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The Art of Flirting
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You are currently reading a thread in /r9k/ - ROBOT9001

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You want a gf? Or at least know how to talk to a girl?

Pay attention.
This is your guaranteed guide to successful flirting. Follow these easy steps and you'll have girls interested in you in no time.

Step 1: Establish interest
>Initiate eye contact (DON'T stare, DO glance)
>Smile
>Look approachable, be mindful of closed-off body signals

Step 2: Introduce yourself
>Approach with confidence but not arrogance
>Shake hands and state your name
>Open the conversation with a casual question or statement that isn't too assertive and is circumstantially appropriate

Step 3: Intentions and Mannerisms
>Make sure it's clear to the girl that you see her as a romantic interest
>Don't speak in a rushed or eager manner, girls can sense nervousness and that can easily be mistranslated as creepiness or ill-intent
>Light touching is fine (forearm, shoulder) but be consciously aware of how she's responding to you conversationally before trying this, it can easily land you in the "creep" zone

All in all, just be relaxed, be confident and be yourself. No, I'm not memeing. Yes, it's going to practice and time. No one becomes a total expert at something on their first try. The only way you'll learn what your weaknesses are is if you expose yourself to them. You can't improve without knowing where you fail.

If none of this works, it's most likely your fault.
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>>26215028
If you're good looking, why would it be enough to just do step one? Maybe you won't talk to as many people but some girls are bound to approach you if you seem open.

And if you aren't good looking, why bother with any of it?
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>>26215066
Of course, girls are going to be more responsive and readily so to good looking guys, but they still have to talk to them.

At bars and parties girls don't get with the best looking guy, they get with the most socially dominant and confident guy. As long as you keep up basic grooming habits and you aren't gruesomely ugly, you can easily get a girl to like you.
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>>26215028
But what if I have autism?
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>>26215028
so op does this apply if she has a boyfriend?
what do if she does?
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is this like a toned down version of the Dennis system?
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>>26215109
I'm just saying, I'm one of those people who is deathly afraid of approaching people I don't know, and I hate it because I can generally talk just fine if someone approaches me or it's someone I've met before. I'm just scared because if I approach someone then I don't know if they like me or want me to talk to them, the way I would know if someone approached me instead.

So what I'm saying is, is it enough to be good-looking and look approachable, or do you still have to be the one to go up and talk to girls?
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>>26215028
>Look approachable
>be mindful of closed-off body signals
>isn't too assertive and is circumstantially appropriate
>it's clear to the girl that you see her as a romantic interest
>be consciously aware of how she's responding to you conversationally before trying this

Not a single one of these things can be learned innately or being taught/demonstrated firsthand, and certainly not by reading them online.

You might as well have said "Just be yourself." because it's equally as unhelpful as what you said.
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>>26215160
Girls in relationships are tricky. A lot of girls in relationship are enticed by the thrill of something new, so you might not even have try hard to fuck them. I speak from experience. Half of the girls I've gotten in with were in relationships and sleep with other guys because they're bored of the guy they're with.
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>>26215109
>gruesomely ugly
Yes that is me
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Can i get a girlfriend even if im deformed?
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>>26215196
Depends on the setting. Cold approaching someone at a supermarket or starbucks or some shit takes a lot of expertise.

But, if you're at a bar or a party and you glance over at someone and they glance back, give them a smile of acknowledgment, see how they respond and take it from there.
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>>26215028
>If none of this works, it's most likely your fault.

tl;dr

>"Just be yourself. If that doesn't work, it's your fault."

Why isn't it legal to put normies to death?
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>>26215028
>If none of this works, it's most likely your fault.

More likely the fault of your shit advice faggot.
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>>26215262
That isn't what I said at all, you idiot.
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>>26215230

>"eyy bb, ever been fingerfucked by a mutant?"

EMBRACE IT
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>>26215028
Honestly all this advice is garbage. Not because it's false, but because it's incredibly bland and unoriginal. You could've saved some time with "b urself" and you basically would've gotten the same message across
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>>26215230
You should appear on Kate's Playground if she still does porn.

I don't even know if she still does porn though. I remember her being popular when I first started jerking off like ten years ago.
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>>26215202
as those girls relationship material?
or just good for a quick fuck?
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>>26215028
I wouldn't even bother posting this shit here mate. It's just gonna fall on deaf ears.
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>>26215202
That's pretty upsetting.
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>>26215319
Ill try anon.
Maybe i can finger her and pretend to loose one in her snatch.
>>26215354
Do you have some kinda ninja turtle fetish ?
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>>26215360
If she cheated on one guy, why wouldn't she cheat on you?
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>>26215437
true enough, quick fuck it is then.
I could never trust her.
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But rejection is such a scary concept.

I don't think I could handle it OP.

I live in a small city so I don't have the comfort of being able to say "oh its no big deal, you'll never see her again anyways" because I will most likely see the girl again, and I'll have to avoid her like the plague.
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>>26215028
Explain me this body signals.
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>>26215305
>just follow this vague instructions that have no explanation of how they work
>if you fail it's your fault
I know that bros have no self-awareness but you are breaching into retard territory
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>>26215544
So try to start by genuinely becoming her friend. You can use her as a step ladder to building a social circle that includes girls which increases your appeal to other girls. Like I said, it doesn't happen over night. It takes practice, getting to learn what makes you nervous/anxious and how to read people's subconscious responses to your words and actions.

>>26215585
Humans communicate through body language. Someone who stands upright and with a wide open stance is perceived as confident and dominant. Someone who stands slouched or constantly looking at the ground looks weak and uncertain.

With girls, it's good to maintain eye contact when having a conversation with them, this is how you build trust and intimacy with women. If her speaking pattern begins to mirror yours, or she does subtle movements that cue attraction (flipping her hair, fixing clothing, etc...) she probably likes you.
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>>26215230
Looks like you might have the ability to split that arm into 2 arms like General Grievous, have you tried that?
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>>26215679
Nooooooooooo what the fuck

At that point, if I make a move on her and she rejects me, then I have a huge ball of awkwardness in the middle of a social circle, potentially harming MULTIPLE relationships
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>>26215679
>I walk looking to the ground
JUST
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>>26215305
>hairy arms
0/10
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>>26215750
So...don't make a move on her? I said genuinely become her friend. Use her a stepping stone. Ask her for advice or girls who might like you.
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>>26215028
Not too bad a guide. For someone who's too dense to pick up on social cues, this would work. For people who's problems run deeper than that won't be able to make any substantive progress. I mean, for someone who's overridden by anxiety or incredibly self conscious about their looks, their insecurities will be apparent no matter how they approach.

>if none of this works, it's most likely your fault.
Funnily enough, I kinda agree (although not in the sense you probably mean). What you are suggesting is that it's always the man's fault for not being presentable enough to interest any potential partner. What I believe is that most perpetually single/lonely people are simply incapable of being interesting (or if they are, it's not enough to compensate for their unattractive features). Perhaps they misspent Thor youth on an unrelatable hobby like video games, internet, anime, etc (Of course, traumatized people are a different story) when they should've used that time to build the social skills they so desperately need now. Is it really any wonder why those kinds of people would come to places like these to express themselves when they don't have the ability to connect with a human being in any meaningful way? To actually develop these social skills in spite of the massive gulf that exists between them and any potential peers would take massive amounts of effort and may not have any guarantee of working. It's much easier to settle for this second-hand validation online.
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>>26215374
He wants that ego boost that comes from "mentoring" other people, so i'll give you a TL;DR of how this thread will look like
>OP replies to the easy questions and ignores any other posts that challenge his advice
>OP feels good because at least five guys are constantly asking questions (while sucking his dick)
>OP encounters a question that he won't be able to answer
>OP gets mad, staarts throwing insults and leaves the thread
Or
>thread dies after this post
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>>26215939
>ego boost from a bunch of anonymous shitposters

You're a top meme'r lad.

I'm answering these questions to the best of my ability. So far, no one is idolizing me and I'm not really doing anything amazing or difficult. But here's your (You)
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>>26215028
Good gooooooood, let the bait flow through you
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>>26215858
So you are saying that young men should abandon their hobbies and act like Random normie #7489374484, because, somehow not having "le epic teenage adventures" makes them unable to establish meaningful connections?
Your pretentious shit is wrong m8
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>>26215028
Step 2: draw the fucking owl
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>>26215028
Awesome bait thread Chad. Just fantastic.
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>people believing le red pill

they have some good points but if you're ugly forget about it. that's the most important thing, you will always have that fucking ugly face independent of your mindset and people will always be scared or laugh at your face.
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>>26215028
>OP thinks he just dropped some supreme wisdom
>all of this shit is common sense
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>>26215028
Why do people continue to reply to bait? Is it that they are newfaggots or because they enjoy being baited?
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>>26215028
>>Shake hands
Stopped reading
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>>26215183

It's just DE. steps NNIS are to be covered in tomorrow's thread.
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>>26215201

It makes perfect sense if you already know it, bro.
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i can't ever follow these advices because they all fringe on sociopathic.
i can't do anything that is a means to an end, i can't go out JUST to try and approach women because i don't like it, i'm not doing it out of enjoyment or passion, i'm doing it so i can possibly get my dick wet i guess? i want a relationship as well though.
>just use the girl as a network tool
once again, means to an end. i don't use people. if i don't like what i'm doing, i'm not doing it, PERIOD.
>how do you get through life never doing things you don't enjoy, do you enjoy work?
i actually enjoy working.

>don't think of it as using people
??????????????????????????
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>>26215109
>As long as you keep up basic grooming habits and you aren't gruesomely ugly, you can easily get a girl to like you.

Fuck.
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>>26215028
I have attempted everything in your post and failed on multiple levels, I know its my fault but I don't know what I'm doing wrong.
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>>26215028
what if i'm 5'7?
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>>26219443
You get used by everyone all the time, why wouldn't you be ok with using other people?

Keep in mind that when you use someone you're using a person who has used others before and has been used as well. It might be wrong morally but it's just pissing in a sea of piss.
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>>26219454
Unless that's you, you probably don't have a reason to complain. Most of us are betafags and just lack experience. Personally I see myself as the ugliest son of a bitch on the planet, but it helps to at least try why anon did and just try. Try, try, try, and when you fail the 400th time you try again and again and again because there's always a sliver of hope. Unfortunately for anon, he hasn't found that yet. But I believe in you, bro.
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If you've done all this stuff and nothing is improving, you probably don't have a clear picture of yourself. Find someone else, pay someone if you have to, see a therapist. Seek honest opinions about what you're doing wrong.

Better yet, set up a camera and just film yourself doing stuff. Once you see how you really act you can start hating yourself in a deeper and more constructive way.

You know how your voice sounds weird when you hear it on a recording? Your whole body is like that.

Try it today robots
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>>26219625
two wrongs don't make a right, pretty much the backbone of integrity.
i don't expect people with no integrity to understand, not saying you don't have any.
plus i can live perfectly guilt free, it's nice.
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>>26219655
This is true actually. I researched a lot on how to talk to girls and how to groom myself and after a few tries I managed to get a few girl's numbers.
Not getting rejected when you first approach them is just the first step, but if I managed to get it I'm sure a lot of robots could.

Now, then you have to text them, take them to a date and a bunch of shit after that. Getting laid is a load of work when you're retarded, but by trying and being intelligent, not just persistent, most people can get anywhere.
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>>26219776
You can live guilt free and do wrongs if you think you did the right thing. I find it unintelligent to not question your own values and making hindering choices out of blind "integrity", but whatever makes you happy I guess.
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