Any ideas what countries let a single 22-year-old man adopt?
I don't want a girlfriend or a wife. I'm infertile and not even interested in women. I want a baby.
They check if you have the right conditions to raise a child and if they think you do you can become a parent. I didn't ever hear about any laws about living in a marriage being a prerequisite.
a lot of countries have restrictions about it, but there's no laws saying guys can't adopt
it's places like china and korea and some european countries that say you need to have a hapily married hetero couple to adopt
most places in the US will allow you, but you'll be under much more scrutiny if you're single or god forbid a single guy
you had better have everything in order and make sure you can pass a background check with flying colors OP
I'm not an american.
I'm from Finland, any guess for Scandinavia?
I got caught with weed once and I've been to a mental ward for a suicide attempt. How tough are the background checks?
Considering that most of the mental issues that I had as a teen were violently ignored and have been treated now, there isn't that much of a record.
Why, yes. Men are heartless animals that have no other feelings than thoughtless urges of sex and murder. Go back to Tumblr.
I was adopted from Romania when I was 2 (I live in California now). Romanian orphanages in the 90's were apparently really bad and a lot of kids over there, and in other poor countries, could really use someone like you OP to rescue them from a shit tier life. Also I recommend telling them they are adopted from a very young age. If you grow up being aware of it than it's no big deal. That's what my parents did with me and it helped a lot. If they had hid that from me until I was like 16 or something that would've given me some big identity crisis thing. So as long as you're honest with them about it early on than everything should be fine. I'll answer any questions you have
I meant to tell them straight-on. I've spent a lot of time thinking about how to explain something like that to a kid in a satisfactory and age-appropriate way.
What were your parents like?
You should definitely try. If you succeed you'll be able to give a loving home to a child, and if you fail, well, you won't dwell on it any longer.
By the way, isn't suicide more commonly accepted in Finland as part of life instead of a taboo subject as opposed to other countries?
"A person who wishes to adopt a child must be at least 25 years old. Adoption is possible for both couples and single people. The purpose of adoption is to secure the best interests of the child."
"Children can be adopted from both Finland and abroad. Adoptions from abroad are arranged by organisations and the City of Helsinki."
They're not babies forever.
If I had a baby now, she'd be a year old in 2017. I'd get to watch the kid learn to talk, to walk, to make friends and have individual thoughts. Needing to explain her that she is adopted because her birth parents couldn't keep her would be the first hard life lesson, possibly, but I would be there to support her come to terms with it.
By 2026 I'd have a 10-year-old, on the 3rd grade of finnish primary school. I don't demand perfect school success, just being able to do her best and behave.
18 years of repetition of washing, feeding and caring for a child, the repetition of the same simple tasks that do not need to be perfect, but to simply form an even pattern. Supporting the growth of a human being into a functional adult, just by trying to make every day a good one and the bad ones tolerable.
I want to make an effort that amounts to something. I might not be able to figure out the cure of cancer, but I can start every morning by braiding the hair of someone who one day could.
>tfw you will never have a child
>tfw you will never arrange a graduation party, looking at your child witting there with the stupid hat on, talking to her friends full of bubble and joy and making stupid inside jokes that they'll all forget in two years, making plans for college
>tfw you'll never see this young human being helping her peers, expressing kindness and genuine human goodness and think
>"I did this. I did good. I made a good human being."
>Didn't make it
If I am the difference between an infant dying of neglect in a run-down orphanage and a bright young adult setting out to the world with joy and determination, I am not going to give a 1/5th of a shit.
No I didn't mean genital paternity or whatever, but you don't "make" a child, you help him make himself and you provide him with the tools and education to be a sensible human being
I'm just arguing on technicalities
Oh, right. I didn't mean it like that. I'm not thinking of some fucked up dream of making a child live up to some image I want.
People are just born with this little light within them. This spark, a genuine and inherent goodness, and a faith that every human being has it as well. Children can be selfish, thoughtless and inpatient, yes, but nobody is born evil. Treating children with your own selfishness, thoughtlessness or lack of patience can make that trust - and that light - flicker. Sufficient amounts of cruelty or indifference can put it out entirely.
I just want to be there for someone in development, help support that little spark. Watch them grow and learn to shield it and see it in others - to help themselves first and others immediately second - that's the thing I want.
I want to raise a child who is capable of genuine happiness, of genuine love and joy. I don't care if she gets a stupid haircut or becomes a vegan or makes a living drawing My Little Pony porn. Their choices are their choices. All I'm there to do is to ensure that that spark doesn't go out.
While I myself am way too selfish and would never do it myself, I can understand OPs reasoning.
Maybe when I'm in my thirties and I make more than enough money to support myself, I'll have a different outlook.
Good luck OP, keep the child away from degeneracy
Given what you say here, I think you'll be a great father. I wish you the best of luck.
It's heartwarming to see that even here, of all places, there are people like you, with thge love of humanity in their hearts.
Thanks, man. It feels good waking up to this.
The shitty part is I'm an LGBT alphabet soup so even if they'd give a baby to a normal man, I'd be too freaky for it. It's against the law for me to have biological children, and I couldn't endure doing it anyway, but the awareness of my impending Government Regulated Sterilisation and fluctuating hormones makes me start thinking about lil black-haired chinese girls.
Oh, it's simple. I'm transgender, and the law requires you to be infertile in order to change legal sex. A sex change is also a package deal, all or nothing, so if you want just one treatment or another, that's shit luck. I know I couldn't endure a pregnancy anyway and testosterone will make me infertile regardless, so they're only breaking my human rights in theory, but it still mildly vexes me that I don't get to have kids for free like other people.
And, I mean, I COULD get a child RIGHT NOW, I'm barely 22 and unemployed, without any worthwhile education. I couldn't support a child right now.
Maybe you've been hurt just the same. Your mind can't comprehend the sheer absurd cruelty it would take to snuff out something infinitely valuable, so it has reasoned that such a thing cannot be valuable. You reduced your own worth to make sense of a senseless situation, and seeing goodness and love treated with the cautiouness it deserves reminds you of the true meaning of your loss, the true cruelty of what was done to you, and you want to make it go away.
Tragedy begets tragedy.
It's not up to me what the kid wants. The best I can do is not blurt out any "girls can't do math" shit. Or if her teacher does that anyway, I can tell her that only means white kids, it doesn't apply to her.
should have said this before then
you then can ride the female privilege into adopting, they only really care about biologically male pedos and deny them from getting female babies anyways
>Furthermore, how are you gonna deal with her first breakup?
By telling her that her boyfriend is a cunt and that boys don't matter. She's going to cry bitterly but she'll lern from it and hopefully the next one will be better. Consistently dating bad partners is an act of self-harm, and a sane and sensible human being who knows what healthy love is don't do that.
So adopting a girl won't be a matter if you're both literally dickless and gay?