>That pathetic feel when gay for majority of life but some guy who turned gay like a few months ago has already had sex while I haven't.
>tfw slowly turning gay
>tfw will probably still be a virgin for the rest of my life
>tfw repressed closeted bifag
>tfw been telling myself that I'm "mostly straight" for years, even though all my hookups with girls have been underwhelming at best
>tfw too chickenshit to actually try experimenting with another guy
>tfw one of my best friends recently came out of the closet to me
>tfw I couldn't screw up the courage to come out to him, too
>tfw he even hinted at having a crush on me, but I just panicked and laughed it off like I thought he was kidding
>tfw can't stop fantasizing about him
>tfw not just sexual fantasies, but even ridiculously overreaching thoughts of serious romance and gay domestic bliss and shit
Something very similar happened to me except the other way around, I was the one who came out and seriously hinted a crush to my friend a couple of days ago.
He didn't gay tho but that's OK, I can relate to almost everything you wrote tho.
I'm even really turned on by dad photo, I wish I had a boy to cuddle with and kiss and be romantically stupid with if it makes any sense
I'm closet bifag too but I've been with a few guys. When I actually found a qt boy who liked me it took every ounce of determination in me to actually go through with it. I would recommend it though, it's quite fun
I know that feel, OP
>inb4 grindr, craigslist, etc
I'm too socially anxious, I can't do it
>tfw no fem crossdressing bf
I just want a gf with a penis dammit!
That's the biggest reason my parents don't know. I'd have more anxiety about them being proud of me being gay than if they hate me for it. I just want to sleep with guys and never have it be brought up
I plan on keeping it a secret until I step into my grave.
Also, I'm fairly convinced monogamy is impossible for homosexuals. My dreams of a cute, homosexual relationship is but a dream.
Me too but
>let's be super supportive and super stupid about it to the point when we are actually harmful for you
But I can't complain, I live alone so there is nothing stoping me but me being overweight, scared and a loner. At least I'm working on 2 of them
>tfw repressed closeted bifag
>tfw been telling myself that I'm "mostly straight" for years
>too much of a permavirgin to know anything
>progressively becoming gayer
You know what the worst part is op? The fact that most people you knew in highschool, yes most of them, even the ones who made fun of gay people had at least one gay experience before ruling it out
This is like when a new kid comes to your school and is immediately popular and has stacies all over him, but you've been in the same district since kindergarten and everyone thinks you're a loser.
Do you want to fuck a fat gay guy? No? Then stop bitching, nobody is close to anyone or has a place to fuck ever anyways and even if they did I don't want my first experience to be like that
Married gayfag here. My husband and I met in college, lost our virginities to each other, and have been together ever since. Most of the other gay folks I know are in monogamous relationships as well.
Appearances can be deceiving--just remember that the most "visibly" gay dudes (in both the media and IRL) tend to be young attractive guys who are deeply immersed in the shallow hookup culture. Personally, I suspect gay men are just as inclined towards monogamy as straight men. The difference being that it's a lot easier and more socially acceptable for promiscuous gay men to engage in anonymous hookups, while promiscuous straight men have to be more discreet about it (i.e. hookers, cheating), especially once they're past their younger years where fucking around is more socially acceptable.
>The Wonder Gays and their monogamous relationship
Naw man, that's just something from my "cute porn" folder. I assure you I'm not nearly as attractive as either of those dudes (though my husband is, I lucked out).
As for topping, we're both versatile, at least in theory. When our relationship first started, I mostly topped him. But over the years our roles in the bedroom have slowly flipped around, so nowadays I mostly bottom.
Chill out, anon. You'll get there eventually. I know it might sound ridiculous and impossible to you now, but I felt the same way you do before I first met my husband.
Aww I'm an americlap. You shouldn't be so hard on yourself, anon. I wish you could see that there's so many people that would love your body. I used to be pretty overweight, myself, so I know it's not easy to get out of that mindset of hating your body, but you have to try for your sake. Good luck sexyanon
also if you're feeling brave I'd love a belly pic
I have questions but they all sound ridiculous in my head
What's the point in asking you how dick tastes like you would even think I'm trolling
I guess the only question I can ask you is how fit do I have to get? I'm not attracted to muscular guys at all but whenever I Google porn ilthats all that shows up so maybe being muscular would be expected of me?
I know you are trying to be nice but I have been turned down online hundreds of times by mentioning I'm overweight
Took my first step today tho, no more soda otlr bread at all
Also I can't read your spoilers since I'm on a smart phone
I'm being genuine, anon. I'm only attracted to heavier men, thin/average/muscular guys don't do anything for me.
Good luck on losing weight, though. It takes time (if you do it the normal way), but it's worth it.
Also, the spoiler said: if you're feeling brave, I'd love a belly pic
Dick literally tastes like nothing. The head feels really weird on your tongue though
Anyways the lack of taste is one reason I feel homo leaning.. Pussies are disgusting in my little experience. If only I didn't find women so cute and tits so nice
I'm genuinely leaning homo, though, because I know the chances of meeting a woman I deeply relate to and feel understood by are infinitesimally small compared to those of a man
Go ahead and ask, dude. The main reason I still hang around /r9k/ is cause I like to occasionally give advice to confused gay dudes who remind me of myself when I was younger and first started browsing this shithole.
>you how dick tastes
It's more about the smell than the taste, really. Clean dick just tastes like skin, unless the guy generates a lot of precum. If the guy has worked out recently he'll be more musky and salty from the sweat, though that affects smell more than taste. Cum is usually salty and bitter, though it can vary a lot depending on the guy's diet, and can even be a bit sweet.
>how fit do I have to get?
One of the good things about being gay is that there is a pretty large range of niches you can fit into, you just have to find a guy who is into your type. Personally, I've always been chubby, and luckily for me my husband is a chubby chaser.
That's more of a thing among older gay guys though--if you're a younger guy, just focus on eating healthy and working out to maintain good health, rather than appearance. Grooming and hygiene are important too. But you don't need to be super buff, or twinkish, or whatever else unless you are intentionally trying to fit yourself into a particular niche. Don't obsess about your looks too much, they honestly doesn't matter as much as you think. And definitely DON'T set your standards according to what you see in porn, nobody IRL matches up to that shit.
Not him, but anon, you can get buff if you think that's going to increase your chances of finding a bf, but beyond basic cleanliness and etc, there really isn't much you can do. You can knock it all you want, but you really should just be yourself. Guys aren't gonna fall in love with a mask, they're gonna fall in love with a person. You can change your physical appearance all you want, and sure more guys are gonna find you attractive probably, but the glue that's actually gonna keep a guy sticking to you is your personality.
That was pretty helpful thing is tho I don't know my type at all, I think I'm really picky but I end up getting crushes on a big variety of guys ,although pretty rarely,.
I would be lying if I told you indont want the TV gay lifestyle tho those fuckers sure know how to sell it to you:(
I don't even know how to act haha
I have been out of the closet for a day maybe, I talked a lot with my friend and acted really flamboyant here but I don't feel comfortable with either I mean I can't just be myself (no meme) I need to make it more obvious I'm gay
Same, its a slippery slope, but I'm starting to embrace it, and I like giving less fucks about woman. Fembots and fembot threads are beginning to become invisible to me, all I see is traps and dick.
Last year I met this girl who became really good friends with, she was really pretty and liked huging me but I wasn't really aroused or cared much, I was pretty wierd to be honest
Lots of guys go through what you are going through, especially when they first come out. But believe me, you don't need to force yourself to be something you're not. One of the best aspects of being a gay man is that you don't have to follow the same life script that straight men are pressured into following out of thousands of years of tradition and social expectation, you get to decide that shit for yourself.
So I won't say you need to "just b urself :^)", especially since you're young enough that you haven't even figured out who you are yet. So my advice would be to explore, try different things outside your comfort zone, see what clicks. But do all that shit for yourself, not to try to make yourself appealing to others. Once you become more comfortable and self-assured in your own skin, you'll find you have no trouble finding guys who are interested in you.
I ha ve been really craving to be touched like that by a guy for longer than I would like to admit to myself to be honest :( not just dicks in your face all the time :( no wonder most people treat it like a fetish :(
Last month I wanted to have slow passionate sex with every woman I saw but now I can't stop thinking about getting fucked in the butt by a dominant male.
Someone please help me
Well, another thing to remember is that when you see cute pictures, hot porn, posts about fun parties and vacations, etc -- you're seeing the shit that those people chose specifically that shows them at their very best, their most attractive, their most successful. Don't fall into the trap of comparing your entire life to other people's highlight reels, you'll just make yourself feel miserable. Everyone has problems, low points, flaws, and insecurities. And life isn't a race, as trite as that sounds.
Physical affection is a bigger (and more important, IMO) part of long-term relationships than sex is, really. It's just not as "exciting", and it's hard to convincingly depict, so you don't see it as often in media.
>tfw I'm the guy who turned gay just some months ago and I still haven't gotten any sex
Well I felt this way since I was 14 and now being 23 I just started to be honest about them.
I was crazy horny when I was 18 tho, I once stole my friends underwear and sniffed it. He found out tho, don't ever do that
You want my experience? Because you are not going to like it at all.
First of all wait until you are out of highschool highschool is not a good place to be gay, I never was there but I got to see other kids get bullyed all the time
Second you may aswell go ahead and wait until you are at college or at least living alone too, you don't wantwant the head trauma that it is dealing with your parents when you are experiencing this
Third be careful to who you come out to, he has to be chill, look for someone who is already gay or has gay friends, definitely don't try to come out to your crush
>I'm not into casual sex, I want a long-term relationship.
Then get into a long-term relationship. Don't believe the bullshit about gay dudes only being interested in casual sex. Hell, you just have to lurk a few threads like this to see that there's tons of other dudes out there who feel the same way you do. Problem is, most of them are too nervous to actually take the first step and put themselves out there. But you'll never find what you want until you finally go looking for it.
>Would it be weird to lose my virginity with another guy?
Why would it be? No weirder than losing it to a girl. Hell, it'll probably be less awkward, since you won't have to deal with a whole new set of genitals at the same time you're figuring out everything else.
Seriously though, it's just sex. Worst case scenario--you have a crappy time and learn something from the experience.
I'm already out of school, and a NEET at the moment, tried to talk with some friends about my faggotry and they just said "it's ok 2b gay :^)))" wich wasn't what I wanted but I appreciate it.
b-but how? I've never had a relationship with anyone, and I don't know many gay guys.
My friend spent 6 hours today talking to me about it, made me feel more comfortable with it, I told him over text I'm gay stupid, I don't know how to tell you anymore, it was hard as fuck to do and my hands were shaking
Don't just tell some internet person about it that meaningless
>b-but how? I've never had a relationship with anyone, and I don't know many gay guys.
Most gay relationships start online. Not saying you have to start using hookup apps like Grindr, but online dating makes finding other gay dudes a lot easier, especially if you aren't near a large city.
Other than that, try to get out more. Volunteer, find some sort of social hobby (like a board game/RPG group), take up a sport, stuff like that. You're less likely to find other gay dudes this way--but when you do find them, you'll already have a common interest you can bond over, instead of only having shallow shit like appearance like you would with online dating.
I know, I know--it fucking sucks. Me and my husband are introverted homebodies too, our idea of a good weekend is staying in and playing vidya all day. But the only reason we met each other is because, at the time, we were both intentionally pushing our comfort zones, putting ourselves out there to try to socialize and meet new people instead of avoiding them. Neither of us even knew the other was gay when we met, we became friends before we figured that out.
>you *probably* will never have a perfect fag relationship like anon does
Honestly why do you want it to be perfect? You know what I call perfect? Having someone to cuddle with during a rainy afternoon, having someone to kiss until he wakes up in the morning or Hugh reply tight.
I'm really phisical but never really felt free to act on it
We first met in person, but most of our initial socialization was online--we were both shy nerds, so we were a lot more comfortable communicating through text. We met our freshman year of college (so we were both 18). Struck up some small talk while we were waiting for class to start one day, traded AIM handles (remember that shit? does anyone still use AIM...?), and became fast friends from there.
Aw that's sweet. Good to hear it happened rather naturally.
I want to meet decent guys irl like that but none of my friends know any other gay people (I am THE gay friend) and the pick up artists that do try to get with me only want me for sex. Knowing my luck and college situation though it won't happen any time soon
btw did you have any boyfriends before you met your husband?
>I would have already fucked at least one of this lonely faggots if I lived in america
>but I don't
We both already knew we were gay, though we were both closeted and still insecure about our sexualities. He was the first person to admit it (I strongly suspected and coaxed him into it), and I soon came out to him as well. After a month of so of awkward flirting, we finally were basically like "so, uh, you wanna maybe fool around?" Don't even remember which of us first broached the topic, we were so fucking awkward and goofy. I don't think I've ever been so nervous and ecstatic as I was on the walk over to his dorm room thinking "finally gonna lose my virginity FUCK YEAH".
>Please tell me either cute or lewd stories
So, the second person to ever learn that I was gay was my roommate, a rather Chad-ish sort of guy (or at least he tried to be, he way too short to pull that personality off) who I did not get along with. He made this discovery by coming back to our dorm to find me and my husband in our underwear, getting busy in the middle of the dorm room floor (I'd pulled my mattress down off my bed, since it was too close to the ceiling to have sex on). He was SUPPOSED to be a party until much later that night, so I thought I was in the clear -- he had a girl with him, so I presume he was coming back early to get busy with her (since I, in turn, was supposedly in the library studying). So I guess we cockblocked each other.
No, I'd dated nobody before him, male or female. I grew up in the rural southern U.S., so I was pretty deep in the closet until college. Plus, I was shy as hell and a tremendous nerd, so I certainly didn't expect I'd be finding romance any time soon.
>Implying I would let you fuck without getting to know me first
>Implying I would let my guard down for some random slut wanting to fug