I have a friend who I've known for 18 years. Wow. Just typing that I feel really old. I'm sure a lot of you aren't even 18 yet.
Anyways. This friend had been in the state of mind as he was 18 years ago. Very immature both socially and mentally.
I am considering cutting him out of my life all together because whenever we hang out he just talks about negative stuff like how much his life sucks etc etc...
I am moving on, and so is every one of our mutual friends. He is being left behind. I think I only talk to him because I feel an enormous amount of pity and sorrow for him. But he refuses to even try to improve his life.
At what point do you just drop it?
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Same situation as you. I've been friends with a guy for 20 years. We grew up playing sega, n64, ridings bikes and whatever else 90 kids did.
Now all he does is drink 15 beer a day and smoke weed. We used to go quading, shooting and 4x4ing. Now when I go over we just sit in his shop (that he lives in) with no heat, power or water. He will harass me to drink beer and get high every time I go there. I usually say no and when I do the whole visit turns in to him trying to convince me to drink.
I usually invite him out to do things but he always says no. I have ignored him for 4 weeks now. I might just cut him out of my life but it is hard because I have known him for so long.
What in the fuck? Have you guys seriously never even thought about communicating with them? You want to just abandon them without explaining why or giving them any chance?
>tfw my friends abandoned me because I didn't want to binge drink, graffiti/vandalise and smoke tobacco or marijuana
Sometimes I wonder if the legal/health repercussions would have been worth having friends...
You're young and inexperienced. I envy you b
Talking it out and giving advice gets old, very quickly. It gets tiring. I don't know what else to say. You've never been in a situation like me and the other guy. It's hard, very hard, but there comes a point in a mans life where enough is just enough and it's time move on.
I know what you mean. I am the guy you quoted.
I used to smoke weed with friends but stopped hanging out with them when they started using cocaine, mdma, and some other stuff. I lost contact with them because we had nothing in common.
I wonder if my life would have been better if I started using with them.