>>26253943 I suppose that is true. I am a very emotionally disturbed individual mainly because of an absentee mother. She called me a mistake while my sister called me the favorite and mocked my father for being a piece of shit when he was the only one there for me One time someone said they loved me then abandoned me for insignificant and bordering on untrue reasons That makes me question if it was love or nothing at all If I truly don't understand love then I want someone to teach me, but because I am a man, I have to be whole and completely in charge and perfect before seeking someone to share my life with so I can fix them and provide for them and be their emotional crutch all while being self-sufficient So I suppose I don't deserve anyone or anything.
What makes you think Chad deserves a woman? When people are like that it's from years of being unwanted, treated like absolute garbage and not knowing why they had to deal with the cards that they've been dealt. Chad on the other hand has had everything handed to them, they always go on about how they 'worked' for it but they were given the opportunities in the first place.
>>26254157 >So I suppose I don't deserve anyone or anything.
It's not like that mate. It's actually a lot simpler. No-one "deserves" anything, and no payout is to the "deserving" anyway even if they were.
If the root cause of your issues is a case of one-itis then I'm sorry. Because I (and most readers here) have all had it and it just sucks balls and you feel like a cunt for ages.
But oneitis is a special case. So for everything else the cure is the same: learn to have fun. It takes quite a bit of work and effort and sometimes study to have fun because fun is composed of 2 parts
1) Developed and developing mastery 2) Excitement / enjoyment.
You have to find something you enjoy, and that'll take quite a bit of time and effort on your part. And then that'll motivate you to become good at it. The "mastery" part of fun isn't much discussed but it's a key element; being good at something that is difficult is an immensely rewarding thing to experience.
The goal I'd advise you to drive towards is to be someone who is having fun by doing something they both are good at and enjoy. And who knows that getting really good at something takes a fair bit of time.
>>26253586 I worked hard, I endured a tough childhood in ghettos, Took care of myself, I lost lot of fat and went to an healthy weight and I got less than many people despite trying over and over again to succeed in life. And I ended up alone in an apartment broke with no job, no friend.
I lived 22 years without once feeling to be loved by anyone. Of course I became bitter. I searched for long time for someone that was real that I never found cause I was surrounded by fake people and their greed. I battled constant depression over anxiety by confronting the fucking problem. I tried to be nice to people and tolerant of others yet I couldn't get the favor reciprocated. I did everything in my power to adapt yet. I had bad grade at school and I was constantly in trouble for stupid shit. I had no fucking diploma cause they threw me up in a special class with nothing but delusion of happiness, then, I never graduated, My parents disowned me cause I couldn't get a job even though I worked on looking good and made good impression I ended up homeless, no friend, no love, nothing but a shitty apartment with low income starving at the end of the fucking month waiting everyday my own death and fighting a battle that I can't win.
You bet I deserve better than crippling loneliness and endless misery.
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