How do I gain a personality?
I think if someone asked my own parents whom I've lived with for 22 years to sum up my personality they wouldn't be able to think of a single word. I'm not necessarily shy, I just have nothing about me. I don't stand out in any way. No interests, no hobbies, nothing to talk about, not charisma. I just blend in the background.
Can anyone else relate to this feel?
nothing. Watching whatever mind numbing telivision is on, but I don't process any of it. reading through posts on 4chan but none the hivemind rubs off on me or makes me oppose it. other than that I just wageslave my life away without really thinking for myself. i'm blank
Work in a cafe. But what I mean is even if I may spend my time browsing 4chan and watching tv I still have nothing to say about either. I wouldn't be able to have a conversation about either cause I can't form opinions.
Welp, this thread turned out incredibly helpful for OP.
Go do cool stuff, OP. Anything you've ever seen on tv that cool people do, research about it and try it out if it interests you. Ditch it if you're no longer interested, continue if you like it.
Eventually you'll get something, even if it's something like recreating the pro-bowl match of 2004 with toothpick people or actually weacing tahitian tapestries.
>Go do cool stuff, OP.
This is the best advice we can give. I hate to sound generic giving "Go outside for once" advice, but a personality is only developed through experiences. If you do nothing, you are nothing.
The reality is everyone is born what a personality. What we refer to as personality colloquially is just a collection of interests, experiences and perhaps charisma (or the appearance of it). So having hobbies, especially those that allow you to create or go out and gain new experiences does in effect give you some personality.
>It'll make people THINK you have a personality
But that's the fucking problem, idiot. I doesn't give you it. I know guys who are virgins and plays sports and hit the gym while I see lol/wow gamers get qt chicks. Guts like OP are too clueless on who to talk to people and gain interest in the long term. Who cares if OP was a mountain climber if he doesn't even speak more than 4 words?
I'm a KV myself. But I at least cook, have a job, hit the gym, and love music. All I'm saying is hobbies itself won't give a person a personality.
A personality is how you react to things and behave in certain situations and what you like. Notice how hobbies are only a part of that.
It seems to me that what you're looking for isn't a personality but something to stave away boredom.
Do you have friends? If so, what do you do with them? If not, why?
Don't do this, op, trust me. I have a different persona for each and every person I talk to and all it's managed to do was destroy my sense of identity even further.
I don't have a strong sense of personality, I'm an aspie though. It's like I can choose between being an extroverted joker or a serious, silent type and neither of them feels more "right"
I think "your personality" settles if you interact with people more often. Idk, I have no friends.
I wouldn't really bother with trying to gain a personality, so to speak. I think it would be better to do it the other way around- meaning doing more things and talk more to people and -you- will emerge on its own.
Gonna be honest here, you can't, really, but others can. If you don't have a strong identity, going out and "doing cool things" isn't really gonna give you one, it'll just distract you from the fact that you don't have one. If I could help, I would, but this is something I've yet to figure out myself.
Oh no, I just wanted to know what a personality was, if going out doesnt get you one, how do you know if HAVE got one. I feel like I have one but at times I feel like it's not really a personality.
>tfw have favorite bands, tv shows, anime, programming languages
>still can't find anything to talk about with people
I don't know why my mind goes blank every time I have to socialize. Its not like I don't have interests and opinions.
Just be happy. Seeing through the illusion of your character/personality is the fundamental attainment of Buddhism and other eastern philosophies.
Of course it alienates you to a certain extend, but the less you identify with your story, the less you will feel pain and sorrow.