I remember when I was a kid if I'd get in trouble, or even just questioned at school for something I did or didn't do - I would feel that lump in my throat and do my best to avoid crying... But it would just happen.
In my head I'd be saying "This isn't something to cry over", but my body would do its own thing.
Even now, as a 24 year old man - I know that if I'm questioned about something I did or didn't do. Or if someone speaks to me sternly, or says mean things to me, that lump will build up in my throat.
I think it's one of the major reasons I avoid people. I can't control my bodies urges to cry over the most stupid shit, even though I'm calmly telling myself "Don't cry, this isn't a big deal."
Anyone else have this? What's wrong with me?
That's just how you were born, I guess.
Strangely enough, I was extremely emotional when I was younger so I would also cry a lot. Now, I have a lot of trouble showing emotions and any time that I happen cry is just because I feel like it.
I had this too growing up. Being oversensitive to discipline makes you a better person. Unfortunately the whole emo culture grew whenever I was in school so I would cut my arms and legs over it thinking I deserved the pain for being such a faggot. It's fucked up, I know. I still have a few scars, it's not worth it.
I still have this to a lesser extent. I still push myself and get mad over doing bad instead of "Oh well, I tried my best xD".
Funny thing is that I can't cry about anything else. I even watched my dad get arrested and get 5 years in prison and I was somehow okay with it.
You are just fragile, anon.
I don't even know why
I'd also cry whenever some started arguing with me or fighting over something.
Sometimes I'd feel like crying if two other people were arguing
I don't know
I don't talk to people too much anymore, so I don;t know if it's still the case or what
>What's wrong with me?
Youre a little bitch, thats what.
That's the thing though. I'm not crying because what they said effected me or something... It's just something I can't help.
It pisses me off, but there's literally nothing I can do about it.
Why do you think you're crying..? It just coincidentally happens, but only in those cases? Obviously if it only happens in certain circumstances it is affecting you, whether it be unconsciously or not. The faster you accept that fact, the faster you can change it.
>I'm not doing [reaction] because of [action]
Youre just having a biological response to an action (being chastised etc). You get tears in your eyes and have a feeling like an overwhelming energy shoots through you, don't you?
I'm telling you it's just a physiological response. In my head I'll be perfectly calm, rationalizing the situation. But my body betrays me. There's nothing I can do about that lump that builds up in my throat.
Yes, it happens to me as well, but what im telling you is that its an unconscious physiological response. For some reason, unbeknownst to you, that affects you in a way which makes you cry. Physiological responses dont happen out of thin air.
not belong on this website.
Seriously tho, how do you stand being here?
The first time someone called me a faggot on here hurt my feelings just like you describe, even though I knew better than to take it seriously. But then I got over it, stopping being a thin-skinned pussy and started viewing criticism as a tool for self-improvement instead of a personal attack.