Any ideas what countries let a single 22-year-old man adopt?

>>26158966
They check if you have the right conditions to raise a child and if they think you do you can become a parent. I didn't ever hear about any laws about living in a marriage being a prerequisite.

>>26159230
Really?

I thought it was just that married couples and single women are allowed to adopt. Might have changed over the years.

In the USA I'm 99% you can. But there will be extensive checks.

>>26159230
>>26159311
a lot of countries have restrictions about it, but there's no laws saying guys can't adopt

it's places like china and korea and some european countries that say you need to have a hapily married hetero couple to adopt

most places in the US will allow you, but you'll be under much more scrutiny if you're single or god forbid a single guy
you had better have everything in order and make sure you can pass a background check with flying colors OP

>>26159314
I'm not an american.

>>26159397
I'm from Finland, any guess for Scandinavia?

I got caught with weed once and I've been to a mental ward for a suicide attempt. How tough are the background checks?

1 out of every 3 children adopted in the US are given to single people but the vast majority of those are women

>>26159436
I imagine the suicide attempt will come up and will probably play against your chances.

I can't believe people reply to you seriously.
Go fuck yourself and enjoy being reported to the FBI.

>>26159436
You will never be allowed to adopt if you have been to a mental ward

>>26159471
Considering that most of the mental issues that I had as a teen were violently ignored and have been treated now, there isn't that much of a record.

>>26159486
Why, yes. Men are heartless animals that have no other feelings than thoughtless urges of sex and murder. Go back to Tumblr.

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I was adopted from Romania when I was 2 (I live in California now). Romanian orphanages in the 90's were apparently really bad and a lot of kids over there, and in other poor countries, could really use someone like you OP to rescue them from a shit tier life. Also I recommend telling them they are adopted from a very young age. If you grow up being aware of it than it's no big deal. That's what my parents did with me and it helped a lot. If they had hid that from me until I was like 16 or something that would've given me some big identity crisis thing. So as long as you're honest with them about it early on than everything should be fine. I'll answer any questions you have

>>26159436
>I'm from Finland, any guess for Scandinavia?

Finland =/= Scandinavia

>>26159702
I meant to tell them straight-on. I've spent a lot of time thinking about how to explain something like that to a kid in a satisfactory and age-appropriate way.

What were your parents like?

You should definitely try. If you succeed you'll be able to give a loving home to a child, and if you fail, well, you won't dwell on it any longer.
By the way, isn't suicide more commonly accepted in Finland as part of life instead of a taboo subject as opposed to other countries?

>>26158966
I'm fairly sure you can here in norway, even though it's really rare.

>>26160439
I don't know. I don't really know any other cultures so I have nothing to compare to.

>>26159702
>tfw no well raised romanian weeb son

never tought I would experience this feel

https://www.suomi.fi/suomifi/english/services_by_topic/family_and_social_services/having_children/adoption/index.html

"A person who wishes to adopt a child must be at least 25 years old. Adoption is possible for both couples and single people. The purpose of adoption is to secure the best interests of the child."

"Children can be adopted from both Finland and abroad. Adoptions from abroad are arranged by organisations and the City of Helsinki."

>>26160528
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Dude wth y would u want a damn baby lol

>>26160563
They're not babies forever.

If I had a baby now, she'd be a year old in 2017. I'd get to watch the kid learn to talk, to walk, to make friends and have individual thoughts. Needing to explain her that she is adopted because her birth parents couldn't keep her would be the first hard life lesson, possibly, but I would be there to support her come to terms with it.

By 2026 I'd have a 10-year-old, on the 3rd grade of finnish primary school. I don't demand perfect school success, just being able to do her best and behave.

18 years of repetition of washing, feeding and caring for a child, the repetition of the same simple tasks that do not need to be perfect, but to simply form an even pattern. Supporting the growth of a human being into a functional adult, just by trying to make every day a good one and the bad ones tolerable.

I want to make an effort that amounts to something. I might not be able to figure out the cure of cancer, but I can start every morning by braiding the hair of someone who one day could.

>>26159535
>violently ignored
What the fuck? How do you 'violently' ignore something?

>>26160842
Do you want the entire sob story or does "I was given antipsychotics for sleeping pills when I asked for antidepressants because I cut myself" suffice?

Oh, so you want a girl.
Why not a boy?
Seriously. This is so cliche it hurts.

>>26161167
>Why not a boy?
Because chinese hillbillies will drown 5 girl babies in a row in order to ensure that the firstborn is a son.

>>26160768
THE FEELS ARE OVERTAKING ME
Seriously though, good luck, OP.

>>26161316
>tfw you will never have a child
>tfw you will never arrange a graduation party, looking at your child witting there with the stupid hat on, talking to her friends full of bubble and joy and making stupid inside jokes that they'll all forget in two years, making plans for college
>tfw you'll never see this young human being helping her peers, expressing kindness and genuine human goodness and think
>"I did this. I did good. I made a good human being."

>>26161393
>I made a good human being
Didn't make it, but helped it grow

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>>26158966
>I want a baby.
What for?

>>26161460
>Didn't make it
If I am the difference between an infant dying of neglect in a run-down orphanage and a bright young adult setting out to the world with joy and determination, I am not going to give a 1/5th of a shit.

>>26161595
No I didn't mean genital paternity or whatever, but you don't "make" a child, you help him make himself and you provide him with the tools and education to be a sensible human being
I'm just arguing on technicalities

>>26158966
surely you could find a pregnant single mother?

>>26160551
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OP this is a really good thing to do. Good luck, I'd say get looking into it asap

>>26161641
Oh, right. I didn't mean it like that. I'm not thinking of some fucked up dream of making a child live up to some image I want.

People are just born with this little light within them. This spark, a genuine and inherent goodness, and a faith that every human being has it as well. Children can be selfish, thoughtless and inpatient, yes, but nobody is born evil. Treating children with your own selfishness, thoughtlessness or lack of patience can make that trust - and that light - flicker. Sufficient amounts of cruelty or indifference can put it out entirely.

I just want to be there for someone in development, help support that little spark. Watch them grow and learn to shield it and see it in others - to help themselves first and others immediately second - that's the thing I want.

I want to raise a child who is capable of genuine happiness, of genuine love and joy. I don't care if she gets a stupid haircut or becomes a vegan or makes a living drawing My Little Pony porn. Their choices are their choices. All I'm there to do is to ensure that that spark doesn't go out.

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>>26161562
While I myself am way too selfish and would never do it myself, I can understand OPs reasoning.
Maybe when I'm in my thirties and I make more than enough money to support myself, I'll have a different outlook.

Good luck OP, keep the child away from degeneracy

>>26161886
Given what you say here, I think you'll be a great father. I wish you the best of luck.
It's heartwarming to see that even here, of all places, there are people like you, with thge love of humanity in their hearts.
Thanks, man. It feels good waking up to this.

>>26161975
The shitty part is I'm an LGBT alphabet soup so even if they'd give a baby to a normal man, I'd be too freaky for it. It's against the law for me to have biological children, and I couldn't endure doing it anyway, but the awareness of my impending Government Regulated Sterilisation and fluctuating hormones makes me start thinking about lil black-haired chinese girls.

>>26162052
>LGBT alphabet soup
>It's against the law for me to have biological children
Explain further ? I'm curious

>>26162052
also
>impending Government Regulated Sterilisation
What the hell ?

>>26162245
Oh, it's simple. I'm transgender, and the law requires you to be infertile in order to change legal sex. A sex change is also a package deal, all or nothing, so if you want just one treatment or another, that's shit luck. I know I couldn't endure a pregnancy anyway and testosterone will make me infertile regardless, so they're only breaking my human rights in theory, but it still mildly vexes me that I don't get to have kids for free like other people.

And, I mean, I COULD get a child RIGHT NOW, I'm barely 22 and unemployed, without any worthwhile education. I couldn't support a child right now.

>>26162341
makes sense in a depressing kind of way

>>26159436
you're fucked m8
Just go to a third world country and buy a kid or some shithole in eastern europe like Romania and pick one out.

>>26161886

I don't know why, but when I sense people with that light in them that you described, I get angry and wants to put it out.

>>26162396
hello satan

>>26160768
Fuck man, that was a nice read.

Good luck, OP.

Just raise her to go into STEM and you'll be fine.

>>26162396
Maybe you've been hurt just the same. Your mind can't comprehend the sheer absurd cruelty it would take to snuff out something infinitely valuable, so it has reasoned that such a thing cannot be valuable. You reduced your own worth to make sense of a senseless situation, and seeing goodness and love treated with the cautiouness it deserves reminds you of the true meaning of your loss, the true cruelty of what was done to you, and you want to make it go away.

Tragedy begets tragedy.

>>26162481
Hello, Tumblr.

Originality oozes through this post's pores.

>>26162486
Don't do this OP

>>26162486
>>26162627
It's not up to me what the kid wants. The best I can do is not blurt out any "girls can't do math" shit. Or if her teacher does that anyway, I can tell her that only means white kids, it doesn't apply to her.

>>26159436
Fucking FIDF trying to sway the internet into thinking theyre scandinavian.

I see through you!!!!

- Norway

>>26162627
Why don't you want OP to do that? Do you want his daughter to become some shitty Philosophy major instead?

>>26162658
Das racist, OP.

Is she not gonna be white?

Furthermore, how are you gonna deal with her first breakup?

>>26162341
>FtM trans
should have said this before then
you then can ride the female privilege into adopting, they only really care about biologically male pedos and deny them from getting female babies anyways

>>26162678
I don't his daughter to end up struggling through college because she was raised to go into a field that she ends up not liking or caring for.

>>26162720
>Furthermore, how are you gonna deal with her first breakup?
By telling her that her boyfriend is a cunt and that boys don't matter. She's going to cry bitterly but she'll lern from it and hopefully the next one will be better. Consistently dating bad partners is an act of self-harm, and a sane and sensible human being who knows what healthy love is don't do that.

>>26162733
So adopting a girl won't be a matter if you're both literally dickless and gay?