>>26387954 Fuck off scumbag there are 10 threads right now with some beta fag planning to anhero and you all come to say :"do it faggot" robots are most hypocritical people you are basically failed normies or chads
>>26387917 OP, I hope you understand what you are asking for. A depressed person takes A LOT of time and you need to be there for him 24/7. You can't just go "lol I'm gonna do my own thing today. Don't bother me I need my personal space." You have to be committed. I hope you're ready for that. And trust me I'm not talking about >tfw when no gf/bf depression. That's not even depression. And you have to be sure and confident in your decisions. Because if you fuck up, that person you're "trying to save" will crash so hard and you'll have to start all over again. Don't make their condition worse.
>>26390103 It is, you will build him higher so he has a greater fall. The only good outcome of your cunt deeds is if the guy manages to piece himself back together and be more emotionally stable and distant. Quit being so selfish.
A depressed person isn't a dog you fucking retard. If you choose to befriend someone with mental illness it doesn't automatically become your duty to be their 24/7 caregiver. This is why everybody leaves you. You expect way too much from them. Learn to care for yourself or enter long-term care.
you dig your own holes. she tries to fill them. you lash out because you're an unhealthy child. she reacts in an unhealthy way. you continue the dance like a bunch of electrocuted corpses trying to imitate living people.
this isn't love. you never loved her. you still blame her for digging the holes that were there before you even knew her name.
>>26390489 Yes, and each case is different. Not everybody has the same life and they need to deal with it differently due to it. Some experience a lot of loss, others rejection, the list goes on. The stable people you speak of have a healthy foundation regarding emotions, each aspect has it's place. Then there are th people who aren't so balanced, and they need to come to different terms of acceptance and development to stay healthy. Being a normo isn't a choice, but being mentally healthy is, and mentally healthy is not the same state for everyone. Being distant when you've been hurt over and over again is normal and natural, it makes the people more aware and cautious. As long as they don't completely extinguish the flame of romantic hope then they're stable. Minimizing pain physical or mental is always good, what's bad is how some tend to do it.
>>26390617 Lash out? What are you even talking about?
>Wallowing in self pity is called misery. Most of you choose to live that way. Self pity isn't called misery, but there's nothing worse than self pity in a person. Shutting yourself off isn't self pity. And I agree again, mos to fous do chose to live miserable because we don't deal with our emotions in a healthy wy. That's why I say that distancing yourself for introspection is fucking good.
No one can stant constant rejection, insults, loneliness and so on, no matter how healthy they are. When that all you know in your life you DO NEED to take a step back for a moment, not let people get to you, that includes emotionally because that's a set up for more rejection and pain. Distance is a natural step for the lowest of the low like robots, and it's a good step. The pitfall here is becoming so emotionally distant that you can't even save yourself or see the good parts of other people.
You're attributing the negative things to this notion and labeling it as bad when it's all down to the individual. Like you said, it's their choice to wallow in self pity, and it's their choice as well to fuck themselves up even more by not handling the distancing part right. You can't say it's good to be in control of yourself at X but not at Y.
Hi OP. I am a 22 year old male. I am 6'1 and I am in the navy. I suffer from alcoholism. I have no family and very few friends. I find it hard to leave my room for anything other than work. I am responsible, I own my car and work very hard. No one suspects it but I want to kill myself very badly. If you could do something to improve my life I would be eternally grateful.
That feel when not depressed enough to appeal to this type of woman. My only problems are isolation and lack of affection, both of which would be solved by a loving gf, upon which she'd lose all interest in me.
>>26390290 You understand very little about severe mental illness, if you're talking about MDD, the most severe type of depression then if you choose to insert yourself into the life of someone suffering from that under the guise of being commited to help them, do you not understand how much it would fucking damage them if you got bored or left? Never mind the fact that we're talking about a relationship in this context which is much harder than taking care of a dog
Fucking end yourself you uncompassionate shitlord, nobody said they had to be mothered, just that if you're entering a situation like that, you have to understand the weight of it.
OP is fucking b8 anyways, and on the off chance it's not it's naive faggotry, having to be around a person with even mild depression is draining as fuck and can make you resent them, treating mental illness as a novelty is fucking disgusting
All I want is a natural friend who takes what I say at face value instead of thinking I'm a liar
This one time someone asked my height, I wasn't sure and said as much; hadn't checked my height in years since it didn't bother me. Guessed 5'11 since my father had said so, went to check my old marked door to be sure and it looked like it showed 5'10 so I corrected myself. Went back later and realized that that was a marking to show where 5'10 was, and that my height was more in line with 5'8 so I corrected myself again and that person acted really dismissive from that point on. lol I think I can see why people get bent out of shape over how tall they are but it still has never bothered me outside apparently losing a friend over it?
>>26392378 I was totally explicit about being unsure though and all that was within an hour tops
I'd say not my fault for not caring enough to constantly measure my own height but technically it is my own fault for not caring enough to constantly know my height to a T not like I ultimately misrepresented myself.
Then i am at a loss now. Did you say online you were 5'11 then come back and reveal you were 5'8 with that weird convoluted story?
Obviously it is a lot less weird when they can't phsyically see you and call bullshit but it still is weird. Again no offense I have done many weird things and I have always appreciated when someone told it like it is to me
>>26392829 height was asked, acted unsure and said maybe 5'11, went to check, saw 5'10 mark, said that, then within that hour said hold on have to check something again and after some examination came to the conclusion I was looking at a mark made for reference and not to mark where my actual height was.
It wasn't convoluted I swear no offense taken I'm scatterbrained and constantly look like an idiot and have sleepless nights over it
I wish someone would adopt me as their qt bf but desu I wanna be able to help my partner too. Like, I need someone to lean on but I want them to be able to lean on me too. I can fend for myself I just wanna a little help u know? All I want is a mentally ill gf to help and get helped by PS OP, you cannot save anyone. You can only help people to help themselves. Trying to save someone is impossible and also like, bad.
Every time you went back and corrected your height it became weirder and weirder. Think of it from their perspective. It definitely brings up a lot of question marks no matter your explanation and seems very unusual
I have done many a dumb thing trust me, too many nights spent face palming myself to sleep
>>26393113 I'm not really damaged. Like I said I'm able to fend for myself. I've been in relationships before. Being with someone more stable doesn't make me feel guilty or inferior. It makes me happy for them that they're doing well. And I try to confront my issues every day. So, I don't think you understand anon. I want someone like me because I can understand and get along with someone like that better. I wouldn't say no to someone that I liked who was a complete normie though.
Why do you think it is someone like that exclusively that could understand you?
There are normies that have seen all kinds of shit been through the ringer. Especially older women.
It can not be that no normies could understand and you know that, that is why I made the stabs in the dark that I did because it cannot simply be you want someone to understand and to understand you. Normies can easily and probably better provide that
>>26393236 I think we have different definitions of normies. The ones I know at work haven't really ever dealt with any mental issues other than light anxiety or situational depression. I don't think it's exclusive. Anyone can understand me and I can understand anyone. It's just that someone who has dealt with or is dealing with mental issues has shared ground with me. And I think people with mental issues have a better sense of empathy and understanding than people who have been neurotypical all their lives. I want someone to understand me, accept me, love me, and help me when I need help. I want a nurturing relationship. I don't want it to sound like I want someone to take care of me though. I mean, not like a mom. I just want a loving and supporting relationship, from both sides. And yes, most women not just older women. Women tend to have it hard in society, men are aggressive and predatory. I know. I have known normies though and I've known non-normies and the non-normies have always been the better friends to me. They just understand better, they're more accepting. It's more innate. A normie can learn that but I don't think it comes as naturally. I'm not talking in absolutes though. To be honest, the biggest thing that I look for in a relationship is similar views on love and trust. Someone who believes that love is the most important thing, that trust is holy. That love is holy too I would have to say. I believe in eternal love and all that nonsense. But, that's just ideal and in real life perfect doesn't exist. Nothing I'm really saying here means anything at the end of the day. As long as I like someone and they like me and we both want to try a relationship I would.
>tfw no 6'4 Linebacker bf who is kinda depressed but not really depressed like idk sad enough where he wants only me and not those other sluts but he stills hangs out with his friends and is social but not like so happy you know what i mean
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