fucking girls all the time and getting laid, and I have no stories to tell of my own.
>>26431262 >if I go out into the normy world I will accidentally say something autistic then someone will be annoyed by this and start spreading lies and dissing me, calling me an idiot for every minor human error I make, then I will flip out and do something stupid, at the very least it will make my life miserable I'm a bit taken back by this. Would you treat a stranger this way? I know only of a very few people who straight up would start bullying the shy guy, and they're notoriously hated by pretty much everyone.
The majority of the population was raised to have a degree of respect towards others. If someone says something weird and don't laugh it off, it's taken as eccentricity and isn't a dealbreaker when it comes to friendships. If you start easing yourself in to social situations as explained here >>26430891, you'll notice that people might actually like you more for being weird.
I was a horrible, horrible social retard until I started to expose myself. The fear of rejection was with me till the end, even when I could have a conversation with anyone. It's the last thing you get over, but once you do you'll have the entire world to talk, and flirt, to.
>>26431268 You're faking it till you make it, eh? Take a look at yourself and how others perceive you. They don't see who you are on the inside, but who you show that you are. If you know that these people already see you as a Chad, just go to the party and act like one. It's only strange if that turbonerd with flame t-shirts start acting all jock-like at a party, but for someone who's already semi-there, it'd be shrugged off as good fun.
If you can't do that, talk to your friend. He might be weirded out a bit that you're nervous, but again, if he's your friend he'll understand, and perhaps even feel closer to you after you reveal this side of you to him.
>>26430939 A bit of all that honestly. I think it's the psychology. A 14 year old can't hurt me. The innocence too. Perhaps this is where the fetishization of purity leads Finally the body. It just seems like it'd be so perky and tight.
>>26431386 >I think it's the psychology. A 14 year old can't hurt me. They can. Anyone can hurt you. A 3 year old girl calling you fat would hurt, wouldn't it?
Remember how cunty kids were when you were 14. Now apply that cuntyness to a dating partner. If you're looking for security in a relationship and innocence in your partner, try and change yourself to be the type of partner you want. Then approach women with that mindset.
i'm in an abusive relationship and can't leave it out of fear of being alone in order to leave it i need someone new to date but i have sort of specific attractions im trans and id really like an older girl whos into older sister/mommy play, or is just a caring and supportive person
>>26430800 I'm cheating on my boyfriend with his brother and I'm starting to fall in love with him. I'm worried my boyfriend is going to find out since his brother is visiting more often but at the same time I want him to keep coming over.
>>26431361 hmm, don't know what to say, seems naive to think laughing it off will change how people see me, it won't stop it and I will snap eventually, I wish I could come to peace with it but I am not sure if I can.
I think about it a lot, I understand that other people are fallible so they will be wrong about me, maybe I can accept that. I am not quite the sperglord I was before my years of NEETdom so maybe I can cut down on incidents.
>>26430891 >If there is a certain thing you enjoy doing, try and find a group in real life that's also interested in it. Anime, tabletop gaming, calligraphy, there's a lot of options out there. Go and meet them and try to talk to them. It doesn't matter if you're awkward, many people are. It's just about getting used to talking to people, and being in an environment you know about can help easing you in.
I'll try, advice-kun. It's really hard, and seeing passionate people tends to... make me angry for some strange reason. I'm not sure why. It might be out of jealousy. You're advice is golden though. Thank you.
I'm trying to fuck a girl, but I somehow can't get beyond the "I did this and that" chatting. I've known her now for 5 years. A few days ago I decided to get her number. I expected much more than this shit. How should I behave, OP? She isn't reply as fast as I am, she is reading my messages and replies an hour later. BTW, I got her number, because she was dancing with me when we've met a few days earlier.
>>26431581 I'm not telling you to laugh it off. I'm telling you to go out there and be weird. People will like you for being you, it's just a matter of exposing yourself to others long enough to find a solid friend or two. Once you have a gang to do weird shit with, it won't be strange and you'll feel great. Keep thinking about the situations you're in, and try to see them from the persons you're with's perspective. Then try to put yourself in their place and think what you would find interesting to hear you say. Then say that.
>>26431587 Be that passionate person! Show up at the gathering with a passion for your interest only rivaled by your need to show it to others.
>>26431597 You seem to only care about yourself in this matter. Keep doing what you're doing, then come back to me once it fucks up massively.
>>26431602 Then you're in a dilemma. Ask yourself whether you're willing to die for that dream. Build from the answer.
>>26431606 >I can't make friends, can't get a girlfriend Replace that with "I haven't gotten any friend, I haven't gotten a girlfriend." You can, it's just a matter of meeting the right people! I can keep referring back to the first piece of advice I gave here: >>26430891
>>26431615 Take a conversational risk instead of just running in circles. Ask her something personal. Tell her something personal about you. Don't make it creepy or intimate, just something to drive the conversation towards getting to know each other better.
Also, ask her out for coffee. Talking in person is so much more personal than texting.
>>26431629 Yup. Look in to local airsoft or shooting clubs. You get to fire guns and bullshit with teammates, except in real life.
>>26431630 Wait ~50 till we have GitS-like technology, then have your mind linked to an attack helicopter.
>>26430800 >Tell me your biggest problem right now Becoming fully self sufficient.
It's not easy to get job at small city, career counselor nags me about starting a company or going to university. If I get a job here, pay won't be enough to help me with becoming self sufficient, It won't be enough to move out from my parents. At best I can save up some money and try again to leave for bigger city. The thing is, I can't bother to participate in this rat race. I'm not very materialistic person, which turns out to be a huge disadvantage.
Everyone around me has one or two they're texting or dating while not a single girl I know would even respond to a text from me. Maybe I should meet new people but I have no clue where to meet them besides "work, college, and bars" which are all no goes.
>>26431698 I dont want to do airsoft. Because i live in the Nethercucks and they have strict gun laws and B. I just want to break the cycle of wasting time on my pc during the week. In the weekends I workout, visit my gf, work and take driving lessons. It just that after school I come home. Watch youtube and shitpost. After dinner some more and after working out as well.
>>26431724 Have you tried applying to all jobs? If not, keep applying.
If you have, move. Get a job in another city where people doesn't know you. Fake some prior employment on your resume to boost the process, but make sure it isn't something that requires skills that you can't fake in 5 minutes.
>>26431719 >Leave for a quiet place instead of a bigger city. I would still need money, and it's harder to get money in smaller quiet place.
>Have you thought of becoming a monk? Well I thought about it before, that would require giving up to religious indoctrination... or at least pretending to agree with them just so I can live in peace while performing simple, basic tasks. I don't think that's a good idea though, still thanks for trying.
>>26431928 Buddhist and Hindu temples are large with people who want to spend some time there to find themselves but with no religious connection. Try and travel to one, speak to the head monk, and see if he can help.
>>26431934 Drink, but that would only make things worse. Distract yourself with something. I once used karate to get over a tough breakup.
>>26431958 Talk to someone who knows you about it. They might be able to tell you what it is.
>>26430800 When I go to the train station on the way to university I have a incredible urge to stand up and jump in front of the train when it comes. I'm not even suicidal, I live a good life, it's just I space out easily and it's like I'm somebody else for a few seconds. Hard to describe op
>>26430800 Im tired of life I suffer from hyperhydrosis which makes me sweat like a dog, even when its cold I sweat trough my clothes everyday, even in winter after day at uni im dehydrated and tired af not to mention that wearing wet clothes make me want to kill myself the whole time until i get home and change i stay home whenever i can so i can get shower and change clothes anytime i can't focus, i can't study, i can't work, i can't socialise i can't live drinking is literally all i got, makes me forget for a while it has been like that for about 8 years now even got a surgery for this which took all my savings, but it didnt help and now my left hand is partially paralyzed i can't play guitar anymore im 23 and tired of life already i just want to lay down and die
I haven't quite gotten pass myself to go visit a doctor for this problem because its not directly affecting my life. Over here there's no medical insurance so a single trip of consultation costs a lot (especially for a University student like me).
Here's my problem. >stuck in a rut in life. >Have a fun job where I make good money but I don't nearly work enough (less than 20 hours a week). >Barely make enough to pay for bills. >Stay home and get bored and start meeting girls online. >A lot of them fat. >Doesn't matter fuck them anyways. >have a shitty annoying fwb at the moment.
These problems are easily solvable by themselves but I want something more in life. I want to strive to be something. I'm 30 with no wife, no kids, no management experience. I'm just a fucking dude drifting through life with no meaning. I don't know what I'm doing or where I'm going. I kind have this dream of directing a film but I don't have the knowledge to do so.
No clue what to do. I'm just waiting for something that'll never happen.
>gf and I break up >my best female friends breaks up with her bf the same week >we console each other >I start to fall in love with her and tell her >she says "oh anon we may end up together or not I'm not sure. I just need a break without men after this 5 year realationship" >oh well I give her a break >after two weeks I give her flowers and we talk >"oh Anon I have a new boyfriend! crazy huh?! I did't plan this but oh well" Fuck that cunt 4 weeks after a 5 year relation she's fucking someone else already meanwhile I'll stay alone for god knows how long... I had my heart broken twice this year. the wortst part is how hypocritical she was: 1st lie >yeah um we're together since 5 years and I will never leave him 2nd lie >I need a break and won't have a bf soon again I never believed redpillers and MGTOWs but that bitch is a textbook liar. and how come girls find new boys that fast? also a part of me still hopes that one time she might leave her new bf again and give me a chance. I hate me foe this, deep down I know it will never happen but I can't control my false hopes. how can I suppress my hopes? I don't want to stay in her orbi
Britbong here. Spent 4 years at university doing maths and smuggling the whole way through it. I need to get something like 70% this year to get a 2.1. Worried about how fucked I am when I get that 2.2
>>26430800 I really wish I got to this thread early but OP if you're still around
I have severe suicidal/homicidal thoughts 24/7, I can only masturbate to little girls under the age of 14, I have zero friends because people are scared of me when ever I open up to them, I have never once been happy, not even in early childhood, all I feel is anger, bitter, envy, and depression. I feel like I'm gonna snap anytime now! Whenever someone even makes a short conversation with me I lash out verbally, I have to mentally hold myself back just to prevent myself from attacking people.
I'm a 22 yo kv. I've slowly been correcting my appearance as far as possible (lifting, haircut, T-shirt + jeans + nice shoes for everyday stuff), but my face is still pretty unattractive. I feel like it's a massive knock to my confidence.
The bigger problem, though, is that people are incapable of seeing me in a sexual way, or even seeing me as being romantically involved with another person. I can hold a conversation fine, but can't flirt or talk in a sexual way.
I'm losing my patience with my sick dad, because even though he is/was very ill, he also admits to just wanting to be babied. He has a history of milking things for attention/making things sound worse for drama. There is no one besides me who looks after him, so I'm tired of hearing a grown man literally whine, and also killing my fucking vibe with his feels when I just want to drink a fucking beer and unwind after wagecucking.
When he's not whining, he's complaining/yelling in a normal voice and how I'm lazy and I don't do anything around the house, despite working and the fact he is not fucking bedridden. He wasn't doing anything before he got sick because muh depression, muh wagecucking but that doesn't seem to be a viable excuse to him when I need time away. I try avoiding him whenever I can.
How can I build my patience back up with him, he isn't going to change but I have to keep after him.
I am really afraid of basically anything I can think about, I feel like I will never fulfill my own (and others) exspectations. Its not that Im terribly stupid, nor am I terribly ugly, or even depressed or something, I am generally speaking a happy person, but I always overthink everything. Even my fucking fantasies turn to shit most of the time, and I even enjoy that at times. How do I get that mindset away? Yeah and I am really jealous too. Even of my friends and my family. How about you cleanse me from that too, would be a blast!
My oneitis is too much for me, she has sex with a lot of Chads, particularly one of them. She thinks I'm the smartest guy on earth and she always congratulates me on the things I write, I just want to give her some poems I wrote for her, but I'm too afraid of her reaction and I don't know when I can do it. We're at the same uni and we will be there till the end of next year if she doesn't go away before. What can I do?
>go to my PO box >nothing has arrived yet >the post man said he would look for my package if I gave him time >go outside and look around in a small mall near the postal office >suddenly, meet my 10/10 girl (pic related) >shit dude she is BEAUTIFUL >ask her if she sells a mousepad >she says no but she points me to another stand near hers >go to were she said >she actually FOLLOWS me and asks if everything is okay >gives me more pointers to other places >I try my best not to spaghetti myself and we just smile at each other >say thanks and "leave" >really all I did was lose her sight >go back to her stand >ask about another random thing >she now seems uninterested >leave ASAP
So what, robots? Should I go back to her place and try again? Or I blew it up?
Well, for starters. I'm currently in a long distance relationship with the girl I've loved for 6 years because of university. I mean we both love each other and we repeat it like a million times everyday, so for almost 2 years now. But I just really fucking miss her actual presence. Not to mention we won't be able to spend our 2nd anniversary and Valentine's together. I don't wanna see her through a webcam. I wanna see her with my own eyes. I miss the sex, the cuddling, the kissing in random places, I just miss actually being with her. Also I can't just fly back home a lot because I'm gonna miss classes and we aren't exactly well off. Just gotta wait for when I can actually come home. Pretty trivial problem but typing it all out and posting it relieves some of the shittiness.
I have this female friend who I want to spend time with on the weekend outside of texting. Whenever I ask her if she would wants to do something, she always relies with "I'm not sure if I have plans", I then tell her "tell me if you're free". Then when the weekend comes up she doesn't inform me of anything. I would have already moved on away from her if it wasn't hard talking to new girls, and if I could figure her out, I told her if she really wanted to spend time together she would put me before her errands and just today I told her it would be more respectful to just reject my offer but there was silence on her end. The weird thing is she not afraid of saying "no" to me in anything else but with this she acts funny about it, in person she smiles about it also. I feel as though she's playing me but we had hung twice before already this way.
>>26430800 I suffered from PTSD, thought I was getting better while I finished school and have been NEET for almost a year and don't enjoy the company of friends anymore. I now dislike leaving the house, am anxious and have gained a lot of weight. I'm lost. What do OP?
I have really bad anxiety and PTSD to the point where I feel like I'm constantly losing it, as well as a huge inferiority complex. In order to help that, I need to move out of mom's house. Right now I'm working and saving a ton of money so that I can afford it. Lately my anxiety has been getting even worse, and I ought to see a shrink. To see a shrink, I have to lose double money to take the time off work, then pay for therapy. I have to choose between helping myself now and delaying my escape, or help myself now but keep putting off moving out. Is there another option? I'm 25 next month and am a pathetic loser and I constantly want to roll into a all and just rock back and forth and cry.
>>26442168 I'm >>26442001 and I understand since I'm going through practically the same thing. What triggers my PTSD is being in the outside world with people again so I stay huddled and NEET in my mother's basement. Shrinks really aren't as helpful as normies make them out to be since they don't listen to your point of view and are stubborn and stay with the original diagnosis.
>>26430800 I have class every Friday, and there's this girl who sits in front of me. There have been multiple times me and her were the only people in the room, but I've never said a word to her. There have been 5 classes. Is it too late?
Nothing is fun. I hate doing anything productive because it's too stressful, I don't like socializing or meeting people and things like video games and TV have gotten old. Drugs are nice but expensive and will probably just get old eventually too. What the fuck do I do with my life please help
i get caught up in internet discussion all the time, and i'm addicted to it. i need to win every single argument even though i know it's better to just not respond to faggots on here. if i don't respond i feel like a weak pushover that just gives up every time. i will keep arguing for hours because i need the last word. i need to completely dominate him. sometimes i even defend a point i don't even agree with, just for the sake of arguing.
>>26430800 I'm over-educated (PhD in Archaeological Science) but under-experienced (I've done 6 digs for a total of about 10 months work experience), the job market in Archaeology is horribly competitive so for a couple of years I was looking mostly into museum work, then I was looking for office work, now I'm looking for ANY work - but nobody will hire a PhD for an entry-level job. What do? I just turned 27 and have no fucking clue.
>>26430800 I have been made redundant and am stuck working in a shitty bar. Before this I was a management consultant making around 60k not huge amounts but enough that I was comfortable. Now I make less then half of that and live in existential hell. I want another cushy corporate job its been 2 months now and it fucking blows im sick of it. Every job I apply to I barely get a look in.
>>26430800 My family and I are homeless. We've been living in a motel for the past 2 weeks after our apartment lease ended and we couldn't find a place to move in. We've tried applying to a decent apartment place but got rejected because my dad has unpaid rent from 6 years ago. We tried going to another place and we told them about the collection on his credit report and they told us they'd outright deny us. Any place we go, we're probably going to get denied. As such we've began to look for privately owned places with owners that care more about having the income to pay instead of credit though the search has almost come to a halt. I don't have credit and my dad's wife has thrown hers into the shitter for God knows what and even applying with us as tenants, they'll deny us because of my dad. We can't move to far from a certain area because my younger siblings go to high school in that area. It's my sis last year and if she leaves the school she'll lose her scholarship and I find it too hard to take my brother away from his friends as its his junior year. I started part-time work at a fast food joint but I don't start until next Monday.
>>26443935 What jobs DO they need in your area? Nursing is one that you always need. Did you train in anything? That can be an option. Otherwise get on couch surfing to go to other places where they do need your job specialty and try to score a job and crash at their places.
>>26443994 They don't. I specialize in structural engineering, which is always needed. But not here, not at the moment. >just go somewhere else and try to get a job later lol xDD Yeah naw, I'm medically dependent so I can't just up and fuck off whenever and wherever I feel like. Not to mention that costs money in the first place.
Again, the solution is to keep trying and pray for the best.
>>26430806 >>26430891 >>26430891 >If there is a certain thing you enjoy doing, try and find a group in real life that's also interested in it. I got this issue, but too much of an anxious wreck to really go there. Plus I pushed a guy from the main club I'm interested in into a wall and grabbed him by the throat the other day, so would be really awkward. Any other ideas?
>>26430800 i applied for a job and the first interview went ok and the called me and now i have another one . my current job is less than part time , the new one , if i get it , will be full time. so few days off .how do people do it ?
>be me. 14, 5ft9, gross acne, nerdy. >ask friendgrill out, shes like "naw sun" goes out with more handsome dude with the same name as me.
>be me, 17, 6ft1, skin clearing, still a little bit here and there, still nerdy. >grill has broken up with same name, ask her out. >"nawsun" >she goes out with this guy who looks *so much like me* but who is way douchier.
>be me. 18, 6ft2, clear skin, moved out of home, pretty handsome, still nerdy but times have changed. Nerdy is cool, of you do it right.
>chick breaks up with lookalike faggot, I'm her friend so I'm all like yo let's hang. (I'm being totally platonic, but she had a history of self harm. Shes pretty down so I'm trying to make sure she doesn't fall into that shit again)
>mfw shes making moves on me. >mfw Im still attracted to her. >mfw my bitterness about being turned down twice would fuck up any chance at a relationship.
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