How do you talk to goth girls?
>2nd year of uni
>never had a girlfriend
>live off campus
>take bus to campus, always see a qt goth girl
>to me, she's like an 8/10
>always seems sad
>I wanna talk to her so bad but what do I say?
I just want a qt goth gf to cuddle with and I tell her everything is gonna be okay. And at the same time she'd comfort me and tell me everything is gonna be okay. God I'm such a loser for thinking this way. I don't want these feels.
>tfw no qt goth gf
there is a good chance she's just mentally ill and dresses that way for certain reasons. I wouldn't be surprised if she waits for guys to hit on her so she can blog about it later in some angry rant.
that or she's an attention whore, trend hopping tard, or some other gross thing
Just be nice. Pretty much the only event in where being nice actually works on women. Don't cater to their every need but be nice while also being genuine.
Beware, this will bite you in the ass so hard the moment you aren't nice.
Oh, and to give some background on myself, I'm not goth, I dress casually, I'm just a computer science major, and I'm pretty well build but I'm really awkward when it comes to talking to girls.
You know she's just a middle class girl with a bit of depression but otherwise she's still essentially a normal female who just happens to have a niche interest that excludes most people, right?
You have as much of a chance as you'd have with any other girl. And you're coming across like someone who doesn't really have a lot of chance.
She's not going to be impressed with you if you try too hard, I can tell you that much.
>always seems sad
Careful, anon. One thing goths can't stand is the generalized assumption that they're all depressed all the time. Anyhow:
>What kind of music do you listen to?
>You play any instruments?
>Wanna get coffee sometime?
>somehow exchange numbers
That doesn't sound like the best idea anon. What if I just bee myself?
You're projecting your ideal mate onto her, Odds are she doesn't even look sad you're just molding her into a perfect person which is gonna backfire and you're gonna end up mind dating her then when she tells you to fuck off you're gonna be even worse off
PRO TIP TIME ; Never make assumptions about people, you'll let your mind make a best case scenario like a "qt 3.14 goth gf you can tell everything will be okay"
Holy hell, usually Bauhaus is as authentic goth as music references get around here. That post was basically my playlist home today. Good job, Anon.
The specials aren't black. I like something that looks like my lungs.
Goth 5, anon. Release the fucking bats.
Depending on what era/phase of goth you're into, I can always go into more suggestions, but this is common entry-tier stuff.
Do Goth girls only date people who are also goth?
I like Romanticism and macabre things, but I'm not a goth.
I'd assume you'd just be yourself and if they'd like you, they'd like you.
The worst thing you can do is be a poser, I'd think
Goth guy here
(not the edgy kind or hottopic kind)
It can vary. Once they get older, they tend to go for more of the hipster or wanna be tough guys with tattoos.
I haven't dated a goth girl since I was 21. Been mostly hipster chicks and bimbos.
So no you don't have to be goth to get with a goth chick. Just as long as you are on the alternative spectrum, then maybe you will get a chance.
They dont tend to go for goth guys anymore once they are able to go to the bars because they think they aren't manly. (from what a few have told me)
see my post
>Do Goth girls only date people who are also goth?
Nah, it honestly depends really on how involved they are in the culture. Sometimes birds of a feather, but sometimes it's just a matter of personality and interests.
>I like Romanticism and macabre things, but I'm not a goth.
It never hurts to have a few Baudelaire or Byron quotes at your disposal, anon. ;)
>I'd assume you'd just be yourself and if they'd like you, they'd like you.
Basically. Same with anyone. The only difference is that they're involved in a subculture.
>The worst thing you can do is be a poser, I'd think
That's basic life advice.
Another Old One. Excellent.
>They dont tend to go for goth guys anymore once they are able to go to the bars because they think they aren't manly.
I've seen plenty of fellow batcavers in wholesome and tender relationships. But I've been going to goth clubs for a number of years. Some goth girls just have a thing for skinny pale dudes who lean against walls and frown.I think it comes down more to personality than physical prowess. I have to politely disagree.
>going to hot topic past 15
OP if you want to talk to her just go up and say hi and try to make small talk, don't ask her to smoke,not all goths smoke. I'm kind of a "goth" you could say I wear all black 90% of the time rarely paint my nails and so on.
From my observations, Goth guys only really get to date the teen or fat ones. I'm more a black metal, punk, minimal techno, dnb, industrial, etc sort of guy and I've dated a few adult goth girls who really don't like Goth men because they're always omega as fuck and it gets old fast.
I guess it depends where you are from.
I know, I've been to the goth clubs in the LA area and seen plenty of goth couples. I live in Central California and a large number of goth girls who are over 21 are usually with non-goths.
>do you have to be a goth to date a goth
Contrary to what other anons said... Dating somebody who isn't into goth culture would have felt incredibly weird to me. Maybe as a novelty it would have felt fun and cute to shock an innocent with my super edgy tastes but even that can only be fun in the formative period of a relationshit.
There are probably goth girls out there who think differently though.
Just wait until those qt goths grow older and mature into nihilists. Now that's where you'll find women who are open to a variety of tastes.
This, desu. When I first going to the clubs I was really metro and dressed like a regular hipster. All the 30+ girls liked me. Now, that I've settled into more of a trad goth look, I get alot of younger girls.
You couldn't be more 16 if you tried. Once you leave high school and move out of your parents house, come back and tell us all about the effete, omega goth boys you're dating as an adult. Chances are if you're not a fat piece of shit with no other options, you definitely won't be.
I wasn't that guy, actually. Just giving you shit. Anyway, don't get those boots. Docs or something well made and stylish or nothing. Never, ever wear those horrendous autism boots.
My original post mentioned I was last into goth stuff in highschool so the 16-year-old thing pretty much sums it up. I rewrote and forgot to add it. But even in college I was still a little shit about subculture. As somebody far past uni age you're just lucky to get what you can get which is why I praise glorious nihilists
I noticed that a lot of young girls go for trad goths. The one trad goth we have out here always has young goth chicks on em.
Props for you guys noticing the same trend I do.
I thought I was the only person who noticed.
>Dat Kat Dennings in Suburb Gothic
Just perfect. She also looks like Venus from Bloodlines.
This is true. Everyone thinks we're sad. You go to the clubs and sure, the people have their problems (he's on pills, she's blackout drunk yet again, they're trying to swing and failing at it) but no one's sad, like we're portrayed. Goths have the best sense of humor I've encountered, in my opinion.
I dunno, but I reckon that sneaking glances at them on the bus, then idealising them and coming up with elaborate fantasies about your life together is a good start. Keep it up anon.
You're right anon. I geuss I'll just live in my fantasy world, it's the only way I'll stay sane.
Start with an ice breaker. Here try these:
> how bout that new tim burton movie?
> i liked "now famous band name" before they got all popular
> why cant they make a color darker than black yet?
> i heard hot topic is having a sale
> dont you hate it when its sunny?
> wanna see my skull and/or spider tattoo?
>Wait until she wears a T-shirt from a band
>Listen to the band, wikipedia their earlier albums
>Next time you see her wearing the shirt
>"Hey I noticed you like "XXX", I love them, honestly the "YYY" album was great, even if it wasn't as popular"
>She'll think you have something in common
>Ask her if she goes to any of the local festivals/clubs
>Try and plan a date around it
To be truthfully honest most goth girls are attention whores, were abused as a child, or both. But if you want to keep the roastie toastie then this is your best shot.
goth girls are cool and open. just be brutally honest and you can't really lose with them, don't lie about anything and don't try to hide anything, no reason to.
goths and punks are probably the most open minded Americans you can run into.
Pull a george mcfly
> have buddy try to grope her
> you kick his ass
> save her
What do metalheads think of goth girls?
>be goth girl
>have hair like pic related
>have a crush on schizo metalhead
>friend always tells me to not put dark lipstick on and not dress edgy as I do normally because he might not like it even though he dresses equally as edgy
Hair like that can look great, but everytime I see a girl like that at a metal gig it just screams "trigger warning" or "rape accusations"
Dark Lipstick is a no-no for me, but probably because i'm a robot, normies may like it?